No, I wish I could go more into it but I’m really not on speaking terms with them. Let’s just say the parent that is my sibling triggers my ptsd. It’s honestly easier to just block them out of my life.
I finally got the courage to send it to his mother and it went as I thought it would, “im so sorry, that is my son(she said this because I asked if it was her kid, im still in disbelief that he would send that), but he’s not with me at all so sorry”
It would be funny if this wasn’t real, but if you check OPs account, this doesn’t feel like rage bait or a meme. This seems legit. Which is fucking crazy in actual reality.
That's wild. Exactly the same thing happened to my mom. Nephew messaged her on Facebook, all nice and familiar at first, then dropped if she was good to fuck. She was so disgusted and so pissed, she put his ass on blast, called his whole family, made sure everybody heard about it.
Yeah okay first of all, he's just soooo pornified some expects you to be into this... Also, just wanted to ask the age gap? Like if he is 20 saying he's not a child anymore, that would indicate you are a few years older which is just...disgusting? Disrespectful and just so horrible? I would talk with his parents or at least explain how it is wrong to him...
I don't know, talking to the parents might make things incredibly awkward for everyone involved.
I'm not saying for sure it isn't the right move, but maybe try shutting him down 1 on 1 first. Make it clear you have absolutely no desire to have sex, and that it will never happen.
From there repeat what you already said about how continuing communication cannot be flirty in any way.
From context clues it sounds like you two have not had much of a relationship recently, so he probably does not look at you like his Aunt right now, but with a little time, that can change.
Parents should definitely be notified of his behavior. If that was my son, I'd want to know if he was trying to get in my sister's pants. He'd definitely be grounded from his phone or computer for a LONG time.
So he just sees you as a prostitute? If it is money that's not a problem? Yeah I would be sending that $#!t to his dad or mom. 100% unacceptable in all cases.
Yeah okay first of all, he's just soooo pornified some expects you to be into this... Also, just wanted to ask the age gap? Like if he is 20 saying he's not a child anymore, that would indicate you are a few years older which is just...disgusting? Disrespectful and just so horrible? I would talk with his parents or at least explain how it is wrong to him...
The last time I was around this kid was when he was 2 maybe 3 years old. I’m nearly twice his age. I just blocked him after the last message, I thought I would give him the benefit of doubt and set my boundaries but he doubled down. His parents are shit, his dad(my brother) is worse. Honestly just messaged my fam to not give out my phone number to relatives in case he tries to contact me again.
Oh wow that's horrible. I guess if we all dug deep enough I could find some underlying issues from his childhood or something that could lead to him feeling such needs but it's still very wrong and should definitely be talked about. Maybe try talking to someone close to him or try his parents? And if it'll be really bad just cut contact...block him...avoid him...I know it's not the most wholesome ending but if he'll keep bothering you and won't change his mind, you won't have much to do..
There’s issues for sure, I’m not on speaking terms with his parents. I felt a lot of guilt not being there for him when he was young and was so excited to game with him online now but then this happened and I just feel a horrible ick.
Unfortunately he’s not the innocent child you once knew. But I understand the guilt as someone who has cut off parts of their family decades ago. I hope you’re doing okay now.
You have every right to feel disgusted, this is just pure wrong behavior. I understand your guilt but you had no obligation to raise him or parent him. I think the best thing to do right now is give him time and space. Let him think about his own life, maybe even try not texting him much.. just so he could maybe cool down? I hope you'll figure it out, and if anything happens just let us know and I'll try my best to figure something out. (Also just a side note, you shouldn't really be mad at him.. he fucked up, he really did, but no one would act normal if they would grow up with neglective parents. I too had a very shitty dad and got into bad places in life. Later on I pursued studying psychology and now looking back I understand why I acted or felt some way. I hope both you and the young man will find a healing solution, best of luck! Also sorry if this makes no sense, English isn't my first language)
I’d amend that you have every right to be mad at him. Of course the ideal is to be able to hold both anger and understanding for his circumstances, but you don’t have to be the one to show compassion when he mistreated you.
Maybe I am just old because I can't imagine doing that to family, did some idiot friend of his steal his phone or something, maybe we need an Alien invasion to cleanse the Earth
And this is coming from someone who has crossed that line. The real thing is not like porn. There’s… a lot of fallout and guilt and shame and self destruction
Although I'm sorry about that, I'd be a much better nephew (even though I'm a girl). I couldn't dream of talking to anyone in my family that way, and that boy better be greatful you didn't beat his shit in and send him to the hospital.
There is nothing on my page remotely provocative. I post selfies, pet pictures, pictures with friends, and gaming videos. I’m not in any way a sex worker or have any indication of anything of the sort. I would never describe myself as “sexy” in any way.
This kids got issues and maybe a fetish or something
This is the most Reddit shit that’s happened to me. If I didn’t have the screenshots and had it not happened right in front of my partner I don’t know if anyone would have believed me.
Blocked him, messaged family members to not give out my phone number, sent his mom the screenshots, she washed her hands clean of it all.
I told my sisters what happened and one said she had a similar experience with him just a week prior. The other sister told me he was after her husband a few years ago when they were trying to take custody of him, they ended up not going through with it because they had two other children in the house and were afraid for their safety.
Porn is a serious problem, yet I hear people saying,"just don't watch." Shit reminds me of close minded people about drug addiction. Your nephew needs help, like a therapist.
I have so many regrets about this whole encounter, but I can’t take it back. I gave him the benefit of doubt because he’s been through some shit just like I have but it all backfired.
I was literally in shock and was finding it hard to think of what to say. Yeah my replies were weird but I didnt want to think that he was just like his father. But it is what it is.
Somebody needs to step away from the porn.
Oh, their porn is already step...
Wtf :O Who talks like that? Even if they weren't related ...
porn addicts
20 years old youngs.
Don't bring me into this, I do not wanna be associated with that guy for being the same age
I'm confused why he wrote seen. I hate kids.
I was so shaken, it took me 5 minutes to respond. I don’t know what he was expecting me to say tbh…
You okay? Seems like he needs to have a reality check. I hope you blocked him
I blocked him after the last message, which was way more than I would have tolerated from a stranger, but I’m good now thanks.
Did you inform his parents? Or atleast whichever parent is your sibling?
No, I wish I could go more into it but I’m really not on speaking terms with them. Let’s just say the parent that is my sibling triggers my ptsd. It’s honestly easier to just block them out of my life.
Im sorry to hear that. I hope you can find peace and safety. Im glad you blocked him
Show his mom (or dad, whoever your sibling is)
I finally got the courage to send it to his mother and it went as I thought it would, “im so sorry, that is my son(she said this because I asked if it was her kid, im still in disbelief that he would send that), but he’s not with me at all so sorry”
Tell his parents, he's clearly not grown up enough to have Internet access, let him try again at 25 years old lol
On the one hand, you’ve got a very problematic nephew. On the other hand, you apparently look good. So it kind of cancels out..?
“Good enough for incest” feels like a double edged compliment.
What's the opposite of a Martyrdom post? Like instead of nuking someone at the expense of yourself, your nuking yourself to compliment someone?
Self burn?
I guess? But it doesn't feel extreme enough for this post.
How about „fuck you, aint gonna happen“ xD
He’d read the first two words the wrong way.
Prolly
What pornbrain does to a mf
Lmfao
It would be funny if this wasn’t real, but if you check OPs account, this doesn’t feel like rage bait or a meme. This seems legit. Which is fucking crazy in actual reality.
poor OP.
That's wild. Exactly the same thing happened to my mom. Nephew messaged her on Facebook, all nice and familiar at first, then dropped if she was good to fuck. She was so disgusted and so pissed, she put his ass on blast, called his whole family, made sure everybody heard about it.
Show this to your sibling. Let them deal with it
Paddle faster! I hear banjos.........
Hitting up an actual family member for this is wild. Especially dangling money around as if that would make a difference. Extremely cringe, indeed.
Well, at least you know what he wants for his birthday
what do you get for the man who has everything? his aunt, i guess!
Sounds like it would be the title for some hentai lol
Ok so, time for an entirely new family tree
Yeah okay first of all, he's just soooo pornified some expects you to be into this... Also, just wanted to ask the age gap? Like if he is 20 saying he's not a child anymore, that would indicate you are a few years older which is just...disgusting? Disrespectful and just so horrible? I would talk with his parents or at least explain how it is wrong to him...
I don't know, talking to the parents might make things incredibly awkward for everyone involved.
I'm not saying for sure it isn't the right move, but maybe try shutting him down 1 on 1 first. Make it clear you have absolutely no desire to have sex, and that it will never happen.
From there repeat what you already said about how continuing communication cannot be flirty in any way.
From context clues it sounds like you two have not had much of a relationship recently, so he probably does not look at you like his Aunt right now, but with a little time, that can change.
My two cents anyway; best of luck to you!
I think awkward conversation is already happening with that little chat right there. Parents should definitely be notified with that kinda behavior.
Parents should definitely be notified of his behavior. If that was my son, I'd want to know if he was trying to get in my sister's pants. He'd definitely be grounded from his phone or computer for a LONG time.
What’s wrong with awkward, compared to what the nephew wrote?
Absolutely show this to the parents. That little shit needs to have some sense slapped into him.
The kid thinks he’s allowed to act like that just because he’s over 18. In my book he’s still an adolescent, hence my “little shit” comment.
So he just sees you as a prostitute? If it is money that's not a problem? Yeah I would be sending that $#!t to his dad or mom. 100% unacceptable in all cases.
Straight up harassment, can you imagine their poor coworkers and class mates? Nah it's over
Yeah okay first of all, he's just soooo pornified some expects you to be into this... Also, just wanted to ask the age gap? Like if he is 20 saying he's not a child anymore, that would indicate you are a few years older which is just...disgusting? Disrespectful and just so horrible? I would talk with his parents or at least explain how it is wrong to him...
The last time I was around this kid was when he was 2 maybe 3 years old. I’m nearly twice his age. I just blocked him after the last message, I thought I would give him the benefit of doubt and set my boundaries but he doubled down. His parents are shit, his dad(my brother) is worse. Honestly just messaged my fam to not give out my phone number to relatives in case he tries to contact me again.
Oh wow that's horrible. I guess if we all dug deep enough I could find some underlying issues from his childhood or something that could lead to him feeling such needs but it's still very wrong and should definitely be talked about. Maybe try talking to someone close to him or try his parents? And if it'll be really bad just cut contact...block him...avoid him...I know it's not the most wholesome ending but if he'll keep bothering you and won't change his mind, you won't have much to do..
There’s issues for sure, I’m not on speaking terms with his parents. I felt a lot of guilt not being there for him when he was young and was so excited to game with him online now but then this happened and I just feel a horrible ick.
Unfortunately he’s not the innocent child you once knew. But I understand the guilt as someone who has cut off parts of their family decades ago. I hope you’re doing okay now.
You have every right to feel disgusted, this is just pure wrong behavior. I understand your guilt but you had no obligation to raise him or parent him. I think the best thing to do right now is give him time and space. Let him think about his own life, maybe even try not texting him much.. just so he could maybe cool down? I hope you'll figure it out, and if anything happens just let us know and I'll try my best to figure something out. (Also just a side note, you shouldn't really be mad at him.. he fucked up, he really did, but no one would act normal if they would grow up with neglective parents. I too had a very shitty dad and got into bad places in life. Later on I pursued studying psychology and now looking back I understand why I acted or felt some way. I hope both you and the young man will find a healing solution, best of luck! Also sorry if this makes no sense, English isn't my first language)
I’d amend that you have every right to be mad at him. Of course the ideal is to be able to hold both anger and understanding for his circumstances, but you don’t have to be the one to show compassion when he mistreated you.
Eww
banjo music from the distance…
Paddle faster!
Lil bro thought he was cooking
Now he's gonna get cooked
Maybe I am just old because I can't imagine doing that to family, did some idiot friend of his steal his phone or something, maybe we need an Alien invasion to cleanse the Earth
This dude is way too deep into porn
omg...
His buddy got his phone
First thought
Unhinged 😭
And this is coming from someone who has crossed that line. The real thing is not like porn. There’s… a lot of fallout and guilt and shame and self destruction
Are you one of the infamous twins from Dear Prudie???
Show his parents this, I’m sure they’d just love to see how their son talks to his aunt.
That is something
What in Alabama
Just Saarland things
WHATT the hell
Absolutely insane way to go about this porn rotted his brain
is this a joke? I just threw up in my mouth that's so disgusting. is it a prank? is he being held at gun point?
I think if it was some sort of joke I would have gotten a message from an alt account by now apologizing or something. :(
You know i am in my 20s but damn , that's some wild shit.
I mean not how a normal person would do it but you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take
Um huh. Not sure what to say to this.
Kids, this is why you don't watch porn!
Although I'm sorry about that, I'd be a much better nephew (even though I'm a girl). I couldn't dream of talking to anyone in my family that way, and that boy better be greatful you didn't beat his shit in and send him to the hospital.
Congrats to the sexy auntie I guess?
Are you a pro?
?
"I want you for my birthday" WTF does he even mean lol. He's talking like you're a stripper or something.
There is nothing on my page remotely provocative. I post selfies, pet pictures, pictures with friends, and gaming videos. I’m not in any way a sex worker or have any indication of anything of the sort. I would never describe myself as “sexy” in any way.
This kids got issues and maybe a fetish or something
This can’t be real ?
This is the most Reddit shit that’s happened to me. If I didn’t have the screenshots and had it not happened right in front of my partner I don’t know if anyone would have believed me.
Haha, how would one pronounce ailf 😂
Well, how did you deal with him?
Blocked him, messaged family members to not give out my phone number, sent his mom the screenshots, she washed her hands clean of it all.
I told my sisters what happened and one said she had a similar experience with him just a week prior. The other sister told me he was after her husband a few years ago when they were trying to take custody of him, they ended up not going through with it because they had two other children in the house and were afraid for their safety.
Kids got issues man.
Porn is a serious problem, yet I hear people saying,"just don't watch." Shit reminds me of close minded people about drug addiction. Your nephew needs help, like a therapist.
Irk
Can't judge until I've seen the auntie. 😆😆
Right, like do you know how estranged AND hot my aunt would have to be for this thought to even enter my brain
And even then, there's a world of difference between having intrusive thoughts and acting on them. Just to drive home your point.
Completely fair, but also I don't have any sexy aunts (at least as far as I can tell)
This is a joke, right? His messages are insane and ur replies are weird too! “Flirty?” That’s gross
I have so many regrets about this whole encounter, but I can’t take it back. I gave him the benefit of doubt because he’s been through some shit just like I have but it all backfired.
I was literally in shock and was finding it hard to think of what to say. Yeah my replies were weird but I didnt want to think that he was just like his father. But it is what it is.
r/thathappened
https://www.reddit.com/u/FresaSmoothie/s/cQPx4mK1xT yeah there’s the whole message. It started innocent enough.