First off. Nothing wrong with you. He is the problem. You are loveable and would be the perfect sub for the correct Dom. He isn't it. Cur your losses. And accept that your Dom is out there looking for you.
Sorry you are experiencing this. If there is any silver lining, it is better you learned this now than years from now. Find someone who deserves you. Yes, I recognize this is easier said than done.
I am so sorry you’re going through this.
It hurts. Please take time to yourself and treat yourself. You are not the problem here. Put those thoughts away.
You are good enough. Always was. Always will be.
But not for this Dom.
Dust yourself off. Cut ties. Search for someone that respects you and won’t treat you like this.
did you have any issues explicit conversation about monogamy/exclusivity? if not, that’s something that definitely needs to happen in the future if you are wanting exclusivity.
either way, it’s shitty of him to drop you without communication. ghosting after months of contact is very immature. at least you didn’t waste any more time on him.
if you are carrying the weight of the relationship/situationship, as you described—that’s something to pay attention to. you deserve someone who puts in equal effort. if that happens to you again, bring it up as soon as you can so you can get some clarity. lack of a response is a response in itself.
the only person that’s going to advocate for you is you. that means becoming good at sensing when a situation isn’t right for you. that means speaking up for yourself when appropriate, knowing when to cut your losses, and walking away to create your own closure on your own terms before the other person does it for you. there is power in knowing your boundaries and doing things on your own terms.
familiarize yourself with the sunk cost fallacy if you haven’t already.
i’m sorry this is happening. it will pass and you will come out the other side stronger. i’m proud of you for reaching out for support here.
First off. Nothing wrong with you. He is the problem. You are loveable and would be the perfect sub for the correct Dom. He isn't it. Cur your losses. And accept that your Dom is out there looking for you.
Sorry you are experiencing this. If there is any silver lining, it is better you learned this now than years from now. Find someone who deserves you. Yes, I recognize this is easier said than done.
I am so sorry you’re going through this. It hurts. Please take time to yourself and treat yourself. You are not the problem here. Put those thoughts away.
You are good enough. Always was. Always will be.
But not for this Dom.
Dust yourself off. Cut ties. Search for someone that respects you and won’t treat you like this.
did you have any issues explicit conversation about monogamy/exclusivity? if not, that’s something that definitely needs to happen in the future if you are wanting exclusivity.
either way, it’s shitty of him to drop you without communication. ghosting after months of contact is very immature. at least you didn’t waste any more time on him.
if you are carrying the weight of the relationship/situationship, as you described—that’s something to pay attention to. you deserve someone who puts in equal effort. if that happens to you again, bring it up as soon as you can so you can get some clarity. lack of a response is a response in itself.
the only person that’s going to advocate for you is you. that means becoming good at sensing when a situation isn’t right for you. that means speaking up for yourself when appropriate, knowing when to cut your losses, and walking away to create your own closure on your own terms before the other person does it for you. there is power in knowing your boundaries and doing things on your own terms.
familiarize yourself with the sunk cost fallacy if you haven’t already.
i’m sorry this is happening. it will pass and you will come out the other side stronger. i’m proud of you for reaching out for support here.