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It feels freeing. Even as a kid, I always thought it was weird that everyone was expected to take the same life path… get married, have kids…. What if you don’t want that? Or what if you can’t find someone you’re compatible with? Life isn’t a one size fits all shoe.
That crap gets pushed so hard. It made me doubt myself and what I actually wanted for decades. Other people’s expectations for my life made me miserable and bitter. I stopped everything that wasn’t working and focused on myself and magically everything’s so much better and cheerful. I am a 40yr old hermit-spinster and I will continue being one until the day I die because it makes me happy.
Been single 6 years now. I’ve tried meeting people irl, didn’t work out. I also tried the apps and I became extremely disillusioned after a while and deleted them.
I asked my best friend, who recently got a boyfriend (they’ve been together 5 months now and already living together. Don’t know how I feel about that part but love that she has a partner she adores ig? Haha) how she did it, out of genuine curiosity, because she was on dates consistently for years there and nothing was happening.
Her answer was basically to sleep with all of the dates and to try and keep a FWB situation going until one of them decides to make it exclusive. “Gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince”.
I told her I love her and I’m glad she was safe throughout, but that is absolutely not something I’m ever willing to do just to find a partner. I’m not that desperate. She wasn’t even offended lol she was just like “yeah, but I was” 😩🥲
I’m happy living my life without compromise or having to support another person (I can barely deal with my own health the last few years, I wouldn’t expect a partner to have to come deal with it too) and I like having control over my own space, ESPECIALLY my bed (I LOVE sleeping alone). I can cook what I want every night, decorate how I want, go anywhere alone without questions etc. I’m quite happy where I’m at lol
If it happens it will happen naturally without any effort or planning on my part. The stars would have to align. Otherwise, I'm content with my home, my career, my cat, my friends, my family, and my freedom.
Yep it’s a weird time. Edit: I guess growing up I never really thought of myself as being in a relationship or being the most likable for the matter. I never had anyone I went to prom with nor did I go to prom. I always kept to myself. It wasn’t until in my 20s I got in my first relationship. Even so it’s a lot of work and a lot of effort to get into dating. As I grow more older I don’t think it’s for me anymore.
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I love that single people who are happy with their circumstances feel confident to opt out of dating. That’s a mark of social progress.
40 here and yes, absolutely. Relationships aren’t for everybody and the fact that it’s becoming more common to stay single is a huge relief
Exactly 💯. I find dating less and less appealing.
It feels freeing. Even as a kid, I always thought it was weird that everyone was expected to take the same life path… get married, have kids…. What if you don’t want that? Or what if you can’t find someone you’re compatible with? Life isn’t a one size fits all shoe.
That crap gets pushed so hard. It made me doubt myself and what I actually wanted for decades. Other people’s expectations for my life made me miserable and bitter. I stopped everything that wasn’t working and focused on myself and magically everything’s so much better and cheerful. I am a 40yr old hermit-spinster and I will continue being one until the day I die because it makes me happy.
not just 30 yos, we've all lost interest in the process
Been single 6 years now. I’ve tried meeting people irl, didn’t work out. I also tried the apps and I became extremely disillusioned after a while and deleted them.
I asked my best friend, who recently got a boyfriend (they’ve been together 5 months now and already living together. Don’t know how I feel about that part but love that she has a partner she adores ig? Haha) how she did it, out of genuine curiosity, because she was on dates consistently for years there and nothing was happening.
Her answer was basically to sleep with all of the dates and to try and keep a FWB situation going until one of them decides to make it exclusive. “Gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince”.
I told her I love her and I’m glad she was safe throughout, but that is absolutely not something I’m ever willing to do just to find a partner. I’m not that desperate. She wasn’t even offended lol she was just like “yeah, but I was” 😩🥲
I’m happy living my life without compromise or having to support another person (I can barely deal with my own health the last few years, I wouldn’t expect a partner to have to come deal with it too) and I like having control over my own space, ESPECIALLY my bed (I LOVE sleeping alone). I can cook what I want every night, decorate how I want, go anywhere alone without questions etc. I’m quite happy where I’m at lol
If it happens it will happen naturally without any effort or planning on my part. The stars would have to align. Otherwise, I'm content with my home, my career, my cat, my friends, my family, and my freedom.
Yep it’s a weird time. Edit: I guess growing up I never really thought of myself as being in a relationship or being the most likable for the matter. I never had anyone I went to prom with nor did I go to prom. I always kept to myself. It wasn’t until in my 20s I got in my first relationship. Even so it’s a lot of work and a lot of effort to get into dating. As I grow more older I don’t think it’s for me anymore.
100% true for me. I'm divorced (not technically single) but I'm happy and don't want to date. I want to live life on my own terms.
I’m not even 30 and this has been me my entire life lmao