Because you know it’s all they’re going to talk about or focus on and you’ll barely see them again.
I’ve done a great job at not getting into new friendships with relationship-centered people, but I have a long time friend who still struggles with this. I’ll be there for this person for sure, but I’m already anticipating the stories haha
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I mean yes and no. It kinda depends. I ditched all my serial dater friends in high school and college. I’m friends with a couple couples, sometimes I’m friends with both partners, other times I’m close with one. I’ve lost friendships to relationships, especially friends of the opposite gender whose partner is jealous. I’m just at a point where I don’t associate with the type you’re describing, but I als feel like you age out of it
Same. My one friend is so close to getting beyond this stage of their life but I know they still struggle with it.
I try to treat my experiences with people as individual things and to keep in mind that all relationships end eventually. It doesn't make it better, but it softens the blow when people move on to different phases of life. It also helps me to allow myself the same grace when my priorities need to shift. We're all human afterall.
Totally. I’m talking about relationship-centered people. People who don’t have an identity outside of being in a relationship. People like this tend to only talk about who they’re dating, and don’t do a good job at balancing time between friendships and their romantic partners.
I have a few close friends who are married or engaged in my neighborhood and see them regularly. And we don’t talk about their relationships that often because we’re usually engaged in our own shared interests and the present moment.
I think you can take relationship centred out of the equation and just call it dull. If a person can only talk about a relationship then they are just dull and un-interesting people.
So…You are removing un-interesting people from your life.
I’m all for listening to people moan about their other half (in moderation) just cements what I think about relationships and allows me to spout/educate the 2 things that all relationships require and boil down to. Communication and Boundaries and observe how a huge amount of people fail at this.
The older you get, it's pretty much everyone
My friend since high school has been left by her hubby again. I’m tired of trying to tell her it’s for the better. She will take him back again any time. I hate being a bad friend, but I can’t help them… and I’m just done. Good luck
Wait till your female friends become grandmothers… so dull and boring
Absolutely. Had a close friend who was a total disaster when it came to relationships. She was regularly hyper-focused on needing to find a partner and would date horrible men and obsess over them. A couple months ago she eloped with a man who she’d known for less than 6 months.
We no longer talk. Partially because when she’s with someone her friends tend to get tossed to the side. Partially because I’m tired of her BS and no longer initiate anything. I wish her well but I’m sick of watching her hurt herself and her kids because of her childhood trauma and insecurity.
AWWWWWW yeah, and the guy, I bet he has a big dick, cuz my friend is paying for everything, they live in a studio and he just stares at his phone. I'm patient.