I was extremely tempted to pay for sex yesterday and I successfully held out. (https://www.reddit.com/r/SexAddiction/s/SsMskLmFJD). Part of the reason I was able to hold out was because I got into a flow state at work. Might not be the same today as I’m waiting for some code to finish running (has been running since last night so not sure how much longer it’s going to be). So a lot of my work day could just end up being idle. Idleness is a vulnerable area for me (and I would imagine for many of us).
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My experience is that once acting out was in my mind, it was like running uphill on a treadmill. The longer I resisted acting out, the stronger the urges returned.
I like to use war analogies sometimes. I used to say that the enemy (addiction) would attack and I'd hold them off. The enemy retreated for a while, but it usually came back later the same day or the next day, this time with reinforcements. After a while, my defenses were completely wore down and I was compelled to act out again. How are you holding up?