Hi, just like the title above. It's been five years since my mom was diagnosed with schizophrenia, she doesn't want to acknowledged it and prefer to say that someone has been putting her in black magic. This is something common especially in rural Asia, and my mom's family has ties with black magic practice. The thing is, her family has been enabling this saying she's not sick it's someone else work because they would rather admit she got sick because of it not because she's truly sick. So she goes around saying someone put a spell on her and refuses any help.
We even got the doctor visited our house at some point but she don't want to get out of the room. My father went around and asked for helps from the cops and her family, but they can't do anything if she doesn't harm anyone and her family is useless. Now all she did is indulged in smoking more than 3 packs a day. Basically at this point, I don't consider her as a mom, she never paid any attention to us or even asking our day, only her delusion is what matters to her now.
I have a youngest siblings who is 7 years old now and I'm in university now. I have to give up going to good and further university because my sister already going there which leave me alone so I have to take care of the house. I have to divide my class and taking care of my other 4 siblings and even taking care of my bills. My dad has given up now and focus solely on working to provide us, but I don't like it how I need to step up to be the mother in our family when all I want to do is killing myself.
Oh and whenever my mom got her episode it's so bad. And our neighbors would complain and we couldn't do nothing. We tried bringing her secretly to the psychiatrist, but she would get out of the car in the middle of road or retorts to hitting my dad everytime. Honestly, it's never going to get better and I'm tired of it all, even when she's sick she don't want to go to hospital even for a simple check up. My only hope at this moment is when she finally get that lung cancer cause of the excessive smoking to the point if she didn't smoke for even one minute she would scramble paper and roll them to mimick the cigarettes and light them up to smoke.
I am sorry to hear that you're in an unfair situation where your opportunities and future are at risk as a result of your mother's condition. I'm sorry that you must play the role of mother for your siblings. I'm sorry that your mother doesn't understand that external forces aren't responsible for her problems. I'm sorry that she won't accept help. I'm sorry that there's no indication that things will get better soon.
Please know that your life is valuable. You are very strong to have endured the past 5 years. My mother has refused treatment for the past 20 years. I miss her, and nothing will bring her back.
The patience and kindness you have for your mother and your siblings will always be remembered. Thank you for taking care of them and working and studying. I hope that you can have rest in the future.
Is there any crisis team that can come to home and evaluate her and take her to hospital? Which country are you in? There should be a crisis team that can help with getting her to hospital, even if she doesn't want to go.
I think this is what you need and will check with courts/law if you tell me your Country and nearest big city.