Texting his parents and sister seems pretty standard to me. Maybe set up a WhatsApp group so he just needs to type in the one place and you can see what he says? Sending pictures, updates on babys first few days is very normal. Have they met baby and offering help at all?
Im more concerned about your feelings of not trusting your husband, trust is important and you dont need to go into it here, please mention these feelings youre having to your GP or Midwife.
What exactly is he sharing that makes you uncomfortable? And why is it leading to a lack of trust?
A couple of things to bear in mind. The first few days post partum are rough. Your hormones are going to be absolutely insane, you probably feel exhausted and overwhelmed, and you are still processing the biggest life change you will ever experience. It's an awful lot.
But your husband is also going through something similar. It's also his baby, and it is - for some people - very natural to share lots of pictures and details about a new baby.
I can't speak for OP, but honestly, constant updates to the in-laws (or to anyone for that matter) would bother me. I would hate it if my husband constantly had his phone out updating people. I would want my husband to be present with me, not on his phone.
The post doesn't say what he's sharing, but I am a very private person, so I would hate it if my birth details/medical info/feeding issues, etc., were shared.
It's their time to bond as a new family without feeling the need to update people on every movement.
Yes, it is his baby too, and I'm sure he's very excited, but mother and baby are intrinsically linked during the postpartum period so his experience can't compare.
OP maybe could you agree with you husband that he only updates them once a day and doesn't share any info you're not comfortable with?
Seems quite normal , everyone is excited about new babies. Your hormones will be all over the show and you’ll have baby blues, but your husbands life has changed also so not sure why you feel you can’t trust him. Give it a few days and see how you feel?
As long as it’s positive updates I think it’s pretty normal, updates of the baby, photos, updates on how the baby is sleeping, feeding would all be normal I think. I’ll certainly be doing a lot of that with my parents and siblings when baby arrives.
However if it’s updates on you, if you’re irritable, tired, emotional, that’s not ok. Your mental and emotional health will be all over the place that first week or some after a major drop in hormones and that’s not ok for him to be telling his family about.
I’m not sure if it’s the first or second scenario OP is going through. But if it’s the latter I’d feel let down and like I couldn’t trust my partner either
Texting his parents and sister seems pretty standard to me. Maybe set up a WhatsApp group so he just needs to type in the one place and you can see what he says? Sending pictures, updates on babys first few days is very normal. Have they met baby and offering help at all?
Im more concerned about your feelings of not trusting your husband, trust is important and you dont need to go into it here, please mention these feelings youre having to your GP or Midwife.
What exactly is he sharing that makes you uncomfortable? And why is it leading to a lack of trust?
A couple of things to bear in mind. The first few days post partum are rough. Your hormones are going to be absolutely insane, you probably feel exhausted and overwhelmed, and you are still processing the biggest life change you will ever experience. It's an awful lot.
But your husband is also going through something similar. It's also his baby, and it is - for some people - very natural to share lots of pictures and details about a new baby.
I can't speak for OP, but honestly, constant updates to the in-laws (or to anyone for that matter) would bother me. I would hate it if my husband constantly had his phone out updating people. I would want my husband to be present with me, not on his phone.
The post doesn't say what he's sharing, but I am a very private person, so I would hate it if my birth details/medical info/feeding issues, etc., were shared.
It's their time to bond as a new family without feeling the need to update people on every movement.
Yes, it is his baby too, and I'm sure he's very excited, but mother and baby are intrinsically linked during the postpartum period so his experience can't compare.
OP maybe could you agree with you husband that he only updates them once a day and doesn't share any info you're not comfortable with?
Seems quite normal , everyone is excited about new babies. Your hormones will be all over the show and you’ll have baby blues, but your husbands life has changed also so not sure why you feel you can’t trust him. Give it a few days and see how you feel?
As long as it’s positive updates I think it’s pretty normal, updates of the baby, photos, updates on how the baby is sleeping, feeding would all be normal I think. I’ll certainly be doing a lot of that with my parents and siblings when baby arrives.
However if it’s updates on you, if you’re irritable, tired, emotional, that’s not ok. Your mental and emotional health will be all over the place that first week or some after a major drop in hormones and that’s not ok for him to be telling his family about.
I’m not sure if it’s the first or second scenario OP is going through. But if it’s the latter I’d feel let down and like I couldn’t trust my partner either