I have heard this SO many times from men, and the women who defend pornography consumption (especially in a relationship)
Someone’s reasoning for wanting a porn free partner isn’t necessarily rooted in insecurity, even if it was, CAN YOU FUCKING BLAME THEM?? Feeling insecure over your partner investing themselves sexually into other people is a completely natural response. (Especially when those people they’re watching look absolutely nothing like you) Just because it’s through a screen doesn’t mean shit. THOSE. ARE. STILL. REAL. PEOPLE
Fucking insane how we’ve villainized a woman’s natural response to this instead of their shitty, poor excuse of a partner who makes them feel that way.
To be honest, I don't know why "being insecure" is used as some kind of insult now days. Everyone is insecure about something, because we're only human and most people are unhealed in this world that is designed to keep us sick or brainwashed.
Being insecure doesn't mean someone is invalid. It's just a way to dunk on someone and call them out, and personally attack someone instead of coming up with a better argument. Name calling in any capacity is not debate. Labeling someone is the lazy out to not thinking more about what you actually stand for.
All of this right here. It’s easier to call someone “insecure” rather than taking a look on the inside and getting to the bottom of why you think something is acceptable behavior. It’s the biggest fucking cop out
My favorite part is when women have valid criticism about how women are portrayed in media and all these buttheads go “you’re just jealous”. Meanwhile, you’ll be talking about how gratuitous violence and nudity in a movie about a real-life sexual assault victim is disrespectful.
Which is the strangest thing. Some of the most beautiful women are against porn. I wonder how they explain that? They just assume everyone is as ugly inside and outside as them. I wonder how they'd feel if it were actually conventionally attractive men plastered on everything half naked and in degrading positions. Clearly it would affect them because they'd be fixated on how jealous they are.
Right? One of the most stupidest arguments ive ever heard.
Mine too. It doesn’t make sense to me how apparently to them it’s ok to jerk off to other women in porn but if they did that in person it’s not…?
And I’m not insecure, my self esteem just isn’t that low
Yeah they never seem to understand that it isn't about insecurity. It's actually about having standards. Being with a man that disgusting that he doesn't even understand how it's problematic... yeah that can pass me by every time. Thank you! Get out!
I told my boyfriend and any man I will ever be with: “cheating doesn’t only start when bodies touch”. Looking at another woman with lust is the first step.
My husband and I agree. We consider cheating anything that you wouldn't want your significant other to know about, involving the sex you are attracted to. Basically anything that causes betrayal trauma, because relationships are built off mental health and respect.
I literally had a conversation about this with someone a whole while ago and i said ‘would you be okay with your partner jerking off to videos of a friend then?’ And then went ‘well no, but that’s different’ LOL no it isn’t and your hypocrisy is showing!
tbh I feel like it's a way to make themselves feel superior. like oooh look at us, we watch porn together because WE'RE not insecure and weak like you
they know their sex lives are shit, it's a cope
I just wanted to say a huge thank you to everyone in this sub for affirming that we’re not obligated to date people who look at porn.
I got called “insecure” and “insane” in the White Lotus sub back when season 2 aired because I said I would personally divorce my spouse for looking at porn. (For context, there’s a scene where a dark haired woman’s husband is watching porn of blonde women. She walks in on him and is very “cool girl” about it). I’m glad to say I stood my ground, and I will continue to avoid any sub that isn’t explicitly pro-women like the plague.
Yeah I don’t get it either. Or when people say “it’s okay to look at the menu as long as u eat at home” 🤮
Ah, classic deflection. Constantly guilt tripping women and people for wanting boundaries. Seems almost narcissistic at this point. Men really need to get their act together
Just be a good wife and make yourself at home in the harem! Insane.
It's especially insane because that can be used for ANY boundary crossing. Imagine telling a man "I had sex with your brother because he's better looking than you. Oh my god, stop being so iNsEcuRe!" People are allowed boundaries and self respect. But only women's boundaries get belittled and dismissed. If my husband wants to shop around, he can do it single.
This 🙌🏽