Covid killed caroling

My niece doesn’t know any of the veggies in “Bahay Kubo.”

Kasi maski ako hindi na rin pinapractice ex. na yang pagmano..Although, nagmamano pa rin ako kapag nakikita ko yung auntie, uncle ko na almost 70 yrs old na. Yun nga lang, taon na nung huli kaming nagkita.

one thing is “po” at “opo”

reason nila is di lang naman dun nababase ang respeto, lalo na mga bata bata ay english language agad ang natututunan imbes na sa tagalog

Sa family ko walang nagmamano at all. Kaming magkakapatid don't do it, mga pinsan ko don't, mga tito & tita ko didn't do it sa great-grandparents ko. I "knew" the how and why, it just wasn't practiced in our family.

When I got together with my now-spouse, first time ko ma-experience ang pag mamano sa elders. 26. Nung nag mano sakin pamangkin niya, I lowkey freaked out. Akala ko hahalikan niya kamay ko. Hahahahahaha

Is it just me or parang may AI bots sa comments?

TLDR: I still practice mano and don’t think it’s necessarily fading, but the use of “po” and “opo” feels like it is

Nagmamano pa ako sa mga relatives na masmatanda sakin, regardless of the level of respect, dyan lang ako nasanay and in my eyes at least I’m being polite. Yung mga pinsan ko na masbata sakin (yes PINSAN) nagmamano sila pag nakikita ako (pero sinasabihan ko sila na wag na kase young pa ako 😅), tsaka tinuturuan ko yung anak ko paano magmano even tho she’s just a year old pa (again, for the sake of being polite plus its cute). I don’t think it’s a dying tradition pero it’s not common narin naman in this day and age kase medyong (rightfully) entitled na tayo sa boundaries natin, for good reason din after decades of generational trauma. Mga matatanda lang naman ang offended pag hindi nagmano sa kanila.

Ang na notice ko lang talaga na nagfafade ay yung pag “po” and “opo” from younger generations. English speaking aside ha, pero may angas na yung mga bata ngayon pag nakikipagusap sa mga masmatanda sa kanila. Minsan nga bastos, as in walang manners. I’ll pin the parents and the content they watch online, of course. Pero yung nakikita kong mga bata na pinagsasalitaan ng parents nila na di maganda at walang respeto tapos tinatanggap lang o sinasagutan lang ng parents? It’s just sad lang sakin, mostly kase pinalaki ako ng strict sa paggamit ng “po” at “opo”

This thread is sad

Mahirap mag mano kung mga matatandang relatives mo di karesperespeto.

Di nila deserve yung mga trato kung saan nangaling yung Mahal na Poon na pinagmulan ng mano kung tama yung sa Filipino Story dahil yung elders daw ay galing sa lineage ni Bathala.

Traditions are passed down. They die when the current generation doesn't pass it down to the next. Sana gawin natin part natin to keep our traditions alive.

My nieces and nephews have never been to a Pinoy birthday party with old school games like pabitin and pukpok palayok. They've never eaten hotdogs with marshmallows on sticks either 🥲

Hindi na ko nag mamano, humahalik na lang ako sa pisnge

Keri lang mawala yang pag mamano. Di naman nasusukat ang respeto sa isang tao mag mano ka man o hindi.

Also, madumi kamay. lol

nagpapakita pa rin nman ng respeto ang gen z, kaya lng, yung bow ng hapon at koreano ang greeting nila sa yo. 'good morning sir,' sabi nila, sabay yuko. lintek na mga kdramas yan.

My nephews were born/raised during the pandemic, so we never taught them to mano. And TBF, our older relatives don't mind naman that they never do it still. A hi/hello and hug would suffice.

Lalayo pa ba tayo sa mga batang purong Pinoy na dito naman pinanganak at lumaki pero hindi makapagbasa, makapagsulat, at makapagsalita ng Filipino (Tagalog o Visayan man o kung ano man dialect).

i don't mind na nawawala na yung mano. for one, it implies that elderly relatives deserve respect, when it isn't always the case. second, it's just performative respect. i've seen kids do the "mano" but then shouts at their parents the next minute.

Ang pagmamano ang isang tradition na gusto ko matigil sa pinas. "Ang bastos ng anak mo, hindi nagmamano", dahil lang hindi nagmano sa inyo, bastos na agad? Ni hindi nga namin kayo kilala.

Nagmamano pa rin ako sa mga kilala ko na matatanda pero sa hindi kilala, bakit? Saka sa panahon ngayon na nagkalat ang mga sakit, hindi ko alam kung saan humawak ang kamay na imamano ko.

Hindi rin talaga ako nagpapamano kahit sa mga inaanak ko.

Traditions are peer pressure from dead people. Just because people don't show respect the way you do, doesn't mean that they're not being respectful.

Dati, hate ko pinagmamano sakin ang mga bata sa simbahan, kasi bata pa ako nun, nasa late 20s. Ngayon, 30s na, pinagmamano na namin mga bata kasi napansin kong nawawala na ung tradition na yun. Kahit ako rin kasi, hindi pala mano sa nakakatanda.

Depends on the area, just keep good traditions alive.

Considering tuli as tradition, medyo nabawasan na yata bullying sa supot kaya parang di na sya hard requirement as before?

Itinigil ko na ang pagmamano during covid era and ever since then di ko na ibinalik.

I thought this was a dying tradition too, pero sa school ko ngayon, lahat ng bata palaging nagmamano sa teacher, kahit kakasalubong lang kani-kanina ay magmamano na ulit. Medyo nakaka-???, but it's better than seeing a tradition die out 🥹

What I would say na talagang nagfa-fade ay yung mga larong Pinoy, particularly yung mga iniimbento on the spot at eventually nagiging uso. Oo may naglalaro pa rin sa labas, pero madalas simpleng takbuhan, ball games, o mobile games. Wala na masyado ang mga larong may chanting (yung mga may sinasabi bago magtakbuhan or whatever), tsaka yung mga sungka, patintero, at iba pa. At least yung mga clapping games tulad ng Nanay-Tatay buhay pa; tinatry ko rin iyong ipagawa sa mga estudyante ko hangga't kaya 😁

I feel that a lot of Filipino "traditions" are rooted in the outdated belief that respect equals subservience and that age automatically warrants "respect", so I really do not care whether "mano" disappears entirely from Filipino culture.

You can still teach them.

Di ko rin practice yang magmano basta may respect ako kapag makipag usap sa ibang tao lalo na sa mas matanda sakin. Di rin ako comfortable na may nagmamano sakin hahaha

Di na ako nag po po at opo sa parents ko. Hindi sa di ko sila nirerespeto, it's not about respect but distance for me. Para sakin parang di close yung relationship nyo ng kausap mo if you're using it. I still use them when talking to titas and Titos and others kaya feel ko nagtatampo sila. Hindi talaga sya about sa pagiging di marespeto, just feels like we're close without it. L take ba?

Napaka-piyudal na tradisyon naman kasi talaga yang pagmamano, kahit pa yung pagsasabi ng po at opo. Hindi yan basehan ng respeto o ng kabutihan ng ugali kaya tantanan na natin yan.

Yes. Sa snow na gusto mag pasko ng mga Pinoy

Nagmamano pa ren ako. I teach my kid to do the same. Mapakupal man yan matanda or what not.... Because tradition and culture to me is important... Ang dami na ngang binura ng western ideologies, kakalimutan ko pa yung natitira.

Due to pandemic yan....in fact dati ay marami pang gumagawa nyan pero nung nag pandemic ay syempre maraming bawal and isa ang na-mentioned ni OP..(social distancing)... Kaya marami talaga ang nabago dahil sa pandemic na yan...

• Pati paniniwala ng mga tao pagdating sa politics nabago din---> dati ang politics ay politics lang, ngayon ginawa na nilang IDOLO ang mga politiko which is not right....

Sa nakikita ko, may revival of this tradition among mga 5-12 yo.

mga pamangkin ko pag nag mama o sa akin nagiging handshake bigla kasi ayoko ng nagmamano sila saakin hahahahaha trentahin p lang ako di ko pa tanggap na ganon n ko katanda hahahahahaha

sasabihin ko palang yung mano after reading the title. Recently lang nagka kiddies pinsan ko so hopefully babalik na, but before that mga 10+ years wala since walang bata/patay na yung mga grandparents

Mga pamangkin ko most of them lumaki sa ibang bansa, but we continue to instill good filipino traditions, like pagmamano. We don’t expect them to do it to everyone naman. And even they don’t speak tagalog fluently, they still try to use po and opo.

For me losing these traditions means losing who we are, and preserving this values and traditions is not about honoring the past but passing on our identity to the next generation. I am not “makabayan” but I still want to keep the identity of being a filipino.

I think this is also a problem for the parents who are raising children. While I firmly believe that not every adult (or older person) is deserving of respect, it is still important to make sure that children should learn manners and being "respectful" (mostly politeness not actual respect). First impressions are important after all. I personally stopped doing "mano" to my parents' relatives because they are mad disrespectful (backstabbing and horrible people - barring criminal haha). This was conscious decision I made in my adulthood.

I think it also comes with being more westernized (as a result of social media). Frankly, I think kids should still do Mano po (hand to forehead, not kissing hands or anything) to older acquaintances, relatives, and friends of their parents/guardians, if only to establish a community-like bond.

Now the question is asked, parang ang unti lang pala ng alam kong tradition, mostly family related pa.

Community traditions naman are mostly religious.

madami akong nakikitang nagmamano dito sa Tarlac halos lahat ng bara

Naalala ko a few years ago, dumalaw sa bahay yung anak ng pinsan ko. Di pa man nakakapagmano, tinanong agad ang password ng wifi 🤣😂😅 

Even though I love globalization, the fact that various Filipino cultures are dying is to be expected as our younger generation continues to be exposed to different ideas, mannerisms, cultures, etc. Cultures are fluid and evolve, and perhaps at some point, the concept of having a culture that is exclusive to one ethnic group will be a thing of the past.

Personally, though, I think it’s a shame that even our provincial languages are fading into obscurity. Even with my family in Cagayan, the younger generation no longer speaks Itawit, and if they do, it’s more like a syncretic version of Itawit, Tagalog, and English. And even among my Chinese side, only my mother and her generation still speak Hokkien. At the same time, my siblings, cousins, and I are familiar only with the familial naming conventions for our family members and simple phrases.

That being said, I do think some ethnic groups have preserved their cultures better than others; it’s just that within the Filipino cultural context, we’re a very impressionable people, and thus it’s easier for us to adopt habits and cultural habits while simultaneously disregarding the cultures of our birth.

This is honestly why I draw great inspiration from the Jews, the Chinese Diaspora outside of the Philippines, the Yazidis, the Samaritans, Non-Christian Koreans, and some elements of the Japanese cultural sphere, particularly for their strong attachment to their heritage. Every people group has a story and something unique to share with the world.

I would love it if we preserve the mano, at least for settings nowhere near our workplaces (you want me to mano my older colleagues? OVER MY DEAD BODY LOL). It is just so quintessentially Filipino. Naderail siya mostly during the pandemic - with the distancing and all - but I feel it's regaining traction.

You must be from the city. Try going out to the provinces of far-flung areas. Such traditions are still alive.

Nawala kasi dpt turuan yun kasi iniwasan gawin dahil sa covid. Many people find it cringe na rin since some adult still feel the inner child within.

Nagmamano ako minsan. Hindi ko pinapag-mano mga pamangkin ko kahit pinapag-mano sila ng mga nanay at tatay nila. Respeto lang sa akin bilang tao, okay na ako doon.

For me, nawawala na ang espirito ng Pasko dulot na din ng ekonomiya natin. Pansin nyo naman siguro 'yung bilang ng bahay na naglalagay ng pailaw saka dalas ng nangangaroling.

Most Gen X and Millenials are just lazy, haha. Like in our fam, we used to have a family reunion every Dec 25, but it has stopped and hasn't resumed since covid. We kinda missed it, until we realize that we're at that age where we should be the one to organize those reunions. The effort our parents, uncles, and aunties put into those parties for us, kids, is no joke and sadly, none of us want to step up since we're too busy. About mano, glad to say my pamangkins are still doing that despite living overseas, so it really falls on the parents to make sure it continues.

38 yo here. For years, kiss sa pisnge ginagawa ko sa lola ko (nung buhay pa sya)

Sa side ng father ko walang nagmamano na mga pinsan at pamangkin. But sa mother side, lahat nag mamano sa mga tita at tito kasi yun yung nakasanayan at tinuro ng grandparents namin.

So Filipino traditions naka depende talaga on what the elders teach the next generation.

Nagpasko ako sa province after more than a decade & met a lot of my mom's family (we are a big family) observed ko naman super practice pa ang pagmamano.

in my experience, there is a lot of unspoken respect that should be exchanged in the culture of "mano" that is continuously being ignored in youth-elderly relationships. The more that people demand understanding from the youth whilst simultaneously not engaging them with actual incentives to reinforce that respect (love, community, etc.), the more the youth will want to break away from, in their perspective, suffocating cultural practices. Add that in with the cultural erasure by virtue of Western idealization, and you get kids who don't embody the identity of the Filipino as we know it.

Caridad

Caridad is the tradional sharing of food during Holy Week. Well off and middle class family like us donated to the local chapel and they organize the food drive. Dinadala kami ng tatay ko lagi sa may bisita samin para makikain sa simbahan. He regularly donated sa church and he wanted us, ng mga kapatid ko, to see what did actually poor people eat and find gratitude that somehow we had enough to eat at home. I found a different lesson in that because the tibak in me asked why there are people relying on charity just to survive in the first place.

Sadly wala na masyadong ganito ngayon and I hope to continue this pag permanent na ako sa probinsya namin.

Sa totoo lang, nung masbata ako medyo dismissive ako sa pagmamano pag papunta at pauwi sa bahay. Naging stricto ako doon nung may napanood akong video tungkol sa 911 operator at kwento niya na may napraning na misis kasi may pumasok daw sa bahay niya nung magisa siya sa bahay tapos noon nabaril niya yung asawa niya pagbukas ng pinto. Pagkatapos noon biglang naintindihan kong safety thing yung pagmamano. https://youtu.be/mwm8H8ALQsM?si=DNJpMD2ijj1IH_XD

Hindi naman din nakakagulat kasi kung tutuusin, hindi lang naman respeto ang rason para magkaron ng paraan ng pagbibigay respeto at bukod pa dun karamihan ng mga kultura may mas practical na rason para sa mga yun. Importante na alam mo kung ilan kayo sa bahay, kung may umalis at kung nakauwi na ba, kung nakidnap ka na ba pala dahil sa sobrang tagal mo nawala sa bahay tapos di alam ng tao ng bahay kung matagal ka ba dapat o kung matagal naman talaga bago ka umuwi para sa plano mo nung araw na iyon.

I agree. Nagfefade na yun pag mano, pagsabi ng po at opo. I may be wrong pero parang napapalitan ng kuya at ate yun terms for respecting elders. May recent experience ako na kinalungkot ko. A relative’s adopted teenage daughter nun pinakilala sa amin (pinsan ko yun relative) ng parents ko, nakacellphone lang at hindi man lang nag eye contact at nag acknowledge. Sana isolated lang yun at hindi norm sa mga generation these days.

Besides mano and saying "po" and "opo," I think ung beso culture, nawala na rin, and that was before COVID pa. Dati, kahit mga teenagers, ginagawa un. Ngayon, parang di ko na sya nakikita.

Basta dapat mawala na yung pagparada ng patay.

I'm all for mano going away. Nagiging avenue yan ng superior complex ng mga matatanda.

Sa pari ako mas nag-mamano. Baka magkablessing kay lord. Lol

May mga tito tita na din kasi na ayaw magpa mano at nakaka tanda daw (ayaw nalamlng tanggapin no) hahaha. Ung mga millenials kaya nagpapamamano? Ako 22 okay lang naman din paea sakin may mag mano na bata hahaha.

I think some millenials don't want to feel old so minsan nirereject nila yung mano.

Hmmm the kids in my family still know how to do “mano po”. Since we instill that early on. Pagka simba, pag nakakasalubong, greetings etc

po/opo are still around but I’ve never seen anyone use ho/oho in years.

Let it die, tradition is nonsense to the younger generation that is suffering from the actions of the older generation anyways. 

"Mano" is a Tagalog/Luzon tradition. It was later adopted by the Bisaya/VisMin.

Due to its origins we don't do this.

Tita age na ko pero kahit dati pa di na tinuro yung pag mano sa amin, kahit mother or father's side pa. Strict yung po and opo, pero kahit nung buhay pa ang mga lolo at lola di kami nagmamano as greeting. Only time lang pag galing sa simbahan si lola tsaka kami nagbe bless.

Haha okay lang naman kahit walang gesture of respect lalo na kung yung ginagawan mo ng gesture di naman ka respe respeto haha, ako di nagmamano mga pamangkin ko sakin, pagnnakita nila ko, nniyayakap nila ko haha. Love > respect errrrrrday

Yup. Especially in the middle class

yes

Meron pa bang folk dance curriculum sa mga school at crafting arts? Hula ko napalitan na yan ng computer literacy.