I feel like I’m going to die after losing my beautiful sweet cat Mercy on Christmas Eve. I’ve never lost anyone and this is the worst feeling I’ve ever felt. I dont want to throw her things away. I’m feeling a huge level of emptiness. I didn’t take her to the vet for 2-3 years because she seemed happy and healthy. I keep blaming myself. What do I do?
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hey,
i know its really hard, jus hang in there, i lost my son ( st bernard ) 2 months ago, i still feel i want to die, but u know we have no rights to take away our life.
i know the guilt and pain- its worse. please talk to someone how u feel and dont stay alone
I’m sorry for your loss and pain. It’s a rollercoaster, I can’t stop thinking about her, I speak to my husband about her but I don’t think he wants to keep repeating himself over and over every day, grieving is very different for everyone and for me it’s not even close to what I imagined.
Please be gentle with yourself. You don’t have to throw her things away yet. Grief is very hard, people and pets. I believe part of pets’ roles in our life is to teach us how to handle grief. Eventually your life will settle in around the grief and it won’t feel like it’s sucking everything in. I just lost my kitty Saturday too. It’s so hard around the holidays too when everyone is celebrating. I’m very sorry for the loss of your dear friend. Guilt is the worst, but you took care of her the best you know how, cats often hide illnesses many vets have told me, so it’s hard to know. Love to you as you move through this.
Thank you for your kind words and I’m sorry for your loss as well. These fur babies are our entire world, and once they’re gone it’s like someone just ripped a piece of our heart out. I’m sending you love too. Hope this pain will pass through. One day at a time
I feel your loss because I am going through something very similar. I lost little Kitty this December 18 and I can't believe that I'm entering the new year without her. I am kicking myself for not vaccinating her in time and lost her at 7 months to FPV. Yes, indeed when they are healthy and thriving, they seem so invincible and we believe nothing is going to happen. But yes losing a pet companion can be so painful and humbling. Stay strong. I blame myself too so I should be preaching to myself first but thought this would give you some solace. May your little friend's memory be a blessing.
RIP Lil Kitty
Oh gosh I’m sorry for your loss as well. I was with my girl 9 years… it’s a terrible feeling. Like spreading salt on a wound.
It doesn't feel like you're strong enough, but you are.
Grief is a weight, and every new weight is unbelievably heavy at first. However, the longer you carry it, the more you get used to it. The grief doesn't get lighter- you get stronger.
It's ok to take breaks- when the grief is to heavy to bear, sit down and just accept it. Feel it. Cry, scream, wait, whatever you need. Then get back up, pick it up, and keep going.
It's ok. You don't have to get rid of anything yet.