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It takes time. Way more time than you'd expect.

I lost my Callie in October of 2016; I'm not sure when I was finally ok, but it was at least a year. With her, it helped that shortly before losing her, I added Mathilda to my home, and a few months after losing her, I was occupied with moving to a new house.

Yea I'm not well. It's almost been 6 months now...

I think grief comes and goes. I lost Holly in 2020 when she was 16 and I do feel like I made it to a point where I can look back and just appreciate the joy of her life without raw grief. Teddy Baker passed in 2024 and there are still days when I feel overwhelmed with the loss and tear up. My 2.5 year old CJ was hit by a car last night and the sudden loss of a young animal is grief that I'm dreading having to process. Broken hearts never unbreak, but the void ebbs and flows.

I want to skip ahead and get to the place of peace now and I know that's not realistic. I'm sad for both of us that we still have pain ahead before we heal. Sending love.

I have been grieving for over 12 months now 

I’m sorry for your loss. I just lost my best friend too. I don’t know if total peace will ever come in my case, we were so close with her. We did everything together. I can’t even breathe right. But one day, I think I’ll smile more than I’ll cry when I remember my best friend.