My cat is 19 years old, Hes had an amazing life but recently has been having kidney issues that we cannot afford to give him nor have the treatments we did receive really work. he also has arthritis so he is constantly limping around, he eats a lot but his body is just skin and bones. the other day i came home from work and he had peed pure blood all over the floor but was still as perky as he can be in his old age. hes still very active and enjoys going to the vet and is able to jump onto the couch and slightly run but it feels as though he is just hiding his pain from us. some days are better than others but i have this insane guilty feeling like we are doing something wrong. i know its better too early than too late but im just thinking about how excited he will be to go to the vet and how hes going to want to roam around at the vet when we need to euthanize him. i feel like im making a horrible decision but hes just a shell of himself. hes been way more needy and way more clingy when he was never a clingy cat. has anyone else felt this way? am i making a bad decision? i feel like it isnt fair to keep him alive if he is in pain but its genuinely so hard to tell.
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💔Last time we had to make this decision we used Home with Dignity. They come to you so it avoids the trauma of the vet and your fur baby can be home where they're comfortable. It was endlessly easier for us and our much loved 16 yo dog. We gave him his favorite food and treats, had music playing softly in the background, our family had time to come by and say their goodbyes. It made everything seem less clinical and more loving. We were "out of area" and it was still only about $100 more than taking him to our vets office. I'm so sorry you're having to make this decision but you're making it out of love ❤️