I lost my soul dog Jack on 10/10. I feel like i barely cry. he’s always on my mind. but i dont feel sad a lot, more so numb.
i’m also sad too, don’t get me wrong. if i could i’d give him 30 years off my life right now to have him back.
i read somewhere that sometimes it can feel like a relief to let go of a sick pet because they’ve been sick for so long. Jack had epilepsy since he was 1 and I was always on high alert. He also had IVDD and CHF. When he was diagnosed with CHF, my whole life was put on pause. I’d rarely go out with friends and when I did it was limited. My whole life was centered around Jack. Timing, hanging out with friends, seeing family, medicine 4x a day for him. To be honest, it was really exhausting. He was my dog, so my mom and I were the only ones who cared for him.
Am I a bad person because I can’t cry? Am I a bad person that I feel like I can live my life for the first time, since for 13 years it was pretty limited?
Idk. Sorry if this sounds stupid. I’m in a cycle right now of numbness, anger, and confusion.
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It doesn’t sound stupid and you’re most certainly not a bad person.
Care like that is tough. Tough on him, tough on you. The fact that you rearranged so much to be able to provide that for him speaks volumes about the type of person you are.
Grief hits everyone differently, too, as do the stages. Perfectly normal.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your dear Jack, and I wish you peace.