I've heard people say that it feels like they lost their pet yesterday, when it's been years. But I lost my dog Max only a couple of months ago, yet it feels like it's been years; every month without him feels like a year. I don't think about him that much anymore, but every once in a while, I get overwhelmed with a memory.
I feel like I've gone through the stages and ended up at acceptance. It helps that I saw his death coming for the last year. Most of that year, I was dealing with the dread of his passing, and when he did pass away, I was dealing with the grief of it all.
But now I feel like I can finally breathe again. There's a comfort in knowing that it's all over. When you take care of a living being in their end times, there's always a constant dread, and each day is a little harder to bear.
I do miss him, though. I hope I get to see him again someday.
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I’m sorry you’re going through this.
When we lost all three of our cats in 2023, it seemed like the first one was gone for so long. He passed in March, his brother in October, and our old crazy lady tortie in December. Between each of them felt like years. But now it feels like they were just here yesterday. Grief does weird things to time.
Yes, I was just saying to my husband that it was the longest month of my life. Every day feels unbearably long. It feels like a million years since I last snuggled him. It’s such a terrible feeling. I’m glad you have some peace a few months out.
Yes! Zelda passed in May and it seems like forever ago.
Ten years ago, my mom died suddenly. There are some days where it feels like it’s been five times longer and some days it feels like she was here yesterday. Our girl, Rosie, passed away about a month and a half ago and time feels like it has moved much slower but it also feels like she’s been gone much longer sometimes. Grief is just so strange and difficult to navigate, it messes with time like that. It also does such odd things to the brain.
You’re not alone! I think in your case, it might feel that way because of the circumstance. Our girl got sick at the end of September and passed on November 8th. THAT felt much longer than it was. I was exhausted and, at a certain point, felt like I couldn’t do it for much longer. It’s ok to feel relief and to know they’re not in pain anymore. My beliefs are that they are the ones who greet us when it’s our time to cross over and I, for one, look forward to the wagging tails and wet kisses that are waiting for me and being together again forever. For me it takes the sting away a bit and makes death feel a little less scary :)
I thought it was just me. My 14 year dog DaVinci died in October, I was heartbroken. After, I kept myself busy, been traveling around when I can, and visited friends and families. I felt like it was long ago I had DaVinci because I was busy, but it could be as you said I am at the acceptance stage too. I too wish to see him again…… one day.