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My best guess: the top is lying to himself about being gay and has tons of internalized oppression, particularly from his dad. He rationalizes gay sex because he's still in the "man's" role.
Being a top/dom is an emotionally draining role. You have to appear strong and dominant, while fearing harm to your sub, and do most of the physical work. And what about your feelings? They can be underestimated, but even tops have their anxieties, fears, and desires.
I really struggle with the power/in control aspect so prefer to be submissive. But lots of girlies want a trans gal to be in charge some of the time at least as the equipment does suit it. Was easier being with men that mostly just wanted to dom.
Can have the highest limits and open to anything as a sub, do the most depraved things yet feel all happy and lovey after sex.
Then I can dom, be extremely careful and considerate the entire time. By all means of communication have done everything well and they seem super happy and in love. And realistically itās probably 20% of the level of what Iād want from people domming me.
But because itās me doing it and I am fighting that hungry energy you get when in charge, I feel like I get so detached and analytical wondering if everything I did was actually ok. It does weird things to my brain wanting to do things and keep pushing, knowing that someone wants to be pushed to, but then also having to be so analytical at the same time as being caught up.
Is like doing the best and worst thing at the same time mentally.
This is probably it, but tbh it's just a joke about why fanfic authors don't show what the top is thinking. It's because they're suicidal and that's not very conducive to horny!
Dom and top are not synonymous in gay sex. I know a lot of kink people use the terms interchangeably, but they are actually different in this context. Topping in male/male anal sex means being the partner who's penis is inserted into the bottom, who is the receptive partner. Just like men and women can each be dominant or submissive during sex, tops and bottoms also be dominant or submissive. Porn doesn't always reflect this because porn isn't real life.
All that to say, while everything you said is absolutely true, I don't think it applies to this tweet.
I mean, you treated them as synonymous in your original comment In your first sentence you mentioned ātop/dom" as if they are the sam. I didn't want to assume that you understood.
Its not just the weight of our own life. We also take the weight from our subs. It's draining. You have to push yourself to be at the top and stay at the top. To be that solid pillar for others to lean on. If you dont have the determination and willpower, it can crush you.
I think OP just thought the contrast would be funny if this is what the top is thinking. Itās like the ākitten Iām gonna be real with you daddyās about to kill himselfā meme
Alot of Vanilla people think being a top is all fun and games but its stressful and your responsible for alot especially safety.
If two Professional dominants meet they'll usually talk about safety and techniques more than what crazy stuff that they've been up too.
Being a top is very stressful, you're in charge and responsible for everything so normally the Top is thinking other non sex stuff like "Hrmm I wonder if that ropes too tight or did I wind them up enough for this" while they are saying dirty talk.
Also the bottom has final say on everything so you arent really in charge you are just pretending and organising everything.
Also most doms are dumb autistic nerds so acting cold and tough is very emotionally draining so there is a thing called Top drop which it sounds like the person in the post is going through. Which is basically sexual burnout.
The joke is that the first poster (Jannah) says they want to know what the top in fanfic is thinking. The second poster is giving an example of something the top might be thinking that would completely ruin the mood of the fanfic. It doesn't actually matter why the top is depressed. He's a self-hating gay, he's an alcoholic, he's built his entire career on a lie that's about to be revealedāit doesn't actually matter.
I remember reading something about how some men find sex to be likeā¦violent? Disgusting? Some post about how āif you know how men saw you/felt after sex you wouldnāt ask for cuddles/after careā. My immediate thought was he feels inherently filthy or guilty for being the dominant one but Idk for sure.
Oh hell naw, i'm saying about feelings, damn bro, what hell, I don't want to feel a big, veiny and hairy cock on my ass, I think I was too much specific on my words, i'm sorry
I think itās saying gay dudes on bottom like it cause their eyes closed and just receiving but when they are on top they see a hairy dudes back and feel gross about giving themselves to that.
Nothing against gay people, but as a man who loves ass so much it's all I can think about, I don't understand the appeal of something that runs the risk of taking your dick out and having turd attached to it, like you're on a shit fishing expedition.
An ass should be kissed, licked, and the occasional deep inhale through the nose.
But if I ever saw shit when my face was all up in a chicks butt it would COMPLETELY ruin the fetish for me. And if not for the love of ass, what's the point of even living???
To ease your worry, the colon is very good at cleaning itself, the bacteria inside eat up any poo residue fairly quickly. The only time you'd end up with shit on your dick is if they are about to poo or didn't wipe enough. Get yourself a bidet, if she uses it and gets in bed, do some fun foreplay and it'll be clean as a whistle by the time she's ready.
Bottoms tend to not eat a ton for a day or two leading up to any particularly intense anal sex, along with taking fiber supplements to flush out the system. Feces isn't a worry... like at all
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My best guess: the top is lying to himself about being gay and has tons of internalized oppression, particularly from his dad. He rationalizes gay sex because he's still in the "man's" role.
yeah I thought so as well, but i figured it was way too specific of a scenario lmao
plot twist: the suicidal thoughts don't stop even when there's no sex happening and it's actually because they're broken inside.
:- (
or this is just the tragic side of the typical 'bad boy' being fantasized about.
broski i think it's just a joke about how ppl are depressed
Being a top/dom is an emotionally draining role. You have to appear strong and dominant, while fearing harm to your sub, and do most of the physical work. And what about your feelings? They can be underestimated, but even tops have their anxieties, fears, and desires.
Tops and doms deserve aftercare too!
Damn right. I stopped dating because I'm tired of do-me queens and emotional vampires.
That's basically why mommykink is a thing. Plowing someone in and then you get hugs and cookies? Who doesn't want that?
We all project ourselves into the person the mommy is caring for, but we never want to be the ones caring for the mommy š
we need love too, I recommend shoulder massages.
This is what switches are for.
I volunteer as tribute!
Freud was right about you lol
Everyone does, too bad itāll never be a thing š
This is so well put.
Dom drop is real
I really struggle with the power/in control aspect so prefer to be submissive. But lots of girlies want a trans gal to be in charge some of the time at least as the equipment does suit it. Was easier being with men that mostly just wanted to dom.
Can have the highest limits and open to anything as a sub, do the most depraved things yet feel all happy and lovey after sex.
Then I can dom, be extremely careful and considerate the entire time. By all means of communication have done everything well and they seem super happy and in love. And realistically itās probably 20% of the level of what Iād want from people domming me.
But because itās me doing it and I am fighting that hungry energy you get when in charge, I feel like I get so detached and analytical wondering if everything I did was actually ok. It does weird things to my brain wanting to do things and keep pushing, knowing that someone wants to be pushed to, but then also having to be so analytical at the same time as being caught up.
Is like doing the best and worst thing at the same time mentally.
This is probably it, but tbh it's just a joke about why fanfic authors don't show what the top is thinking. It's because they're suicidal and that's not very conducive to horny!
Dude when I too I actually just get crippling anxiety and lose the mood bassically instantly but gotta keep going otherwise what was the point yknow
Dom and top are not synonymous in gay sex. I know a lot of kink people use the terms interchangeably, but they are actually different in this context. Topping in male/male anal sex means being the partner who's penis is inserted into the bottom, who is the receptive partner. Just like men and women can each be dominant or submissive during sex, tops and bottoms also be dominant or submissive. Porn doesn't always reflect this because porn isn't real life.
All that to say, while everything you said is absolutely true, I don't think it applies to this tweet.
I know, they're not necessarily synonymous even in heterosexual sex.
I mean, you treated them as synonymous in your original comment In your first sentence you mentioned ātop/dom" as if they are the sam. I didn't want to assume that you understood.
Both of them are placed with the same kind of expectations
Okay. There are similar expectations placed on bottoms/subs. What does that have to do with the tweet, though?
Itās exhausting. And if your sub doesnāt replenish you in some way, itās simply unsustainable.
Its not just the weight of our own life. We also take the weight from our subs. It's draining. You have to push yourself to be at the top and stay at the top. To be that solid pillar for others to lean on. If you dont have the determination and willpower, it can crush you.
I hate how this makes so much sense and simultaneously sounds completely ridiculous š
Someone with the boy kisser pfp getting something sexual is really funny
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I don't know either but it just pleases my writer brain in a way I can't quite explain š
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I thought it was about the top trying not to nut early by thinking of sad depressing shit
Yeah I thought this was a Dead Cat Method
I was thinking some form of post nut clarity but like pre nut
So just existing????
this made me laugh so fucking much thank you
i mean you're always pre-nut in some sense
Not when I'm post nut
There's always next nut.
Except your last nutā¦
Unless you're Felix Faure
I think OP just thought the contrast would be funny if this is what the top is thinking. Itās like the ākitten Iām gonna be real with you daddyās about to kill himselfā meme
Quagmire's autistic pet Quagsire here;
Alot of Vanilla people think being a top is all fun and games but its stressful and your responsible for alot especially safety.
If two Professional dominants meet they'll usually talk about safety and techniques more than what crazy stuff that they've been up too.
Being a top is very stressful, you're in charge and responsible for everything so normally the Top is thinking other non sex stuff like "Hrmm I wonder if that ropes too tight or did I wind them up enough for this" while they are saying dirty talk.
Also the bottom has final say on everything so you arent really in charge you are just pretending and organising everything.
Also most doms are dumb autistic nerds so acting cold and tough is very emotionally draining so there is a thing called Top drop which it sounds like the person in the post is going through. Which is basically sexual burnout.
Please give me a mega form.
because societal gender role expectations for males are depressing and an unrealistic standard, even for gay men
The joke is that the first poster (Jannah) says they want to know what the top in fanfic is thinking. The second poster is giving an example of something the top might be thinking that would completely ruin the mood of the fanfic. It doesn't actually matter why the top is depressed. He's a self-hating gay, he's an alcoholic, he's built his entire career on a lie that's about to be revealedāit doesn't actually matter.
Bottoms be better.
I remember reading something about how some men find sex to be likeā¦violent? Disgusting? Some post about how āif you know how men saw you/felt after sex you wouldnāt ask for cuddles/after careā. My immediate thought was he feels inherently filthy or guilty for being the dominant one but Idk for sure.
Thatās probably referring to the fact that men ādonāt careā after they cum, or some kind of Madonna/whore complex.
Iāll say that after sex I can be a little distant from cuddling moods because Iām hot and donāt want insulation.
YO GUYS IS THERE ANY FANFICS OR WATTPAD BOOKS LIKE THIS WITH BOTH POVS, PREFERABLY BL/GAY, asking for a friend ofcourse
Fates favorite (and the other one in the series) if you like harry potter
you are the reason for humanities greatness
As a Transgender Service Top, Accurate.
Making characters needlessly angsty is a go to idea for fanfics.
Every top is a bottom whoās taking one for the team
distracting himself so he doesnt bust a nut instantly. a common technique
I feel nothing, just emptiness
If emptiness is a problem, you may want to try bottoming! Guarantee you wonāt feel empty!
Oh hell naw, i'm saying about feelings, damn bro, what hell, I don't want to feel a big, veiny and hairy cock on my ass, I think I was too much specific on my words, i'm sorry
Damn I just thought it's relatable top content.
The view. It's exhilarating.
The key here is "don't ever stop" and then "God damn it. fuck" <- he failed.
Anyway, third time's always the charm, then there's morning woorworking.
bottom: oh my god, she's so deep inside me, fuck please don't ever stop please please please
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I think itās saying gay dudes on bottom like it cause their eyes closed and just receiving but when they are on top they see a hairy dudes back and feel gross about giving themselves to that.
Where's my "Bruh I just f**king opened Reddit" image when I need it
Nothing against gay people, but as a man who loves ass so much it's all I can think about, I don't understand the appeal of something that runs the risk of taking your dick out and having turd attached to it, like you're on a shit fishing expedition.
An ass should be kissed, licked, and the occasional deep inhale through the nose.
But if I ever saw shit when my face was all up in a chicks butt it would COMPLETELY ruin the fetish for me. And if not for the love of ass, what's the point of even living???
This is a weird thing to comment.
Today I learned that only men poop from the butt. Good thing women don't, or this guy's life would be OVER.
not what i asked for bruh š
this is why there's conventionally a lot of prep that goes into anal lol, most of the time people don't just stick it in (or do so with a condom)
To ease your worry, the colon is very good at cleaning itself, the bacteria inside eat up any poo residue fairly quickly. The only time you'd end up with shit on your dick is if they are about to poo or didn't wipe enough. Get yourself a bidet, if she uses it and gets in bed, do some fun foreplay and it'll be clean as a whistle by the time she's ready.
Bottoms tend to not eat a ton for a day or two leading up to any particularly intense anal sex, along with taking fiber supplements to flush out the system. Feces isn't a worry... like at all
Welp. That's enough Reddit for today.