Married or single people - Do you think it is still worth it? Life changing for the positive? I used to think years ago marriage was an essential piece of my life but as time has passed on I think maybe it’s not as important. I know getting married doesn’t make life easier, you still have to endure the ups and downs together.
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Marriage is worth it if it is to the right person. IMO marriage should only be a consideration if you have found a person you genuinely cannot live without. If you marry just to get married you’re in for a rough road.
I wish I could get my mother to understand this instead of trying to force me into marriage. But she herself got married at 20, practically a child with zero understanding of the world and very little education. Can't expect anything more from her.
Absolutely it's still worth it.
How so?
Married Filing Jointly benefits
But what if you get divorced? Won't that be an extremely messy affair?
That’s why you get a prenup
It's worth it because you love one person more than anyone or anything else. Then you, and that person (if you want) go on to make beautiful creatures half of each other that you get to love and raise together. You get to live your life with your best friend. I've been with my husband for 7 years, married for 3 and we have 3 beautiful children. Some people would hate my life, but I absolutely love it to the core.
I feel my my own experiences growing up have hindered me from being able to get close to women in a romantic sense. In my teen years I was even more introverted than I was now and my self esteem was in the gutter.
So to cope I extensively used anime as a form of escapism since I was 13 and because of that I've only ever felt romantic attraction towards anime girls. When I watch anime I just feel like I'm in a world where I matter and I feel like I have purpose instead of working a mundane factory job where I'm often reminded of how low I rank on the societal totem pole.
(Apologies if I went on for a bit too long there)
Hey I mean it's how you feel share it. I once read a comment that said something like "you don't have to follow a specific path. You can just do cool shit and collect shiny things until you die, and your life is still worth as much as others"
I feel like it's a good sentiment.
Yes it’s still worth it but I wouldn’t say it’s essential. You can still be happy and reach every milestone of your life not being married. Marriage doesn’t equate to happiness either. This is also coming from a person that’s engaged.
I'm still a bachelor and don't look forward to getting married or even seeing it as a life goal. I'm too much of an introverted hermit and I feel I wouldn't enjoy having to live with and share my possessions with another person.
I feel like the exact way. I’m completely drained when I get home from work, and I need my space. I just don’t feel like I would be able to give the energy and attention that most people are going to expect out of a long-term partner.
I think that's something to explore in the future too. I know this sounds weird but not every couple shares a bedroom or even a house. Maybe a situation like that with a more independent person would be suitable. You're still so young too, those feelings could change if you meet someone as in sync with you as a long term partner
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Optimism on my Reddit feed!? Blasphemy! XD (jk)
I got married this year and I think it's worth it. The thing is, my relationship with my husband is the same as its always been, but now we receive public and legal acknowledgment of our relationship (and for some folks, marriage also means religious acknowledgment). And in some respects, that does change your life.
Basically, marriage might not change your personal relationship with your spouse, but it definitely changes the way other people perceive it. That can mean a lot to some people.
If it works, it works. I'd definitely love to have a good partner in my life.
When I find the person I feel is right I’ll do it
Same here.
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I wouldn’t be able to marry the person I love in my country anyway so meh.
no it’s not and i have yet to meet a happy married person.
marriage is antiquated. and the idea of being bound to a person for an eternity sounds like a prison.
Marriage is great if it’s with the right person. But I think most people have a poor concept of what the “right person” entails.
More than anything else, you need someone who is committed to growth. Especially if you’re young, you’re going to grow through major changes throughout your relationship. You need someone who’s not willing to stay stagnant.
Making mistakes are a part of life, but if you’re both committed to growth, you won’t keep making the same ones
Marriage is only worth it if it’s with the right person. I’m not married but hoping it would happen sometime in the future when I’m with the right person.
never had dreams of marriage but i’m open i guess under the right circumstances
I think its worth it but if you do it with the right person.
Right now I don‘t really see why I should marry. I don‘t really have benefits from it and if you wanna break up it‘s a big hassle. Maybe it‘ll change.
I don't mind marriage for other people, of any sexuality, especially those who have been together for at least a few years and genuinely care for each other (and that it's by choice and not underage too). It doesn't thrill me or anything, but if it were a friend for example, I'd be happy for them. 💛
However, only in early-ish childhood (i.e. before age 10) I could see it happening for me, based on parents' wedding photos. A few years later I learnt of the other hetero stuff and was no longer interested. 😅
The idea of being bound to another person also puts me off, I much prefer doing my own thing without someone else having to be closely linked. ☺️ Regarding money and possessions I'd rather earn/save/spend myself, and I'm not that eager for huge sums either.
Even if not a typical marriage, I'd prefer the freedom of not being married, without some ongoing commitment to an1other person based on feelings/money/whatever else. To just see people in one's own time throughout life, and building some level of trust with those who support you, whilst doing your own thing, feels more worthwhile. 🤝
I think it’s worth it for me. That’s not to say it’s essential or suits everyone’s lifestyle, but I was lucky enough to find the person I want to spend forever with. Having a spouse during the ups and downs of life has made my life infinitely better
As a single person I'd say this at least works for now, but if this continues for life then it'll probably be one of my biggest regrets when I die. I can't say if it's been better/worse like this but I don't think getting married would add/detract anything if I do find someone I like, it feels like just a status to me but idk
I’d love to get married one day but I’m already 28 and never had a serious relationship
I've been with my bf for four years and we plan on spending the rest of our lives together. But I'm lowkey scared of marriage cuz that sounds like a big grown up thing 😭😭 (clearly I haven't aged mentally). Luckily my bf is supportive about it :3
So yeah marriage isn't something I think about. Maybe as I get older, I might get comfortable with the idea. But definitely not any time soon
just got married on december 13th. idk what it is, my husband and i dated for a little less than 3 years before dating and were engaged for a year. but something about being married just feels. . fuller, somehow? idk, it could help that my husband is my absolute best friend and we have never had a birding day together
Yes and yes.
I’ve been married two and half years and I think it’s absolutely worth it! You should have discernment going into the process though, and do some form of premarital counseling.
Im debating; it sounds like a headache when it goes wrong.
TBH used to think it was much more important before I started living with the person I love. We share bills, have lived together for 3 of the 4 years we've been together; honestly, where it comes for us is we basically already live like we're married. With our jobs and schooling situations our tax situation wouldn't change significantly enough to warrant getting married immediately. But mostly we met a lot of mutual friends and met a lot of each others lifelong friends and we want to save to have a big beautiful celebration of the people in our lives for our wedding. My point being, we know a lot of people getting engaged or married right now and we just don't see the rush. Life is short and were in the young fun part of our lives right now. It'll be cool later. And there's no point in getting married just to be with someone. This guy is my best friend and I wouldn't settle for less
If you find the right person, yes.
I just can’t wrap my head around the fact that there are people my age who are married. It seems surreal.
Only worth it if you find the right person
For tax reasons, yes. Though be very careful WHO you marry
No and No Ever
Worth it with right person. I also would like children eventually and I am not having kids without being married. That’s just not happening.
Maybe I'm lucky, but I don't see any negatives to being married to my wife. Life would be infinitely harder without her.
Every time I think about it it feels like being chained down. Idk that's how I view it
Me and my partner have a 14 year age gap. He’s been married twice and me never. One half of my family was tradish Catholic and one very puritan but anti religious, aka, I thought I should aim to be a wife. Honestly, I love my relationship, I love my partnership, I love how he will not give up on me (I am someone very ready, expecting, people I love to walk away from me.) I do have a desire to have a life partner, to be a good wife, I envision the story of “20 years together” etc etc.
I want to have a celebration of our almost 3 years together now, I want to show friends and family our journey, to make the memories. Otherwise, I realized marriage itself isn’t the important part to me - but solidifying my life partner status and sharing it, celebrating it is definitely something I look forward too. It will not be at a church, I will edit together mini movies of pictures and videos, explaining us etc.
That’s me!
When I find the person I feel is right I will do it
Disclaimer I recently left a 7 year relationship so I could definitely be bitter. But genuinely? I havent seen a marriage to aspire to. Not in real life. The older marriages in my family are plagued with inequality and resentment. Im not religious so pretty much all religious marriages give me red flags and are based on beliefs I dont hold. I dont see people happy in their marriage. I have hope that exploring same sex relationships may provide me with a better experience, but I really dont have a lot of exposure to healthy same sex relationships either.
So no, I dont necessarily believe marriage is worth it.