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My boyfriend was going through a tough time, and he said he needed a break. He said he was going to press pause on our relationship and go visit his family in Washington. I asked how you pause a relationship, because I don't understand how that works. He said he needed some time to work on himself and asked me to respect that.
After he left I reached out to him a few times via text asking him to let me know he arrived safe and to say hi to his mom for me. I received no response. I tried to call and left a message asking if he had broken up with me. I came to the conclusion that he'd ghosted me, and my friends agreed. I was bummed, and my best friend recommended I find something like a new hobby or a new show to watch that wouldn't make me think of my boyfriend. I decided to get a dog.
My boyfriend is horribly allergic to pet dander, so I never even considered getting a pet. However, since he broke up with me, I decided to get one. He's a senior dog from the shelter that needed rescuing. He's low energy and likes to lay with his head in my lap while I read, work or watch TV.
After six weeks away my boyfriend texted me that he was back and coming over tomorrow (which was yesterday) so we could talk. I was shocked and texted him back asking what he was talking about. He said he was back and ready to unpause our relationship. He said he would talk to me about everything the next day. I texted back asking what relationship. He didn't answer.
Yesterday he showed up and told me he had done a lot of self-examination and was ready to move forward on his life path. He even wanted to talk about moving in together. Then he saw my dog and started freaking out. He asked me how I could get a dog when I know how sick he gets.
I told him that since he broke up with me, I didn't think it mattered. He said he didn't break up with me. I said he ghosted me. He said he communicated with me telling me he was pressing pause and visiting family. I said not answering texts is ghosting. We argued in circles and then he said he had to leave because he was getting an allergic reaction, even though he was standing in the doorway, not inside.
I feel like he broke up with me and it was okay that I got a dog. He says that he never did and therefore it's a horrible act of disregard to have gotten a dog. Which of us is right? My best friend said I should break up with him because he's a jerk. I don't think I should have to break up with someone that already broke up with me. If I break up with him I'm basically agreeing with him that he didn't break up with me and therefore I was an asshole for getting the dog. Right?
Same. It’s crazy the mental gymnastics the BF was doing there. Definitely a guy who wanted to “sow his oats” then realized there wasn’t anything better. Glad she didn’t take him back.
Sometimes they can be real dumb. I was dating a guy in college who decided we just didn’t need to talk during summer break, similar to OPs ex. It took one of our mutual friends far longer than it should have to explain to him that’s not how relationships work because he just could not grasp that we weren’t together again. And I can guarantee there had been no sowing of oats, since the dingus talked to the mutual friend during the summer.
Tbh it sounds more like this. He might have flirted around, he might not have, but it sounds more like he just wanted to go back to his parents house/ his hometown completely unburdened of any and all expectations. Relive childhood life of parents taking care of him and no strings or responsibilities. And after 6 weeks he was feeling better and good to get back on with his 'adult life'.
Same. It’s crazy the mental gymnastics the BF was doing there. Definitely a guy who wanted to “sow his oats” then realized there wasn’t anything better. Glad she didn’t take him back.
Yeah. He's offended she got a dog while he ghosted her, meanwhile he was sleeping with (or trying to sleep with) anything that moved during his end of the "break." What a jackass.
My guess is he spent his entire "break" TRYING to get with someone he already had in mind, but given how much he pouted about OOP moving on I'm guessing he struck out. Oh well, sucks to suck!
Yes I’m in a relationship but ’it’s not like that’ we don’t love each other I just can’t leave because [insert sob story about children or horrible gf/wife or if they’re real slick ill gf/wife/child or ‘open relationship’] that he just can’t abandon/get away from!!! He’s staying for the kids or to take care of her or she drained him dry and if he leaves he’ll be fucked over financially and she’ll take the house and the kids and of course he cant afford to leave.
Thats it. Thats all they ever are. They’re never ever cake eaters in good relationships with a good SO who’s devoted to him and waiting for him to come home from “work”.
I'm deciding for both of us to push pause on this relationship for an unknown amount of time. During that time I will not communicate with you or answer texts. You'll wait for me right? You didn't wait on me and got a dog and moved on with your life? I'm shocked. /s. How entitled and conceited can one person be?
I love that even when he returned and graciously "unpause" the relationship.. e still continued to not respond to her. He thinks conversations and the relationship only happens on his terms.
Even if she agreed that it wasn't a break up, the audacity of him just being like "I'm back and I'm coming over tomorrow whether you like or not" is just infuriating. Fuck OOP if she had plans or anything, I guess!
I don't believe in "breaks" or "pauses" - you're either dating or you're not dating. If you want a "break" or a "pause" then, IMO, that's a breakup and whether or not you get back together is an entirely different conversation.
A "break," to me, just feels like a "I want a brief reprieve from the obligations of being in a relationship, and I expect to be able to return to the benefits of a relationship with no consequences for anything I do during the time-out." And, just... no. No, you don't get to just act a fool for a bit and not have consequences.
And the thing about pressing pause... if you leave a show paused long enough, it eventually shuts itself off when it has determined you're not watching it. "Pausing" a relationship works similarly - you don't get to tell someone you want a break, fuck off to another state, ghost them for six weeks, and expect another person to still be willing to resume where you left off.
I know telling Reddit about your relationship troubles and being told to break up is kinda a meme, but honestly, I feel like if you're at the point where you're going to the internet to vent about your relationship, that's kinda also an indicator that a relationship is on the way out.
If you have a healthy relationship, you're communicating well enough that your first point of contact for issues in a relationship is your partner. Maybe sometimes you might confide in a trusted friend to get another perspective - and maybe sometimes you do end up going to the internet for that perspective - but at the end of the day, if you find yourself talking to strangers about how your partner is doing shit that adversely impacts you, and that you have told them this, and they refuse to change, the relationship is kinda over.
Maybe if it's something like "I'm going to be in a 14-hour-a-day intensive training for my degree next month. Can we pause the relationship until after, and I'll update you when I can?"
But it needs a good reason, and should be more not doing much as opposed to acting like the relationship doesn't exist.
My normal level of hinged is "un" and I've got a wife, a girlfriend, and two boyfriends who put up with my bullshit (poly, not cheating) so apparently lots of people seem to love whatever is wrong with me. 😂
I'm no expert, but from what I gather, the point if dating is to have a life partner. I maybe know one couple who stayed together after having frequent breaks and I suspect that was because the boyfriend had a lot of money from his parents and didn't work.
Yeah! Like you can take some space, you can say you need to go focus on other things so you are going to be pulling back for a set amount of time. But you can't just cut communication entirely. And you can't say the relationship is paused-- wtf does that mean if it doesn't mean you want to be single until you decide not to be?
Flaky boyfriend who broke up with and ghosted her (relationships don't have a pause button - ON/OFF only) to wonderful senior dog getting to live out his best life with her ... QUITE the upgrade!
You don’t have to be biased in favor of dogs for your comment to be 100% right! She could have adopted a dead goldfish and it would still be an upgrade
This is what happens when a person doesn't truly believe that their partner is an actual human being. This is what happens when someone treats their partner like an NPC. He is aghast that she went off script.
Gotta love how that clown ghosted his girlfriend for weeks and then expected her to just be sitting around and twiddling her thumbs while waiting for him to come back and grace her with his presence.
I'm with OOP on this - why am I breaking up with you when you already broke up with me 2 months back and I'm not taking you back nor dumping my new pet for your ghosting indecisive punk ass? Just saying, it already over anyway - why purposely continue the bullshit misunderstanding shitty melodrama that he completely caused.
Everyone’s say he went home to cheat, but it honestly doesn’t even matter. Whether he did or didn’t he just fucking ghosted her and wouldn’t clarify what was happening. Even if he went to therapy everyday and did nothing but journal and meditate the whole time, he still sucks and she was right to move on.
I had a pos gf that ghosted me for like 6 weeks. After 2 weeks I started to go on dates because fuck her for being immature at 39. She texted me after 6 weeks and was angry that I was already dating when in her mind we were still a couple.
It doesn't matter that he didn't break up with her. She broke up with him. Not answering the phone or texts for six weeks to most people would be a clear indicator of a breakup, because the alternative is that it's blatant disrespect and/or cowardice as he avoids talking with her. Ultimately, it doesn't matter who broke up with whom, they are done as a couple.
I had a guy try and do this to me. After 7 years. Said he 'needed a break', two weeks went by, I tried to call him, to talk about what we were doing. He finally admitted he'd been cheating with someone else.
He was such a fucking coward, he just wanted to ghost. I'm glad OOP's trash took itself out.
Some people truly believe they can just disappear, not communicate, and then return and slide back into exactly where they were.
Dogs are wonderful and much better than a partner who dips out and goes missing for weeks. I hope he enjoyed the strange because old faithful isn’t staying around for the mistreatment and disrespect. Nose boops are far superior than heartaches.
Ah yes I remember this one. I still don't understand how someone can decide unilaterally to "pause" a relationship, fuck off for 6 weeks and just assume everything will be fine. Honestly.
The boyfriend is nuts. Relationships aren't like save files in a video game; you can't just hit pause and come back to it whenever you want. Life doesn't work like that! And he was gone for 6 weeks with no contact, for all she knew he was torso-deep in a new relationship.
I know someone that was "on a break." He asked her to not talk to him for 3 months. After 3 months he extended it by 6 months. He knew she was going to break up with him and kept delaying. At the end of the 6 months she did indeed break up with him. His response was "I was going to propose to you next week." She didn't buy it
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All I hear in my head right now is that scene from friends where Ross is shouting "But we were on a break!" Like that justifies anything?
Seriously, if you "pause" a relationship, that doesn't mean you stop all contact and ghost a person. Perhaps lower contact to see where a person is at about the relationship or something?
But a complete ghost tells me something shady went on while he was "visiting family" if that is indeed what he did. And guess what? It didn't work out! That grass wasn't so green and when he came back to OOP and found the dog, well... here we are.
I feel like he was trying to cheat or start a new relationship without cutting off his old one in case it didn't work out, then tried to come back to it like a game of Animal Crossing
Had an ex who did the exact same thing to me. I'm kinda glad to see the comments to really understand that it wasn't my fault which i had internalized for awhile.
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Either he broke up with her by ghosting her, or she broke up with a rude oik who ghosted her for six weeks and moved on. As he wouldn't communicate with her, her assuming he'd blocked her and there was no point informing him she assumed they were over was unnecessary.
I assume she's quite young if she thinks it actually matters which way around it happened?
Sometimes I have depressive episodes and I don’t want to talk to anybody. I would still have the grace to say to my bf that I’m down and need to be alone. And it wouldn’t be more than a day that I would go without talking.
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My boyfriend was going through a tough time, and he said he needed a break. He said he was going to press pause on our relationship and go visit his family in Washington. I asked how you pause a relationship, because I don't understand how that works. He said he needed some time to work on himself and asked me to respect that.
After he left I reached out to him a few times via text asking him to let me know he arrived safe and to say hi to his mom for me. I received no response. I tried to call and left a message asking if he had broken up with me. I came to the conclusion that he'd ghosted me, and my friends agreed. I was bummed, and my best friend recommended I find something like a new hobby or a new show to watch that wouldn't make me think of my boyfriend. I decided to get a dog.
My boyfriend is horribly allergic to pet dander, so I never even considered getting a pet. However, since he broke up with me, I decided to get one. He's a senior dog from the shelter that needed rescuing. He's low energy and likes to lay with his head in my lap while I read, work or watch TV.
After six weeks away my boyfriend texted me that he was back and coming over tomorrow (which was yesterday) so we could talk. I was shocked and texted him back asking what he was talking about. He said he was back and ready to unpause our relationship. He said he would talk to me about everything the next day. I texted back asking what relationship. He didn't answer.
Yesterday he showed up and told me he had done a lot of self-examination and was ready to move forward on his life path. He even wanted to talk about moving in together. Then he saw my dog and started freaking out. He asked me how I could get a dog when I know how sick he gets.
I told him that since he broke up with me, I didn't think it mattered. He said he didn't break up with me. I said he ghosted me. He said he communicated with me telling me he was pressing pause and visiting family. I said not answering texts is ghosting. We argued in circles and then he said he had to leave because he was getting an allergic reaction, even though he was standing in the doorway, not inside.
I feel like he broke up with me and it was okay that I got a dog. He says that he never did and therefore it's a horrible act of disregard to have gotten a dog. Which of us is right? My best friend said I should break up with him because he's a jerk. I don't think I should have to break up with someone that already broke up with me. If I break up with him I'm basically agreeing with him that he didn't break up with me and therefore I was an asshole for getting the dog. Right?
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So glad the comments in OOP's post are validating her.
Same. It’s crazy the mental gymnastics the BF was doing there. Definitely a guy who wanted to “sow his oats” then realized there wasn’t anything better. Glad she didn’t take him back.
Sometimes they can be real dumb. I was dating a guy in college who decided we just didn’t need to talk during summer break, similar to OPs ex. It took one of our mutual friends far longer than it should have to explain to him that’s not how relationships work because he just could not grasp that we weren’t together again. And I can guarantee there had been no sowing of oats, since the dingus talked to the mutual friend during the summer.
Tbh it sounds more like this. He might have flirted around, he might not have, but it sounds more like he just wanted to go back to his parents house/ his hometown completely unburdened of any and all expectations. Relive childhood life of parents taking care of him and no strings or responsibilities. And after 6 weeks he was feeling better and good to get back on with his 'adult life'.
If only that’s how being a responsible grown ass adult and relationship partner worked. He’s in for a rude awakening.
Real dumb or real shocked that the manipulation failed. I agree that most young guys aren’t that slick.
More like nobody wanted his oats.
Yeah. He's offended she got a dog while he ghosted her, meanwhile he was sleeping with (or trying to sleep with) anything that moved during his end of the "break." What a jackass.
I had a whole "has a fling with his high school sweetheart who dumps him a second time" scenario in my head.
My guess is he spent his entire "break" TRYING to get with someone he already had in mind, but given how much he pouted about OOP moving on I'm guessing he struck out. Oh well, sucks to suck!
I imagined he was trying to get back with his ex, but she was not having a man who takes "breaks."
You're generous if you think that he'd tell his ex that particular truth. I assumed he'd say he was single.
Cheating man have only 2 relationship statuses
Single
Yes I’m in a relationship but ’it’s not like that’ we don’t love each other I just can’t leave because [insert sob story about children or horrible gf/wife or if they’re real slick ill gf/wife/child or ‘open relationship’] that he just can’t abandon/get away from!!! He’s staying for the kids or to take care of her or she drained him dry and if he leaves he’ll be fucked over financially and she’ll take the house and the kids and of course he cant afford to leave.
Thats it. Thats all they ever are. They’re never ever cake eaters in good relationships with a good SO who’s devoted to him and waiting for him to come home from “work”.
I didn’t see the OP post the “required” dog tax.
Oh no there's better. She just didn't want him.
I'm deciding for both of us to push pause on this relationship for an unknown amount of time. During that time I will not communicate with you or answer texts. You'll wait for me right? You didn't wait on me and got a dog and moved on with your life? I'm shocked. /s. How entitled and conceited can one person be?
Or there was some girl back home he wanted to scope out before committing. What an ego on that guy!
I love that even when he returned and graciously "unpause" the relationship.. e still continued to not respond to her. He thinks conversations and the relationship only happens on his terms.
This irked me the most. And to throw around the word disrespect after acting like a wall
She legitimately asked him "What relationship?" and that, apparently, did not raise a single red flag for the man and he was STILL blindsided.
The guy totally thinks she's an NPC, he cannot comprehend that she even exists when he's not paying attention to her.
That's what I was thinking too. She's a person, not an Xbox game.
Turns out his not AP/break partner was actually pretty lame in comparison to the girl he left behind.
What a dumbass. Go, OOP
Even if she agreed that it wasn't a break up, the audacity of him just being like "I'm back and I'm coming over tomorrow whether you like or not" is just infuriating. Fuck OOP if she had plans or anything, I guess!
That infuriated me. Me and the dog would have been miles away, phone ON just so I could purposefully ignore any calls/texts.
I don't believe in "breaks" or "pauses" - you're either dating or you're not dating. If you want a "break" or a "pause" then, IMO, that's a breakup and whether or not you get back together is an entirely different conversation.
A "break," to me, just feels like a "I want a brief reprieve from the obligations of being in a relationship, and I expect to be able to return to the benefits of a relationship with no consequences for anything I do during the time-out." And, just... no. No, you don't get to just act a fool for a bit and not have consequences.
And the thing about pressing pause... if you leave a show paused long enough, it eventually shuts itself off when it has determined you're not watching it. "Pausing" a relationship works similarly - you don't get to tell someone you want a break, fuck off to another state, ghost them for six weeks, and expect another person to still be willing to resume where you left off.
Enjoy your dog, OOP.
If both parties are at a point where they both agree to a break/pause, the relationship is probably over anyway.
I know telling Reddit about your relationship troubles and being told to break up is kinda a meme, but honestly, I feel like if you're at the point where you're going to the internet to vent about your relationship, that's kinda also an indicator that a relationship is on the way out.
If you have a healthy relationship, you're communicating well enough that your first point of contact for issues in a relationship is your partner. Maybe sometimes you might confide in a trusted friend to get another perspective - and maybe sometimes you do end up going to the internet for that perspective - but at the end of the day, if you find yourself talking to strangers about how your partner is doing shit that adversely impacts you, and that you have told them this, and they refuse to change, the relationship is kinda over.
Maybe if it's something like "I'm going to be in a 14-hour-a-day intensive training for my degree next month. Can we pause the relationship until after, and I'll update you when I can?"
But it needs a good reason, and should be more not doing much as opposed to acting like the relationship doesn't exist.
Between “chickensammich” and “my cat said YTA” I love whatever is wrong with you 😂😂😂
My normal level of hinged is "un" and I've got a wife, a girlfriend, and two boyfriends who put up with my bullshit (poly, not cheating) so apparently lots of people seem to love whatever is wrong with me. 😂
You seem like my sort of people
I'm no expert, but from what I gather, the point if dating is to have a life partner. I maybe know one couple who stayed together after having frequent breaks and I suspect that was because the boyfriend had a lot of money from his parents and didn't work.
Yeah! Like you can take some space, you can say you need to go focus on other things so you are going to be pulling back for a set amount of time. But you can't just cut communication entirely. And you can't say the relationship is paused-- wtf does that mean if it doesn't mean you want to be single until you decide not to be?
I don't know how that guy can even walk in such huge clown shoes, but that's major clown stuff.
Flaky boyfriend who broke up with and ghosted her (relationships don't have a pause button - ON/OFF only) to wonderful senior dog getting to live out his best life with her ... QUITE the upgrade!
Absolutely! She will have unconditional dog as long as they’re together - and in adding him to her life, she’s most likely adding years to his ❤️
'It's only a pause if it comes from the pause region of Italy, otherwise it's just a sparkling breakup'
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I second this!
Oooo I remember this one. The entitlement of that guy. The dog was a far better option
I'd take a dog over that man and I don't even like dogs.
It sounds like the elderly rescue dog is like a 1000% improvement from the previous dude in her life.
(...I know people are gonna be like "but you're biased in favor of dogs!" well yeah, dogs are great, mea culpa)
Dogs are good people. That's why I have three.
If it helps, I absolutely despise dogs and I think she made a significant upgrade
You don’t have to be biased in favor of dogs for your comment to be 100% right! She could have adopted a dead goldfish and it would still be an upgrade
They're women's best friends 🧡
Not a huge fan of dogs, but I am super happy for the senior dog who gets a loving home, and for OOP for getting rid of that dead weight.
This is what happens when a person doesn't truly believe that their partner is an actual human being. This is what happens when someone treats their partner like an NPC. He is aghast that she went off script.
Gotta love how that clown ghosted his girlfriend for weeks and then expected her to just be sitting around and twiddling her thumbs while waiting for him to come back and grace her with his presence.
I'm with OOP on this - why am I breaking up with you when you already broke up with me 2 months back and I'm not taking you back nor dumping my new pet for your ghosting indecisive punk ass? Just saying, it already over anyway - why purposely continue the bullshit misunderstanding shitty melodrama that he completely caused.
"I didn't break with you. We were on a break."
"Oh. Ok, I'm breaking up with you, then."
Just block and move on. Giving him right ain't doing anything.
She should tell him she pressed paws on the relationship.
Nice.
Dude thought he could pull Schrödinger's break up. FAFO served him well
Everyone’s say he went home to cheat, but it honestly doesn’t even matter. Whether he did or didn’t he just fucking ghosted her and wouldn’t clarify what was happening. Even if he went to therapy everyday and did nothing but journal and meditate the whole time, he still sucks and she was right to move on.
That's true.
However, he definitly cheated, or tried to.
OOP needs to think that a dog would never ghost you for six weeks! They cannot even leave you alone for ten minutes if you are around!
And if, you know, they ignore you, it's your fault
Or they're having a nap lol
It depends, if I move while he is napping, my dog is already 👀
Matter how velcro the dog is XD
I had a pos gf that ghosted me for like 6 weeks. After 2 weeks I started to go on dates because fuck her for being immature at 39. She texted me after 6 weeks and was angry that I was already dating when in her mind we were still a couple.
It doesn't matter that he didn't break up with her. She broke up with him. Not answering the phone or texts for six weeks to most people would be a clear indicator of a breakup, because the alternative is that it's blatant disrespect and/or cowardice as he avoids talking with her. Ultimately, it doesn't matter who broke up with whom, they are done as a couple.
Lucille Bluth voice: Good for her
Wanted to *uck the ex guilt free. Wasn’t as good as he remembered. Missed the new one, but lost her in the process.
😂 He actually my expected her to just wait around until it didn't work out with whoever he was after.
I had a guy try and do this to me. After 7 years. Said he 'needed a break', two weeks went by, I tried to call him, to talk about what we were doing. He finally admitted he'd been cheating with someone else.
He was such a fucking coward, he just wanted to ghost. I'm glad OOP's trash took itself out.
Some people truly believe they can just disappear, not communicate, and then return and slide back into exactly where they were.
She should have told him that while he may be ready to unpause, she was not.
Dogs are wonderful and much better than a partner who dips out and goes missing for weeks. I hope he enjoyed the strange because old faithful isn’t staying around for the mistreatment and disrespect. Nose boops are far superior than heartaches.
In her place, I'd have said to him not show up. If he did anyway. not answer the door.
Wow. So it's only a pause if you both agree and have rules around it AND by the sounds of it, he was horribly avoidant.
Who in their right mind would expect after 6 weeks of leaving their "partner" in limbo, that they wouldn't have come to come realisations themselves?
Keep the dog
You know he was fucking someone else during the "pause". Like he had to have been
"Boyfriend" was unable to hook up with anyone from back home and decided to settle for OOP who would cry tears of gratitude that he's back 😆 🐶
It’s not really important if he thinks he’s broken up with her.
He was seeing someone else and it did not work out.
Ah yes I remember this one. I still don't understand how someone can decide unilaterally to "pause" a relationship, fuck off for 6 weeks and just assume everything will be fine. Honestly.
Sounds an awful lot like dude had a side piece that didn't work out so he came crawling back. But I'm also pretty cynical.
The boyfriend is nuts. Relationships aren't like save files in a video game; you can't just hit pause and come back to it whenever you want. Life doesn't work like that! And he was gone for 6 weeks with no contact, for all she knew he was torso-deep in a new relationship.
She def traded up
Ditch guy, keep dog.
He really expected her to sit there ad wait for his return. What a sack of shit
I know someone that was "on a break." He asked her to not talk to him for 3 months. After 3 months he extended it by 6 months. He knew she was going to break up with him and kept delaying. At the end of the 6 months she did indeed break up with him. His response was "I was going to propose to you next week." She didn't buy it
"You are a toy I am putting on a shelf until I want to play with you again. Why aren't you where I left you two months ago?"
Funny how treating women like disposable objects doesn't work. It's almost like we're people.......
There is no such thing as a "break". Only breakups.
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Oh no. Ghost his ass right back.
This was just on Smosh Reddit Stories :)
Bless her subconscious for making sure she wouldn’t weaken when he came back! Good dog.
All I hear in my head right now is that scene from friends where Ross is shouting "But we were on a break!" Like that justifies anything?
Seriously, if you "pause" a relationship, that doesn't mean you stop all contact and ghost a person. Perhaps lower contact to see where a person is at about the relationship or something?
But a complete ghost tells me something shady went on while he was "visiting family" if that is indeed what he did. And guess what? It didn't work out! That grass wasn't so green and when he came back to OOP and found the dog, well... here we are.
Ex-dude needs a reality check.
I feel like he was trying to cheat or start a new relationship without cutting off his old one in case it didn't work out, then tried to come back to it like a game of Animal Crossing
My ex did shit like this. Only he was allowed to make decisions like that; I was forbid.
Relationship decisions are a two way street and if both parties aren't in agreement they should just go their separate ways.
Pausing a relationship? You only do this if you think you have something better and want to check it out. “Ethical cheating”?
Had an ex who did the exact same thing to me. I'm kinda glad to see the comments to really understand that it wasn't my fault which i had internalized for awhile.
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Did the boyfriend go on a 6 week gaycation?
Either he broke up with her by ghosting her, or she broke up with a rude oik who ghosted her for six weeks and moved on. As he wouldn't communicate with her, her assuming he'd blocked her and there was no point informing him she assumed they were over was unnecessary.
I assume she's quite young if she thinks it actually matters which way around it happened?
Lemme guess: the chick he left her for didn’t work out.
Sometimes I have depressive episodes and I don’t want to talk to anybody. I would still have the grace to say to my bf that I’m down and need to be alone. And it wouldn’t be more than a day that I would go without talking.
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