What a liberating way to view life. I have the same outlook! I donât think I ever have to stop expressing my vibrant and vivacious personality in how I love others fiercely, how I wear my clothes, how I do my hair, how fully I laugh from my stomach, and how animated and expressive my face is no matter how old I will get someday. Youâre so encouraging and affirming of others OP đ
Yes!! â€ïžâ€ïž She is so beautiful & loved that time in my life although I'm so busy now, I don't get a chance to get as unique as I used to but still try when I can. I've always loved color & classic eclectic đ„°
Look me too! I didnt mean it in a bad way. I meant it more as in, as you get older, there can be outfit/style choices that dont feel as comfortable. Obviously anyone can do what they want. I just remember being young and having older women always say they wish they could dress like me, and I always said the same, you can! Do it! I still think that, but now as a older woman I understand where they were coming from.
the only thing that stops anyone of any age from dressing how they want is fear. if you feel both safe and confident, youâll continue to wear what you want. i come from emo/scene spaces and as some of my friends are starting to have kids and we all have grown up jobs, itâs fun to see that we all managed to retain our identities both at work and at home. corporate goth/corporate emo at work, and whatever we want at home or when weâre going out
genuinely, who cares how youâre perceived if you have friends you love? fashion is fun. weâre forced to wear clothes in this society. be weird and have fun
Absolutely can dress "young" at any age. Embrace life, embrace fun.
I'm middle aged but there's zero barrier to choosing the attitude and outlook that fits you. My belly in this outfit would make some people aghast but screw them!
Does that mean you'd be ok seeing me go clubbing with nothing but a halter top and a short skirt on when I'm 78 years old and my boobs are down at my waist and I have skin made of leather? Be honest.....
It doesnt matter what we think, who cares about us? just dont let what absolute strangers think stop you in doing what ya wanna do (albeit youre not hurting others but yah)
Why the f**** are there are so many downvotes on such decent comments being kind to the OP? A stunningly gorgeous woman wearing a snatched outfit who hasnât harmed anyone should not cause this amount of backlash and hate and even going so far to downvote anyone to hell that are saying nice things to her. Youâre punishing people for being kind to her? Are people supposed to criticize and put her down so she gets in line with these messed up social norms and rules that yall have bought into about how women should dress to be considered worthy of kindness and respect from others? This is bullying and yall can downvote me for all I care. Itâs worth it for me to call out this bull and speak up for whatâs right. No matter what your preferences are or how you may feel about her outfit, this is not okay to let your own feelings affect how you treat someone. Going so far as to punish people for being kind to someone is really nasty stuff.
The downvote tool is now being used to send a coercive message to everyone watching that if you are kind to her, you will be penalized.
If it were actually too tight, you would see extreme red marks, compression marks, âdiggingâ or bulging where you can see her skin showing at the sides of her midriff right above her hips. But you donât see any of the logical signs that show up when something is truly too tight. It just fits how her body is naturally that shape. The fabric isnât squeezing that shape out of her. So is the problem that her clothes are âtoo tightâ or is her hourglass body shape being visible the problem?
She has politely said multiple times that it doesnât feel too tight or uncomfortable or painful on her but some of yall keep persisting. Why are some of you treating this woman like she is not to be trusted to know her own body and how she feels? Instead of taking her seriously, she got downvoted to hell every time she clarified. That is so icky and infantilizing.
Iâm sorry they are treating you like this, OP. You are stunning! And I love your outfit.
I think you look amazing. Everything here is working for you. I have no idea what they're talking about.
Eta: this young lady did not ask for opinions or a critique of her outfit. She merely stated "simple and cute" - if you did not agree, you could have continued scrolling.
But the problem, as I see it, is this: Thereâs a large fraction of people who, when they look at you, theyâre going to wonder if itâs painful, and theyâre going to wonder why youâre doing that to yourself. Thatâs one group of people.
Thereâs another group of people who are going to not care that it seems as though youâre mildly torturing yourself â theyâre only going to be thinking of your chest. They wonât be seeing a person â or, even worse, theyâre going to get a kick out of the idea that you want to hurt yourself.
If these are the kinds of reactions/feelings youâre comfortable eliciting, then, okay â you will be successful.
Certainly show off everything about yourself that you think is gorgeous (and itâs obvious thereâs a lot to choose from), and ultimately your clothes are absolutely yours to make decisions about. But the fact that you made this post makes me think you also care about the effect youâre having on others. I can only advise as above, and I hope you arenât offended by an older ladyâs meandering ideas.
This is false binary logical fallacy. There are people who wonât be judging or criticizing her for how they perceive and project onto what sheâs wearing AND they arenât sexualizing/objectifying her either.
Also the insinuation that her choice to wear âtoo tightâ clothing is causing people to not treat/see her as a person is really scary logic. Thatâs not okay. If someone is not treating another person like a person, you donât blame the victim receiving the dehumanization. How about we start putting the focus on why people are going around dehumanizing people for their clothes? Do you really think clothesâno matter how ridiculous you may think anyoneâs clothes areâmorally justifies and excuses anyone treating a human being like they are not a human being?
And also, if you were actually concerned for her you would have accepted when she said that it wasnât too tight. Why do you keep insisting itâs too tight and painful even when she has said multiple times that itâs comfortable for her and not painful? Is she not to be trusted to know her own body and how she feels?
No I totally get it. It looks like you have a natural slim hourglass body shape. Most standard sizing off the rack clothing would not follow your shape and curves or proportions so tailoring is often the only way to actually make it custom fit your shape. I understand this too. Iâm so sorry people are being so rude to you. I can really relate to what youâre going through in this thread and I hope people in your real life treat you better than this. If the garment were actually too tight there would be obvious bulging where you can see her skin near her midriff and hips as if itâs âdiggingâ into her skin and compressing it too much. But itâs not doing that because her body is actually shaped like that. And you can clearly see it follows the curves that she has naturally. The fabric is hugging the curves; the curves arenât caused by the fabric straining and contorting the body.
OKK i feel like i shouldâve clarified when i posted this: i was wearing a strapless bra under the top, which pushed my boobs more up, because i liked the way it looked better haha.
my clothes are not super tight like some people assumed, itâs just that apparently what i think looks nice is not to a lot of people đč
It does very much look nice. My only advice is instead of whatever jacket you have on in the picture I would get a black leather one, possibly cropped or fitted.
Like I said though. The outfit still looks good as is so you dont need to think my 2 cents is because its bad.
Iâm sorry you got downvoted for being a kind and reassuring person. I appreciate your presence! It makes the world a better place to live in, especially in rooms like this when people are being weirdly hostile.
Why not? Do you. Nobody cares to be honest. Just don't leave the house naked, and shower when going into public. That's all that matters. What you wear is all the way unimportant to 99.99% of people you pass by. Just have fun with your life. You only got one.
Aww to be young again & being able to dress so fun!
i think you can do it at any age, itâs all a mindset. i follow some older women who dress in âfunâ ways and they look amazing
What a liberating way to view life. I have the same outlook! I donât think I ever have to stop expressing my vibrant and vivacious personality in how I love others fiercely, how I wear my clothes, how I do my hair, how fully I laugh from my stomach, and how animated and expressive my face is no matter how old I will get someday. Youâre so encouraging and affirming of others OP đ
You're absolutely right.
Yes!! â€ïžâ€ïž She is so beautiful & loved that time in my life although I'm so busy now, I don't get a chance to get as unique as I used to but still try when I can. I've always loved color & classic eclectic đ„°
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Iâm probably twice OPâs age but having fun with my style still!
i went to your profile and youâre so beautiful, love your style đ„°
Look me too! I didnt mean it in a bad way. I meant it more as in, as you get older, there can be outfit/style choices that dont feel as comfortable. Obviously anyone can do what they want. I just remember being young and having older women always say they wish they could dress like me, and I always said the same, you can! Do it! I still think that, but now as a older woman I understand where they were coming from.
Its not a thing its a mindset. You dont gotta settle for just a cardigan.
itâs all a mindset
the only thing that stops anyone of any age from dressing how they want is fear. if you feel both safe and confident, youâll continue to wear what you want. i come from emo/scene spaces and as some of my friends are starting to have kids and we all have grown up jobs, itâs fun to see that we all managed to retain our identities both at work and at home. corporate goth/corporate emo at work, and whatever we want at home or when weâre going out
genuinely, who cares how youâre perceived if you have friends you love? fashion is fun. weâre forced to wear clothes in this society. be weird and have fun
Don't be afraid to dress how you want! Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, so be as beautiful as you want!
Absolutely can dress "young" at any age. Embrace life, embrace fun.
I'm middle aged but there's zero barrier to choosing the attitude and outlook that fits you. My belly in this outfit would make some people aghast but screw them!
Eat. Drink. And be merry!
Does that mean you'd be ok seeing me go clubbing with nothing but a halter top and a short skirt on when I'm 78 years old and my boobs are down at my waist and I have skin made of leather? Be honest.....
It doesnt matter what we think, who cares about us? just dont let what absolute strangers think stop you in doing what ya wanna do (albeit youre not hurting others but yah)
I understood what you meant, in the application of real life.
I LOVE that top!!
yess itâs so cute
Same! It's so pretty!!
Why the f**** are there are so many downvotes on such decent comments being kind to the OP? A stunningly gorgeous woman wearing a snatched outfit who hasnât harmed anyone should not cause this amount of backlash and hate and even going so far to downvote anyone to hell that are saying nice things to her. Youâre punishing people for being kind to her? Are people supposed to criticize and put her down so she gets in line with these messed up social norms and rules that yall have bought into about how women should dress to be considered worthy of kindness and respect from others? This is bullying and yall can downvote me for all I care. Itâs worth it for me to call out this bull and speak up for whatâs right. No matter what your preferences are or how you may feel about her outfit, this is not okay to let your own feelings affect how you treat someone. Going so far as to punish people for being kind to someone is really nasty stuff.
The downvote tool is now being used to send a coercive message to everyone watching that if you are kind to her, you will be penalized.
If it were actually too tight, you would see extreme red marks, compression marks, âdiggingâ or bulging where you can see her skin showing at the sides of her midriff right above her hips. But you donât see any of the logical signs that show up when something is truly too tight. It just fits how her body is naturally that shape. The fabric isnât squeezing that shape out of her. So is the problem that her clothes are âtoo tightâ or is her hourglass body shape being visible the problem?
She has politely said multiple times that it doesnât feel too tight or uncomfortable or painful on her but some of yall keep persisting. Why are some of you treating this woman like she is not to be trusted to know her own body and how she feels? Instead of taking her seriously, she got downvoted to hell every time she clarified. That is so icky and infantilizing.
Iâm sorry they are treating you like this, OP. You are stunning! And I love your outfit.
Yo seriously tho thatâs been happening a lot on Reddit lately itâs turning into some weird bullying culture
People are bored, itâs easy to be an asshole. No repercussions.
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well everything iâm wearing fits me perfectly, the top was even a little loose on me. i made it tighter on purpose to accentuate my body type
You look great.
I think you look amazing. Everything here is working for you. I have no idea what they're talking about.
Eta: this young lady did not ask for opinions or a critique of her outfit. She merely stated "simple and cute" - if you did not agree, you could have continued scrolling.
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actually the top is a little more loose but i made it tighter on purpose because i prefer it like that
It looks like it hurts.
noo itâs comfortable lol
But the problem, as I see it, is this: Thereâs a large fraction of people who, when they look at you, theyâre going to wonder if itâs painful, and theyâre going to wonder why youâre doing that to yourself. Thatâs one group of people.
Thereâs another group of people who are going to not care that it seems as though youâre mildly torturing yourself â theyâre only going to be thinking of your chest. They wonât be seeing a person â or, even worse, theyâre going to get a kick out of the idea that you want to hurt yourself.
If these are the kinds of reactions/feelings youâre comfortable eliciting, then, okay â you will be successful.
But in my opinion (and please understand Iâm not a fashion expert, so take this all with a grain of salt), there are so many lovely ways to highlight your lovely dĂ©colletage and cleavage that itâs not necessary to even wear something that seems like itâs cutting off your circulation. Your figure is beautiful and youâre very lucky because of that. I feel like our clothes work the best when theyâre a frame, not a feature.
Certainly show off everything about yourself that you think is gorgeous (and itâs obvious thereâs a lot to choose from), and ultimately your clothes are absolutely yours to make decisions about. But the fact that you made this post makes me think you also care about the effect youâre having on others. I can only advise as above, and I hope you arenât offended by an older ladyâs meandering ideas.
This is false binary logical fallacy. There are people who wonât be judging or criticizing her for how they perceive and project onto what sheâs wearing AND they arenât sexualizing/objectifying her either.
Also the insinuation that her choice to wear âtoo tightâ clothing is causing people to not treat/see her as a person is really scary logic. Thatâs not okay. If someone is not treating another person like a person, you donât blame the victim receiving the dehumanization. How about we start putting the focus on why people are going around dehumanizing people for their clothes? Do you really think clothesâno matter how ridiculous you may think anyoneâs clothes areâmorally justifies and excuses anyone treating a human being like they are not a human being?
And also, if you were actually concerned for her you would have accepted when she said that it wasnât too tight. Why do you keep insisting itâs too tight and painful even when she has said multiple times that itâs comfortable for her and not painful? Is she not to be trusted to know her own body and how she feels?
No I totally get it. It looks like you have a natural slim hourglass body shape. Most standard sizing off the rack clothing would not follow your shape and curves or proportions so tailoring is often the only way to actually make it custom fit your shape. I understand this too. Iâm so sorry people are being so rude to you. I can really relate to what youâre going through in this thread and I hope people in your real life treat you better than this. If the garment were actually too tight there would be obvious bulging where you can see her skin near her midriff and hips as if itâs âdiggingâ into her skin and compressing it too much. But itâs not doing that because her body is actually shaped like that. And you can clearly see it follows the curves that she has naturally. The fabric is hugging the curves; the curves arenât caused by the fabric straining and contorting the body.
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OKK i feel like i shouldâve clarified when i posted this: i was wearing a strapless bra under the top, which pushed my boobs more up, because i liked the way it looked better haha.
my clothes are not super tight like some people assumed, itâs just that apparently what i think looks nice is not to a lot of people đč
It does very much look nice. My only advice is instead of whatever jacket you have on in the picture I would get a black leather one, possibly cropped or fitted.
Like I said though. The outfit still looks good as is so you dont need to think my 2 cents is because its bad.
https://preview.redd.it/7ypkfydzye8g1.png?width=1440&format=png&auto=webp&s=7d9460c3a02ced4264a124ab74a6790241900159
That top and the way you're wearing that jacket(?) reminds me of Draculaura! Just in a diff style :D
omgg i loved monster high growing up, this comment made me happy
I love pink and black!
me too, itâs 2 of my favorite colors đ€đ©·
So cutiepie đ love it
this diva đđ
You looks SO good ! Donât let the jealous ppl let you think your fit is âbadâ đ©·
Iâm sorry you got downvoted for being a kind and reassuring person. I appreciate your presence! It makes the world a better place to live in, especially in rooms like this when people are being weirdly hostile.
Who downvoted you?? Do we need to ride at dawn? đ«Ą
It is really so cute
I like it. It's super chic
So cute đ€
Wow you look great. Idk if this is something you aspire but you look like a K-pop idol.âșïž
You look really nice in that outfit
You servedđâ
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aw but itâs how i like it, i made the top tighter on purpose
This is honestly one if the best outfits Iâve ever seen. I think I just like Pink/black
Fudge Im editing this cause I just saw the asymmetrical sleeves. Idk whether youâre in fashion design but you have excellent taste.
Keep doing you and ignore anyone else
i love simple outfits like this, this just gave me inspiration for my birthday fit ! that color is great on you btw
I had a very similar outfit in 2002. I'm so glad to see the fairy tops making a comeback they were my fave. I love this on you. â€ïžđ§Ąđ
I was going to say this is giving very 2000s vibes
Simple and super cute great top.
Super cute look
Wow!
Just perfect!
Can you explain the sleeves? Are they part of a top or just standalone sleeves?
Such a pretty top, I love it.
Cuteeee
I need to get that top! Loveit
where is the black cover from super cute!!
Very nice!
So cute I love it!
Thatâs a great outfit
I love the pink top â€ïž
That is absolutely your color, it looks amazing on you!
Awe wait super cute!
Looking so nice! Everything fits you perfectly
So nice
I think you have a great shape but you're not using your full potential. If may I suggest:
https://preview.redd.it/78m6b460bg8g1.png?width=768&format=png&auto=webp&s=74feb4815c4d46afe3a86f74ee53421f58580507
You look beautiful
The title: simple and cute My magpie brain: but what if shiny necklace with chunky Rings?
It's so pretty
Love it đÂ
It's definitely cute
Very nice!
Great combo!
i loe that s-shirttt i have a similar one but in light lue!!
Lue? What color is that? đ
Brown
missd the b hahahahh:))
Simple and cute = Crđ„zy wow
Can you breath when you're wearing this??
Uhh Iâd say yes obviously
Jealousy
Madison Beer?
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You wear this in the winter...seems more like a summer topđ€đ€
itâs summer where i live
awkward lol
You have a glowing personality. đ
you make it look good
Why not? Do you. Nobody cares to be honest. Just don't leave the house naked, and shower when going into public. That's all that matters. What you wear is all the way unimportant to 99.99% of people you pass by. Just have fun with your life. You only got one.
This is a subreddit to share outfits by the way.
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