Impulsive thoughts. Intrusive thoughts are when you're holding a pair of scissors and think "I should violently stab myself in the neck with these." Impulsive thoughts are when you're holding a pair of scissors and think "I should give myself bangs."
Sure, but intrusive thoughts aren't simply urges either. They can be images or ideas, and the part that makes them intrusive is that they are completely, and utterly, unwanted. The guy here probably doesn't think having a baby, or like the before bit (sex) is distressing or unwanted.
It's more like, when you hold your friends baby, and for some unknown reason the thought or image pops into you head of you squeezing it so tight you snap the baby in half. Unwanted and distressing.
So... I mean "severity" is a factor in that usually these thoughts are often violent, sexually explicit, or would otherwise be extremely socially embarrassing or shameful.
People have fucked up impulses, too, like hitting or stabbing someone in the middle of an argument.
Intrusive thoughts don't have to be severe, as you say they need to be unwanted or distressing. And you're right that they don't have to be an urge, I only worded it that way because the discussion was on following through on an urge.
Maybe recurring isn't the right word to use either, even though intrusive thoughts often are.
Dunno, they have a point. I looked up Wikipedia and the first sentence is: "An intrusive thought is an unwelcome, involuntary thought, image, or unpleasant idea that may become an obsession."
And the rest of the sites I bothered to check seem to be mostly describing it the same way.
Plus, in my experience, it's never something mild. I have had trouble distinguishing what I saw from what's real. I've been stuck in place afraid to move because I might fucking do it. I have had to struggle against myself from doing it. And it always feels real. Not just images or thoughts, I feel it pushing from inside.
It is different though and there is a clear distinction between the two. Impulsive is generally something random that doesn't involve distressing or grotesque acts while intrusive ones are usually something morbid. The latter is the brain way of checking if it can still make rational decisions.
"Impulsive thoughts involve sudden urges or desires to act without fully considering the consequences, often driven by immediate gratification. In contrast, intrusive thoughts are unwanted, distressing, and repetitive in nature."
Okay, so how would you refer to a thought formed under the influence of impulsivity? Maybe... an impulsive thought? No?
Your argument is resting on the assumption that this colloquial explanation was somehow asserting the language used was exclusively well defined technical medical terms, which is an absurd leap of logic.
While you are correct that the severity of the as you say "badness" is not what defines an intrusive thought, (I was simply using that as an easily understandable example for those unfamiliar.) you are, however, incorrect that "impulsive thought" isn't a term, it is, it's an alternative to the overused actual medical term, you are also incorrect that an intrusive thought is a recurring urge, while it can be, it is not only that, it is more commonly an oftentimes distressing, unwelcome and involuntary thought.
You really love to double down on being wrong, huh. It's an impulse. Not an impulsive thought. It's not a medical term, what the hell are you talking about?
Yes, intrusive thoughts can also just be thoughts, but I was making a quick comparison in context. Stop being so desperate about correcting people, when you barely know what you're talking about.
Impulsive thoughts refer to sudden, involuntary ideas or urges that lead to impulsive behaviors. These are spontaneous thoughts that push you towards immediate actions without considering the consequences.
Examples of impulsive thoughts include an unexpected urge to buy something unnecessary, a sudden desire to eat junk food while dieting, or the impulse to say something inappropriate in a social setting.
Intrusive thoughts are unwanted, involuntary thoughts, images, or unpleasant ideas that may become obsessions. They seem to come out of nowhere, stick in your mind and can cause a great deal of anxiety.
Examples of intrusive thoughts include fears about safety, inappropriate social behavior, or disturbing sexual thoughts.
This is copy-paste. But the differences are there, there's also overlap but they are distinctly different.
Its also like the difference between psychopaths and sociopaths, there is overlap.
Both Impulsive thoughts and intrusive thoughts have common underlying conditions which are different. Intrusive OCD and PTSD, Impulsive BPD and ADHD.
Since we have agreed on the definition of intrusive thought, I'm going to move on from that. Impulsive thought is an alternative to the medical term intrusive thought, intrusive thought is often misused in casual conversation, so the term impulsive thought was created to be used instead of intrusive thought so that it did not become like the word (and I'm going to use an example here.) theory where there are to very different definitions depending on wether or not it's being used in casual conversation or in an official capacity.
Fr, if I have one gay kid and one straight kid my straight kid will just have to live with the fact that their gay sibling can have their partner over because sex is fine but teenage pregnancy isnt
The only reason my broke ass is here in the first place is because my mom was on birth control that failed AND the condom broke, much as I wish I didn't know that. 🤢
And now I'm here, proof that million to one odds still happen sometimes.
Idk if YOU were ever a teenager but I sure was, and I'd say the majority of them don't have the strongest foresight. It only takes one time being convinced to skip a condom and then pulling out too late, or skipping a pill and assuming everything is alright. It takes one lapse in discipline. Mix sexual arousal with general teenage "invincibility" and that's how you end up a 40 year old grandma.
Unless your solution is to sterilize my kids. That's frowned upon.
When I was a teenager my girlfriend was on the pill so we didn't worry about it. It's always better you let them have sex at home cause otherwise they will go and do it in much less safe areas.
When I was a teenager I was on the pill and I definitely missed more than one dose. The kids can fuck at YOUR house then lol they not fuckin in mine, we're allowed to have this difference in opinion, it means very little in the grand scheme
I'm gonna be honest with you, the way you're arguing for abstinence reminds me of Prohibition. Which ended poorly as alcohol brewers turned to making their own and safety standards were, well, generally lower.
Hell, im a grown adult and have accidently skipped a day, or taken a dose a bit later then I should have.
Vomiting/ diarrhea/ antibiotics. These all affect it, not just on the day like how some people think. But a good few days after.
And in the nicest way possible, a lot of these little girls are at a heavier weight these days. Which also makes the pill not work.
And more controversially, I dont think teenage girls should be forced onto more heavy duty forms of BC like the coil. Not for the health side of it. But they are a form of mini torture in my experience. Likely one of their first big decisions around their body and they learn consent means nothing, especially when family says so? Gynos are a horrible experience to be feared? Abuse can also look fine when your only other experience on that part of your body is pure pain.
Im not a fan. But also, other people's kids arent my business. And it is a nuanced topic, so I am not going to sit and argue my point.
Hard boundaries, and being a safe space can coexist.
Isn‘t it weird that the US is leading in teen pregnancies despite all these weird controlling rules that are normalized in your culture (no privacy due to Open door, can‘t sleep over etc)?
We had proper sex ed in school. We all knew about the different options and the safety of them.
I was socially very active in my Teens and I knew exactly 0 pregnant Teenage girls.
My daughter tried testing me one day; to see how I would respond if a girl asked her out.
HA! Little do you know, little lady, that’s a weight off my shoulders. 😂🤣😅
People who think they are protecting their kids doing that are actually doing the opposite. Home is a safe place where if they partner misbehave / don't respect their limit, my kids know they can find me in 5s to protect them.
Teenager will try to bang regardless, but I rather they do it where I can still protect them than them having to lie about being at a friend's house, or skipping school to go somewhere where I can't protect them if something happens.
^ yup. Same goes for any other common risky behaviors, like drugs or alcohol.
Teenagers are gonna stupid shit. No matter how hard you try, you’ll never be able to prevent it. All you can do is teach them the important safety measures and make sure you’re available to help them out if things go wrong.
Quite a few times in high school I would’ve been in danger had I not trusted that my parents would help me instead of yelling at me.
2016/17, 28% of Australian adolescents aged 16-17 were allowed to drink alcohol at home. More adolescents with permission had drunk alcohol in the past month (77% vs. 63% of those without permission). There was no difference in quantity of alcohol consumed in the past week between groups. More adolescents allowed to drink at home had experienced alcohol-related harm compared to those without permission (23% vs. 17%). In multivariable analyses, alcohol consumption by primary parents was associated with an increased likelihood of allowing adolescents to drink at home.
Overall, 6.6% of adolescents drank alcohol, with no significant differences by sociodemographics. Adolescents whose parents drank frequently (≥5 days/month), or binge drank, had significantly higher odds of drinking than adolescents whose parents did not drink or did not binge drink, respectively.
Non-authoritative parenting style and parental drunkenness are associated with binge drinking among adolescents. Authoritarian, indulgent, and negligent parenting styles were associated with 1.50-, 2.51-, and 2.82-fold increases in prevalence of adolescent binge drinking, and parental drunkenness, with a 1.99-fold increase. The non-authoritative parenting style made a larger contribution than parental drunkenness to adolescent binge drinking.
Children and teenagers of any age who sip or taste alcohol with their parents’ permission are more likely to engage in risky drinking in young adulthood
Is it true that any particular parent cannot guarantee, with absolutely certainty, that their children will avoid risky behaviours, for instance as concerns alcohol, drugs, sex, etc? Sure.
Is it true that parents cannot make decisions that will mitigate the likelihood that their children will not only - to take one example - drink excessively, but drink at all while underage? No, clear that is not true.
Is it true that parents should allow underage drinking or other risky behaviours at home so at least they can monitor it? No, the evidence supports the opposite conclusion.
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see also-
Parental permission to use alcohol is common in adolescence, and many parents believe it to be an effective harm reduction strategy because it provides an opportunity to supervise drinking. Contrary to this belief, prior research has consistently linked parental provision of alcohol and permission to drink to increases in future alcohol-related harms. Whether the age of onset of parental permission to use alcohol influences these outcomes is poorly understood. This study is the first to investigate the impact of age of onset of parental permission to use alcohol on later drinking outcomes, utilizing a longitudinal US community sample of adolescents (n = 387). The analysis included nine annual waves of data and accounted for risk and protective factors at the individual, peer, and family levels. Consistent with prior research, a robust relationship was found between parental permission to use alcohol during adolescence and increased alcohol use frequency and quantity, alcohol use disorder symptoms, and alcohol-related harms in young adulthood. Age of onset of parental permission was not associated with later alcohol use outcomes, suggesting a uniform risk effect of parental permission to drink. Public health messaging to parents should seek to correct perceptions of supervised alcohol use as a harm reduction strategy and emphasize the harm of parental permission to use alcohol, regardless of age
Yeah me too. I never had the urge to drink in high school, never interested me, but biology was at work when it came to sex and as expected I was climbing the walls lmao.
What that data doesn't take into consideration is that not all "permission to drink" is created equally. A lot of parents give permission to use drugs and alcohol because they themselves have a problem or are grossly irresponsible and negligent.
There's a difference between giving your kid a taste of your beer once or letting them know you won't crash out over it if they call you at 3am because they got themselves into trouble, and being too blacked out to discipline them for stealing your vodka.
There is a correlation in this dataset, that does not imply causation.
I had permission to drink growing up, but that was a glass of wine at Christmas or other special occasions. Or a sip here and there. I drank in the same way a dog would be given scraps.
My one friend also had permission growing up. They would buy her alcohol, at 16 she would drink a few bottles a week. She was a fully functioning alcoholic before she was even legally allowed to drink. Something that affects her deeply to this day.
That’s irrelevant. Teenagers are stupid, they do a lot of things they shouldn’t.
Treating drug use as a big serious thing that they’ll get in lots of trouble for isn’t going to stop them, but it will mean that when it’s late and they’re out high with friends and they don’t have a way home, they’ll wind up weighing the risks of “driving while high” vs “getting yelled at by dad when they call for a ride”. And teenagers are stupid, so they’re usually not gonna do that math right.
Don't personally have kids, but I'm typically an advocate for the trial by fire approach: you warn them, and counsel on how to proceed, but if they knowingly make bad decisions, that's on them. I like to think of them as sentient people, and treat them accordingly. That would work for me at least. Either setting proper boundaries for people who you are responsible for should be enough, or the spectrum is just better. Make clear potential consequences and be adamant with what's controllable. If they disobey you and regret it, there's a lesson right there in itself: listen to helpful advice by those who may know better (or at least have more life experience). I'm a bit more pure in the "no questionable substances or behaviors" department, though
If their boyfriend gets pushy or 'pushy' they can just call out, or scream, and they'll have at the bare minimum a parent or sibling to crash through the door wielding a hammer.
Best case scenario you get the whole family walking through the door like some kinda slasher film holding various weapons wondering who wants to die today.
Kids having sex isn't inevitable, whatever it may seem to you based on your upbringing. My siblings (15-29) and I were raised to keep sex for marriage, and we all have.
A better and more meaningful first sexual encounter with my wife, and the opportunity to gain sexual experience together rather than judging one another against past sexual partners.
A girl and I (also a girl) briefly liked each other in high school, and one time she came over. But her mom was homophobic and her rule was that she couldn't so much as stand in the doorway of my room... in my house, where her mom wasn't even around. Anywhere else was okay though. So we hung out in my basement, unsupervised on the couch.
My gf’s mom is exactly like that. She started screaming and crying at the “disrespect” when I just put my stuff in her room assuming that it would be ok. Legit a 50 minute argument where she threatened us for “wanting her to die of shock” and other insane stuff. We were watching a movie in there a day or 2 later and she barges in the room to yell at us for having the door closed. We are both 20 years old and have been dating for a year and a half at that time :/
Yeah this is insane! Lmao 20 years old and expected to be virgins is crazy. Maybe thats why yall americans are so lonely you arent even allowed to act your age.
That line of thinking is what drives a wedge in a parental relationship. Even as an adult living at home I had to follow some rules, but was still given some autonomy as... I was an adult. I couldn't do whatever the hell I wanted, but I wasn't treated like I was 10 anymore.
Even at 16 this is quite controlling imo. Especially if they've been together for 2 years now. If they want to do the deed they have found a place and time to do it regardless if you let them lol
At that age i had sleepovers with my gf multible times a week. Both our parents were quite strict but that never was a problem.
That might be a cultural difference though. Maybe in Asia or the US this would seem a bit weird.
It's still dumb. If teenagers want to fuck, they will do that, ans if they can't do it in their room they will find another place that's potentially unsafe. Parents like that are utter morons.
I mean, its either in the comfort of her room or in the back of his car or whatever else place they can find. Might be easy for me to say as a young man who hasn’t had kids but you cannot fight the natural tide of puberty and development, might as well accommodate it imo.
Ironically, it actually works against the parents' intentions. If you tell kids they can't do A because it might lead to potentially bad thing B, it's more likely that A will lead to B because they've been preconditioned to associate them together. If you tell your daughter "You can't have a boy in your bedroom because you might fuck" the first time she's in a bedroom with a boy (hers or his or a third person's) they're probably going to fuck.
Not sure what you're referring to, since I was confused at first.
Not allowing them in the room together is strict and likely counter-intuitive.
However, letting him sleep over in the same room (which is what I thought this was about at first) would be too much. I don't make a big deal if my kids drink, but I'm not going out and buying them bottles of alcohol. There's a difference between condoning and encouraging.
That's the fun part about being a parent. There's literally no right answer. No matter how much you do, it's probably somehow wrong lmao
I had a boyfriend in college his parents would rather him stay alone at school over spring break with just ramen to eat then come to my grandparents' house and sleep in a different bedroom. that was crazy
Right it's so weird. Thinking you can ban a kid from having sex is crazy. Idc if they're 22 or 12 they will find a way if they want to. Like prohibition is not contraception lmao. (Also specifying daughter because if it was a son they probably wouldn't have an issue...ughhh)
Much as I don't enjoy the thought of my (potential) children having sex, I would rather they did it in a safe environment and were able to talk to my partner and I about their relationships than the alternative.
My mom would be this way into my mid twenties and I had been living on my own since 18. Worse yet is I lived with my gf at the time, so it was truly bizarre.
I didn't know that's the only place to learn healthy boundaries and intimacy... yeah the reason I don't date still eludes me too lmao. What kind of girl likes guys who can't even give them a place to hang out?
Edit: some of y'all sound like control freaks. The couple in the tweet been together for 2 years. If I knew my daughter's bf for 2 years and he still with her, that means I approve. I also know this thing called boundaries, and stopping a daughter from spending time with a loved one is pushing it
why are you so concerned about your teenage daughters sex life? we teach them and prepare them for this stage of life for a reason. if anything bad happens, they should feel comfy going to their parents for help when and if they need it; NOT being made to feel like they need to hide it behind their parents backs. teens are going to have sex with other teens whether you like it or not. ever been a teen before?
Teenage sex is one of the fastest ways to ruin your life. You can't always prevent them from having sex, but you can reduce how often they do, and usually thereby the chances of pregnancy. He's concerned about his teenage daughter's sex life because she is a teenager and she knows absolutely jack fuck about the world.
Best way to reduce the chances of pregnancy is to talk to your kid about safe practices, and make sure they know they can go to you if they need help (i.e. acquiring a morning after pill or something)
Teenagers are gonna fuck. Either they can do it unsafely, with complete secrecy, where you won’t know there’s been a problem until it’s too late to fix it, or they can do it safely. Your choice.
If you think they're more likely to get pregnant then surely they should learn how not to get pregnant rather than reducing the frequency. That's a piss poor contraceptive strategy. Considering you know more than jack fuck about the world I assume you're aware of that.
I don't see what being a teenager has to do with it.
Don't you know teenagers? Not having a house to do is not a definitive deal breaker. I know couples who did it in empty lots, junkyards, natural reserves, the hall of the entrance for the disabled to a church. The only limit is creativity.
Lack of education on safe practices causes teen pregnancy, not the act itself
i had plenty of sex as a teen with my girlfriend of many years. as have hundreds of millions of others. our lives are not ruined. safe sex is okay. if you’re going out of your way to make sure your daughter and her boyfriend don’t have sex, to the point of obsession, you should seek counseling.
My parents were very controlling and it definitely hurt me more than it helped. Some kids need clear boundaries, some need the space to make decisions on their own
Not everyone is wound up as tightly as you are. You may wanna keep that in mind before you assume every other fucker is just as dysfunctional as you are.
Why are americans so freaked out about sex? Its not that big of a deal. Sex doesnt destroy your body, it feels good its loving and intimate. Even if people are kinkier thats a bond of trust you have with each other. There is mothing inherintly bad about two consenting parties who are informed having safe sex... why are yall acting as if it would turn your kid into something dirty and wrong or whatever? Not every single one of you can be religious ?
One of my coworkers was telling me that his daughter had a boy over and asked him if the daughter offered him some snacks and he said yes the daughter immediately said no i didn’t. My coworker told the kid I get you trying to cover for her but don’t ever lie to the father. My coworker said that was the first time he felt the kid swallowed his whole Adam’s apple.
Bro'd be pissed for the sake of being pissed. Not necessately at me. Russian roulette, really. It's a diceroll with the most random reasons to pull the "angry dad" bit at either of us
Guy's a chaotic force of bullshittery for the shits & giggles. Doesn't help that he's been into kickboxing since he was 12.
Love the man to death, 10/10 father in law, frequently getting into fights with my wife about who gets to keep him if we ever divorce
No he’s honestly a chill dad he allows their daughters to bring boys over and just keep the door open is really the only rule. He tries to be the dad where his daughters can talk to him about anything including boys
It's pretty simple just phrased extremely poorly. The coworker has a daughter, he asks the daughter's bf if the daughter asked him if he wanted snacks. The bf said that she did (a lie to make her look better), the daughter then corrected him by saying she didn't ask. Coworker gets mad that the bf lied about snacks because "you don't lie to the father"
I'm a mother and if i had a daughter i wouldn't be mad at the line. I'd laugh about it because, i mean, he's not wrong? If my son did this line and got in trouble with the other parents then he has to realize his potential future in laws dont have a good sense of humor
Some of your parents are so controlling, I swear. None of us could give two shits what my sister and her boyfriend get up to in their room.
There's a catch, though. We TRUST both of them not to do anything stupid and they've been together since they were both 18. The only exception I could see this being reasonable with is with teenagers.
Exactly. It's also because we were all taught basic respect for someone's privacy. These stories I occasionally hear of parent's "ripping doors out" is utterly unhinged.
As a former teenager and a potential future parent, this is something about parenthood that I genuinely have no clue how to handle.
I was undesired as a teen and my only destructive tendencies involved either intentional self harm (which I did in a way that couldn't be noticed by my family) or unintentional social isolation (I couldn't infer that people in my larger friend groups actually wanted me around when they were planning events, so I didn't go to those events unless I was explicitly invited, which they didn't know was an issue for me), and I prided myself on learning life lessons secondhand (because of underlying self hatred telling me that "doing stupid teen things" would make me a failure of a person). I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 18, and we are both each other's first everything. As a result of being in our first relationships, overall being awkward (and probably autistic), and being long distance after having been in-person friends in high school, we were both horny little shits, but our relationship moved SLOWLY. It took over a year for us to have our first kiss, and then months before we did anything remotely sexual.
I don't know what to do about a teenager engaging in normal risky behavior and I don't think my bf does either bc neither of us went through it. I know generally how to help with depression and anxiety, but I don't know how to help with what is typically understood as "normal teenage rebellion" because I was too stuck in my head as a kid to experience it.
I never could afford to take risks considering what I grew up in. I’m still asexual but I also had that same thought. (That I wouldn’t know how to raise a kid who had the whole enchilada in puberty)
This would so much not be an issue in my country.
Of course they would spend time together alone if they are boyfriend and girlfriend ( or any other combination for that matter)
Having sleepovers and that being in the same room is perfectly natural and expected.
I’m a dad and I’d be letting him go in her room way before 2 years with stipulations but by 2 years I would have lightened up. But even if I didn’t if he said that line to me I would have laughed and said “ok let’s come up with some rules”
Ah i mean I get it, but i also don't. The mother didn't say no sex or whatever. Didn't say no boyfriend. At worst, isn't it likely just "i really don't want to hear my children getting railed in my own home"? I've let friends and family borrow my car or my home, and I always say i don't care what happens, just pls do the fucking somewhere.
Ill never understand this. Like im sorry you cant be bothered to teach your kids to have safe sex and give them the tools to be safe? Like this just leads them to keep secrets and do it in public places that are hidden like a forest or park at night. Your denying them comfortable, giving them shame weather you mean to or not and saying i dont trust you two period. My sister did this to her kid. My niece told me long before her mom. She came to me asking for condoms and stuff cuz she didnt know where to get them or have money for them and her mom sure wasnt gonna get them. She wasnt using protection when i found out which is why i got them for her. Like its so dumb! Especially cuz my mom was a teen parent to my sister who was a teen parent and she couldn’t recognize the damn signs! Unbelievable.
Then she (sister) got mad at me for giving her (niece) condoms. Was the last time i talked to her actually. You cant cry about teen pregnancy and how you cant afford it then also ignore your child and refuse to teach them sex ed and safe sex.
u/Fazbear2035, there weren't enough votes to determine the quality of your post...
Bro weighed up the pros and cons of potentially getting molly whopped.
He was cruisin for a bruisin
He was aimin for a maimin
shoppin for a whoppin
scanning for a banging.
Melting for a belting.
Pleading for a beating.
Ask'n for a Casket
Worth it!
Bro skipped the quiet thinking stage and jumped straight to saying the intrusive thought out loud.
Can't blame him for that lmao
Impulsive thoughts. Intrusive thoughts are when you're holding a pair of scissors and think "I should violently stab myself in the neck with these." Impulsive thoughts are when you're holding a pair of scissors and think "I should give myself bangs."
That definition is straight up wrong. Severity of the "badness" is not the defining factor of either. "Impulsive thought" is not even a term.
But still, this is impulsivity, following a spontaneous urge.
An intrusive thought is a recurring urge, or at least an unwanted one.
Sure, but intrusive thoughts aren't simply urges either. They can be images or ideas, and the part that makes them intrusive is that they are completely, and utterly, unwanted. The guy here probably doesn't think having a baby, or like the before bit (sex) is distressing or unwanted.
It's more like, when you hold your friends baby, and for some unknown reason the thought or image pops into you head of you squeezing it so tight you snap the baby in half. Unwanted and distressing.
So... I mean "severity" is a factor in that usually these thoughts are often violent, sexually explicit, or would otherwise be extremely socially embarrassing or shameful.
People have fucked up impulses, too, like hitting or stabbing someone in the middle of an argument.
Intrusive thoughts don't have to be severe, as you say they need to be unwanted or distressing. And you're right that they don't have to be an urge, I only worded it that way because the discussion was on following through on an urge.
Maybe recurring isn't the right word to use either, even though intrusive thoughts often are.
Dunno, they have a point. I looked up Wikipedia and the first sentence is: "An intrusive thought is an unwelcome, involuntary thought, image, or unpleasant idea that may become an obsession."
And the rest of the sites I bothered to check seem to be mostly describing it the same way.
Plus, in my experience, it's never something mild. I have had trouble distinguishing what I saw from what's real. I've been stuck in place afraid to move because I might fucking do it. I have had to struggle against myself from doing it. And it always feels real. Not just images or thoughts, I feel it pushing from inside.
It is different though and there is a clear distinction between the two. Impulsive is generally something random that doesn't involve distressing or grotesque acts while intrusive ones are usually something morbid. The latter is the brain way of checking if it can still make rational decisions.
"Impulsive thoughts involve sudden urges or desires to act without fully considering the consequences, often driven by immediate gratification. In contrast, intrusive thoughts are unwanted, distressing, and repetitive in nature."
https://compasshealthcenter.net/blog/intrusive-vs-impulsive-thoughts/
"this is impulsivity"
Okay, so how would you refer to a thought formed under the influence of impulsivity? Maybe... an impulsive thought? No?
Your argument is resting on the assumption that this colloquial explanation was somehow asserting the language used was exclusively well defined technical medical terms, which is an absurd leap of logic.
It's called an impulse..
While you are correct that the severity of the as you say "badness" is not what defines an intrusive thought, (I was simply using that as an easily understandable example for those unfamiliar.) you are, however, incorrect that "impulsive thought" isn't a term, it is, it's an alternative to the overused actual medical term, you are also incorrect that an intrusive thought is a recurring urge, while it can be, it is not only that, it is more commonly an oftentimes distressing, unwelcome and involuntary thought.
You really love to double down on being wrong, huh. It's an impulse. Not an impulsive thought. It's not a medical term, what the hell are you talking about?
Yes, intrusive thoughts can also just be thoughts, but I was making a quick comparison in context. Stop being so desperate about correcting people, when you barely know what you're talking about.
Impulsive thoughts refer to sudden, involuntary ideas or urges that lead to impulsive behaviors. These are spontaneous thoughts that push you towards immediate actions without considering the consequences.
Examples of impulsive thoughts include an unexpected urge to buy something unnecessary, a sudden desire to eat junk food while dieting, or the impulse to say something inappropriate in a social setting.
Intrusive thoughts are unwanted, involuntary thoughts, images, or unpleasant ideas that may become obsessions. They seem to come out of nowhere, stick in your mind and can cause a great deal of anxiety.
Examples of intrusive thoughts include fears about safety, inappropriate social behavior, or disturbing sexual thoughts.
This is copy-paste. But the differences are there, there's also overlap but they are distinctly different.
Its also like the difference between psychopaths and sociopaths, there is overlap.
Both Impulsive thoughts and intrusive thoughts have common underlying conditions which are different. Intrusive OCD and PTSD, Impulsive BPD and ADHD.
Since we have agreed on the definition of intrusive thought, I'm going to move on from that. Impulsive thought is an alternative to the medical term intrusive thought, intrusive thought is often misused in casual conversation, so the term impulsive thought was created to be used instead of intrusive thought so that it did not become like the word (and I'm going to use an example here.) theory where there are to very different definitions depending on wether or not it's being used in casual conversation or in an official capacity.
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How dare you accuse me of using AI! my overly formal speech pattern is something I developed all on my own thank you very much!
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Okay I'm sorry grok 😭 please forgive me 🙏 (btw what does the /s at the end Mean?)
It means he/she is actually superman/superwoman and it's polite to not mention it.
No way! Superman can I get an autograph please?
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Well one of you two is lying.
It means I was being sarcastic, honestly I was moreso just joking, but /j is even less common than/s.
Now he busy making his gf another sister
He'd be tossed out my front door like Jazz by Uncle Phil.
One of the funniest running gags in the shows I watched
How do you know your daughter isn't a lesbian bringing girls into her room?
Well don't have to worry about pregnancy at least. 🤷
My dad: You better be careful. Dont get a girl into trouble!
My gay ass: Well, it would take a miracle.
God and the Holy Spirit: snickers in the background
Maybe he was worried you'd start a gay tax evasion group
You would think, but there have been cases
Or a trans woman
I've seen them ordering turkey basters off Amazon. Never be 100% sure!
Most of the time
Fr, if I have one gay kid and one straight kid my straight kid will just have to live with the fact that their gay sibling can have their partner over because sex is fine but teenage pregnancy isnt
Why do americans act like teenagers are incapable of using contraception if you teach them properly?
You let teenagers drive multiple tons of Metal around that can easily kill them and others but apparently they‘re too dumb to use condoms lmao
Why act like contraception doesn't fail?
The only reason my broke ass is here in the first place is because my mom was on birth control that failed AND the condom broke, much as I wish I didn't know that. 🤢
And now I'm here, proof that million to one odds still happen sometimes.
Imagine if there was a way to have safe sex with near zero chance of pregnancy.... No, surely that doesn't exist
Idk if YOU were ever a teenager but I sure was, and I'd say the majority of them don't have the strongest foresight. It only takes one time being convinced to skip a condom and then pulling out too late, or skipping a pill and assuming everything is alright. It takes one lapse in discipline. Mix sexual arousal with general teenage "invincibility" and that's how you end up a 40 year old grandma.
Unless your solution is to sterilize my kids. That's frowned upon.
When I was a teenager my girlfriend was on the pill so we didn't worry about it. It's always better you let them have sex at home cause otherwise they will go and do it in much less safe areas.
When I was a teenager I was on the pill and I definitely missed more than one dose. The kids can fuck at YOUR house then lol they not fuckin in mine, we're allowed to have this difference in opinion, it means very little in the grand scheme
I'm gonna be honest with you, the way you're arguing for abstinence reminds me of Prohibition. Which ended poorly as alcohol brewers turned to making their own and safety standards were, well, generally lower.
The kids will still get pregnant then
Hell, im a grown adult and have accidently skipped a day, or taken a dose a bit later then I should have.
Vomiting/ diarrhea/ antibiotics. These all affect it, not just on the day like how some people think. But a good few days after.
And in the nicest way possible, a lot of these little girls are at a heavier weight these days. Which also makes the pill not work.
And more controversially, I dont think teenage girls should be forced onto more heavy duty forms of BC like the coil. Not for the health side of it. But they are a form of mini torture in my experience. Likely one of their first big decisions around their body and they learn consent means nothing, especially when family says so? Gynos are a horrible experience to be feared? Abuse can also look fine when your only other experience on that part of your body is pure pain.
Im not a fan. But also, other people's kids arent my business. And it is a nuanced topic, so I am not going to sit and argue my point.
Hard boundaries, and being a safe space can coexist.
Now there's zero places for them to have sex. Good thinking.
Convenience is a large factor in decision making. I don't want to make it any easier for horny teens to reproduce than it already is
Isn‘t it weird that the US is leading in teen pregnancies despite all these weird controlling rules that are normalized in your culture (no privacy due to Open door, can‘t sleep over etc)?
We had proper sex ed in school. We all knew about the different options and the safety of them.
I was socially very active in my Teens and I knew exactly 0 pregnant Teenage girls.
Simply introducing the condom bowl will leave you with less teen pregnancies than banning encounters. Encounters will happen if the kid wants them
Ignoring the feasibility of this, I have to say this might be among the bottom 20 pieces of hypothetical parenting I have read on the internet.
I get where you're coming from but it really wouldn't be fair to have different rules. If I just had one kid and they were gay, then yeah.
trans ppl though ?
We dont exist to straight people ): unless its by creating laws to make us sub human
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I might be missing something obvious here but if you're both trans lesbians
Where does babby come from
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Wait what do you mean transmasc would that still be lesbian?
Some transmen who like women call themselves lesbians.
Huh, why?
You still have to worry about STDs and protection for those.
My daughter tried testing me one day; to see how I would respond if a girl asked her out.
HA! Little do you know, little lady, that’s a weight off my shoulders. 😂🤣😅
People who think they are protecting their kids doing that are actually doing the opposite. Home is a safe place where if they partner misbehave / don't respect their limit, my kids know they can find me in 5s to protect them. Teenager will try to bang regardless, but I rather they do it where I can still protect them than them having to lie about being at a friend's house, or skipping school to go somewhere where I can't protect them if something happens.
^ yup. Same goes for any other common risky behaviors, like drugs or alcohol.
Teenagers are gonna stupid shit. No matter how hard you try, you’ll never be able to prevent it. All you can do is teach them the important safety measures and make sure you’re available to help them out if things go wrong.
Quite a few times in high school I would’ve been in danger had I not trusted that my parents would help me instead of yelling at me.
This simply isn't true. See for instance here:
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36989139/
And
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1054139X23003038
And
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6899350/
And
https://www.buffalo.edu/ubnow/stories/2025/06/teen-drinking-parents-permission.html
Is it true that any particular parent cannot guarantee, with absolutely certainty, that their children will avoid risky behaviours, for instance as concerns alcohol, drugs, sex, etc? Sure.
Is it true that parents cannot make decisions that will mitigate the likelihood that their children will not only - to take one example - drink excessively, but drink at all while underage? No, clear that is not true.
Is it true that parents should allow underage drinking or other risky behaviours at home so at least they can monitor it? No, the evidence supports the opposite conclusion.
edit:
see also-
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0306460325000267
very interesting and nice to see actual empiricism on reddit. i doubt the applicability of this research to sex though.
Yeah me too. I never had the urge to drink in high school, never interested me, but biology was at work when it came to sex and as expected I was climbing the walls lmao.
What that data doesn't take into consideration is that not all "permission to drink" is created equally. A lot of parents give permission to use drugs and alcohol because they themselves have a problem or are grossly irresponsible and negligent.
There's a difference between giving your kid a taste of your beer once or letting them know you won't crash out over it if they call you at 3am because they got themselves into trouble, and being too blacked out to discipline them for stealing your vodka.
There is a correlation in this dataset, that does not imply causation.
I had permission to drink growing up, but that was a glass of wine at Christmas or other special occasions. Or a sip here and there. I drank in the same way a dog would be given scraps.
My one friend also had permission growing up. They would buy her alcohol, at 16 she would drink a few bottles a week. She was a fully functioning alcoholic before she was even legally allowed to drink. Something that affects her deeply to this day.
Saving this comment to read later when I haven’t just woken up
Or you just stay in the house and do jack shit because things will absolutely be worse if you go out and something happens.
Source: I am maladjusted and want to die.
Except you shouldn't be doing drugs at all.
That’s irrelevant. Teenagers are stupid, they do a lot of things they shouldn’t.
Treating drug use as a big serious thing that they’ll get in lots of trouble for isn’t going to stop them, but it will mean that when it’s late and they’re out high with friends and they don’t have a way home, they’ll wind up weighing the risks of “driving while high” vs “getting yelled at by dad when they call for a ride”. And teenagers are stupid, so they’re usually not gonna do that math right.
What you said has the benefit of being true, but based on upvotes it looks like more people still prefer to joke about domestic violence.
Don't personally have kids, but I'm typically an advocate for the trial by fire approach: you warn them, and counsel on how to proceed, but if they knowingly make bad decisions, that's on them. I like to think of them as sentient people, and treat them accordingly. That would work for me at least. Either setting proper boundaries for people who you are responsible for should be enough, or the spectrum is just better. Make clear potential consequences and be adamant with what's controllable. If they disobey you and regret it, there's a lesson right there in itself: listen to helpful advice by those who may know better (or at least have more life experience). I'm a bit more pure in the "no questionable substances or behaviors" department, though
Yup.
If their boyfriend gets pushy or 'pushy' they can just call out, or scream, and they'll have at the bare minimum a parent or sibling to crash through the door wielding a hammer.
Best case scenario you get the whole family walking through the door like some kinda slasher film holding various weapons wondering who wants to die today.
Kids having sex isn't inevitable, whatever it may seem to you based on your upbringing. My siblings (15-29) and I were raised to keep sex for marriage, and we all have.
Cool if it worked for you, but the stats show far more teen pregnancies and STDs in places with poor sexual education and where abstinence is taught.
Well congratulations, so what did you buy with your virginity?
A better and more meaningful first sexual encounter with my wife, and the opportunity to gain sexual experience together rather than judging one another against past sexual partners.
Shh, sir, your legitimately healthy upbringing has no place on reddit
Honey, teens these days ain't banging
That’s just about the only thing teens know how to do nowadays
Yes they are? Lmao what? 😂
Parents like that are crazy
A girl and I (also a girl) briefly liked each other in high school, and one time she came over. But her mom was homophobic and her rule was that she couldn't so much as stand in the doorway of my room... in my house, where her mom wasn't even around. Anywhere else was okay though. So we hung out in my basement, unsupervised on the couch.
Weird ass logic.
Everyone knows sex happens in your own bed so it's impossible to get busy anywhere else
That's why sex is for marriage, because only then do you both own the same bed.
i knew a family that forbade sleepovers but would allow daytime hangouts without the parents home. like okay they're just going to fuck during the day
oh so she's not the other gay witch? Sad :(
Depends on the age lol
Yeah, if this is 20+, it's a bit controlling.
However, it could easily still be 16, then it's not.
EDIT: Apparently I misunderstood. I thought it was about sleeping in the same room, not just being in it...
My gf’s mom is exactly like that. She started screaming and crying at the “disrespect” when I just put my stuff in her room assuming that it would be ok. Legit a 50 minute argument where she threatened us for “wanting her to die of shock” and other insane stuff. We were watching a movie in there a day or 2 later and she barges in the room to yell at us for having the door closed. We are both 20 years old and have been dating for a year and a half at that time :/
Americans are so weird about this, I swear
Yeah this is insane! Lmao 20 years old and expected to be virgins is crazy. Maybe thats why yall americans are so lonely you arent even allowed to act your age.
20+ squad
Unless folks are paying rent, they follow the rules of the house.
Putting your stuff in someones room so its not cluttering up the entrance is incredibly thoughtful. They would be lucky to have you, crazy sh1ts
That line of thinking is what drives a wedge in a parental relationship. Even as an adult living at home I had to follow some rules, but was still given some autonomy as... I was an adult. I couldn't do whatever the hell I wanted, but I wasn't treated like I was 10 anymore.
Lunatics need to be called out for their lunatic 'rules'.
Imagine having a child just so you have someone to lord the authority of “your house” over. Sad.
Even at 16 this is quite controlling imo. Especially if they've been together for 2 years now. If they want to do the deed they have found a place and time to do it regardless if you let them lol
At that age i had sleepovers with my gf multible times a week. Both our parents were quite strict but that never was a problem.
That might be a cultural difference though. Maybe in Asia or the US this would seem a bit weird.
I mean you're not wrong, and I'm all for making sure they're being safe, but it's a different thing to encourage them sleeping in the same room.
Actively encouraging this would indeed be weird haha
I'd say it was tolerated.
Depends on the culture. In Sweden it wouldn't be a big deal.
ehhh not letting the bf into her room at all is a bit much. ive heard of the open door policy but never this
Oh shit I misunderstood. I thought it was about sleeping over in the daughter's room. This actually is crazy behavior.
Well after what he followed up with he’s definitely not being allowed in there.
It's still dumb. If teenagers want to fuck, they will do that, ans if they can't do it in their room they will find another place that's potentially unsafe. Parents like that are utter morons.
Everyone has a right to privacy. "Open door policy" is dog shit tier parenting.
Even the Open door policy is insanity to non-americans
Eh my parents gave me an open door policy I just ignored it eventually
I mean, its either in the comfort of her room or in the back of his car or whatever else place they can find. Might be easy for me to say as a young man who hasn’t had kids but you cannot fight the natural tide of puberty and development, might as well accommodate it imo.
It's controlling at 16, and it's really weird that you jumped all the way to 20.
Ironically, it actually works against the parents' intentions. If you tell kids they can't do A because it might lead to potentially bad thing B, it's more likely that A will lead to B because they've been preconditioned to associate them together. If you tell your daughter "You can't have a boy in your bedroom because you might fuck" the first time she's in a bedroom with a boy (hers or his or a third person's) they're probably going to fuck.
Yes with 16 it still is. Two 16 years olds making out aren't a Problem, would be weirder If they didn't.
Not sure what you're referring to, since I was confused at first.
Not allowing them in the room together is strict and likely counter-intuitive.
However, letting him sleep over in the same room (which is what I thought this was about at first) would be too much. I don't make a big deal if my kids drink, but I'm not going out and buying them bottles of alcohol. There's a difference between condoning and encouraging.
That's the fun part about being a parent. There's literally no right answer. No matter how much you do, it's probably somehow wrong lmao
I had a boyfriend in college his parents would rather him stay alone at school over spring break with just ramen to eat then come to my grandparents' house and sleep in a different bedroom. that was crazy
Right it's so weird. Thinking you can ban a kid from having sex is crazy. Idc if they're 22 or 12 they will find a way if they want to. Like prohibition is not contraception lmao. (Also specifying daughter because if it was a son they probably wouldn't have an issue...ughhh)
Much as I don't enjoy the thought of my (potential) children having sex, I would rather they did it in a safe environment and were able to talk to my partner and I about their relationships than the alternative.
My mom would be this way into my mid twenties and I had been living on my own since 18. Worse yet is I lived with my gf at the time, so it was truly bizarre.
My mom always said "This isn't Shangri-La"
I didn't know that's the only place to learn healthy boundaries and intimacy... yeah the reason I don't date still eludes me too lmao. What kind of girl likes guys who can't even give them a place to hang out?
Thats wild. Lol. Parents though need to understand its not up to them. They'll do it there or somewhere else.
Just show your daughter where the condoms are and how to use them. And she can get the Pill at 14 years, at least where I live.
Honestly if I were a dad, that might work on me
Edit: some of y'all sound like control freaks. The couple in the tweet been together for 2 years. If I knew my daughter's bf for 2 years and he still with her, that means I approve. I also know this thing called boundaries, and stopping a daughter from spending time with a loved one is pushing it
No it wouldn't.
Bruh, they been together 2 years, they already fucked.
why are you so concerned about your teenage daughters sex life? we teach them and prepare them for this stage of life for a reason. if anything bad happens, they should feel comfy going to their parents for help when and if they need it; NOT being made to feel like they need to hide it behind their parents backs. teens are going to have sex with other teens whether you like it or not. ever been a teen before?
Teenage sex is one of the fastest ways to ruin your life. You can't always prevent them from having sex, but you can reduce how often they do, and usually thereby the chances of pregnancy. He's concerned about his teenage daughter's sex life because she is a teenager and she knows absolutely jack fuck about the world.
Well then you are a shite parent if you did not manage to teach your kid jack fuck about the world.
Its never about this anyway or else the girls would be put on birth control
Best way to reduce the chances of pregnancy is to talk to your kid about safe practices, and make sure they know they can go to you if they need help (i.e. acquiring a morning after pill or something)
Teenagers are gonna fuck. Either they can do it unsafely, with complete secrecy, where you won’t know there’s been a problem until it’s too late to fix it, or they can do it safely. Your choice.
If you think they're more likely to get pregnant then surely they should learn how not to get pregnant rather than reducing the frequency. That's a piss poor contraceptive strategy. Considering you know more than jack fuck about the world I assume you're aware of that.
I don't see what being a teenager has to do with it.
Don't you know teenagers? Not having a house to do is not a definitive deal breaker. I know couples who did it in empty lots, junkyards, natural reserves, the hall of the entrance for the disabled to a church. The only limit is creativity.
Lack of education on safe practices causes teen pregnancy, not the act itself
i had plenty of sex as a teen with my girlfriend of many years. as have hundreds of millions of others. our lives are not ruined. safe sex is okay. if you’re going out of your way to make sure your daughter and her boyfriend don’t have sex, to the point of obsession, you should seek counseling.
Hundreds of millions of people have had sex with your girlfriend? That's awesome
My parents were very controlling and it definitely hurt me more than it helped. Some kids need clear boundaries, some need the space to make decisions on their own
Not everyone is wound up as tightly as you are. You may wanna keep that in mind before you assume every other fucker is just as dysfunctional as you are.
Why are americans so freaked out about sex? Its not that big of a deal. Sex doesnt destroy your body, it feels good its loving and intimate. Even if people are kinkier thats a bond of trust you have with each other. There is mothing inherintly bad about two consenting parties who are informed having safe sex... why are yall acting as if it would turn your kid into something dirty and wrong or whatever? Not every single one of you can be religious ?
Not even a little bit.
But what would everyone clap for if it didnt?
One of my coworkers was telling me that his daughter had a boy over and asked him if the daughter offered him some snacks and he said yes the daughter immediately said no i didn’t. My coworker told the kid I get you trying to cover for her but don’t ever lie to the father. My coworker said that was the first time he felt the kid swallowed his whole Adam’s apple.
That’s a lose lose. If he said no, I’d be willing to bet money the father would say something about covering for his daughter.
Husband to a 27 year old daddys girl here
Bro'd be pissed for the sake of being pissed. Not necessately at me. Russian roulette, really. It's a diceroll with the most random reasons to pull the "angry dad" bit at either of us
Guy's a chaotic force of bullshittery for the shits & giggles. Doesn't help that he's been into kickboxing since he was 12.
Love the man to death, 10/10 father in law, frequently getting into fights with my wife about who gets to keep him if we ever divorce
(Me. The answer's obviously me)
No he’s honestly a chill dad he allows their daughters to bring boys over and just keep the door open is really the only rule. He tries to be the dad where his daughters can talk to him about anything including boys
Fyi this door Open thing is very weird aswell
No it’s not.
Tf is this weird power play 😭
Some dudes fantasy probably
Um, can someone explain this? I don't understand what any of this means.
It's pretty simple just phrased extremely poorly. The coworker has a daughter, he asks the daughter's bf if the daughter asked him if he wanted snacks. The bf said that she did (a lie to make her look better), the daughter then corrected him by saying she didn't ask. Coworker gets mad that the bf lied about snacks because "you don't lie to the father"
Thank you, maybe I was looking for some hidden meaning or I'm just dumb (most likely ) 😊
I'd probably be ok with them being sexually active with each other, but a lot less ok with the implication that they aren't using birth control.
I'm a mother and if i had a daughter i wouldn't be mad at the line. I'd laugh about it because, i mean, he's not wrong? If my son did this line and got in trouble with the other parents then he has to realize his potential future in laws dont have a good sense of humor
I mean there's an issue of respect and if a kid says something like that they don't respect you. Are they going to respect your kid?
He's out of line, but he's right.
Some of your parents are so controlling, I swear. None of us could give two shits what my sister and her boyfriend get up to in their room.
There's a catch, though. We TRUST both of them not to do anything stupid and they've been together since they were both 18. The only exception I could see this being reasonable with is with teenagers.
The way I see it is if that if you trust 'em outside on their own then nothing they do in their room should worry you.
Including hanging out with boys or girls. If they wanted to fuck they're gonna fuck whether you "permit it under your roof" or not.
Exactly. It's also because we were all taught basic respect for someone's privacy. These stories I occasionally hear of parent's "ripping doors out" is utterly unhinged.
Not the only thing that's 'unhinged' about that.
Parents who do this are mental
As a former teenager and a potential future parent, this is something about parenthood that I genuinely have no clue how to handle.
I was undesired as a teen and my only destructive tendencies involved either intentional self harm (which I did in a way that couldn't be noticed by my family) or unintentional social isolation (I couldn't infer that people in my larger friend groups actually wanted me around when they were planning events, so I didn't go to those events unless I was explicitly invited, which they didn't know was an issue for me), and I prided myself on learning life lessons secondhand (because of underlying self hatred telling me that "doing stupid teen things" would make me a failure of a person). I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 18, and we are both each other's first everything. As a result of being in our first relationships, overall being awkward (and probably autistic), and being long distance after having been in-person friends in high school, we were both horny little shits, but our relationship moved SLOWLY. It took over a year for us to have our first kiss, and then months before we did anything remotely sexual.
I don't know what to do about a teenager engaging in normal risky behavior and I don't think my bf does either bc neither of us went through it. I know generally how to help with depression and anxiety, but I don't know how to help with what is typically understood as "normal teenage rebellion" because I was too stuck in my head as a kid to experience it.
I never could afford to take risks considering what I grew up in. I’m still asexual but I also had that same thought. (That I wouldn’t know how to raise a kid who had the whole enchilada in puberty)
Kid had balls too bad that after saying that the mom probably ripped them off.
Sack? Like what mediaeval armies did to cities?
My ex's mom shoved both of us in her daughter's room on the second date lmao
Legend.
Funny for friends ... not funny for family...
This would so much not be an issue in my country.
Of course they would spend time together alone if they are boyfriend and girlfriend ( or any other combination for that matter)
Having sleepovers and that being in the same room is perfectly natural and expected.
Response to him would be: “Well you aren’t married to her, so no, you may not.”
I’m a dad and I’d be letting him go in her room way before 2 years with stipulations but by 2 years I would have lightened up. But even if I didn’t if he said that line to me I would have laughed and said “ok let’s come up with some rules”
Bro got balls questioning what their partner’s parents are allowing. They don’t have to allow him in their house AT ALL
He’s lucky he didn’t get his teeth knocked down his throat
He's outta line, but he's got a point.
Ah i mean I get it, but i also don't. The mother didn't say no sex or whatever. Didn't say no boyfriend. At worst, isn't it likely just "i really don't want to hear my children getting railed in my own home"? I've let friends and family borrow my car or my home, and I always say i don't care what happens, just pls do the fucking somewhere.
Ill never understand this. Like im sorry you cant be bothered to teach your kids to have safe sex and give them the tools to be safe? Like this just leads them to keep secrets and do it in public places that are hidden like a forest or park at night. Your denying them comfortable, giving them shame weather you mean to or not and saying i dont trust you two period. My sister did this to her kid. My niece told me long before her mom. She came to me asking for condoms and stuff cuz she didnt know where to get them or have money for them and her mom sure wasnt gonna get them. She wasnt using protection when i found out which is why i got them for her. Like its so dumb! Especially cuz my mom was a teen parent to my sister who was a teen parent and she couldn’t recognize the damn signs! Unbelievable.
Then she (sister) got mad at me for giving her (niece) condoms. Was the last time i talked to her actually. You cant cry about teen pregnancy and how you cant afford it then also ignore your child and refuse to teach them sex ed and safe sex.
i mean can you blame him?
Well, he's not wrong.
Based on context clues id say its teenagers so good on the parents
And I'd say it's controlling and stupid. They're going to do it anyway.