Tbh if someone is seeing your race before accepting a proposal they're not worth it.And a good Muslim wouldn't see your ethnicity as an obstacle.

There’s plenty of Muslim girls who would LOVE a white man. Don’t worry. I married one myself. Islam has no space to racism. If anyone is racist then leave it. You will find someone fantastic inshallah ameen

Bro im Australian and there are plenty of sisters who were born here like me who wont care. My husband is a white revert and culture has been a non issue. The biggest factor at present is actually your age. You are a bit younger still. Go to community events and you will meet people your age without any issues but dont rush into marriage.

don't worry talk to an imam near you.

This'll be a long post, but as an Aussie (female) Muslim, I hope I have some insights which will help you.

One of my favourite things about being Muslim is that people come from such a vast variety of different cultures. If you look at Bosnian versus Somali versus Desi versus Indonesian cultures, they're all so different, and I think that's a very good thing.

As a fellow Aussie Muslim around your age, being an Aussie Muslim means you're going to have cultural values that differ from non-white Australian Muslims, even if you don't realise it yet. And that's really cool!

There can be a lot of jokes online about white people not having culture, but depending on where in Aus you're from, your 'culture' may revolve around being more chilled, laid back and friendly. Perhaps frequenting the beach and having an active lifestyle. Having more open conversations at home, where family dynamics look different to those from other cultures. And, when it comes to formal occasions, wearing tuxes and bowties as your preferred dress, as opposed to salwar kameez or a thobe. Those are all examples of things which can constitute your culture.

And there isn't anything wrong with being quiet either. Quiet people exit in all cultures, and I think that it can be a really good thing, as it means you are less likely to risk putting your foot in your mouth and accidentally offending someone.

Families who accept partners on the basis of ethnicity do unfortunately exist. From my experience, this is largely from first gen Australian families, as they don't like to marry outside of their culture, and even ethnicity (eg. only wanting Punjabi partners, not just Pak/Indian or Desi). Honestly, would the right person for you judge you because of your ethnicity? No!

For me personally, education, character and deen are much more important to me than ethnicity when it comes to talking to men.

Also, I don't know what you mean by participating in other Muslims cultures, but I am sure they'd really like this, as everybody loves to share their cultures. It could be easier if you make some friends from those ethnicities, who can bring you in naturally, but I'm sure if you went to events (eg. at uni), everyone would be really accepting.

For example, any time I bring my non-Muslim friends to the musallah when I pray, everyone is so kind, friendly and welcoming to them. As someone who is Muslim, I'm sure they'd be even more kind to you! As a minority group, we always get excited meeting other Muslims, and it's honestly one of the easiest ways to make friends.

Also, even among Arabs for eg. there are many who can appear white passing, so I'm sure you won't stand out. Even if you do though, it's only cool! As its testament to you making the decision to convert to Islam versus just being born into it.

No actually care about you ethnicity or skin color as long as your Muslim

The prophet peace be upon him

O people, your Lord is One. There is no superiority for an Arab over a non-Arab, nor for a non-Arab over an Arab, nor for a "ahmar" person (refer to white) over a black person, nor for a black person over a "Ahmar" person, except through piety. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of God is the most pious of you.

Wa'Alaikum Assalaam! I'm having a wonderful day and insha'Allah you are too!

It has quite literally nothing to do with colour, and purely to do with culture and with the mutual familiarity and adaptation of you and others' practices and ideologies. At the mosque I go to, there are native Irish, Chechnyan, and other non-typically-associated-with-Islam ethnicities, and they don't stand out because colour is not something I or others I know tend to think of.

You'd have a much higher chance of standing out if you're taller than average, or if your moustache is exceptionally long, before your skin makes an impression.

Now I will say, I've come across countless people online who are genuinely racist but refuse to admit it, with racial preferences, and you ought to be thankful if someone makes it clear to you that they think in such a way, as it saves you the time of mistakenly associating yourself with them.

Good luck to you and your efforts, from your language and tone alone I suspect you're a kind soul with great character

I wouldn't worry about it too much.

1. You're 19, you are probably not going to get married any time soon. That means you have time to build yourself networks so people know you as a person, not just as "the white revert".

2. I'm in my 40's. Most of the girls you're going to look to marry will likely have parents in their 40's or early 50's. I was born and raised in the UK. When I am asked to consider someone for my daughter, race is going to be right down the bottom of the list. Any sensible parents wants to see...

• Is this guy a decent human being, what are his values like, is he caring
• Is he a practicing Muslim
• Does he have a decent income, does he have a place of his own
• What are his family like? What is their background?

I'd much rather my daughter marry someone outside of my race who has a decent family, rather than a Pakistani guy who has drug dealer cousins who he chills with.

Don't get it twisted, you will face challenges.

• Some people, especially those born abroad but living in western countries, are still racist.
• Are your family non Muslim? Most Muslim cultures have larger extended families and we mix with each other regularly on occasions. I'd be cautious about the impact of non Muslim relatives on my future grandkids.
• Some people will wonder if you're just in it for the girl, or if your sincere about your faith.
• People will wonder how much you really "get" their culture, how open you'll be with engaging with them. White Anglo Saxon culture (Brits, Canadians, Americans, Aussies and Kiwis) - you all have the "nuclear" family, we get the sense that beyond that, nobody else really matters. My kids and their cousins are inseparable.

Long story short, yeah you will face some challenges, but it's not the end of the world. If you raise your profile in your local community, become a social butterfly, let people know who you are, engage with your family so they're more aware of your religious values and boundaries and are comfortable respecting them, learn about the cultures you want to mix into (I guess in Australia its Lebanese or Desi). You'll give yourself a fighting chance.

Shouldn’t be talking to Muslim girls to begin with. Start with a mahram. Also, focus on yourself and establish yourself in the religion before you think about marriage. You’re young and have a lifetime ahead of you inshaAllah. May Allah make it easy on you.

I wish that this was my only problem..

dude im a israeli revert :((((((

11 dms hahaha - I think you said the magic word which is "white". I think that should calm your fear about not being able to get married because of your skin color. 

Try not to worry too much - there are so so many mixed marriages these days - I'm in one myself. You'll be fine, just be patient and you'll find the right woman. Feel free to DM me if you want to chat more about mixed marriages etc.

I know a Pakistani family who’s daughter married an Australian revert and has a son now and the family is lovely, why I’m saying this is because many south Asian families don’t allow their children to marry out of their ethnicities but it does depend on the family and also the women, it may be hard finding someone because you’re revert Australian but I know many girls now want to marry a white revert especially women of colour so don’t worry about not finishing someone because there is someone for you!!

Salam, I understand your point, but Islam has no space for racism. Your skin color is not a problem if someone fears Allah SWT, they will accept you for who you are. You’re only 19 years old, so I would recommend focusing on building yourself financially, mentally, and physically because marriage is both a responsibility and a duty. It is generally a bigger obligation on a man than on a woman.

Ohhh my shayla🥹 we would be besties if you lived in Georgia

Walikumsalaam, Subhanallah welcome to the deen Mash-Allah. I hope you are well.

You seem to be worrying too much about something that's not in your control. I can understand your anxiety but believe me the Muslim community in general is very welcoming. Believe you me people looking for future prospects for their daughters normally want a good Muslim. Your personality should shine through no matter what the colour of your skin is. There is a shortage of good Muslim men I feel it's like a needle in a hay stack, if you are truly believing Allah the Almighty will bless you with your future life partner. Surah An-Naba Verse 8 'And we created you in pairs'.

many won’t marry out of their culture even if the other person is similar colour. its more about culture and upbringing than colour, not that colour isn’t a factor to some.

don’t be hung up on it. try looking for other reverts, and just put yourself out there as looking for marriage with your local masjid. inshallah someone will come along.

Hey salam bro, don't worry about that. Some people definitely have those thoughts, but even more people want to marry white reverts to the point that it's almost fetishization. Those are the real people who you may want to be wary off.

Hey bro, Muslim from born and raised in Aus here. I don't think this is a problem you have to worry about to be completely honest. There's lots of reverts getting married to "born muslim" families for the most part people are open to it especially if there born and raised here and there families have been here for a few generations.

Waalaikum salam, hey my brother! I'm American and I am very white with a very traditional American name. I've managed to get married twice, I'm very happily married to my current wife and I have a beautiful daughter. Have trust in Allah and know you are still young, you have time to find someone.

Go for a white muslim girl then. You are not obliged to look for people from other cultures.

It's funny you say this since I just got off a call with my friend who was crying cause she wants to marry a white boy and can't find any Muslim ones

Sadly youll find the opposite, where quite a few fetishise white skin. May Allah make it easy to you find a pious and righteous wife.

Well don't worry about that you maybe someone else type.

Bro you are over thinking it to much, we are all humans no matter how you look. Just be yourself and keep moving forward.

Brother we only fear Allah. If you ask him for a righteous wife and you stay patient allah will provide inshallah. Take the fear out of your heart and place your trust in Allah.

I’m the meantime learn the religion to the best of your ability

Salamualkum

Walaikum musalam akhi,

Fellow Aussie here. I would be bold enough to say that your ethnicity is actually a bonus rather than a disadvantage. There are definitely many women/families that would prefer to be “within” their culture. But there are also many that would be accepting, especially with the blessings that come with marrying a revert Muslim and teaching them Islam.

You need to go through the proper channels though my brother. Tell your local mosque that you’re looking to get married and inshallah they may sort you out. If you’re in Sydney, I’d be happy to get you in contact with people I know.

Hope that helps 👍

There are australian muslims? You only want arabs or something? Idk why you say muslim girls like they cant be white

Eastern Europeans like Albanians or Bulgarians are filled with Muslims and are just as white as you are. Muslims come in all colours, shapes, and sizes lol. I have Muslim German, Filipino, Mexican, Japanese, and Indian friends. You’re not an outcast for being white

There are Muslims with white skin such as me. Maybe you are surrounded by Pakistanis, Indians etc.. no need to be concerned about it, your rizq and your nasib will come in time

I promise you a lot of us don’t care! Hope you find your princess one day 🥳

I’m a brown girl from the UK, married to a white revert. My family happily accepted my husband and he has integrated into our culture well. In shaa Allah you will be completely fine when you’re ready to get married.

LOLLLL OH BOY the Desi folks fein for white skin, you’ll be fine

Please try to meet a white revert like yourself. Intercultural marriages are difficult

Brother, regarding your edit… let’s keep our tongues clean and remember Allah even in moments of surprise… better to say something that brings reward instead of words tied to Jahannam

Im pretty sure majority of Muslim women prefer white men so you're fine

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