it’s the six year anniversary of my leg decided it didn’t want to be attached to me anymore after the Black Summer bushfires. In bed all day today, I don’t know how to deal with it to be honest.
this also marks six years since my mother dipped. Some virtual hugs would be appreciated
Sending many virtual hugs 🫂. That’s got to be an incredibly difficult day for you, I can’t imagine. I hope you find some little thing that brings you joy today, a small laugh, a distraction.
I'm so sorry for your losses. Be kind to yourself today and let yourself feel the feels. Wish I was there to fix you a nice dinner. Hugs and peace coming your way.
Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry today is a hard anniversary. If what you can do today is stay in bed until the emotional high water ebbs a little, that counts as getting through it.
I know how rough it is to live through a life altering injury and know your body is always going to be different than it was before. It's taken me a long time to rebuild my mental map of my own body and my confidence in my physical abilities, even after a less dramatic transformation. But you're not done changing, and you're not done growing. The good news is your integration into your body and your capabilities are very, very malleable with time and patience. I'm 10 years out from my own injury and my new normal still isn't static, either in terms of what I can do or of how it feels to inhabit my physical self.
This is a moment in time, and it's enough just to breathe until you're in another moment. You've made it this long, and I want to celebrate that for you.
sending you big long warm hugs 🫂 🫂 🫂 you've had to cope with a LOT.
i think this is the kind of occasion where it's completely appropriate to just bedrot and feel like shit. have a good cry, maybe even watch something that you know will make you cry to get in your feelings. or just wallow and do nothing. it's totally okay 🫂
maybe at the end of the day you could get some delivery of comforting food, have a hot bath or just sit under a hot shower for a while? really, if there's anything nice you can do for yourself - do it. you deserve that care and comfort. think of it as being from us as well 🫂
sending lots of love.
Sometimes you just need to take a day to be sad about things. You are allowed to grieve your losses. You are allowed to be upset and angry about your leg and your mother.
Just don’t forget to remind yourself of how far you’ve come in those six years. You’re still here, and you’re still an amazing person. You’re overcoming some very traumatic things that would be hard for anyone to endure. Give yourself some grace.
xoxo
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Dipped?
She didn't want a disabled kid.
Thanks for explaining that. Not that you asked but…something tells me she wasn’t up to the task of being a loving mother before your leg was amputated. So crummy. You deserve better! I hope you talk to yourself with love and compassion. Movies, music, yummy food, and a smart and funny dog or cat by your side! So say I.
Slang meaning left, kind of like "ducked out." Can mean on a small scale like "The party sucked so we dipped," or in a longer-term scale like how OP used it.
Baby Bear, it’s ok to take a day to be sad. You are amazing and deserve to be happy!
Oh duckling, I’m sending you the biggest of hugs. Spend today doing whatever you need to do…you have been so strong for the past 6 years and you deserve the chance to wallow a little (or a lot) if you need to.
Also, your mom sucks. I’m your mom now. I hope you wanted a 5 year old brother who loves Minecraft and Lego and gives great cuddles…we’re a package deal. Love you, duckling. 💜
Oh sweetheart, I’m so sorry. The anniversaries always just add a special sting, don’t they? Maybe try to start a new tradition for yourself? Me, I always go out for ice cream on my fuck-this-aversary - maybe you could do something similar? If nothing else, it is a reward to you FROM YOU for having made it AGAIN. I’m sending hugs!!
I’m so sorry you’re navigating this level of grief- that’s a lot. Please be gentle with yourself. Thinking of you.
Oh sweetheart. You've been dealt such a difficult hand in life, but you've got more courage, strength, and resilience in your pinky finger than most people have in their whole bodies. Your mom must have been totally off her rocker to bail on such an amazing kiddo. Take the time to rest and self-care today, but never forget how awesome you are. You have the kind of grit that studies show will take you so far in life!!! I'm proud of you already.
Everything you’re feeling is valid. And I hope you know we all support you in all of them. Come back and let us know how best to continue to support you in a way that you can feel 🩷
Sending you hugs. Sounds like today is a day for self care. I’m so sorry duckling.
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Oh sweetie, that's an awful lot to need to deal with! I'm so sorry. Lots of shoulder patting and internet grandma hugs.
Sending you big hugs. I know it’s not the same, but my daughter was born missing an arm. You are perfect the way you are. We are so much more than our bodies. I care for you and wish you nothing but the best.
Sending lots of love darling. You are so strong ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂 wish you well!!
Sending biggggg virtual hugs to you. This is a difficult anniversary and I'm sorry for the upset it's caused. I hope today was better.
Fellow amputee here. These days suck.