Hello!! Long story short, i'm 18 and signed my first lease in october. my landlord is also my roommate, he is around 35. early november me and him established a friendship, he asked me to come travel to his family during thanksgiving week. i said i could not afford a trip like that and pay my rent at the same time. He offered me only having to pay half rent in exchange for me coming on the trip. On the trip he's telling his family im his girlfriend in spanish not knowing i understood...i thought he was gay and in talks with our lawn guy honestly. I didn't bring that up to him, but throughout the course of the trip i did start to feel attracted to him. On my last "normal" night there i had my first few legal drinks and ended up sleeping with him. The next morning i made it clear that i was inebriated and thought the sexual relationship came too fast. He did not like that. The trip ends horribly of course, he abandoned me in a foreign place (a bad part of said foreign place mind you im an 85 pound young girl alone and not speaking the native language or having any defense tools ) I was 2.5 hours away from the nearest airport, there was no public transport and an uber was $500.
He comes home from the trip, we worked on the relationship we built. Over a very short period of time i found him manipulating, demeaning, and threatening me. I'm not sure if he thought because i was young and impressionable id just deal with it?? but i didnt. this led to him physically assaulting me. I offered to just get my deposit and leave without going through with the charges. Instead he posted an eviction notice on my door (not notarized and violating the florida weekend/holiday policy) the notice was for the other half of rent. the half he told me in person i would not have to pay if i went on the trip with him. I followed through with my charges.
I'm not sure what i can do legally, there is mold in the shower, no fire detector in my room, the garage door and my bedroom walls aren't fully sealed allowing pest in, he's disturbed my peace of living by banging on my door and not letting me leave the house multiples times. All of these issues have been brought up to him before, but none in writing. He's a compulsive liar, last night he claimed our other roommate (6'4 300 pound grown man) felt threatened by me and unsafe in a home with me. I got a video of said roommate saying that is not true and he in fact does feel safe near me. During our arguments i had a meltdown, i have autism and that tends to happen when someone is being violent towards me.... anyways at one point during this (after assaulting me) he took a video of me rocking back and forth on the floor while hitting my wrist together (stimming and breaking down) while he just keeps laughing at me and repeating "you know you're safe right?" and he's claiming that's why he feels unsafe with me, because i have "disturbing episodes " he went as far as saying he was having trouble renting the other rooms out due to these "episodes" to which i responded with his listing for the rooms posted that day where im described and clean, quiet, and respectful. so im not sure where these potential tenants might get the idea i have "episodes"???
Anyways im overall not sure what to do about literally any of this and i have never experienced something so bizarre. If anyone could help with advice, potential get back, ect. it would be highly appreciated.
p.s. i've read this man to filth, he's a covert narcissist through and through so words won't get me very far.
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You need to get out as fast as possible girl. I don’t mean to scare you at all but seriously this man sounds violent and prone to escalation. I don’t know what your financial situation is, but you need to pack and leave while he isn’t there. Find either a cheap hotel that does long term stays or a sublease or literally anything else. I saw in your comment that you’re trying to get a restraining order to remove him from the house, and I really don’t think that will be effective since he is the landlord. Please please please just pack and leave when he’s out of the house, do not tell him that you are leaving.