After 2 years of not using dating apps im on them again and I noticed a ex of mine has been looking at my profile hourly we parted on pretty bad terms but act civil if we ever cross paths in public but anytime i message him ask why he's creeping he deletes his profile for 2 or 3 days goes back to watching.
i understand if he was in incognito mode or just flat out block me but he wears the same style hair and looks the same im just lost what to do he never messages back but views my profile alot im unclear what exactly to do
If I block him he makes other profiles Messages leaves me on read If I try and ignore him he tap me but not say anything
It's a strange level of petty he has achieved we have not been in each other's life for 9 years so im surprised it's happening never had a situation like this so don't know how exactly to handle it
believe me there is MUCH POWER in just ignoring someone. blocking someone means they had an effect. unless they become arsey then yeah BLOCK. I once had guy constantly message me. just Hi..Hi...HI.. ignored him. Then realised when I scrolled up he must have done it about 20 times in a month with no response.. then i blocked him
Just make sure you turn distance off and maybe attempt to talk to him through a family member if it continues. It’s not normal behaviour and he obviously knows it’s upsetting you.
Your best bet is to leave his messages unread. Let him be the one to wonder. His behaviour is extremely annoying and I wouldn't even go so far to stage an intervention. Leave the messages unread.
That seems very weird. You could move to a blank profile and message guys you like with pics.
Not that contacting him is what id recommended, but there should be some way to initiate some sort of formal request to stop stalking you as that’s what it seems like, then possibly escalating it to actual legal/gardai. Maybe just politely tell him on his next account to stop interaction with you or Youll take it further, and of course report his accs to whatever app they’re on maybe.
Is it stalking if someone's inaction annoys you more than silent stalking? Watching? Cyber observing? Feels like the incorrect term
Seems regardless of how many times I report block or ignore him he appears like my own personal bloody Mary
I just don't get who has the time to dedicate to this type of thing
Well I would argue tapping your profile is a bit of an interaction but you’re right it’s not a super strong case. It’s still very creepy and unsettling tho. He may just also be going through some stuff. Just keep blocking and he may just get tired of it.
I just feel like if he focused on other aspects of his existence outside of me at this level he would be much happier though definitely made me swear off dating for a bit maybe just stick to platonic stuff instead just unsure what to do
If you know a friend of his you could ask them if they can host a friends intervention. It's obviously a mental health and public safety issue.
im guessing not all rosey out there in single land.
best response I heard a guy say to his ex who dumped him.
EX: "I made a terrible mistake"
MATE: "yes you did".... and blocked him :)