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Bless you. I’m so sorry you’ve been through all of that. You deserve to be loved and supported through difficult times. They don’t deserve you. It’s really their loss.
What you allow is how you’ll be treated. It’s clear his family doesn’t respect you and you are their willing scapegoat. With people like this you give them an inch they will take the mile and they will always chip away at you and your boundaries. So become iron clad and remember if she ever apologises (she will try change tactics get you to chase then rug sweeping firstly) it’s only empty words to get her what she wants.
These turds (spouse’s dna donors and proxies) don’t add anything to your life. You can drop the rope completely and separate yourself and your children.
A) Be glad he knows sees it.
B) Tell him you want spade from them bc of the behavior. Don't be around them unless he is home.
C) They have shown you who they are. Believe them. You know who they are and how they behave. Act accordingly. Protect yourself and your kids.
Why are you still spending time with them? Your husband needs to do a better job of protecting you. I'd go no contact until their behavior does a 180 and they grovel for your forgiveness.
I’m sorry you’ve had these experiences. Your in laws are clearly self-centered and emotionally immature. Their behavior says everything about them and nothing about you. Only deeply unhappy people who (deep down) hate themselves treat others so poorly.
Wow you really stuck it out. I hope you immediately stop giving a single damn about her opinions or existence (I know that’s really hard, I’m trying to send a blessing!). I’m so glad your husband finally woke up.
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Bless you. I’m so sorry you’ve been through all of that. You deserve to be loved and supported through difficult times. They don’t deserve you. It’s really their loss.
What you allow is how you’ll be treated. It’s clear his family doesn’t respect you and you are their willing scapegoat. With people like this you give them an inch they will take the mile and they will always chip away at you and your boundaries. So become iron clad and remember if she ever apologises (she will try change tactics get you to chase then rug sweeping firstly) it’s only empty words to get her what she wants.
These turds (spouse’s dna donors and proxies) don’t add anything to your life. You can drop the rope completely and separate yourself and your children.
I was holding my breath but glad your spouse has grown and become supportive and protective of you and your relationship.
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A) Be glad he knows sees it. B) Tell him you want spade from them bc of the behavior. Don't be around them unless he is home. C) They have shown you who they are. Believe them. You know who they are and how they behave. Act accordingly. Protect yourself and your kids.
Why are you still spending time with them? Your husband needs to do a better job of protecting you. I'd go no contact until their behavior does a 180 and they grovel for your forgiveness.
I’m sorry you’ve had these experiences. Your in laws are clearly self-centered and emotionally immature. Their behavior says everything about them and nothing about you. Only deeply unhappy people who (deep down) hate themselves treat others so poorly.
Wow you really stuck it out. I hope you immediately stop giving a single damn about her opinions or existence (I know that’s really hard, I’m trying to send a blessing!). I’m so glad your husband finally woke up.