I’m pro revenge honestly, in cases where I’ve been badly screwed over. If I have an opportunity to get them back I will.
It restores my sense of balance, and I hope it makes them think twice next time. I hate the idea of people getting away with nasty/selfish/abusive etc. behaviour.
Same! Why should they get away with what they did while I’m told to walk away? No. I will do freely just as they did. I will do what will make me feel better then never think of it again.
I personally don’t care about “levels” or being at a certain place (ie being the bigger person). It’s important to deal with it how I see fit and in a way that makes me feel better. They freely made their choice toward me, they don’t get to choose the consequence.
Wait until they have done the same thing to someone else and then go for the revenge, it puts distance between you and them and can keep you off their radar, I've waited years to get back at people. Then I call it good.
I’m pro revenge honestly, in cases where I’ve been badly screwed over. If I have an opportunity to get them back I will.
It restores my sense of balance, and I hope it makes them think twice next time. I hate the idea of people getting away with nasty/selfish/abusive etc. behaviour.
Same! Why should they get away with what they did while I’m told to walk away? No. I will do freely just as they did. I will do what will make me feel better then never think of it again.
Yeah, revenge hits like a shot of dopamine, but the pain’s deeper than a quick chemical rush.
Same reason hitting someone who hit you doesn't heal your bruise.
We have to seek peace. If a situation allows someone to steal the peace you have in your soul it's not worth it. Let it go.
Also, why or how can it provide relief?
Depends what sort of revenge. If it’s petty, you are just lowering yourself to their level.
If it’s something based on morals/values- then you may be preventing them from doing it again to hurt others.
I personally don’t care about “levels” or being at a certain place (ie being the bigger person). It’s important to deal with it how I see fit and in a way that makes me feel better. They freely made their choice toward me, they don’t get to choose the consequence.
Anger or hate come from the root emotion of fear. What is it that you are/ were afraid of? Confront that. Make peace with that and you'll be good.
It is for me. I deal with it then move on never thinking of it again
Dopamine from revenge fades fast, the damage you carry doesn’t
Its never enough however if you dont attempt revenge, it will haunt your mind forever.
Wait until they have done the same thing to someone else and then go for the revenge, it puts distance between you and them and can keep you off their radar, I've waited years to get back at people. Then I call it good.
To deal with your emotional pain it is best to forgive them. Anger and bitterness over them will make you feel worse.
Because revenge fixes the plot, not the trauma. Your brain’s like, “Great, we did the thing… now why do I still feel terrible?”