So the title is the brief question for this very large problem.

Background. Last year a court case involved siblings. The two opposing siblings used relationships with the courts and law enforcement to cover up some serious abuse of another family member. My spouse was 100% on the right side of this. The outcome of course went to the evil side. This began the concerns of my spouse that the siblings or the courts were going to try to put them away. Then gradually my spouse began to see things that they reported to me as nefarious. New neighbors moved in across the street from the state in which the court case was in. They are there to watch them. The neighbors are being paid to watch them in the store. The employees of the store are acting to get reactions out of me. They say veiled things that are meant directly to intimidate me as threats etc. An occurrence that occurred with the new neighbors resulted in a conversation that was then repeated basically verbatim by the neighbor behind us. I must confront said neighbor for their lies and investigate their story or I don’t care about them. It’s all very confusing to me because when all of these situations are looked at for what they are they seem to be very innocuous. “Walkers” come down the street stealing our Wi-Fi every time we change the password. All our devices are hacked. I will say that there was a creepy occurrence during the court case and an iCloud account that caused me concern. That case has been over for more than a year now. I have bought endless amounts of equipment to ensure my spouse has evidence of harassment and stalking yet every time it is reported to me the camera was not on. I am a believer that hearsay evidence is just worthless and a video is factual. I do not doubt that my spouse sees and feels these things. Every trip or interaction with people results in suspicion of everyone. Doctor’s offices are conspiring to put “me” away. The cops are investigating me. Clerks at the counters have been paid to get a reaction to put “me” away. It’s all very depressing for me as a spouse. I urge calm and not to do things which will certainly give the stalkers exactly what they want if that is truly what is going on here. Then I am accused of orchestrating the stalk because I don’t want them to take action. I love my spouse very much. I still see what I fell in love with inside. It is just getting to be too much. I can’t plan anything for fear my spouse will accuse me of planning something nefarious to admit them to psych or get them arrested or other actions that would harm them. I have told them I would polygraph but if I call the tech I have set it up to be in my favor. My spouse won’t make an appointment. I do not believe that it would change anything once the results prove no deception. There is sooooo much more to the story that could write for days.

How do I keep supporting without losing myself in the process. This is affecting our future. The accusations are horrific and it is making me bitter. I can’t talk to anyone about this because anyone I talk to are bad actors that work for the courts. I am afraid the only thing left for me to do is walk away. Is there anything that I can do short of leveling false accusations on others or committing crimes in order to help my spouse?

Thanks for listening.