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I've really never seen someone turn a micro aggression into "privilege". Truly crazy.
Ironically, she was responding to me saying that white women love to reduce social justice and intersectionality to being strictly about gender with things like race, class, etc being "incidental".
She has like... Sought out all of my posts on this topic to comment saying similarly crazy shit.
Because I actually do my job (and have thee most experience doing it), I often have to be the "13th man", having to say, "if we do this, then that will happen", I am labeled as "confrontational". So I'm confrontational because I ask questions and try to ensure we are following procedures? Foh, now I sit back and say nothing. My lack of participation is now an issue. There is no safe space for us, public or private sector.
This is my typical experience with workplaces. I've been reprimanded multiple times for being discouraged during training, read saying I don't feel prepared after getting no training. I have determined that the correct answer is to know the job perfectly on your first day, and never have an attitude other than aggressive positivity.
Now here is the sickest part of this story and one you may not be privy to.......after you have asked the questions and pointed out how their plans don't make sense, they reprimand you, then do the dumb plan anyway and fail....fast forward a year or two then they hire me ,a business consultant, to tell them the exact same thing you did years ago before they cost the company millions of dollars but I also have to create a bunch of new procedures to fix the damage they did with their dumb decisions. And unfortunately that trickles down to you the person who tried to save the idiots all of this trouble in the first place.
There's a white lady at my job who is loud, swears constantly, whiny, has had emotional outbursts, is impatient, and struggles to keep up with her workload. She has been met with nothing but unwavering support from the rest of the colleagues in the office. I'm a black man and I know I wouldn't be able to get away with 1/4 of what she does.
Meanwhile the black women in my office are.... wait a minute. There are actually no black women in my department because the entire full-time staff is only 5-6% black.
crusty white people always get away with being the rudest most dislikeable people known to man but a black/brown person is even semi-firm in their tone people get so. fucking. mad.
I once worked in an office where black women made up about 75% of the workforce, so 100+ black women, so a fair representation. And my opinion is that American black women are like any other type of person.. all individuals.
My first thought when I read this, as a white person, was ok, if the poster wants to treat this as a fact (lmao), first we have to ascertain how many black people are hired in these offices to begin with.
Nah, this seemed to be a white women who thought it was racist when I talked about white women as a group of people with similarities between them. This was after she complained that it isn't right to say that some people have it harder than others.
I honestly hate how people think there are studies that prove their bogus assertions but it's really just them not being able to fucking comprehend what they're reading. I have a journalism degree but work in marketing now, and when I was a page designer at the local newspaper I had to come up with the headlines. It honestly sucked so bad because you needed to balance being brief and catchy without being misleading since most people will only read the headline. We'd still get calls, emails, or FB comments from people complaining and half the time it was because they read it wrong, so I'm just sitting there trying not to rip my face off while they're basically telling me I'm a POS for not writing at a goddamn 2nd grade level. Thoughts and prayers ig. 😭
A friend of mine who's a black woman once made a face(barely) in the opening seminar of our masters program when the all white woman leadership talked about POC and black folks, and they straight up had an entire hour long meeting about it and cancelled the class early to talk to her to ensure she wasn't mad.
The world this person lives in must be pretty fucking magical.
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LOL - black women get reported for emails that are written too strongly everyday. Myself included.
I've really never seen someone turn a micro aggression into "privilege". Truly crazy.
Ironically, she was responding to me saying that white women love to reduce social justice and intersectionality to being strictly about gender with things like race, class, etc being "incidental".
She has like... Sought out all of my posts on this topic to comment saying similarly crazy shit.
I've been fired over it.
Same. Then I reported them and got a payout.
Because I actually do my job (and have thee most experience doing it), I often have to be the "13th man", having to say, "if we do this, then that will happen", I am labeled as "confrontational". So I'm confrontational because I ask questions and try to ensure we are following procedures? Foh, now I sit back and say nothing. My lack of participation is now an issue. There is no safe space for us, public or private sector.
Heh what they expect you to do is participate but in a positive manner only. It's stupid but it's the game they want to play.
Usually my go to :
Does it need to be said ?
Does it have to be right now ?
Does it have to be me who says it ?
This is my typical experience with workplaces. I've been reprimanded multiple times for being discouraged during training, read saying I don't feel prepared after getting no training. I have determined that the correct answer is to know the job perfectly on your first day, and never have an attitude other than aggressive positivity.
Now here is the sickest part of this story and one you may not be privy to.......after you have asked the questions and pointed out how their plans don't make sense, they reprimand you, then do the dumb plan anyway and fail....fast forward a year or two then they hire me ,a business consultant, to tell them the exact same thing you did years ago before they cost the company millions of dollars but I also have to create a bunch of new procedures to fix the damage they did with their dumb decisions. And unfortunately that trickles down to you the person who tried to save the idiots all of this trouble in the first place.
Yep, that's why black women are at the top of every white collar business, being paid all the money.
That's why we have so many black female CEOs. Right?
People will really just say random shit.
Oh, its not random at all!
There's a white lady at my job who is loud, swears constantly, whiny, has had emotional outbursts, is impatient, and struggles to keep up with her workload. She has been met with nothing but unwavering support from the rest of the colleagues in the office. I'm a black man and I know I wouldn't be able to get away with 1/4 of what she does.
Meanwhile the black women in my office are.... wait a minute. There are actually no black women in my department because the entire full-time staff is only 5-6% black.
It legit took me until my 30s to have more than one black coworker.
crusty white people always get away with being the rudest most dislikeable people known to man but a black/brown person is even semi-firm in their tone people get so. fucking. mad.
I once worked in an office where black women made up about 75% of the workforce, so 100+ black women, so a fair representation. And my opinion is that American black women are like any other type of person.. all individuals.
My first thought when I read this, as a white person, was ok, if the poster wants to treat this as a fact (lmao), first we have to ascertain how many black people are hired in these offices to begin with.
“The result is quantifiable privilege, trust me bro”
Honestly my brain had turned off so hard at that point I didn't even see that.
This person has never heard of the angry black woman stereotype?
My best guess is she implicitly believes the stereotype, and thinks that black women "get away with it" somehow? I truly couldn't tell you.
I guess she, as a white woman wants to have free reign with acting like a entitled karen and getting away with it without being called out?
"The traits that white women are typically criticized for, like assertiveness, are not criticized in black women."
Other way around.
BW are also criticized for being introverted
Right? Those are some serious mental gymnastics.
I guarantee the person who wrote this is a white guy who watches Fox News and has never had an honest conversation with any woman of any color.
Nah, this seemed to be a white women who thought it was racist when I talked about white women as a group of people with similarities between them. This was after she complained that it isn't right to say that some people have it harder than others.
I thought I've seen all the ways a person can be racist but turns out there's always another way
As a white woman who works in an office... What? Idk how the fuck anyone could come up with this, it simply isn't true?
This woman is claiming there is some study that "proves" this assertion, which is not how studies work nor is it... True. Haha
I honestly hate how people think there are studies that prove their bogus assertions but it's really just them not being able to fucking comprehend what they're reading. I have a journalism degree but work in marketing now, and when I was a page designer at the local newspaper I had to come up with the headlines. It honestly sucked so bad because you needed to balance being brief and catchy without being misleading since most people will only read the headline. We'd still get calls, emails, or FB comments from people complaining and half the time it was because they read it wrong, so I'm just sitting there trying not to rip my face off while they're basically telling me I'm a POS for not writing at a goddamn 2nd grade level. Thoughts and prayers ig. 😭
Lmao black women are loads and unfairly criticized for being aggressive even when they aren’t…
A friend of mine who's a black woman once made a face(barely) in the opening seminar of our masters program when the all white woman leadership talked about POC and black folks, and they straight up had an entire hour long meeting about it and cancelled the class early to talk to her to ensure she wasn't mad.
The world this person lives in must be pretty fucking magical.
My menopausal white housewives I work with haven't got the memo on this, they refer to the only two black women in the office as aggressive every day