So I live on the other side of the world from my home city. Yesterday I was feeling really homesick and genuinely considering to move back. i've been living abroad for 17 years, but yesterday started to browse my home city apartment rentals for the first time.
Just as I was getting more and more convinced it's the right move, i checked facebook and right at the same moment my estranged family member reached out, after 5 years of no contact, to say my grandmother wants to talk to me. They don't miss me, they just want their pawn to control back and they hate my independence. Their message send me into fight or flight and rage how they pretend to care, when they never really did.
Anyways just like that I was back in reality, remembering why i live here and grateful to my guardian angel for this crazy serendipitous event that made me realize how happy and free i am here. It's crazy that these two very unlikely events happened exactly at the same time, literal minutes apart.
There is absolutely no doubt in my head that someone is here and looking out for me to not make totally stupid decisions and im so grateful to them.
There are no coincidences. Your guides have your back!
Doesn't matter if they are family, if they are toxic, cut them off from your life.
You'll be better long term. 🙂
thank you, i totally agree. i've been living without them for 5 years and even though it was tough being completely alone, it's been the very best years of my life. unfortunately their abuse left me also disabled, so i do everything 50 times slower then healthy folks.
however i did everything i wanted including buying motorcycle, living alone, learning woodworking, pottery and sewing, making friends, going to indie live shows, started my own business.
escaping toxic family dynamic is like finally coming to a cosy home after years in a snowy tent without a blanket.
wow Im so happy for you that you went full independent! sound like things really worked out for you. I come from an abusive family as well. My guardian angel/guides have literally saved my life on a few occasions and def helped me while I was a kid in an abusive home. I see an abusive childhood as a giant growth opportunity of awareness, perhaps to accelerate something.
It's very sad how people generally treat others very poorly, but I'm glad that, through all the pain you went through, difficulties, changes, etc, you got your life on track and we could even say, successful.
Much love to you and may your life just continue to get better!
Is she dying?
good question, they never mentioned anyone being sick or dying, so i dont think so. probably just wants a power trip.
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haha i'd take them. i also high fived the air around me, just in case.
This was a good post Op, thanks for the reminder.
Don't look back. Stay in the now. Do you see what is up there over the horizon? Your future! Take it, it's yours!
awe thank you so much, that gave me good feels. im protecting my peace literally at all costs. Turns out there are far worse things then being alone.
There definitely is! There's always the nostalgia that tries to bring us back. Im susceptible to it, but it is not our life anymore. Good luck!
thank you for saying that, good luck on your journey through the universe as well. humaning is so exquisitely beautiful and painful at times.
Confused, so are you at least going to call your Grandma? And good on you for being strong and independent and freeing yourself from toxicity.
thank you. the last time i called grandma during covid, she just berated me, constantly insulting me how worthless and incapable i am and how i would be better if i moved back to the hometown, so there is no chance in hell im speaking to any of these people ever again.
my family is just one big manipulative mess, while i actually managed to build safe and loving life for myself. none of that i could achieve if i stayed in touch with my family.