My family is pathologically absent and has been for my entire life. Recently I've been starting to share more about what i've been going through over the past year, and they've reacted by withdrawing even more.
Every year I am responsible for initiating the Christmas messages. Sometimes they reply on the day, sometimes the day after. This year I decided to give them the chance.
No messages. Nothing from my mum, my dad, my sister.
I have never felt so empty and alone.
I just want to send a message of love and support to everyone out there whose Christmas isn't so merry. We can get through this.
Merry Christmas to you! I am in the exact same boat as you. I am no expert but I just want to provide A reminder that you are worthy of the love and effort you put into your relationships. If you continue to not get any effort reciprocated that is a reflection of them, not you. I hope you have been able to find some comfort today, you are truely not alone 🩷
"Pathologically absent" is a great way to describe it. I'm sitting here at work (I work holidays on purpose) telling myself I'm halfway there. Christmas eve down; Christmas day to go.
Hugs to you my cyber friend from someone who understands all too well.
I feel you. I’m not quite to estrangement yet with my mom, but I’m low contact.
However, I had major surgery yesterday with rods implanted. She never called me. I called her last night at 8. No call back until 10 am this morning. She claimed she couldn’t talk because she was at a neighborhood white elephant party.
Someone could have been calling her to say I’m dead and she just didn’t care.
Sending lots of hugs. It’s tough.
Wow. I'm so sorry. Hugs. Heal well 🙏
Same. That why I ain’t reciprocating this year. They don’t even call to check up on me ever!!!! And I been going through it this year.
you don’t deserve to be stuck in a room full of people that don’t give you love that nurtures your soul 🩷 merry christmas, sending u so much love
Merry Christmas to you! Give yourself some love and care that you deserve on this difficult day.
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My NC mum didn’t msg me for Xmas either - I kinda expected it but at the same time I kinda had hope too that she had a little bit of respect and decency.
You have a very merry Christmas and a great 2026!