Struggling to find suitable housing in the short term. Any advice? Have any of you successfully navigated the moving process with young kids while they share 2 different homes?
Long story short… two young kids in elementary school, ex is in marital home and she wants to keep it (and I want my kids to remain in school system) but I cannot afford to buy in that town. She is going to forfeit what she would have been entitled to from my retirement to buy me out of the house. Asset swap essentially. 50/50 custody, struggling to find the right balance between being close enough to provide for transportation w school/ extracurricular etx and also being able to afford a 3br apt (high cost of living Northeast US).
Do 2br if you have to kids can room for a bit until you can save enough for a bigger place. That’s my plan right now
Second this, it's what I'm doing as well.
Agreed. My son doesn't feel comfortable staying over yet, but I'm hoping that'll change eventually and so it's there when he's ready. And, where I live, I pay about the same for a 2 bedroom in a neighborhood as the studio I had Downtown.
I’m living in an apartment walkable to house and school in the same neighborhood while I figure out next steps. Kids are bunking up and they think it’s fun. It’s not ideal for me long term but it’s been a great transition for the kids. For now, I think staying in the neighborhood is good for the kids but I’m not a picky person on living arrangements.
I understand your predicament, I had the same type of situation. So, in the short term, I rented until I found what I could afford to buy, but that took like around 4 years, and by that time I had met and was living with my late wife and she also helped with the home payments, which I was so lucky as I was in a bit of a hole, financial, as I had sort of given up, but when I met my late wife she showed me what true love was unlike my EX. So what I'm trying to say is it takes time, and you HAVE to plan, and once you set a course, stick to it as best you can, I know life is like you may find new employment or what ever but have a goal and start, as they say any great journey starts with the first step, then just taking the next step. I know it's hard mentally and financially in a divorce, but just keep the kids as the centre of your universe, and when you're with them, always be with them. Many people forget that you have to remember that young kids. They are confused and are concerned, so being there for them lessens that worry they have, so I hope everything works out for you, I know my post may not be what you are looking for, but knowing there are others out there will make it a bit easier for you in the next few weeks and months.