I used to think being single automatically meant I was missing something or doing something wrong.
But honestly lately it just feels… quieter.
Not lonely quiet. Just no background stress. No constant adjusting. No low-grade tension I didn’t realize I was carrying.
I eat what I want, watch what I want, sleep when I want. I don’t have to explain why I need space or why I don’t feel like talking. I don’t have to manage someone else’s mood on top of my own.
I still like people. I’m not anti-relationship. I’m not swearing off love forever or whatever people assume.
I’m just more aware now that being partnered doesn’t automatically mean being supported. Sometimes it just means more work.
Being single feels neutral in a good way. Like I finally get to exist without constantly negotiating myself.
If someone fits into my life later, great. If not, I’m still okay. That part surprised me.
Good on you! I'm now late in life and solitary for a long time due to medical circumstance and necessity, but you've said it all quite well, and I am very comfortable on my own.
Couldn't do it. No way.
Thank you, I really appreciate that. The “not managing someone else’s mood” part was a big realization for me. Did it take you a while to get comfortable being on your own, or did it come naturally over time?
You are welcome.
Yes, it did take some time to get used to being sidelined, but the reduction in overall emotional pain was worth it. Once I realized how much better it was to not have so much constant input, I realized this was my life and I quite enjoy it.
I wish you well.