It's less about the sex, it's more about the whole other person. I'm not interested in dealing with a man and when I can do it better myself anyway.

I never cared for it that much and that’s only solidified as I’ve gotten older haha

I've never cared less.

my sex drive isn't as intense as it used to be which is nice actually. But my sex life is better than ever and i care about it very much. My husband and I have put a ton of work into having the quality of connection that we have. I'd take it over my hornier younger years any day.

For me being older = less self conscious and know my body better which means more adventurous, unapologetic pleasure.

Not really. Plus im not usually a fan of the people that sex is attached to

Don’t know how old your are nor what you consider older. I (71f) was in my prime 30s -50s.

Yes me too

I’ve always been a go getter. I guess I care more as I age because it happens less often? What else you gonna do for fun? Huh-Where’d my husband go?… 🤣

I'm the opposite but it's because it took me years.

i actually thought i was asexual for like 3 years before meeting my partner……. he has helped me dispel any and every thought of that matter lol

Yeah I like it a lot at 34 because I know what I like and I know how to communicate to my husband what I like. I used to be more reserved about it earlier in our relationship. But if I’m stressed or anxious during a given week, my libido goes down the tubes. That said, I don’t get horny to the point of intrusive thoughts interfering with my work like I did in high school and college.

Most of the "underwhelming" posts come from people who had bad first times.

I care less as I get older. Its just not important.

Same here, it's wild!