With this dress, shoes, purse, and jewelry she will need to get her hair done! On Dec. 20th, so it’s fresh for the show of course! ;) Just a simple ashy butter blonde balayage with a shadow root. She has been box dying her hair black for YEARS, but she should be quick. We can squeeze her in?
"Has anyone seen my diadema? I'm pretty sure It was stored in my dressing. Anyways, does anyone have nice jewelry set they don't want anymore and that I could borrow? No cheap Sephora stuff please. I was thinking maybe white gold, or brushed Silver"
I am both annoyed at confused at the "Hehe, I'm kidding.... Or am I? Lol" I've never wanted to both shake some sense into, while punching someone simultaneously before. But here we are.
...and that's why it keeps happening. All those folks who want to pat themselves on the back for doing a "good deed" are the ones who fuel all the scammers and beggars out there.
I like how she even said "before I buy a dress," like you're admitting that you have the ability to buy one, you're just trying to get it for free first. Crazy.
To be fair, I see that language a lot on Buy Nothing groups. The ethos of the group is so reuse and cut back on consumerism, so it's not always "I can't afford this" just "looking to see if anyone has one before I buy new". You don't have to be in financial need to request stuff from the group.
But they took donations to buy ballet tickets with -- they thanked "everyone who donated" or something. That's how I interpreted it, anyway. Multiple people couldn't have donated one set of tickets. Unless I guess they went the extra step, pooled their money and one person bought and sent the tickets?
> Buy Nothing. You're not even allowed to offer payment
Sorry I see you meant 'not allowed to buy things from members,' but, I was thinking of sending people money, being the equivalent.
I don't understand the need for a dress. I just saw Nutcracker and wore a simple Skirt, top and heeled sandals. Also the cheap seats for Ballet Arizona are $40. I have no clue what I paid but I am a season ticket holder and bought my tickets in June or July. Now I do matinee performances because I have a kid but still. I also saw Sleeping Beauty in jeans and a nice shirt. You don't need a new dress to see a ballet.
Yeah, this one is weird. It's been running for over a hundred years? "I've been wanting to go since--" Well, what were you doing in 2012. Or was I? Hehe.
We actually have a children book called that in the US! The full saying is “if you give a mouse a cookie, he’ll ask for a glass of milk.” The book is about the mouse asking a young boy for more and more things, it’s very funny and wholesome.
Random tangent, but I just remembered an old memory from pre-K about that book! We had a guest come in to read the book to us, but he had made little miniatures of everything in the book to pass around as he read. It was absolutely adorable, I think the little mouse was needle felted. So cute.
We also say that here! But "give a mouse a cookie" is actually a children's book series where no matter what you give the mouse, he'll want something else and more
The author is Laura Numeroff. There are a lot of books in the series. If you give a pig a pancake, If you give a moose a muffin, if you give a dog a donut, etc.
You don't understand the side eye I'm giving you for this. Us Americans say it too, but we have inches. Yes, we got it from you guys, but the point remains: if you're going to make fun of the imperial system, it's only right that you give up your idioms. Speak proper English, heathen.
I think I’ve read this book as a kid, except it was called “If You Give a Mouse a Cookie.” I was also fond of the sequel, “If You Give a Moose a Muffin” as well.
I'm wondering when she will be begging for someone to be her free Uber to and from the ballet. You have to wait there the entire time she is watching the ballet, though.
Not saying I’m Nostradamus, but next will be needing nice shoes and a dinner before. Perhaps a luxury Uber too, but perhaps she already has a limo lined up.
This. There is nothing choosing here at all.
They aren't complaining the seats aren't good enough. They aren't turning up their nose at a decent dress. They're just asking for stuff.
Maybe I’m weird but I don’t see anything wrong with asking if anyone has a dress she can wear.
There are so many dresses that just sit in people’s closet… especially holiday dresses worn once
Wish I was lucky for someone to just give tickets. I joked with my adult kids that they could get me Chief tickets for Christmas I knew nobody could afford them nor couldn’t we afford the trip. But it would have been an amazing experience.
It is required that you mark out the username on these posts? I'd call her out if she's constantly begging for things she admits to being able to buy herself.
Okay. I guess I see No Buy groups from the lens of reducing waste and consumption, rather than getting things free. If she borrows a dress, rather than buying, then it's a win. I'll keep serial begging in mind anyway.
Borrowing the dress, or looking for one someone no longer needs, is fine under No Buy. But I highly doubt someone just happened to have two extra performance tickets laying around waiting for her.
I'm just confused as to why if this is an adult she is also ok with a girl's size 12/14. Does she regularly do this lol? I've never even thought of looking at kids clothes for myself as an adult lol. The styles and fits are different.
I can imagine the next post if someone gets her a dress:
"Omg..tq so much! But I was thinking..I need some nice shoes to go with this dress..anyone..bla bla" 😂
“I could use a nice handbag, maybe a Chanel or a Fendi?”
It's for the Nutcracker, honey. Birkin or nothing!!
NEXT
Ty for reminding me of church lady! Not sure a fleet of limos would have made her happy.
Limos cost money! Needs to be free! NEXT!
And, of course she'll need jewelry! Diamonds please!
With this dress, shoes, purse, and jewelry she will need to get her hair done! On Dec. 20th, so it’s fresh for the show of course! ;) Just a simple ashy butter blonde balayage with a shadow root. She has been box dying her hair black for YEARS, but she should be quick. We can squeeze her in?
"Has anyone seen my diadema? I'm pretty sure It was stored in my dressing. Anyways, does anyone have nice jewelry set they don't want anymore and that I could borrow? No cheap Sephora stuff please. I was thinking maybe white gold, or brushed Silver"
Need a nice car to see the show with too.
If you give a mouse a cookie
I am both annoyed at confused at the "Hehe, I'm kidding.... Or am I? Lol" I've never wanted to both shake some sense into, while punching someone simultaneously before. But here we are.
And the worst part is, it worked!
...and that's why it keeps happening. All those folks who want to pat themselves on the back for doing a "good deed" are the ones who fuel all the scammers and beggars out there.
"I'm kidding unless someone is going to do it"
That nonsense is usually in texts from creepy guys trying to flirt.
I like how she even said "before I buy a dress," like you're admitting that you have the ability to buy one, you're just trying to get it for free first. Crazy.
It’s probably a Buy Nothing Group. You’re not even allowed to offer payment if it is.
Sure, but that's irrelevant. Obviously she meant "before I buy one at the store or online," she wasn't going to buy a dress from the group.
To be fair, I see that language a lot on Buy Nothing groups. The ethos of the group is so reuse and cut back on consumerism, so it's not always "I can't afford this" just "looking to see if anyone has one before I buy new". You don't have to be in financial need to request stuff from the group.
Exactly, the groups aren’t only for people who can’t afford something. They’re to reduce consumerism.
But they took donations to buy ballet tickets with -- they thanked "everyone who donated" or something. That's how I interpreted it, anyway. Multiple people couldn't have donated one set of tickets. Unless I guess they went the extra step, pooled their money and one person bought and sent the tickets?
> Buy Nothing. You're not even allowed to offer payment
Sorry I see you meant 'not allowed to buy things from members,' but, I was thinking of sending people money, being the equivalent.
I don't understand the need for a dress. I just saw Nutcracker and wore a simple Skirt, top and heeled sandals. Also the cheap seats for Ballet Arizona are $40. I have no clue what I paid but I am a season ticket holder and bought my tickets in June or July. Now I do matinee performances because I have a kid but still. I also saw Sleeping Beauty in jeans and a nice shirt. You don't need a new dress to see a ballet.
Just so we’re clear, they probably had a decade or more to plan and save to buy tickets for a show that happens every year for the holidays.
Yeah, this one is weird. It's been running for over a hundred years? "I've been wanting to go since--" Well, what were you doing in 2012. Or was I? Hehe.
Next is asking someone to pick her up after the show!
Don’t forget a gift card to a nice restaurant for dinner and drinks afterwards.
And later for a plan B pill
Are you kidding? You know how much free shit you can get with a baby? Plan A all the way.
Nothing says the holidays like a good old fashioned cream pie.
Start cracking those nuts fellas, my oven is ready.
She's going to need a free meal before or after the show...
Wait - is “give a mouse a cookie” a real expression? In the UK we’d say if you give someone an inch, they’ll take a mile.
It’s a little book — if you give a mouse a cookie, he’ll ask for a glass of milk
We actually have a children book called that in the US! The full saying is “if you give a mouse a cookie, he’ll ask for a glass of milk.” The book is about the mouse asking a young boy for more and more things, it’s very funny and wholesome.
The best joke is that at the end he needs a cookie to go with his second glass of milk.
Honestly? Same haha
Random tangent, but I just remembered an old memory from pre-K about that book! We had a guest come in to read the book to us, but he had made little miniatures of everything in the book to pass around as he read. It was absolutely adorable, I think the little mouse was needle felted. So cute.
Whaaaat that’s so cool!
Haha that’s cool! I didn’t know there were variations on common expressions that meant the same thing. I’ve never heard the mouse one before!
It’s a popular children’s book where it keeps asking for more stuff one it gets the cookie (like milk for the cookie, etc).
We also say that here! But "give a mouse a cookie" is actually a children's book series where no matter what you give the mouse, he'll want something else and more
Thanks!!
But he also cleans the entire house. I'd be happy to give a mouse a cookie, glass of milk, crayons, and scotch tape for that cleaning.
The author is Laura Numeroff. There are a lot of books in the series. If you give a pig a pancake, If you give a moose a muffin, if you give a dog a donut, etc.
I had a dog once that would never have made it as a drug sniffing dog but if you had a donut on you at any point in the past 24 hours he knew
Wouldn’t it be a meter in the UK?
I assume the phrase predates the widespread use of metric! Plus - a metre? I’m not made of inches!
The saying is “give an inch, take a mile” not just in UK. And it would make more sense to say centimetre as a metre is quite long!
Where do you think the Imperial system started?
I think "The Giving Tree" is along the same lines. Published October 7, 1964.
"If You Give a Mouse a Cookie" was published May 9, 1985.
I got curious.
You don't understand the side eye I'm giving you for this. Us Americans say it too, but we have inches. Yes, we got it from you guys, but the point remains: if you're going to make fun of the imperial system, it's only right that you give up your idioms. Speak proper English, heathen.
Give Americans an inch and they’ll take the moral high ground…
That's right!
(Kinda cracking up over here to find out I got downvoted so hard. Did people really think I was serious?)
Well at least they didn't ask for a ride
Yet.....
Pay for my Uber round trip pleeeeze
That's odd. I saw The Nutcracker performed by The Boston Ballet at the Orpheum on a school field trip and we all just wore regular school clothes.
Yeah there is no need to get all dressed up 😅
FYI Holiday shows like The Nutcracker are.typically the most expensive show a theater performs all year
I think I’ve read this book as a kid, except it was called “If You Give a Mouse a Cookie.” I was also fond of the sequel, “If You Give a Moose a Muffin” as well.
I'm wondering when she will be begging for someone to be her free Uber to and from the ballet. You have to wait there the entire time she is watching the ballet, though.
The concept of work to get things that you want is dying apparently 🤦♀️
Not saying I’m Nostradamus, but next will be needing nice shoes and a dinner before. Perhaps a luxury Uber too, but perhaps she already has a limo lined up.
Not a choosing beggar, just a beggar. A choosing beggar would turn down tickets that weren’t what they deemed good enough or on the wrong night.
This. There is nothing choosing here at all. They aren't complaining the seats aren't good enough. They aren't turning up their nose at a decent dress. They're just asking for stuff.
Maybe I’m weird but I don’t see anything wrong with asking if anyone has a dress she can wear. There are so many dresses that just sit in people’s closet… especially holiday dresses worn once
I'd tell them "I got ya fam. You just need to print it out!" and send them an STL for an actual nutcracker.
Perfect!
That's really sweet they pulled together to get her tickets
Yes. I got to see it twice at two totally different cities/venues, as an adult. Definitely fun.
Wish I was lucky for someone to just give tickets. I joked with my adult kids that they could get me Chief tickets for Christmas I knew nobody could afford them nor couldn’t we afford the trip. But it would have been an amazing experience.
How's this poor soul going to get to the show? Someone better give her a car!
It is required that you mark out the username on these posts? I'd call her out if she's constantly begging for things she admits to being able to buy herself.
> It is required that you mark out the username on these posts?
Yes. Rule 1 in the sidebar says that all identifying info has to be redacted.
Thanks. I did g get. Back and read them. I usually respond, but don't post in this sub.
I don't really get it. Are people not allowed to ask for things? I don't really get these posts. Get one thing and then don't come back?
Asking is totally fine. But this is someone who is a serial beggar - ALWAYS asking, very rarely gives.
Someone asked for free tickets, got them, then it looks like she has the means to buy her own dress but is asking to borrow one first.
It also sounds like OP sees this person asking for stuff regularly, constantly begging.
Okay. I guess I see No Buy groups from the lens of reducing waste and consumption, rather than getting things free. If she borrows a dress, rather than buying, then it's a win. I'll keep serial begging in mind anyway.
Borrowing the dress, or looking for one someone no longer needs, is fine under No Buy. But I highly doubt someone just happened to have two extra performance tickets laying around waiting for her.
Well spotted. People purchased tickets, or pooled or sent money so she could go. Which is nice, but, doing nothing to reduce landfills.
She can watch it on TV, in her jammies, with popcorn.
Good grief, you're in the audience surrounded by young ballet students and their families. Nobody cares what you wear to The Nutcracker.
I'm just confused as to why if this is an adult she is also ok with a girl's size 12/14. Does she regularly do this lol? I've never even thought of looking at kids clothes for myself as an adult lol. The styles and fits are different.
Maybe she is short or small in size like a child.
Adult small and a child's size 14 can be similar sizes. She must be very petite.
Style can really vary but a basic dress in either might be what OOP had in mind.
I can wear kids 12/14 or adult XS/S.
I'm really short.