On my 18th, we went down the pub and I ordered a cocktail and before making it the bartender gave me a dribble of cider, saying that my first drink should be local. Just chatted with my dad about music for a while and he told me he was really happy that I wanted to have my first pint with him. Overall a bloody success!
It means more to your dad than it does you. Speaking as a father of a now 20 yr old son, I know what it's like to grab a min of his time. Him and his boys (as it was for me) are always busy. So when he asked me to go with him for a pint hours before his 18th party meant the world to me.
I think this is true of many major life events. Weddings, graduations, funerals. On paper they're about the people in question - and to an extent they are - but they're unspeakably more special to the parents, until it's for the children.
Funerals?? But yeah you're right.
Funerals are most obviously not really for the person involved - because they're dead and don't care, because they're dead. They're for the family.
Happy Birthday/belated Birthday!
thanks!
Every father wants to buy his son his first 'legal' pint. I took my son to our Sports and Social Club for his. I'm sure he'd blagged a few pints when he was underage (in fact I think I bought him a couple) but this was his first legal drink.
On both my sons’ 18th, I took them to the pub & they bought me a beer!
This is the way!
Yeah my dad brought me to the pub and made me get a round for him and all his buddies - £46 is a lot to an 18 year old still studying!
No they don’t I’m afraid, I’ve never been for a pint with just my dad and I’m 30. He’s alive and we’re not estranged but he’s never felt the want or need to go for a pint. Sad really
That's a shame.
Ask him and see what he says. They sort of thing would never, ever occur to my dad to suggest or organise but if I ask him if wants to go somewhere he's usually delighted.
I did this with my dad even though I had been drinking for a little bit before that. It is a nice tradition!
My dad bought mine in Birmingham, out drinking with my dad and two uncles after the football. Got hammered. Mum was not happy with him as we were travelling back the next day
Even at the age of 40 I’ve never been for a pint with just my dad and it’s something I’ve always wanted to do. He just won’t go anywhere without my mum.
I’m looking forward to taking both my son and my daughter for their first pint/wine
I try to make it a Christmas day tradition.
My dad, not the best, still doesn't get it.
Nice - genuinely heartwarming story
(and happy birthday!)
The bar tender is correct.
Happy 18th!!
Wholesome! I'm sure just getting to spend time with you would've meant the world to your dad, maybe make it a regular thing just for the two of you.
Happy 18th!
Never had the opportunity, father died when I was 12. Mother took me ☺️
My dad took me for my first legal to the pub where his parents met. Ment the world to us both
I'm in the US, where the drinking age is now 21 everywhere, but that was after we turned 18. I'm a triplet (the youngest of 6) and sadly, our father died when we were 17. So, on our 18th birthday, my older brother took us out for our legal drink.
that’s really sweet. regardless of any tradition, the reason i wanted to drink with my dad was because we have a really close bond, and i hope i can get a pint at some point with my older brother too!
I wish my dad had been around long enough for me to be able to interact with him as an adult. He was a smart, no-nonsense sort of guy with a great sense of humor. it would have been fun to have a few beers with him.
I don't get on with my older brother now, but back then I really idolized him so it was great he wanted to do that for us in our father's stead.
I hope you get to share a few pints with your brother!
Oh mate. You won this one.
I'm 66 and it's 4 years since my dad died. Even when he was suffering from Alzheimers he was taking a one-hour bus trip into town and we'd sit in the pub together for a couple of hours with him nursing a shandy and me downing a couple of pints. Eventually it became impossible but I treasure that time we had together.
I am 39 and have never been allowed in the social club where my dad drinks as he doesn't want me showing him up. However, I was at a 60th Anniversary do at said social club in the function room upstairs. I thought I would go down and see my dad in the bar, fully expecting him to turf me out. However, he offered to by me my first pint from him. We went to the bar, I ordered my drink, and he walked away to speak to someone, leaving me to pay. Small wins.
Glad you had a good time, I didn't have the best relationship with my dad (nothing abusive just the way it is I guess) he had no interest in me or anything I was up to, i's surprising now he's gone how much I miss him. It's been just over two years and it still hurts, I'd give anything to get a few memories like that. Make a few more memories like that and congrats on making it to 18 today. It's a wild time compared to when I was that age in 2000
You ordered a cocktail as your first drink?? My dad would have sent me straight home..... 🤣
eh what can i say, i like sugar haha. glad my dad puts up with my vastly different tastes in both alcohol and music
Top Dad! (Many don't) 👍
Good for you mate. In my day we choked down Carlsberg Special Brew and pretended to like it while dying slightly inside and secretly skulking away to the bogs to throw up later.
Your way is much better! And who doesn’t enjoy a nice cocktail anyway.
i’d already had enough beers in the past (that being 3) to decide i absolutely did not want another for the rest of my life. hope u found ur drink of choice eventually!
I don't know when your birthday was but I'm assuming recently so happy birthday!
I was with my son for his first legal pint, and also his first hangover. It was very cute and one of my key memories that he chose to have it with me. (We went out on the last night of him being 17 and he started drinking at midnight, an old friend has a pub so we started there, then when he shut went to a student pub that is open until 4am, that was enough time for my son to down quite a lot of birthday booze!)
Mad that it took until your 18th but I think that says more about my dad tbh
Only in Britain would people take their child to a pub for their first pint of poison 🤦🏽♀️
What pint did you have? You had a dribble of cider and a cocktail.
"first pint" as a figure of speech. cocktail as my first drink, then i had a half pint of cider. genuinely thought i'd hate it but cider's not bad
It's a slippery slope, cider is too nice and some of the scrumpy tastes like cordial but is 6-7%.
definitely. didn't notice how tipsy i was until i stood up and had to focus on walking for the first since perhaps infancy (though that was after a vodka + coke too lol)
But you ordered a cocktail, gen z FFS! 🧐🤦🏼♂️ Well done on making it to the pub though! 👍🏼