Both of my parents are bipolar, they ended up passing that to my older sister. My dad has anger issues with it and my sister got that also. Now they aren’t getting her anything she needs. What I mean is she should get anger management, therapy, maybe even some medication but they don’t get her it. I am terrified as our relationship is abusive. She gets angry, yells at me, and if my parents don’t intervene she hits. It might be causing me to start showing signs of trauma.
I really want all of this to end, get her help, try repairing things but I’m still quite young. She’s only two years older then me and she does get depressive episodes occasionally. Getting snappy, sleeping a lot, etc. I am so terrified she’s going to break this family apart. I might be taking on more than what I can with how my mental health is going but I need to help her.
My school counselor isn’t doing anything about it, I explained to her a lot of things. The anger, how she gets really depressed, and all of that. Even our abusive relationship. She still won’t do anything, she checks up on me but she won’t call my parents, get our CPS worker involved, anything. I am so scared because at one point my sister was like crazy. Mania in a way. I thought she was going to kill me, I Truely thought she was going to kill me.
I am so done with all of this and I just need anything, something, to help with how this all is. I hope someone here could get me some advice, tell me how I can help her, anything. I will do anything now, call CPS if I really need to do so. Stop our abusive relationship, stop the pain, stress, just it all. Please
I've been a fairly absent mod lately, so I missed this post. BPD stands for Borderline Personality Disorder, not Bipolar Disorder. Since you're a kid looking for help, there's no need to take down this post; I just wanted to clarify that detail.
First- you are not the fixer in your family.
Second- counselors are just people. And for some reason this counselor may not be hearing what you are saying.
If you didn’t mind sharing, what grade or age are you. And what part of the world are you in. I want to provide actionable steps if I can but your age and location will help with providing options.
I am in 8th grade and im in Wisconsin USA
I don’t have any solid advice for you. I’m curious if your school counselor is in touch with your sister’s school. Hopefully they are trying to do work behind the scenes. It’s also highly likely that your counselor is not equipped to help you. Your counselor may only be trained to help you academically. And probably don’t understand BPD at all.
Do you and your sister go to same doctor? It may helpful for you to have a conversation about your own medical needs and report on your observations about your sister.
If you were older I would tell you to get a solid plan to move out. You can love your family, and set yourself up to live your own life and have your own adventures.
Thank you I’m pretty sure we do have the same doctor but because our parents don’t seem to understand that we should go to the doctors more often I will need to wait a while to even speak to them and that’s if I can get Alone
In my state (Colorado) parents don’t have access to kids medical records when they turn 14. This may be important to know what the laws in your state are. You may not need to hide your medical records from your parents, but you have the right to learn about your health and access to care you may need. You should be able to request a private meeting with your doctor. I don’t think that’s unusual think for someone your age to do.
She’s usually in the room when I’m at a doctors appointment to answer all the other questions and just generally there and stuff I don’t know how to request her not to be there without it being weird or suspicious
Embrace it. It is gonna be weird the first time you ask to do it. Do it anyway. Your body is changing and growing and weird shit is going on. It’s no one’s business why you want to talk to your doctor alone. It will be embarrassing. Do it anyway. You need to discuss your mental health, physical health, and your living situation in private.
Okay I will, I’ll attempt to get my mom to get me a doctors appointment as I still need a doctors note for three different things that she still hasn’t done yet. Thank you a lot though for your advice and everything
I think you should first document everything. By paper and my video. Take notes. Then you're gonna go to the school and say you have hard evidence that your sister needs to be on medication. You're gonna talk to your parents and ask them if they plan to get her on medication. Do they say yes or no? Depending on their answer you're then gonna make a note about that too. Take it to school , CPS, a cop , whoever you can. They'll make sure she gets medicine and believe me , that will help. I know a lot of people who should've been on medication for BPD and unfortunately they are my blood family members who all refused medicine and therapy. They have all caused me trauma that I didn't deserve to go through because they didn't want to get help. Their lives overall would've been better with treatment. You and your family don't deserve to be victims of her abuse.
Thank you so much! I will try this as best as I can
Do you have a teacher you can trust? They are mandated reporters.
I do luckily, I was thinking about talking to one of them after winter break even though it sounds a bit terrifying.
I think this is a good way to go about it. Please take care of yourself. Bipolar can be dangerous.
Well I’ll try as best as I can now