Has anyone here tried a family training programme or used resources on how to talk with pwbpd and actually found it effective and noticed a difference? At my wits end and willing to try anything to help my family out of this mess.
Family Connections is actually excellent. I will not say it will help your family out of the mess. What it will do is help you start to be skillful in dealing with it, so it doesn't always have to escalate.
We can only control ourselves, and the course explains skills in keeping our own emotions in check and communication strategies that can at least not make things worse.
There's nothing that fixes it but the person themselves, but you can change your role in the dynamic.
I agree with this as well. Family Connections won't necessarily fix everything, but I've found it's been good with deescalation techniques. I've found since then, the blow-ups are less frequent at the very least. You learn to validate the feelings, but not the behaviour.
That being said, I feel that you get more out of it if you genuinely want to keep having a relationship with that person. What I think stopped me from truly embracing it, is that more often than not, I didn't wanted a relationship with my sister, I wanted her out of my life. So if you're not quite there in your life yet, you might want to pause.
This is true. FC is for those who are still in a relationship and trying to keep it from going sideways by teaching loved ones how not make things worse and also learn how to have peace in their own lives. With my LO, those tactics don't work right now, so I adjusted the access they get to me until they are more regulated. But the skills are excellent for all relationships, really.
Family Connections is actually excellent. I will not say it will help your family out of the mess. What it will do is help you start to be skillful in dealing with it, so it doesn't always have to escalate.
We can only control ourselves, and the course explains skills in keeping our own emotions in check and communication strategies that can at least not make things worse.
There's nothing that fixes it but the person themselves, but you can change your role in the dynamic.
I agree with this as well. Family Connections won't necessarily fix everything, but I've found it's been good with deescalation techniques. I've found since then, the blow-ups are less frequent at the very least. You learn to validate the feelings, but not the behaviour.
That being said, I feel that you get more out of it if you genuinely want to keep having a relationship with that person. What I think stopped me from truly embracing it, is that more often than not, I didn't wanted a relationship with my sister, I wanted her out of my life. So if you're not quite there in your life yet, you might want to pause.
This is true. FC is for those who are still in a relationship and trying to keep it from going sideways by teaching loved ones how not make things worse and also learn how to have peace in their own lives. With my LO, those tactics don't work right now, so I adjusted the access they get to me until they are more regulated. But the skills are excellent for all relationships, really.