Hey...so i am currently in my 3rd yr of clg...i've been into BDSM for like 2yrs...in those 2yrs i couldnt find any stability in what i am doin....
It's like whenever i am in a dynamism i always think about that i am wasting so much time in this but if i would study in this moment i would be a lot better person than who i am today
In contrast if i would study then all i think abt is those kinky things and cant focus on it
Soo i am always stuck where i cant focus on anything in life and it fears me soo much
Can someone guide me how to balance b/w them and find stability!!
Thanks a lot!!
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You learn how to focus on what matters to you. If lost focus or intrusive thoughts are a consistent problem, then speak to a doctor to get tested for ADHD and maybe get meds if you need them.
BDSM will still be there after you get a degree. Shifting focus and keeping focus is an important life skill you should develop.
You set aside a reasonable amount of time for kink, and stick to that.
Life cannot be 100% studying, that would drive you insane. You need some fun and pleasure in order to function, and BDSM is one way you can get that. So treat it as an important part of your life (because it is), but not something that can take over everything (because there are other things that are also important, like studying).