My sub is very into humiliation/degradation and we both love playing into it whenever possible.
She only cums with my permission. I want to make a rule for her where she has to say a phrase every time she cums after I give her permission.
Looking for ideas that maybe others have used in their dynamic. Thanks!
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These are some really long phrases, actually, each could be separated into 2 or 3 phrases.
I don't know your dynamic, but in ours, we start with short phrases and start to make them longer, so she had to say them complete and as soon as she came, or she would face a punishment for each mistake.
And I got a property kink, so usually we make phrases where her humiliation relates to my possession over her body.
Thank you, Owner, for allowing your worthless property to cum. I exist only for your pleasure."
"This pathetic slut's orgasm belongs to you, Master. I surrender everything to my Owner."
"Your owned cunt is cumming only because you permit it. Thank you for using your property."
"I am nothing but your obedient fucktoy. This cum proves my complete surrender to you."
"Please accept this orgasm from your broken, devoted slave as proof that I am forever yours."
Hope this helps
Good stuff! These are the kind of phrases I was hoping to find. Thank you.
Do u have more can u tell me about the punishment I want to know and more phrases
Yeah, sure thing. If this escalated, your sub-dominant could become an ownership kink with degrading elements (both of you should always talk and be aware of both of your needs and kinks). If that's the case, here are more specific theme phrases.
"Your partner is cumming... so ashamed of turning into your needy slut."
"Shameful orgasm... a good partner shouldn't beg to be used like this."
"Blushing and shattering for you, Owner... embarrassed by how much your slut needs it."
"I shouldn't crave this filth... mortified but completely owned, Master."
"Cumming like your secret whore... so ashamed, yet I belong only to you."
Now, regarding punishment, I typically use orgasm denial to reinforce good behavior through classical conditioning. During oral sex, I require my partner to tell me when she is about to cum, and I stop immediately as soon as she announces it. Since this is a punishment, we then switch to a neutral activity—such as watching a movie or eating—which allows the craving to build. This makes her more likely to beg for release in the future and encourages her to complete the required phrases exactly as I intend.
It's a very specific topic, and if you want it to have a real impact or touch any of your submissive's personal buttons, you have to be specific.
What kind of humiliation do you/she enjoy? What's your goal in doing this? Do you want she feel empowered in a role she desires, or you want to push her to the edge of her boundaries so that she feels guilty?
Take advantage of the information you have about her, study it.
Yeah for sure. Thats the plan. Just brainstorming ideas to bounce off of.
The wiki has D for Dirty Talk - plenty of options there for you to find based on your dynamic
This is one of those cases where you have to ask your partner what she would like. Humiliation and degradation play is extremely easy to slip into a touch too far.
Communicate with your partner. Ask what she would like to say. Come up with ideas based on what you already know.
I like looking at these posts for inspiration aswell. Unfortunately When I try to think of the words I want said to me, the moment I try to think about it I come up blank. They hit me in the moment, and I generally don't have the brain capacity to remember them after the scene is over. Reading them can help remind me/or inspire me to come up with them again in an aware headspace, so I can then bring it up with my sir. I am not very good at articulating my wants or coming up with detailed plans or even organising my brain well enough to think of these things, and I know that about myself, these posts help me find bullet points that I can then expand on, or Tweek and then bring up with my sir, so that I can be as clear and concise as possible.
Though I do see where everyone is coming from with the 'talk to your partner stuff' but sometimes, for some of us, doing that first won't get us anywhere. Give some inspiration so they have something to talk about.
Yeah it’s getting there. Just using reddit for another source of inspiration :)
Thank you for using me like a GOOD FUCKTOY / CUMM DUMP
Your DIRTY/ Obedient SLUT/ WHORE/ BITCH is well fucked
“I’m worthless except for my holes”
Or
“I’m a dumb cunt and I only cum with your permission, sir”.
I make my sub say thanks, using honorifics, about everything done, each step in detail and how she felt about it.