I actually just don't know how to be sexy, i'm sexually active and have a partner (20M) but i just don't know how to "talk dirty" or be seductive without just cringing at myself or making it all awkward so i usually just let my partner take the wheel with it all but it's so hard to initiate sex without just straight up asking and eliminating a lot of the sexual tension. any help is greatly appreciated 🫶
You don't have to talk dirty or act like a porn actress. Just put his hand on your waist and kiss him passionately. Real love and passion is so much more profound than mimicking what he might have seen in an adult movie.
thank you so much, honestly really needed to hear this
Embrace the cringe. Much more fun that way.
hahaha thank you
By being comfortable in your own body. The clothes don’t matter, you could be wearing lacy lingerie or a stained tshirt; hair and makeup just get mussed, so no point in worrying about that.
Don’t need a porn script, just be in the moment and enjoy each other. If it’s too quiet and you feel awkward, put some music on low, that helps me quiet down my brain.
Sometimes I’ll make a whole spectacle out of it, lingerie, music, candles, the whole shebang, and sometimes I’ll ask if he wants to fool around before the food gets delivered bc I don’t like sex on a full stomach lol
Have fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!
thank you so much, honestly after a bit of self reflection i sort of realise that the issue is that i don't always feel comfortable sort of depicting myself in a sexual manner naturally since im so worked up over what he likes. definitely after reading all the responses ill just go with the flow and be natural with it all
Worried about what he likes? Girl, they like anything as long as they get some!! If he starts picking you apart or saying you’re not sexy, watch out, a lot of insecure dudes pretend to be good people at first then slowly eat away at their partners self esteem. If it’s just you, don’t be so hard on yourself!!
Omg u really really don't have to present in a super sexual way or stress loads about what he likes!! Ur not serving him babe its a mutual thing and men are incredibly easy to please and just happy to be there. Genuinely just be yourself and do what ur comfortable with and it will be better for both of you. I've had to unlearn this mindset too, porn has rlly distorted the reality of what sex is and how it actually works for ppl.
Ask what your partner likes. Maybe you already do it. Some of it requires practice, like the dirty talk.
honestly never thought about actually just asking tbf
Oh, it can be huuuuge. I feel like I am cared about and get more excited when my partner and I can open up.
oh damn i never knew thank you!
You don't have to talk sexy if ur not comfortable with it! I honestly think the easiest way to be seductive/ initiate sex is doing small things that will turn ur partner on like kiss his neck, straddle him and start kissing him, touch his thighs then his dick etc. You really don't have to put on a performance. Or instead of asking to have sex tell him ur horny and touch him somewhere or kiss him.
99% of this is having confidence, which may just come with time. Being in a relationship is a great time to build that as long as ur comfortable with him. Good luck girly don't overthink it
thank you so much hun you are just the sweetest
Excelent comment! This right here!
If the OP is uncomfortable in any way... not easy to relax and feel sexy.
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(i am also more than happy to follow up with more if you want it. i am very passionate about sex (not in a gooner way...) if you couldn't tell)
You would be surprised at how many men get turned on just by their lady saying Hey I want you to take me to the bedroom and fuck me but another thing you could try is just piece by piece you don't have to run the whole encounter in the bedroom the first time maybe he's sitting on the couch and you grab his dick or you stand in the doorway to the bedroom with nothing on or leave the door open and start masturbating and make sure to be a little extra loud so you catch his attention and then after you're comfortable doing that then start with giving him a blowjob and climbing on top for the first two or three minutes and then after that you know start finishing round one with you on top guys want a girl that is very clear that she wants him physically and so even just showing him that you want him in the bedroom or plainly stating that you want sex from him will get him going the old saying of lady in the streets freak in the sheets as a ton of truth to it I hope this helps good luck.
Whisper gently in his ear you find him hot and you want him to take you right now.
That should get him going! It's really not that hard to entice a man... you don't have to go for the porn scenarios that are mostly cringe...