I would go to the climbing/bouldering gym, fitness, see bands by myself, go out by myself.
I would feel very fragile but it wouldn’t stop me.
I am my own best friend and meeting new people is also a chance at meeting new friends.
If I feel the need to be social I will go somewhere where I can be.
I did that when I was heartbroken.
I’m a big fan of podcasts with multiple hosts and going on walks — it tricks me into feeling less alone/part of a group. Otherwise, comfort tv shows, lighthearted books, hard cardio
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I go into myself. The decades have taught me that no one will be there for me in my time of need. I find a new book or game that I can play. I get a new Lego set of some complexity.
They are absolutely amazing in insanely creative. I've got the Bonsai set ready to build. I want an add-on pack of frogs for a fall display in red, orange, and yellow.
I feel you. I have a ton of electronics projects sitting downstairs collecting dust from when my interest tanked in a depressive period. It's like another person bought the stuff.
If you have family that you can count on, go to them.
Otherwise... if it was me, devour a bucket of ice-cream alone and cry for a while. Then try to move on. Emphasis on try, I know it isn't easy.
There have been times when I felt like that, and I’ve mentally gone through a list of every person I could think of that I knew, and was able to figure out some friends that I could talk to on the phone who I hadn’t spoken to in a while. At least for me I remember being in a negative place makes my mind more pessimistic so everything feels worse than it actually is, and that i have no friends when the reality is there are people out there who care.
Also in a pinch, I’ve found binge watching sitcoms about groups of friends kind of makes you start to feel like they are your friends.
I can recommend Discord Communities based on your interests. Going through something similar right now and it has been really helpful with taking my mind off of things.
You’re being lifted up now, right here. Utilize positive and safe spaces in Reddit (along with some time outside in nature) to help you take the deep breaths until you find your tribe.
Wishing you healing at a pace your heart can handle, stay safe.
My brother. But this would be a wake up call that my support system needed some major work, and I would start working on it. Reconnect with old friends and start looking for new ones.
Start cooking or baking it takes your mind off the heartbreak and makes you focus on the task at hand. If you like to read, books are a great way to escape. I like to watch YouTube videos or listen to podcasts as well when I go for walks. Re organizing a space or redecorating can be a really great outlet and it’s nice to have a new clean space! I also love the emotional support from my two kitties, they are the best!!
Go to bed, cry, pray or try to meditate and fall asleep. Rinse and repeat. I too don't have friends so this is what I do when I go through a particularly difficult time.
Stay connected with friends, even if it's only remote. Go to the gym, stay busy and keep working on self-improvement. Breakups can also be a big motivator.
What I did was work and at that time focus on college. After a while, I’d slowly start visiting with people more at college. I recommend focusing on work, get a gym membership (my gym is huge and has multiple pools, group fitness, 4 basketball courts, running track and more). With a gym this big I have made a ton of friends from group fitness and there’s tons of people to chat with.
Stay out as much as possible. Learn to prioritize myself so much. Talk to strangers around you when appropriate. Relearn to live your life. Give yourself everything you’d want a partner to give to you; if you like quality time the give yourself that, if you like words of affirmation give yourself that…
I was like this when I had my first huge breakup, and so I started meeting people off the Internet, back before Reddit was as huge and there were things like local forums to join. I met a lot of sketchy people, but I needed any excuse to get out of the house my ex and I shared that he hadn't moved out of yet. I did meet one semi-good friend and clung to her for dear life. We ended up parting ways because ultimately, we weren't compatible, but I am very grateful for her presence during that time. Later on, I started finding my own hobbies and met some new people that way.
I know there are apps nowadays where you can put "seeking friends only" (I think Bumble is the most popular one? But I haven't used it personally) - maybe it's a solution for you until you sort out what kind of social circle you want to be a part of.
Podcast, YouTube, the gym, reading books, and if you have money you can use then find a new hobby. You might feel bad right now but learning about your emotions and brains can help you understand what you’re going through is temporary.
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Literally in the same situation.
I train Muay Thai which gives me an hour of not thinking about it in the day.
And I’ve been binge watching new girl, and now the Mindy project which has been helpful.
It sucks though, I feel like if you don’t have any friends, you can’t make a friend during heartbreak. That’s too much to put on someone.
So I’m just hoping with time my heartache will dim on its own
It makes me just feel even more aware of how hard it is to make good women friends. Like how you mentioned in the movies where they all get together.
It seems awesome, but unrealistic I guess
I feel u. I was watching this film where the girl goes through a breakup and her friends come over and one of them lie down next to her the whole time and the other one cooks for her and all. Was wondering if that ever happens to us in reality. Maybe for a blessed few it does.
I go to my bed, I write a diary, I indulge in my hobbies (reading, writing, drawing, gaming), I hug my pet.
Despite growing up in a relatively normal family, I was usually left to entertain myself. Therefore, I became competent and comfortable in my own solitude.
I do have some friends, both irl and online, but there are still some things I don't share with anyone...
honestly, i learned how to comfort myself in small ways. Long showers, crying when I needed to, and letting myself be sad without judging it. I also talked to strangers online more than i expected, and it helped just to be heard. It's not the same as close friends , but it's something.
It’s so hilarious man. When people have struggles like these which aren’t even struggles.
Think about the people living in a third world country with no food water shelter these people who eat 1 meal a day that if they are fortunate and people who are disabled and have no resources or money to help themselves people who are bed ridden for their life people who died very young.
When u take time to think about all this and then reflect on yourself you will automatically become relatively happier given you are still alive with a very much functioning human body.
You don’t need anyone to lift you up never develop a dependency be urself explore what you like indulge in your passions maybe trying a new food everyday or going to the gym to build your body and confidence nothing lifts you up more than benching 300lbs for men or hip thrusting 120lbs for women I guess.
Build something like a company a start up or literally anything. Ya got so much to go get off Reddit fam.
Well everyone grieves in their own way but a break up simply means that you two were not compatible it’s not the end of the world. There’s so many people out there. Find yourself and ur true passions and the true connection will hinge along the way.
I go to bed
I would go to the climbing/bouldering gym, fitness, see bands by myself, go out by myself. I would feel very fragile but it wouldn’t stop me. I am my own best friend and meeting new people is also a chance at meeting new friends.
If I feel the need to be social I will go somewhere where I can be. I did that when I was heartbroken.
Thanks, I’m trying. But moment I’m alone everything is crashing down
It’s ok. It’s tough and it hurts. But you can carry yourself. You will get better, focus on the here and now. It takes time.
It is the worst pain I have ever felt, but I survived it. So I know you will too. ❤️
Same here. I ended a friendship yesterday and cried all night
That's how a woman should be.
I’m a big fan of podcasts with multiple hosts and going on walks — it tricks me into feeling less alone/part of a group. Otherwise, comfort tv shows, lighthearted books, hard cardio
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I go into myself. The decades have taught me that no one will be there for me in my time of need. I find a new book or game that I can play. I get a new Lego set of some complexity.
I really hope you find a true friend someday. Stuck in the same situation.
49 years into this game. Not all of us get to be an astronaut when we grow up and not all of us were meant to be part of society.
Yeah, I guess that's the part they leave out when they tell you to dream big
You sound like me :/ though I stick to the Lego botanicals. I've run out of room to display them though!
They are absolutely amazing in insanely creative. I've got the Bonsai set ready to build. I want an add-on pack of frogs for a fall display in red, orange, and yellow.
I wish I could find some hobby I like. I have loads of hobbies but when am low, they become insignificant idk why
I feel you. I have a ton of electronics projects sitting downstairs collecting dust from when my interest tanked in a depressive period. It's like another person bought the stuff.
Same here. I spend so much money on random hobbies like art and music and all. But sadly never end up staying consistent.
I enjoy reading and joke that reading books and collecting books are two separate hobbies. Maybe you are a hobby collector
I went to the gym and watched movies by myself at the theater
If you have family that you can count on, go to them. Otherwise... if it was me, devour a bucket of ice-cream alone and cry for a while. Then try to move on. Emphasis on try, I know it isn't easy.
There have been times when I felt like that, and I’ve mentally gone through a list of every person I could think of that I knew, and was able to figure out some friends that I could talk to on the phone who I hadn’t spoken to in a while. At least for me I remember being in a negative place makes my mind more pessimistic so everything feels worse than it actually is, and that i have no friends when the reality is there are people out there who care.
Also in a pinch, I’ve found binge watching sitcoms about groups of friends kind of makes you start to feel like they are your friends.
I can recommend Discord Communities based on your interests. Going through something similar right now and it has been really helpful with taking my mind off of things.
Always there as a stranger to talk if you want to rant :)
You’re being lifted up now, right here. Utilize positive and safe spaces in Reddit (along with some time outside in nature) to help you take the deep breaths until you find your tribe.
Wishing you healing at a pace your heart can handle, stay safe.
Thank you 🤗
My brother. But this would be a wake up call that my support system needed some major work, and I would start working on it. Reconnect with old friends and start looking for new ones.
Start cooking or baking it takes your mind off the heartbreak and makes you focus on the task at hand. If you like to read, books are a great way to escape. I like to watch YouTube videos or listen to podcasts as well when I go for walks. Re organizing a space or redecorating can be a really great outlet and it’s nice to have a new clean space! I also love the emotional support from my two kitties, they are the best!!
Aw I love cats. I desperately want one. Filled out a form today to adopt a rescue. Hoping it gets accepted
Go to bed, cry, pray or try to meditate and fall asleep. Rinse and repeat. I too don't have friends so this is what I do when I go through a particularly difficult time.
Stay connected with friends, even if it's only remote. Go to the gym, stay busy and keep working on self-improvement. Breakups can also be a big motivator.
What I did was work and at that time focus on college. After a while, I’d slowly start visiting with people more at college. I recommend focusing on work, get a gym membership (my gym is huge and has multiple pools, group fitness, 4 basketball courts, running track and more). With a gym this big I have made a ton of friends from group fitness and there’s tons of people to chat with.
I feel intimidated to talk to people at the gym tbh. Everyone seems fit and friendly to fit people. I feel invisible most of the time :(
Stay out as much as possible. Learn to prioritize myself so much. Talk to strangers around you when appropriate. Relearn to live your life. Give yourself everything you’d want a partner to give to you; if you like quality time the give yourself that, if you like words of affirmation give yourself that…
I was like this when I had my first huge breakup, and so I started meeting people off the Internet, back before Reddit was as huge and there were things like local forums to join. I met a lot of sketchy people, but I needed any excuse to get out of the house my ex and I shared that he hadn't moved out of yet. I did meet one semi-good friend and clung to her for dear life. We ended up parting ways because ultimately, we weren't compatible, but I am very grateful for her presence during that time. Later on, I started finding my own hobbies and met some new people that way.
I know there are apps nowadays where you can put "seeking friends only" (I think Bumble is the most popular one? But I haven't used it personally) - maybe it's a solution for you until you sort out what kind of social circle you want to be a part of.
Podcast, YouTube, the gym, reading books, and if you have money you can use then find a new hobby. You might feel bad right now but learning about your emotions and brains can help you understand what you’re going through is temporary.
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Literally in the same situation. I train Muay Thai which gives me an hour of not thinking about it in the day. And I’ve been binge watching new girl, and now the Mindy project which has been helpful. It sucks though, I feel like if you don’t have any friends, you can’t make a friend during heartbreak. That’s too much to put on someone. So I’m just hoping with time my heartache will dim on its own
I know right. Few kind people have reached out to meet on reddit, but I feel I have too much baggage and anxiety to put on new people
It makes me just feel even more aware of how hard it is to make good women friends. Like how you mentioned in the movies where they all get together. It seems awesome, but unrealistic I guess
I feel u. I was watching this film where the girl goes through a breakup and her friends come over and one of them lie down next to her the whole time and the other one cooks for her and all. Was wondering if that ever happens to us in reality. Maybe for a blessed few it does.
I go to my bed, I write a diary, I indulge in my hobbies (reading, writing, drawing, gaming), I hug my pet.
Despite growing up in a relatively normal family, I was usually left to entertain myself. Therefore, I became competent and comfortable in my own solitude.
I do have some friends, both irl and online, but there are still some things I don't share with anyone...
Gym, i tried boxing, having some sun, anything to cheer you up and not stay in your room crying all days
Therapy, the movie theater, the opera, a library, on a walk or hike, to your journal.
I went to church after a service so it was quiet and I could focus on the quiet. Then I cried when I got home.
I'm lucky that I'm an introvert and it's enough to see a friend once a year. Hahaha
Lots of self care. I find doing a more intensive self care routine is really helpful.
Like 10 step skincare. Going through my wardrobe. Getting clothing that fits better so I feel good. I’m doing my makeup regularly.
I like to listen to horror related podcasts.
Ooh never heard of horror podcasts, can u recommend some
I cry, watch my favorite YouTuber and journal or sleep
I love seeing movies alone! You’re alone with other people, which is relaxing.
honestly, i learned how to comfort myself in small ways. Long showers, crying when I needed to, and letting myself be sad without judging it. I also talked to strangers online more than i expected, and it helped just to be heard. It's not the same as close friends , but it's something.
It’s so hilarious man. When people have struggles like these which aren’t even struggles.
Think about the people living in a third world country with no food water shelter these people who eat 1 meal a day that if they are fortunate and people who are disabled and have no resources or money to help themselves people who are bed ridden for their life people who died very young.
When u take time to think about all this and then reflect on yourself you will automatically become relatively happier given you are still alive with a very much functioning human body.
You don’t need anyone to lift you up never develop a dependency be urself explore what you like indulge in your passions maybe trying a new food everyday or going to the gym to build your body and confidence nothing lifts you up more than benching 300lbs for men or hip thrusting 120lbs for women I guess.
Build something like a company a start up or literally anything. Ya got so much to go get off Reddit fam.
Haha trust me I think the same, but when u go through a bad breakup, the nervous system kinda shuts down from thinking all this.
Well everyone grieves in their own way but a break up simply means that you two were not compatible it’s not the end of the world. There’s so many people out there. Find yourself and ur true passions and the true connection will hinge along the way.