Years ago, sometimes my then boyfriend, now husband would shower and I'd sit outside the shower but inside the bathroom and enjoy the steam and let my skincare sit in while we chatted. I don't know why we got out of the habit. Maybe we should bring it back
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I'm indifferent on shower sex but I also am a fan of showering with your partner. We've done it enough that we have a good lather/rinse rotation going on now even with a traditional tub + shower head combo.
I mean maybe see if deliberately rotating enough in a hot/steamy shower is more fun. And if not, at least you know for sure! My girlfriend and I both run pretty hot to begin with so maybe we can just get away with it.
We do this on vacations a lot since the showers are usually huge and have a sprayer and functioning shower head so neither of us are cold. I also love washing each others backs.
As a Brit (most properties have a combined bath shower) with a man 1 foot taller than her, I can't imagine anything more hazardous and less pleasant than shower sex especially. I cannot imagine it not being a logistical nightmare and uncomfortable. I like my sex comfy and somewhere we can take our time.
But even just showering together would be inconvenient and liable to cause accidents.
Plus I like to shower at length with scalding hell water, whereas he likes a quick and thorough scrub, so I'm pretty sure my husband would feel like he was being tortured if I took him to the shower with me for a whole shower.
Plus we already spend a lot of time together, shower time is a nice bit of alone time. And everyone deserves that.
We are 15 inches apart lol. Sex in the shower isnt really even an option for us, I'm just talking about showering and scrubbing eachother. I like running our hands over eachother and the slippery soap is sexy and all but its hard to actually get a wash and it's hard to keep us both warm.
My husband prefers lukewarm showers while I want it hot enough to look like a boiled lobster. It's no fun for either of us to shower together because of that.
My husband got this thing that hooks up to the shower head to convert it so there’s the original shower head and then one on the opposite side. No one gets cold now!
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Laikocta could be German. In Germany, a jaccuzi is usually called whirlpool, yes the English word, even if whirpool means something entirely different in English.
I feel like the keeping your bra on during sex in movies is probably not done to be sexy, it’s probably just done so they don’t have to convince an actress to do a nude shot lol
Omg it is gross but early mornings are always prime time for me and my partner which makes it worse. Weirdly though, my mouth being unbrushed bothers me more than his. If I wake up early, I brush my teeth and get back into bed so I don’t have to interrupt potential sexy time later in the morning.
Meh. We kiss in the middle of the night or in the morning without brushing first. I think it's more intimate being attracted to each other even when you're not fresh. After about 5 seconds you don't even notice.
Problem is, bacteria builds in your mouth overnight while sleeping. Even people with the best dental hygiene will probably have some version of “morning breath”
Anal was effing awful in my opinion. 0 out of 5 stars. Never again. Mas I see it my anatomy is designed to accommodate a penis as is. There is no need to deviate from that.
Its like some kinda ultimate goal for some guys... probably made popular due to the porn they watch.
I like it better than PIV but the prep anal takes to make sure you don’t shit on your partner dulls some of the sparkle for me. No spontaneity. If it didn’t take so much planning and not eating I would opt for it every time.
Dude every time I’ve tried I end up with it leaking! Maybe I’m doing it wrong but my paranoia that it will happen is too much for me to keep trying. And they’re expensive
im glad im not alone, ive never seen the appeal..why would i spend so much time on prep when i have a vulva that works fine and no prostate or anything inside my butt? plus it just doesnt arouse me at all lol
Most things with food. Nothing sexier than quickly throwing your sheets full of chocolate sauce and whipped cream in the washing machine afterwards, or you have to buy new sheets.
Having spontaneous or spur of the moment sex. For me personally, your hands and finger nails need to be clean; I’d also prefer if we’re both clean in general; haven’t just eaten food( I don’t want to taste the food you’ve just eaten); haven’t just used the bathroom to poop or pee; haven’t been sweating. The best sex for me takes some planning and pre thought.
I see what you mean. I like to be clean prior because then I can really relax when it comes to oral.
Also on a related note: quickies. My horny brain might wish I need 5 seconds to warm up and tgat i can immediately go from 0 to 100 in seconds like my man (seriously have you seen how fast an erection can apoear out of nowhere?!), but alas I really do need more time.
I find that prepping mentally a little in advance helps to get the blood flowing and helps me feel mentally ready.
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Respectfully disagree, but I take your point that a lot of people try this just because of the popularity of 50 shades even though it’s not really for them.
I think this is the “default” kink people suggest when they want to spice things up but in reality it doesn’t work for most people. If you’re into it and know how to make it fun for all parties, it’s great. But tons of people read 50 shades, bought some ropes, and asked their poor unknowing husbands to emulate a poorly written and uninformed idea of a dom. Not so great.
I don’t love giving blow jobs, the actual activity isn’t fun lol, but I do find it hot to see my bfs reaction so that gets me going and also I like when he goes down on me so I’m willing to do the same lol
thats understandable. I dont mind giving head if he asks for it but I wont let him touch me. the idea of a face anywhere near my privates makes me wanna off myself
Occasionally 69, I get the worst aches in my arms when I’m trying to give head, struggling to hold onto my boyfriends legs while I’m trying not to fall on to him, it’s sometimes a struggle 😂
Kissing in the rain. Being the shorter person just means that you get rain in your eyes no matter what you do. I've had a few guys try and it's a no from me.
lol Yeah, they were good guys! I'm married to one of them now and there hasn't been any more kisses in the rain 🤣 But lots of other kisses still, obviously 🥰
It’s not a lot of work at all. You just remove it but keep it level, and then pour into the toilet and wrap it up with a paper towel and dispose for the disposable ones. I mainly use it when I’m swimming or for sex.
Yes! It’s great for sex on non-heavy days. Everything is just like you’re not on your period.
They have reusable ones too. I only tried it once and didn’t like it. I think jt was just the kind I tried. Someone else in a different post said they use the reusable one and like it better than the disposable ones.
Showering together. It's fucking cold and there's not enough water stream or space for us both.
The water will also wash away the natural lubricants, more than once shower sex has lead to chaffing
Peasant. This isn't a problem if you finish in 12 seconds like me.
Edit: I am a man this is not a brag.
Peasant speed !
lol, whenever we do it in the shower, it’s usually a quickie.
this is true i like to start in the shower and finish in bed to avoid the raw feeling
i love showering and bathing in general w my partner. not like sexually just like, hanging out
Years ago, sometimes my then boyfriend, now husband would shower and I'd sit outside the shower but inside the bathroom and enjoy the steam and let my skincare sit in while we chatted. I don't know why we got out of the habit. Maybe we should bring it back
thats really sweet, i think y'all should.
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Maybe our shower is too small and our house is too cold.
I'm indifferent on shower sex but I also am a fan of showering with your partner. We've done it enough that we have a good lather/rinse rotation going on now even with a traditional tub + shower head combo.
Im not even talking about sex lol. Just is awkward in our shower i guess.
I mean maybe see if deliberately rotating enough in a hot/steamy shower is more fun. And if not, at least you know for sure! My girlfriend and I both run pretty hot to begin with so maybe we can just get away with it.
Same. Sensual not sexual
Right? We like to get each other’s backs
Same here. We don't do it a ton but we are very good at "the shower dance". Swapping places so more or less water is on either one of us.
We do this on vacations a lot since the showers are usually huge and have a sprayer and functioning shower head so neither of us are cold. I also love washing each others backs.
As a Brit (most properties have a combined bath shower) with a man 1 foot taller than her, I can't imagine anything more hazardous and less pleasant than shower sex especially. I cannot imagine it not being a logistical nightmare and uncomfortable. I like my sex comfy and somewhere we can take our time.
But even just showering together would be inconvenient and liable to cause accidents.
Plus I like to shower at length with scalding hell water, whereas he likes a quick and thorough scrub, so I'm pretty sure my husband would feel like he was being tortured if I took him to the shower with me for a whole shower.
Plus we already spend a lot of time together, shower time is a nice bit of alone time. And everyone deserves that.
We are 15 inches apart lol. Sex in the shower isnt really even an option for us, I'm just talking about showering and scrubbing eachother. I like running our hands over eachother and the slippery soap is sexy and all but its hard to actually get a wash and it's hard to keep us both warm.
Plus it’s treacherous! I don’t want to fall on my face and ruin a perfectly lovely time by having to go to the ER for stitches.
My husband prefers lukewarm showers while I want it hot enough to look like a boiled lobster. It's no fun for either of us to shower together because of that.
I could only do a lukewarm shower after a run on a hot summer day.
There is a way, with the right shower and the right “skin care” products. But agreed when the shower is set up wrong is just cold and poorly lit.
My husband got this thing that hooks up to the shower head to convert it so there’s the original shower head and then one on the opposite side. No one gets cold now!
I want one of those!
It works as a warm-up for the main event though
We all came here to say the shower.
Whether it’s sex or just bathing. Showering with a partner is the fucking worst.
i had my shower remodeled for this very reason
This!!!!!
Well with good set up this could be solved. But other aspects will never disappear.
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Shower sex, whirlpool sex or, most terrible, ocean sex. Ouch.
Also, keeping your bra on during sex.
Also-also - maybe I'm outing myself as old and vanilla, but sex that involves kneeling or lying anywhere else than on a quite soft comfy surface.
I'm feeling so normal knowing.
Whirlpool sex...?
I assume hot tub.
Oh ok... I really imagined people having sex in a whirlpool and that it was a thing. And you know what? I don't doubt anything in this world anymore
Laikocta could be German. In Germany, a jaccuzi is usually called whirlpool, yes the English word, even if whirpool means something entirely different in English.
Spot on, and thank you - TIL!
Liebe Grüße!
Maybe on a washing machine?
Lewd
I feel like the keeping your bra on during sex in movies is probably not done to be sexy, it’s probably just done so they don’t have to convince an actress to do a nude shot lol
I bought a waterproof cushion for kneeling on when I give a shower BJ. Best $5 I ever spent, 10/10 would buy again.
Sex on the beach. Terrible. Sand in all the bits. Making out, sure, but actual sex? Do not recommend.
Any outdoor sex tbh. Nothing kills the mood faster than insect bites.
Hahaha i can literally imagine that 🤣🤣🤣
Never again. I regret it 14 years later still.
Haha same 13 years for me
I had a good time lmao
Morning kisses pre-brush.....ew
This doesn't really bother me.
Pecks are ok. Full make out? Hell no, lol.
Omg it is gross but early mornings are always prime time for me and my partner which makes it worse. Weirdly though, my mouth being unbrushed bothers me more than his. If I wake up early, I brush my teeth and get back into bed so I don’t have to interrupt potential sexy time later in the morning.
lol we take a quick pause to brush out teeth and just run back to bed so we can kiss.
Ewww I've done this and it's horrible
Meh. We kiss in the middle of the night or in the morning without brushing first. I think it's more intimate being attracted to each other even when you're not fresh. After about 5 seconds you don't even notice.
Mouthwash night before? Shouldn’t be that bad
Problem is, bacteria builds in your mouth overnight while sleeping. Even people with the best dental hygiene will probably have some version of “morning breath”
Anal was effing awful in my opinion. 0 out of 5 stars. Never again. Mas I see it my anatomy is designed to accommodate a penis as is. There is no need to deviate from that.
Its like some kinda ultimate goal for some guys... probably made popular due to the porn they watch.
Tbh if men want to fuck an asshole, it's naturally set up to be in men
Some women love it 🙋🏻♀️
I like it better than PIV but the prep anal takes to make sure you don’t shit on your partner dulls some of the sparkle for me. No spontaneity. If it didn’t take so much planning and not eating I would opt for it every time.
Completely agree! That said, sometimes I will take the gamble and hope for the best
As à guy. And I think most men wouldn’t care if they get a bit dirty. It’s a Magical thing to be intimate like that with someone you love.
Even if he doesn’t, I’m not comfortable with it lol. Same with period sex for me, my partner doesn’t mind it but I hate the mess of it.
Use a disposable soft disc during your period! It’s the best thing ever.
Dude every time I’ve tried I end up with it leaking! Maybe I’m doing it wrong but my paranoia that it will happen is too much for me to keep trying. And they’re expensive
I’ve only had it leak once, so I only use it when the flow isn’t super heavy. It works great on a medium or light flow.
I also get hella stressed taking it out lol. Always get blood EVERYWHERE. Maybe one day I’ll gain the courage.
I just pull it out very slowly and then have some TP ready to wrap it up as soon as it’s out of me.
im glad im not alone, ive never seen the appeal..why would i spend so much time on prep when i have a vulva that works fine and no prostate or anything inside my butt? plus it just doesnt arouse me at all lol
Most things with food. Nothing sexier than quickly throwing your sheets full of chocolate sauce and whipped cream in the washing machine afterwards, or you have to buy new sheets.
hahaha but it does the magic most of the time 😜
Having spontaneous or spur of the moment sex. For me personally, your hands and finger nails need to be clean; I’d also prefer if we’re both clean in general; haven’t just eaten food( I don’t want to taste the food you’ve just eaten); haven’t just used the bathroom to poop or pee; haven’t been sweating. The best sex for me takes some planning and pre thought.
I see what you mean. I like to be clean prior because then I can really relax when it comes to oral.
Also on a related note: quickies. My horny brain might wish I need 5 seconds to warm up and tgat i can immediately go from 0 to 100 in seconds like my man (seriously have you seen how fast an erection can apoear out of nowhere?!), but alas I really do need more time.
I find that prepping mentally a little in advance helps to get the blood flowing and helps me feel mentally ready.
I'm 100% reflection of you
I totally agree especially the hygiene part which many people don't care about and later regret.
People who don’t understand this haven’t experienced the nightmare that is recurring UTIs.
Trying to do it in a hot tub or a pool or a shower or the ocean or on the beach or in the backseat of a car.
Most types of lingerie. Itchy, poorly fitting, lumpy...the opposite of feeling sexy.
Anal.
I loved pool sex in my much younger years. I guess it was being out in the open that did it for me.
I'm for some reason terrified of doing out in the open.
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lol, I love car sex. It’s usually just a spur of the moment thing.
Lesbian standing up sex. It looks sexy as hell, but the angles are SO UNCOMFORTABLE.
I curious about what were you doing? We've had some very successful standing up lezzy sexy times over here.
Really? 🤔 Fingering is difficult.
Yeah, no issues here, but we don't have much height difference, and I have sturdy hands and strong wrists so maybe that helps?
I didn't know that
I've struggled with this too. Especially since all the partners I've had previously, men or women have been way taller than me!
Ah yeah, I can see a significant height difference being a problem.
All the 50 shades crap. Whips, handcuffs and gags, etc.
I'm guessing it's only a very small minority that actually enjoy that stuff.
Respectfully disagree, but I take your point that a lot of people try this just because of the popularity of 50 shades even though it’s not really for them.
If it isn't fun it isn't being done correctly. There is definitely a right way and the right way takes time, commitment, trust, work and patience.
Nah. Been there done that. Prefer things much more primal. I don’t want to sit back and watch cuffs hold someone down, I want to feel the struggle.
I like being loved and not being beaten up 😂😂
But won't these things bring more spice in relationship?
I think this is the “default” kink people suggest when they want to spice things up but in reality it doesn’t work for most people. If you’re into it and know how to make it fun for all parties, it’s great. But tons of people read 50 shades, bought some ropes, and asked their poor unknowing husbands to emulate a poorly written and uninformed idea of a dom. Not so great.
I feel like there's a thousand sexual fantasies and kinks people can fulfil, without purposely causing pain and discomfort to each other.
Threesomes. Way, way too much going on IRL.
wow you must be the star of an erotica 😊
Beach sex. Sand everywhere, too exposed, bugs. Need I say more?
Anything else from your experience?
Crabs.
haha must have been morning one for sure 😁
Sex when you/them are dirty or in a dirty environment.
All I can think about are UTIs
haha I wonder how they can even show such things in movies which influence people so much.
There was a show I watched that had people fucking in a prison dungeon after being in fights/almost killed/covered in who knows what.
I literally couldn’t think about anything other than UTIs lol
Ewww that's gross 🤢
Showering together. Not enough room and cold.
Not sexy at all haha
Try out in a large shower room and if there is something to sit
Sadly we live in a little wartime bungalow. Should the opportunity come up I will totally try it!
That's an interesting word.. opportunity 😜
Why?
It shouldn't be an opportunity but something you look up to often especially when you are in a relationship. Just the way I think
Everyone is different.
Everyone is different. We don't like to travel or really go anywhere whats not home.
That's true and I didn't mean to go, but maybe while you guys are on holiday or some trip.
Thats why I said if the opportunity came up.
Food, sand, water. No.
haha I agree with sand for sure 💯
idk i think oral is always seen as like some fancy body worship type thing but really its awkward and kinda gross
Respectfully disagree.
Haha yeah to each their own. I've heard people say they love it but I just cant understand haha.
I totally agree with you 💯
I don’t love giving blow jobs, the actual activity isn’t fun lol, but I do find it hot to see my bfs reaction so that gets me going and also I like when he goes down on me so I’m willing to do the same lol
thats understandable. I dont mind giving head if he asks for it but I wont let him touch me. the idea of a face anywhere near my privates makes me wanna off myself
Shower sex
It's cool if you have a large shower room, isn't it?
Hot tub sex! I wish it was as easy irl.
People lose their corneas just getting hot tub water their contacts. And people want to slosh that inside their bits? 🤮
haha I've never tried but I'm curious to experience what happens at that moment
Sex on the beach looks romantic in movies but it’s a sandy, crusty nightmare in real life.
yet more and more people want it 😁
Beach sex. Sand is coarse and does get everywhere. No one likes sandpaper on their junk.
haha I can relate to this one when he was behind me to complete his fantasy wishlist.
Being a vampire
That's RP
Going at it against a wall. Weird and extremely uncomfortable.
hahaha weird and uncomfortable especially if your guy cannot lift you higher 😜
Even if they can lift high, the rhythm is never right. Doubt most women can get their o from a dozen slow whams with intermittent noggin slams.
I remember an ex tried to pin me against the wall 😭 didn’t even kiss me, just walked away awkwardly
hahaha maybe he wasn't ready in his head 🤣
He suddenly realized that shit was dumb 😭
Because he is a dumb.. I'm glad nothing happened and you got saved from a loser.
Sex on the stairs like in “9 1/2 Weeks.” Nope. Uncomfortable!
haha agreed 😂
Feeding each other food 🤣🤣
Hahaha I did this for weeks after my engagement and realised he just wanted to be fed and seen as an important person in the room.
Cuddling face to face and going to bed. It’s a farce and you cannot breathe! Lol
haha imagine he didn't brush before going to bed 😂😂
Shower sex.
It's cool if you have a large shower room.. maybe try a luxury hotel next time and thank me later
Not all of us have luxury hotel money
Yeah that's another thing 🤗
Shower/bath/spa and beach sex
I agree with the beach but rest can be fun if spacious
Occasionally 69, I get the worst aches in my arms when I’m trying to give head, struggling to hold onto my boyfriends legs while I’m trying not to fall on to him, it’s sometimes a struggle 😂
That definitely sounds like a lot of trouble 🤣🤣🤣
Most "sexy talk" is just cringey in real life
Kissing in the rain. Being the shorter person just means that you get rain in your eyes no matter what you do. I've had a few guys try and it's a no from me.
Haha I can relate to one such instance 😂😂 I thought I was being stupid.
What was your alternative solution?
No alternative solution, I just told them that I will happily kiss them any time except in the rain 😂
haha I bet they were decent guys 🤣
My bf would have never agreed to that.
lol Yeah, they were good guys! I'm married to one of them now and there hasn't been any more kisses in the rain 🤣 But lots of other kisses still, obviously 🥰
You trained him well babes 😜😜
Cleaning your teeth together (in front of the mirror). Always looks so social in movies. Far from it in real life - it's a fight for the sink.
Again, I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking this.
Dirty talk, role-play, going total dom, pool sex
Do you guys not like it or some other reason?
Well I dont have a partner right now per se however I used past experiences
Would love to know more... DM if you are interested
Taking a bath together.
This is soo cool if your shower allows enough space 😀
Sex in a car, a fitting room, a plane bathroom, etc.
Have tried and it's cramped (and I'm pretty small).
Beach sex
Sand going everywhere 😂😂😂
Shower sex!
What makes you say that?
Hard to get in position, get cold too quickly, natural lubrication washes away
Oh yes, similar experiences 😁
Shower, pool, or hot tube sex
What are your reasons for that
The need for awkward positioning and the water rinses away our natural lubricants
It’s not a lot of work at all. You just remove it but keep it level, and then pour into the toilet and wrap it up with a paper towel and dispose for the disposable ones. I mainly use it when I’m swimming or for sex.
Yes! It’s great for sex on non-heavy days. Everything is just like you’re not on your period.
They have reusable ones too. I only tried it once and didn’t like it. I think jt was just the kind I tried. Someone else in a different post said they use the reusable one and like it better than the disposable ones.
Sand and sex. this is not easy people.
scissoring
What would you do as an alternative?
Oral, using fingers, using toys.
Yeah that makes total sense