I don’t really drink much cos after about 2-3 drinks I start getting drunk so I’m a lightweight lol.
I got talked into going out last night and I just went out and got really bloody drunk cos I was having a good time and the drinks were relatively cheap.
I started off with a pitcher of porn star martini then kept knocking back doubles of vodka which I think I had about 7 or 8 of them.
I am only 27 but I have not been this bloody hungover or feeling rough as fuck and tired since I was 18/19 but it was a good night out.
ETA: this wasn’t a works do, just a general one with the fam. I went on the work one and only had a couple but that was back in November so this was like my proper Christmas night out.
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I'm feeling fired after my works do
I hope that's a typo...
No, its not, unfortunately
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Got drunk. Very drunk, don't remember anything, but been told I was obnoxious, rude and a general nuisance. Got a meeting next week.
RIP
In all seriousness hope it turns out ok dude.
About 10 years ago at my first office Christmas party I threw up in the restaurant and ruined the night for everyone else. I still cringe thinking about it now! I didn't get into any trouble though as stupid and drunken mistakes happen, wishing you the best of luck with your meeting! I'm sure it'll be fine, sober and hard working you can't be punished because of drunk you surely?
I keep saying drunk people are not the same person sober, but i don't know of work will see that
Work will see it as 'sober you made the decision to become drunk you' - so sober you is still responsible for the actions of drunk you.
Source: I work in HR (boo, hiss, devil, I know, I know)
I do understand that but at the same time it depends who is buying the drinks, my boss was basically forcing booze down my throat last Friday and I didn't know I was wasted until I woke up the next day and realized i'd forgotten most of the night! Mind you, the boss forcing me to drink shots is a whole other problem for HR I'm sure...
Don’t you mean “people services”? lol
New phone. Who dis? PM, it'll drive me mad!
You’ve got to not try to justify it, for a better chance you need to act remorseful and assure them it won’t happen again.
I am remorseful, I have no idea what happened, I've upset people and cause undeeded paperwork etc. At least I can stop drinking now
I hope you're okay. I've been in a similar situation before and it's a shitty feeling waiting to see what happens. I survived it and you will too.
Come to r/stopdrinking
I had a mate that was far more than “obnoxious, rude and a general nuisance” …he got absolutely hammered before their meal, and verbally and racially abused his manager. Unless their tolerance is shockingly low, I’m sure you’ll be fine.
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I am that at times anyway, even worse when drunk
Chin up and you’ll have a fun story to tell when it’s all said and done. It’s a fun story now to be fair
lol you have a low bar for a fun story if 'i was rude, obnoxious and a nuisance' does if for you!
Don’t take yourself too seriously…
Give us the detail please. Hope you’re ok
hope everything is ok mate, fingers crossed for you bud
Hopefully not enough to get you sacked.
You might leave that meeting with a written warning and or a PIP.
If you're in a union, best get some advice as well.
Unfortunately, I've already got a warning for an unrelated issue and finished a pip a few months ago. I've had a rough year, and i think this is the straw to break my back!
Ummmm, then it might be.
Time to brush up your CV and take this as wake up call.
Alcohol diminishes inhibitions so if you were an obnoxious knob when you were drunk, that's a part of you that is still there. Sober you can usually just contain it. Work on that part of you as well.
Hopefully you're young so lots of time to grow and find a new job.
I'm 42! Defo the wake up call I needed and I need to look into autism too, cause I'm defo on the spectrum and this doesn't help
45 F and recently diagnosed with Auadhd so welcome to the club.
Oh now I'm sorry that I said that and I hope that with a diagnosis you can understand your brain better.
WFH is a god send for me. I can hide my WTF face, tailor my responses so they're not so direct, and not have to be "happy" all day.
Should be ok as it's outside of work so might just be a verbal or a telling off, unless it was something really serious.
Unfortunately that isn't how it works. Many people get fired from actions at a work party I'm afraid.
My advice to OP is to own it, don't try and excuse your actions on alcohol, it won't go down well.
Be humble, honest and apologetic.
I'm guessing at present OP is not fired, if they have a meeting next week, but they are suspended pending investigation with a view to move to disciplinary.
OP, I'm hoping for the best for you, alcohol can make fools of us all, but it's just so damn tasty.
Exactly, it's an extension of work and I'm sure I'm screwed, but it has given me the mick I needed to cut out alcohol that I needed
Yeah, anything that involves colleagues I'm putting my work mode on, that includes planning to always have at least 1 less drink than everyone else
In that case I'm very sorry to hear that buddy.
C'mon- spill the tea
It's on another comment
Oh boy
i know a guy who threw up on his boss AND his boss’ son and still didn’t get fired
Well ?? What happened. Don't just leave us hanging.
I’m fired, boss
Hi, Fired, Boss, I'm Dad
Saw on your other post. Touching bottoms at work events never ends well. Yikes!
Yeah, they could've told me I met the king, and I'd have no idea
Ouch
“After 2-3 drinks I start getting tipsy” — yes, that is how alcohol tends to work… that’s not being a lightweight.
Lightweight is when you feel properly drunk after just 1 or 2. I miss those days
I don't know, it was cheaper, but it just made me a liability...
Hey I was in the exact same situation, and I’m really new to the job. I know better than to get really drunk on your first Xmas work do, but for some reason I just ended up being smashed. The party was on a Friday too, so not only did I lose my Saturday to a horrific, nauseating hangover, I had to wait all weekend for the dread to pass to ensure I wasn’t being fired for any shenanigans I could have forgotten. Luckily everyone else was pissed too, and no one was offended by my behaviour, but still, was not my finest work. 28F, will consider my behaviour for next year lol
Sounds like you had tooomuchman.
I always think when you’re nervous or absolutely sure you won’t get drunk it hits you harder
So true, and I was just so stressed after a long period of training, and nervous like you say. Blergh
I noticed a while back that I’d drink quicker when nervous, which is a real bad combination.
All I can say is don't go on a bender with Bojack after nine months of sobriety, Sarah Lynn.
Name checks out
I went out on Friday for drinks after work. Ended up acting like daft 20 year old rather than the 33 year old mother I am and fell pushing my friend around in a trolly. I’ve skinned my hands and cut my knee up. I’m now hobbling around like someone triple my age.
It was a good night though.
You know it's a good night if a shopping trolley gets involved!
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Yeah it could have been worse. Glad I just don’t have any broken bones cos I went with a proper bang haha.
I can already laugh about it so it’s all good
awww when i was on mat leave my team went out with suppliers and one of them (suppliers) tripped running for the train after a boozy lunch and broke her ankle 😭 so it could have been worse haha!! but im glad you’re broadly ok x
Hey 32 year old, haven’t been on a proper night out since pre Covid, got so drunk I fell on my face and look like I’ve been punched, got home and was sick all over the floor and ruined a gonk door stop that was a gift.
Feel like a fool and decided to cut out alcohol completely now.
Had mine last week, got off with my work crush and now she's being intense and weird about it all so that's a kettle of fish to deal with in January, hopefully the break will chill her out a bit
Exactly why work relationships are dangerous territory.
How long have you worked together? And fancied each other?
Bear in mind if you’ve been flirting for months you’ve done something most new relationships never do - actually got to know each other quite well (whilst building up a flood of feelings and desire).
You’re saying she’s being intense but it’s worth having an adult discussion about this sooner rather than later as she may be emotionally much further ahead of you in your relationship. Even if you tell her now that it’s a discussion to be had in the New Year, at least she knows where she stands over the festive break
Agree on all of this. The OP sounds like a bit of a bellend tbh.
In a "what are we now?" kinda way or in a "that was wrong and I'm worried we'll be in trouble" kinda way?
Hope it works itself out for you in the least stressful way possible.
This happened to me once but basically never spoke again. Really odd
Go and listen to ‘Scarborough’ by Farrah and reminisce
Boss and team leader in drunken night out. Shock horror
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Me, lager. Finchy, lager. Gareth, lager sometimes cider.
Different drinks for different needs
Any shoes get thrown over the pub?
That'll be a quiet night in at the library... not!
Go get some sleep
I don’t get it
Who’s more funny ? Me or u/Wishmaster891 ?
There's a certain level of intellect to my comedy
They’re quotes from The Office (just to put you out of your misery 😂)
El vino did flow
Had mine last week - went for a company organised lunch at a restaurant then a load of us went out to a pub afterwards. Ended up flirting and making out with a married colleague (I'm single) - whilst a lot of people I know were around.
Not looking forward to January.
lol that’ll be fun to go back to
Last year at the annual drink up, I slipped over on a wet floor and fell fully into the splits. Last night, in an odd twist of fate, I slipped over in a very similar way again. However, this time I only got halfway down before my back knee buckled so I ended up on the floor in a horrific half-split lunge.
It was a cruel reminder of the passage of time. Can’t even fall over right.
If I fell in such a way I landed fully into the splits I don't think I'd ever be able to walk again
It was a Christmas miracle!
Officially a two day hangover. Still not right on day 3. Absolutely hilarious night, so sort of worth it.
Over 30 I presume?
A smidge, yeah.
Dont do Christmas nights out.. my office had ours on Thursday but I worked night shift so everyone could go
Im not a fan of the after affects
Ours was last Weds apparently (I thought it was Thursday) didn't go. Didn't go last year either and wasn't invited the year before in my first year as I'd just started.
I tend to avoid work Christmas do's they're colleagues not friends, and spending a night with drunken people gobbing on about work isn't my idea of fun even if the drinks are free or substituted.
I don't drink massively anyway but those things are also usually "just wine and beer free" I appear to have an allergy or something to wine that makes me stream and sneeze like I've got hay fever so I avoid it.
I also can't stand up for long (disabled) and they rarely if ever have seating.
This year was my first ever year for being called out as unsociable and "not a team player" because I didn't want to go stand around in a shitty venue, then struggle with public transport full of drunks for an hour and a half to get home with little prospect of a seat on the trains either.
We did a Christmas lunch (it was fine) and I ran some festive themed D&D one shots for the less drinky, more nerdy members of our team in the last week. It was generally quite fun, always nice to fight monsters and tell stories with your friends.
still hungover 2 days later and got some serious dread about work tomorrow
I recently started a new job and the Christmas party was my 2nd day so I was good and left at 11ish. Had to be in the office which was a bit of a struggle as had 6 hours sleep, had 9 drinks and I'm 37 but I did it.
I’m so glad I don’t need to be back in work until tomorrow
I don't drink so that bit was fine; I had fun watching the rest of my team knocking back the drinks and gradually seeing their 'work personas' slipping away. Turns out they're actually pretty fun outside work!
I am autistic though so sitting in a crowded restaurant of other loud work parties and having to yell everything wore me out quickly, I pretty much collapsed into bed after haha
If anyone has stumbled here and needs some genuine support, r/stopdrinking is a great community.
Edit: spelt the sub wrong!
The fact you’ve linked to a different subreddit altogether is gold and I’ve discovered a new sub
R/stopdrinking I think is what you meant, for any lost redditors
Haha woops, I've just edited and fixed it in case anyone actually needed it. Thanks for noticing!
What did it originally say?
R/startdrinking
I mean, both should probably be represented!
r/stop drinking
My autocorrect separated out the words.
Ours was so shit I was home by 9pm eating toast on the sofa and watching 2005's smash hit sci-fi film War of the Worlds
I'm on-call so went out with my mates but didn't drink.
Been up all night pissing every five minutes due to the sheer amount of Coke and Pepsi I had so feel terrible.
I'm self employed, wfh, just me. So, no work do. I can never decide if I like avoiding the hangover and expense, or if I want to go gatecrash a bunch of work parties and be that random weirdo in everyone's photos the next day.
I decided to quit booze six months ago after a health scare. The best decision I’ve ever made. I can still go to the pub, a gig, parties, the football etc and have fun without a beer. I don’t miss the hangovers or the fear. Looking forward to feeling fresh over the Christmas period!
Bravo. A sober Christmas is totally brilliant. Enjoy the food, the connections, the rest, the good sleep.
Thank you. Apologies to anyone who thought my post was out of place on this thread. I was a big drinker over Christmas and don’t begrudge anyone letting their hair down and celebrating over this period at all.
Yeah no need to apologise. OP asked how we are feeling and you answered. Most people who have a normal relationship with alcohol won't be fussed about your reply. Anyone who is angered by it perhaps needs to have a little think about why that is.
I work alone, my Christmas do was me playing Minecraft with my boy and a couple of beers (for me, he had milk) lol
I didn't go this year as it's always held in London and I couldn't make the travel work with other plans. Gutted I chose not to - of course I missed the fist fight this year!
Went out on Thursday night with the sales team, spent £8 as they wouldn’t let me buy anything, pretty sound night
Company this year determined to cancel the single ‘one’ Xmas party and go with team events instead. This way, teams get to go out with the people they work with vs everyone all together. Keeps the shenanigans amongst friends….
Ours started early afternoon, open bar. I was drinking for 9 hours. Didn’t embarrass myself too badly and definitely didn’t harass or annoy anyone else, and hangover the next day wasn’t the worst i’ve had. I call that a win.
I feel terrible today and I have a 12 hour shift at work starting at midday. But… it’s what I signed up for. Celebrating Christmas with my friends properly was important to me and I only subject myself to feeling shite at work due to a hangover 2, maybe 3 times a year.
I’ll get through it like I have every other time, and probably feel better a few hours in. Helps that I have the pics and memories to laugh at.
I have that feeling every Monday!
Like my job is safe. Shagged the HR director didn't I? The tension has been there for awhile we're both mid 30's no kids on either side, single well we were single planning to spend Xmas together now.
To be clear we didn't start making out in the middle of the Xmas party we left after using up the free drinks vouchers we ducked out early and went and had a date and one thing led to another.
Did you end up at a Coldplay gig?
Haha no godawful band and in this case no infidelity. We're just going to enjoy Xmas and new year together and if that goes well deal with a difficult work situation in the new year
I can remember my tolerance dropping significantly when I hit 30, and hangovers got worse. It was nature's way of telling me to slow down. I still feel like shit all the time, but at least it's my shit.
I quit drinking 10 years ago after many years of ‘enjoying it too much’. What strikes me is the point where (younger colleagues) reach the stage where they just become boring rather than fun. That was me at one time, so I understand how it is.
I’m tired and have work this afternoon. I’ve just done three nights out on the trot. I would love to just stay in bed.
I feel like shit. Went out at 1pm and got home just before midnight. Had a great time though.
I’m 25F - I drink alcohol about once every 3 months. And I woke up with a headache… after 2 glasses! Wine and one cocktail. Agreed!!! I used to be able to drink more when I was 18/19.
Feel absolutely ruined after two nights out (a week apart). The dread and anxiety has been through the roof. Think I need to pack this in...
Mine was decent. Went for a meal which was a bad part of the evening because of issues with the restaurant, but then a small group of us stayed out, went to a bar and played Cards Against Humanity.
Didn’t get too drunk and glad I went as I found out after it’ll be my last Christmas on that team (got promoted).
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I had a good one with my work colleagues, I danced all night - was fine till I had gin and shots.
Last night was a school reunion - just stuck to Guinness and feel fresh this morning.
I was the designated driver so no shenanigans for me this year
Chinese or MacDonalds coke is the best hangover cure. Good luck friend!
What Chinese coke?
I mean, I’d give it a whirl!
I fell over, still hurts
As a rule, I’m generally boring af at Xmas work dos. I’ll literally nurse one lager shandy and then coke in a tumbler glass later on so that people think it’s rum and coke. Too experienced and long in the game to let colleagues see the ‘drunk me’ and risk any unnecessary conversation with HR.
All the people who did something embarrassing and/or feel terrible: take some solace from the fact that reading your comments has reinforced my sobriety. Been sober 6 years and even though I never really think about alcohol anymore, I occasionally get a twinge of an urge - then reality reminds me of all the reasons not to drink. These comments will keep the urge at bay for a long long time!
Pretty sure I broke my shoulder last night.
Tired and good as I don’t drink to excess
Had a good night overall and met up with loads of people I work with which was cool but never again I hope as it was too much.
Went out on Friday because it was my last working day of the year, also my old Friday dart team captain was running a blind pairs competition. It was a great night out catching up with people I've not seen in ages, still can't play darts any more but that doesn't matter. Didn't drink too much because I can't handle it these days (weight loss has made me a lightweight). Felt fine yesterday morning.
I like that you used the word "bloody" twice, you're a true Brit!
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I feel great! I quit drinking booze and smoking on 7th Dec and feel so much better for it. My work’s Christmas party was shit but that’s cos we went bowling and I don’t like hanging out with them anyway. Just been enjoying having cosy nights in with my 2 cats. Looking forward to a sober Jungle rave next week though 😃
I got pretty drunk but nothing bad. It was on Thursday so a few of us were hungover on Friday. Most of my team are now finished til January so it’s only me and a couple of people in for the next two and a half days. Not dreading it just can’t be arsed going in!
Missed ours as I was down bad with the flu. Spent a week in the dark wondering whether my time was up instead. Would've gladly welcomed a hangover instead mind.
Mine was the last weekend in November, not had a drink since
Had 4 drinks so fresh as a daisy 😂 getting drunk doesn’t interest me in the slightest anymore. Happy with a few drinks before the chaos of trying to get home at pub chucking out time.
Since 29-Nov, I’ve had two nights where I haven’t been out for drinks / dinner / parties and 27-Dec will be the first day with nothing in it.
Incredibly bad planning where the diary got filled and then lots of ‘can’t say no’ invites came in.
I’ve not been ‘work do blotto drunk’ every time, so it’s not been a month long hangover or anything but there have been a few heavy nights.
I feel like this may be a completely sober Xmas.
I'm feeling shit, cause some selfish knob turned up with the flu... which i'm now still recovering from over a week later.
That's exactly what happened at ours. Half the office got the flu a few days after the party..
I went way too hard and made a fool of myself last week Friday and then I've been on vacation I had booked all lf this week so I'm hoping when I return on Monday its all blown over and forgotten...
Had a dungeons and Dragons game, then joined at our gaming club for a party. Had a fair bit of cider but also lots of food so no hangover today. D&D spell name charades plus cards against humanity was a ton of fun.
I went on Friday with friends.
I typically get a koppenberg or similar. All through yesterday everything tasted like berries no matter what it was........
Ended up at an all you can eat so after the food we where too full and just waddled home Soni counted it as a win as usually I spend Sunday after the works do trying to piece together what was said to who
Went out the other night. Drank coffee all night.
Fine because we don’t go for drinks because we all hate each other, so there was no Christmas night out, just me at home getting stoned and playing video games
Currently mainlining lucazade and contemplating life choices
mine was incredibly tame versus previous years. the meal took three hours so we lost loads of people to last trains etc. ended up the five of us who live locally at karaoke for two hours, and we all have the same taste in music, so actually very fun haha.
Work remote now so didn’t have one but last year I was working in a call centre office ended up stuck in the city centre till 7am chilling with one of the managers after much drama from the young 20 somethings we ended up out with once the main group split up. Good times phoned my mum for a lift from the train station at half 8 in the morning when I got back to my home town, the sleep I had after that was fantastic have to say.
Rough as hell. getting too old for this but we'll do it again next year anyway
Well i got flu from someone at said work party and lost £700 worth of work by being off sick so resentful mostly
Hungover of course! Paced myself really well but -- 10 minutes before closing -- someone bought me a double voddy to go with the other one I'd been gently drinking for the past hour. Had to down them and they only kicked in as I was getting through my front door! Woke up on the sofa and took myself to bed.
Was really nice to see a bunch of my friends before everyone goes home for Christmas! It has been an incredibly relaxing December after finishing with my old work and not having to start my new job until mid-January!
Nice meal out in london few cocktails afterwards all very nice. Turned out it was only myself and my boss were staying overnight at the same hotel. So carried on til 3am drinking cocktails. Was expecting a decent hangover after drinking very little for the past 6 months but on a scale out of 10 probably a 4.
Don’t drink so great. Drunk people are a pain the the arse
Last years Mad Friday still haunts me to this day.
Sounds like you've had a great time OP. It's been lacklustre this past 2 months and i can't put my finger on it. Is it because of cost of living and cost of Christmas? Because some people just don't want to socialise and acting awkward. So it's been mixed bag for me.
Anyway, I didn't get chance to go out in November, was busy revising for an exam so no booze all the entire month. However go attend the co-working space Christmas social event 1 week ago but I wasn't in the mood so had 2 drinks, mingled with people and went home.
I attended Work Christmas event this past Wednesday, but that was during the day. The CTO does not like just drinking and eating. There's not much of a drinking culture where I work so may see this a bad thing but I'm ok with it. So we had a Christmas Lunch and then an activity, arcade games, pool, shuffleboard etc. I had a few drinks with food and that's about it. We all went home at 7PM.
I was planning on going out with friends but everyone is busy right now as Christmas is round the corner. I've reached out to few people and I understand. I do plan to go out more late January/Feb with my friends.
I think I will go to Tesco and grab a case of Guinness at have it at my parents.
41M. Feel rough as fuck. Had a bust up with wife and ended up going out alone. I usually regret going out and think it was just a waste of money, but not this time. Banging night! Band was good. Everyone was happy. Just a great atmosphere. Probably shouldn't have had the last shot as I ended up falling over outside but oh well!
It's never the drinking that does me in because I can't drink like that.
It's the sleep deprivation of staying up until 4am.
Ok
Mine was on Friday and I'm honestly fine but much of that is to do with the meal being more filling than in past years so not that much room for booze.
I had a Christmas do early in December, there was free booze on which I very much saw as my to-do list for the afternoon. I took advantage of it (knowing I was unlikely to be there for long anyway), generally didn't make a tit of myself because I'm usually in pretty good control even when drunk, just awkwardly chatted to the CEO and the team that I'm not on but did share an office with. Not really being on any team did make it awkward as fuck. I have a horrible affliction where I'm cursed to remember everything whilst drunk in lurid detail, so I try not to go mad even when very drunk (if I'm around people whose opinion directly affects me. If I'm just on a night out round the town, then I don't give a fuck)
I left at about 5, very very drunk indeed, went to my favourite pub for another pint I definitely didn't need and a pizza.
I had mine earlier this month. Started off with a diet coke. Moved on to the actual venue - free drink. I had 3 or 4 glasses of prosecco. Saw how drunk some people were. Decided to stop there, grabbed my coat and did a French exit. Home by 9pm.
The family festivities have begun. Had 2 drinks with my meal. Stopped there as I am up at 6am to train tomorrow and do varies chores and errands.
No friendsmas as I don't have friends.
20 years ago it would have been a different story!
Absolutely fine.
Works do was Friday at a local hotel, with food and music. A few of us had rooms and brought a PS5 to stay up and watch the Joshua fight. We bought a ton of food and normal drinks to sober up from 12 till 4 and went to sleep at 5.
Woke up again at 8 for breakfast and then went for a swim in the hotel pool. Home by 11 and spent the day on the sofa watching movies with the family.
Absolutely smashed it!
As manager, I no longer go to them or organize. Always ends up in a fight, HR related fall outs or people complaining to me all night about work.
I gave up on works nights out years ago, spend enough time with my work colleagues already, dont need to go out on the piss with them as well.
Me: never doing shots again.
My bank balance: FUCK
I was out Friday, 2 bottles of Prosecco, a cider and home by midnight 🤣
I don't drink out of choice, all I had was "oh one won't hurt...don't be boring'... 9:30pm I left and decided I'd rather be at home with my very poorly son. I feel really let down given the fact I'm there only nurse now. My mum was the lead nurse at the practice and she died in May, that christmas meal was for her and all I felt was bullied and completely left out just because I won't drink. I'm a fun and really chill kind of woman, I smile every day at work and get on with everyone usually. Now, I just want to leave and stay at home.
We did something a bit different this year, a big group of friends met for Christmas lunch and drank into the evening. We ate so much food that none of us ended up particularly sloshed. I drank a lot, but was up the road and in bed before 10 pm. Defo feel as though I over-indulged, though and have spent the last week at home sober.
Christmas nights out are a reminder that tolerance drops with age and work events raise the stakes...
Reading all these stories is why I don’t drink anymore. I literally cannot hold my tongue when I’m drunk. It’s like I have a form of Tourette’s and just tell everybody what I think about them. Brutal.
We were just finishing dinner when we got a call saying our store was on fire. Turned out it was true, and the 8 of us sobered up in about half a second.
We're having a do-over in January.
I tolerate many of my coworkers in an office environment, why would I elect to spend more time with them in a social environment?