If yourbpaying for porn , you can be paying for ethically sourced porn. Usually, individual context creatures that actually keep the money rather than a studio that exploits them. Not to mention you can avoid some of the more cringe worthy porn tropes. Its not about being desperate its about not wanting to pay for gross corporate exploitative porn.
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Meanwhile me who never liked vanilla corn and mostly only turns on from a specific fetish media which 12 yo me sadly stumbled upon while doomscrolling tiktok
Right. Different thing between a real person and someone on Film etc. It's only a issue imo, if someone prefers to see porn than being intimate with their partner.
No. I want a guy who doesn't watch it and if he watched it before at least once a week/ two weeks then I want it to be at least 2 years ago. I don't watch it for several reasons so I expect the same from my boyfriend/husband.
It wouldn't bother me at all, as long as it doesn't become a replacement or an issue in that sense, because then it's a problem. Like I don't mind if someone watches it....it's not reality or our relationship...but our relationship is reality.
It's okay to watch porn (especially if they do it with m-), but not to be porn addicted, I would try talking to them first to check before creating an opinion. Even if they were actually addicted to porn j would try to help them snap out of it, emphasis on "try", if it didn't work and it was getting on the way of our relationship I would simply break up.
What people normally don't understand is that there are levels to addictions there are addictions that only hurt yourself, addictions that hurt yourself and others (Narcotics, alcoholism, and other drug addictions, except for drugs for chronic pain) I would certainly try to help the first after all the only people they're harming are themselves in the process, but the second is the "hard side" of things, I don't think I would ever date anyone with the second type, because any addiction at that level is very noticeable and I do would never date anyone who smokes or drinks alcohol, anyone suffering from it should get professional help.
Like kinda? You don't really have the life experience to like have like serious opinions on alc,weed,sex etc etc. Like at 14 you cant (or shouldn't) really have those experiences in a like responsible setting you know? If you disagree I can like explain myself further I'm not like heated about it just like genuine
Like kinda? You don't really have the life experience to like have like serious opinions on alc,weed,sex etc etc.
Having serious opinions? Saying it's bad really depends on life experience and not common sense? Okay...
Like at 14 you cant (or shouldn't) really have those experiences in a like responsible setting you know?
I was speaking potentially obviously, this entire post is asking for you to put yourself in a fictional situation, so I don't know what you're talking about here, there's a minimum age requirement to answer hypothetical questions?
I don't know what you're talking about here, it seems you completely missed the point of the post, OP is not asking for our life experiences with addicts, they're asking how we would we handle a relationship with a porn addict, the point about drugs and others addictions was MINE, that I made to illustrate a point. If age is the same as intelligence, the argument about age can go both ways, how are you 20 years old?
If you disagree
Disagree with what? You didn't understand what I meant, how could you have possibly said something I would disagree with?
I can like explain myself further I'm not like heated about it just like genuine
I would really appreciate if you explained what you meant by this, in general, there's no specific point I need clarification.
Oh yeah I misread you're good. Try not to put so much effort into reddit debates I wasted way too much of highschool doing that (ik I am being hypocritical its chill)
Idc, I’m ace so while I might help if they really want it I wouldn’t be trying to throw myself at them and if that’s what they need I can’t give it to em and I don’t think it’d be fair to them
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No. I wouldn’t watch it if I had a partner since I both find it disrespectful, but also like.. why tf would I watch porn when I have a partner next to me? Therefore, I wouldn’t like if my partner watched porn either.
But your partner isnt always available to take care of your desires/ needs. Nor should you expect them to service you whenever you please. Its only disrespectful to then if you've both agreed not to do it and you violated that trust. Furthermore, masturbating isnt a substitute for sex. Its an act all of its own. Couples can masturbate together and should be capable of servicing themselves without asking their partners permission.
Idk. Imo it’s wrong to watch porn in a relationship (even outside relationships I think it’s bad for you as an individual to consume porn). Like I feel like it’s just a step away from cheating, because you’re literally getting off to other people.
And I never said that I would expect my partner to please me whenever I wanted. It’s supposed to be mutual obviously. Both should feel like it.
And masturbation on its own is another topic. If your partner doesn’t feel like having sex, then I guess masturbation is cool. BUT, if you decide to masturbate INSTEAD of being with your partner, then it’s lowkey.. Idk. Not weird, but like, Idk I would feel bad if someone took their own hand instead of me - their partner😭
What is and isnt cheating is decided by the people in the relationship. There aren't established rules that folks are required to follow.
Cause this is my thing, for a lot of people porn is intertwined with masturbating. If porn is bad, is reading romance novels (erotica) bad? Cause those things can get pretty graphic too. With unrealistic depictions.
Also, sex is an involved activity especially if your trying to make sure your partner enjoys themselves. What if all you want is bust a quick one, release some tension so you can get back to your day? Sex with my partner should be an experience, im not trying to rush it. Even if she'd be ok with it, which my girl is most of the time. I wouldnt want to be like hey let me bust a quick one disregarding her pleasure. Just saying that masturbating isnt a replacement for sex its its own thing.
I don't expect my girl to wait around until available to take care of her. If she takes care of herself I'm happy that she good. She's grumpy when she's horny. Lol. Just cause she took care of herself doesn't mean we can't still play later.
I’m not sure about romance novels, kind of a gray area for me. I mean, it is just words in a book at the end of the day. It’s more of imagination if anything, and imagination is okay imo. But internet porn is just straight up, well, porn. Visual and auditory stimulation, which our monkey brains can’t differentiate from reality.
Ah, ok. See I read your name this time. Your the same person as before.
I think anyone who mistakes porn for reality needs therapy. Also internet porn comes in differing flavors (you have the weird and sometimes over the top shit, and than you have noncorporate content made by individuals)
Would also like to add that romance novels or erotica can get pretty graphic and if you consume it as an audio book has very little difference as audioporn, moaning sounds and all.
Oh, it’s you! Well simply put, I just believe porn is unhealthy for us as individuals.
Edit: and as I said in my other comment/replies, I don’t think porn should be a thing when you’re in a relationship. At least that’s what my values are. I’m not watching porn so I’m expecting you as a partner to not watch porn either (mutual agreement)
You replied to another reply of mine in this post. You were in my notifications 2 times, so that’s why I said "oh it’s you”.
And audioporn is a bit of a grayzone for me. There is no visual stimulation, only sounds, so it’s kinda based on imagination in a way. Same with erotica novels, with them it’s even more imagination since it’s just words on a paper.
What I’m fully against is your average Pornhub video.
Either way, I think partners should enjoy themselves together and not separately. It makes it more special in a way too.
Its not an addiction. Not everyone who watches porn is addicted to it. Just like not everyone who smokes weed is addicted to it. Flawed logic. Its cool to say that your not comfortable with a partner doing xyz and not dating that person. But there is no need to frame it as if they have a problem.
Like hell they’re not. Weed? Yes weed is an addiction too. What’s next “not everyone who does heroin is addicted”?? You sound like this guys who go “bro I can quit anytime”. An addiction is an addiction.
Weed isnt even a chemically addictive substance. But I digress, you sound like you've been hurt or go to a messed up church.
If someone watches porn once a week. They aren't addicted. Not all porn is visual, there is audio porn, erotica, etc. Its not a monolith. The fact that you've chosen to view all of it by this very narrow lense is very concerning for your future partners. I hope you find therapy.
You can't control someone else's behavior, you can't dictate to a partner what they are or are not allowed to do. You can say that if you do that than I will leave you. But if that's the case than you need to take responsibility for yourself and admit that they didn't do anything to you. They didn't wrong you. People are allowed to pleasure themselves and porn is a vehicle that helps them do that. Doesn't mean your not justified in leaving that relationship. Just that it would be a you issue and not their's.
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Kinda. if they were addicted and honest with me about it yes, and I’d try my best to help them get out of the addiction. It would be a bit disheartening to know he watches women do that tho. I’m okay with them watching hentai tho cause that doesnt have real women in it
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Yes. As long as he's fine with me watching it as well.
Real
Yeah fr. Gotta go both ways
I mean, I more read doujinshi than watch
Well you shouldn't have said that in a teenage server 😭
Why?
Yeah it's whatever, long as they're open about it and not paying for it.
Who PAYS for it? 💀😭
dude, so many people. There's a reason they keep making more of it and that OF is a website.
How desperate does one need to be to pay for p*rnography?
Fr
Very
If yourbpaying for porn , you can be paying for ethically sourced porn. Usually, individual context creatures that actually keep the money rather than a studio that exploits them. Not to mention you can avoid some of the more cringe worthy porn tropes. Its not about being desperate its about not wanting to pay for gross corporate exploitative porn.
Hrmmm.....that's an interesting perspective.
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if I had one NO!
no because if you keep watching it you get desensitized and eventually you’ll need weirder and weirder content to get off
Not usually the case but a possibility in severe addiction.
This. I’ve been on it since I (unfortunately) was 11yo. Now I’m 18 and still only like your basic vanilla corn.
Edit: typo
Meanwhile me who never liked vanilla corn and mostly only turns on from a specific fetish media which 12 yo me sadly stumbled upon while doomscrolling tiktok
I didn't know Korn had flavors!
No
Nope. I don’t see any reason for that
no, and if they're going through addiction, I'll help and want them recover and get rid of it as soon as possible.
If I was girl I wouldn't be fine with it.
Not u getting downvoted for stating an opinion 💀
Fr, like only guys upvote girls who agreed with them 💀
Weird response dude. Since girls watch porn too. So you could still have a partner who watches porn.
Why not as a girl but a s a boy?
Beacuse I think its more damaging to guy than a girl. And that in my opinion a form of cheating.
If it’s cheating then it cheating for both genders..
Yes, but it ain't cheating, not even close
Right. Different thing between a real person and someone on Film etc. It's only a issue imo, if someone prefers to see porn than being intimate with their partner.
Im not saying it is the person I replied to said so. Andor it’s cheating why is it okay for girls and not boys.. that’s what I am asking him
Yea, if it is cheating, its for both obv
Yesss, they have to be fine with me watching it as well and we could also wath it together. As long as they arent addicted to it ofc
No way i already have 5 dms lol 🙏
Too many creeps & perverts on Reddit. =/
Yep, 10 dms now
Bruh. BTW, I reckon you shouldn't have your own picture as your DP. Just a word of advice. :)
I'm sorry I don't wanna come off as a creep or anything 😭 but if your pfp is you then you look really pretty
I know what you mean
No. I want a guy who doesn't watch it and if he watched it before at least once a week/ two weeks then I want it to be at least 2 years ago. I don't watch it for several reasons so I expect the same from my boyfriend/husband.
I don't care, whatever floats her boat I think they say idk I'm new to English
Right man. Live and let live.
It wouldn't bother me at all, as long as it doesn't become a replacement or an issue in that sense, because then it's a problem. Like I don't mind if someone watches it....it's not reality or our relationship...but our relationship is reality.
Yes as long as it’s not the same creator over and over, or loli
It's okay to watch porn (especially if they do it with m-), but not to be porn addicted, I would try talking to them first to check before creating an opinion. Even if they were actually addicted to porn j would try to help them snap out of it, emphasis on "try", if it didn't work and it was getting on the way of our relationship I would simply break up.
What people normally don't understand is that there are levels to addictions there are addictions that only hurt yourself, addictions that hurt yourself and others (Narcotics, alcoholism, and other drug addictions, except for drugs for chronic pain) I would certainly try to help the first after all the only people they're harming are themselves in the process, but the second is the "hard side" of things, I don't think I would ever date anyone with the second type, because any addiction at that level is very noticeable and I do would never date anyone who smokes or drinks alcohol, anyone suffering from it should get professional help.
Nicely put 👏
Bro is 14
And? is there a problem with that? ಠωಠ
Like kinda? You don't really have the life experience to like have like serious opinions on alc,weed,sex etc etc. Like at 14 you cant (or shouldn't) really have those experiences in a like responsible setting you know? If you disagree I can like explain myself further I'm not like heated about it just like genuine
Having serious opinions? Saying it's bad really depends on life experience and not common sense? Okay...
I was speaking potentially obviously, this entire post is asking for you to put yourself in a fictional situation, so I don't know what you're talking about here, there's a minimum age requirement to answer hypothetical questions?
I don't know what you're talking about here, it seems you completely missed the point of the post, OP is not asking for our life experiences with addicts, they're asking how we would we handle a relationship with a porn addict, the point about drugs and others addictions was MINE, that I made to illustrate a point. If age is the same as intelligence, the argument about age can go both ways, how are you 20 years old?
Disagree with what? You didn't understand what I meant, how could you have possibly said something I would disagree with?
I would really appreciate if you explained what you meant by this, in general, there's no specific point I need clarification.
Oh yeah I misread you're good. Try not to put so much effort into reddit debates I wasted way too much of highschool doing that (ik I am being hypocritical its chill)
Are you pressed that a 14 year old has an opinion lmao
Nah man, can't be too pressed its just reddit
It doesnt matter to me, but im also asexual, so i wouldnt be able to satisfy my partners needs that way.
Would I want it? No, do I care if they do it? No, go ahead. Especially if they don’t wanna do sexual stuff in person too. I don’t judge on that.
Why is he looking at other ppl and getting aroused🤬
Idc, I’m ace so while I might help if they really want it I wouldn’t be trying to throw myself at them and if that’s what they need I can’t give it to em and I don’t think it’d be fair to them
Only if I can watch with them
Yeah, as long as it's not too often.
Hell no 🗣️
Yes
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Yeah, I don't personally see a reason why not
If It's tasteful I guess sure.
No. I wouldn’t watch it if I had a partner since I both find it disrespectful, but also like.. why tf would I watch porn when I have a partner next to me? Therefore, I wouldn’t like if my partner watched porn either.
But your partner isnt always available to take care of your desires/ needs. Nor should you expect them to service you whenever you please. Its only disrespectful to then if you've both agreed not to do it and you violated that trust. Furthermore, masturbating isnt a substitute for sex. Its an act all of its own. Couples can masturbate together and should be capable of servicing themselves without asking their partners permission.
Idk. Imo it’s wrong to watch porn in a relationship (even outside relationships I think it’s bad for you as an individual to consume porn). Like I feel like it’s just a step away from cheating, because you’re literally getting off to other people.
And I never said that I would expect my partner to please me whenever I wanted. It’s supposed to be mutual obviously. Both should feel like it.
And masturbation on its own is another topic. If your partner doesn’t feel like having sex, then I guess masturbation is cool. BUT, if you decide to masturbate INSTEAD of being with your partner, then it’s lowkey.. Idk. Not weird, but like, Idk I would feel bad if someone took their own hand instead of me - their partner😭
What is and isnt cheating is decided by the people in the relationship. There aren't established rules that folks are required to follow. Cause this is my thing, for a lot of people porn is intertwined with masturbating. If porn is bad, is reading romance novels (erotica) bad? Cause those things can get pretty graphic too. With unrealistic depictions.
Also, sex is an involved activity especially if your trying to make sure your partner enjoys themselves. What if all you want is bust a quick one, release some tension so you can get back to your day? Sex with my partner should be an experience, im not trying to rush it. Even if she'd be ok with it, which my girl is most of the time. I wouldnt want to be like hey let me bust a quick one disregarding her pleasure. Just saying that masturbating isnt a replacement for sex its its own thing.
I don't expect my girl to wait around until available to take care of her. If she takes care of herself I'm happy that she good. She's grumpy when she's horny. Lol. Just cause she took care of herself doesn't mean we can't still play later.
I’m not sure about romance novels, kind of a gray area for me. I mean, it is just words in a book at the end of the day. It’s more of imagination if anything, and imagination is okay imo. But internet porn is just straight up, well, porn. Visual and auditory stimulation, which our monkey brains can’t differentiate from reality.
Everything else you said tho I fully agree with.
Ah, ok. See I read your name this time. Your the same person as before.
I think anyone who mistakes porn for reality needs therapy. Also internet porn comes in differing flavors (you have the weird and sometimes over the top shit, and than you have noncorporate content made by individuals)
Would also like to add that romance novels or erotica can get pretty graphic and if you consume it as an audio book has very little difference as audioporn, moaning sounds and all.
I’m so happy to see that most people are against porn here. W
Why?
Oh, it’s you! Well simply put, I just believe porn is unhealthy for us as individuals.
Edit: and as I said in my other comment/replies, I don’t think porn should be a thing when you’re in a relationship. At least that’s what my values are. I’m not watching porn so I’m expecting you as a partner to not watch porn either (mutual agreement)
Maybe I should pay for attention to people's names when I respond to comments. But I dont know who you are. So the "OH, its you!" Took me aback.
Do you feel the same way about audioporn or erotica/ steamy romance novels?
You replied to another reply of mine in this post. You were in my notifications 2 times, so that’s why I said "oh it’s you”.
And audioporn is a bit of a grayzone for me. There is no visual stimulation, only sounds, so it’s kinda based on imagination in a way. Same with erotica novels, with them it’s even more imagination since it’s just words on a paper.
What I’m fully against is your average Pornhub video.
Either way, I think partners should enjoy themselves together and not separately. It makes it more special in a way too.
Exactly!
I mean I’d be fine with it since I watch a lot but come on if your in that sorta mood just text me yk🤷♂️
No
The amount of girls here who are fine with their partner watching porn is lowkey absurd.
I used to date a guy who would send me porn with the subtitle "this could be us xx"
So long as it isn't that bad, then I don't care.
No, id help them stop
No
absolutely not
No way. it’s bad for you in so many ways.
yes, no problem. but he doesn't have to discuss it too much with me.
Not at all
No lol. Ion watch porn why would I be fine with my significant other watching it?
It's an addiction. And just as I'd be turned off if a girl was smoking weed being addicted to porn is a turn off too.
Its not an addiction. Not everyone who watches porn is addicted to it. Just like not everyone who smokes weed is addicted to it. Flawed logic. Its cool to say that your not comfortable with a partner doing xyz and not dating that person. But there is no need to frame it as if they have a problem.
Like hell they’re not. Weed? Yes weed is an addiction too. What’s next “not everyone who does heroin is addicted”?? You sound like this guys who go “bro I can quit anytime”. An addiction is an addiction.
Weed isnt even a chemically addictive substance. But I digress, you sound like you've been hurt or go to a messed up church. If someone watches porn once a week. They aren't addicted. Not all porn is visual, there is audio porn, erotica, etc. Its not a monolith. The fact that you've chosen to view all of it by this very narrow lense is very concerning for your future partners. I hope you find therapy.
No
No
No
No
Not at all
no
You can't control someone else's behavior, you can't dictate to a partner what they are or are not allowed to do. You can say that if you do that than I will leave you. But if that's the case than you need to take responsibility for yourself and admit that they didn't do anything to you. They didn't wrong you. People are allowed to pleasure themselves and porn is a vehicle that helps them do that. Doesn't mean your not justified in leaving that relationship. Just that it would be a you issue and not their's.
Call me insecure but no
Yeah. Ngl, if I ever caught him watching porn, I’d most likely watch with him
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Kinda. if they were addicted and honest with me about it yes, and I’d try my best to help them get out of the addiction. It would be a bit disheartening to know he watches women do that tho. I’m okay with them watching hentai tho cause that doesnt have real women in it
soft no, it wouldnt be smth id immediately break up over but id try to shift them away from it over time
Not really, but I understand its an addiction oftentimes
No not alone so we watch it together at times
Yesh
No. Ew.
Depends honestly. Like if he was subbed to a girls onlyfans or only watches specific girls that’s kind of cheating. But otherwise it’s fine
i wouldn't care as long as their fine with me watching it too and aren't addicted
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No reason not to be imo. Everyone has needs, so long as their okay with me doing it to and they ain’t paying for it then I don’t mind at all
yeah why not.
I don't think he does but I wouldn't care if he did.
Again "Teen girls" TEEN. look at the TEEN part.
i mean honestly i think every teen who’s been on the internet has watched porn at least once. this question isn’t too bad