Mine’s dumb but I once fessed up to my dermatologist that I’d been using shampoo as body wash for like six months bc I kept forgetting to buy more and my skin was revolting. She just blinked and went “ah, that’s the rash.” I felt like a toddler.
The first time i cut myself i had a doctors appointment the next day for mental health. They asked me if i ever harmed myself and I said yes, and was super embarrassed about it. They asked when, and I said last night. They then asked to see, and gently cleaned the wound while saying nothing. They then went about the rest of the consultation and sent me off to my mother. I eventually told her a few years down the line, but having that quiet compassion really helped me in a dark time.
I spent nearly 20 years struggling with that and going to extreme lengths to keep it hidden from everyone (starting ADHD meds in my mid-30’s improved my mental health dramatically). I can’t imagine what a difference a response like that would have made!
I am so glad you received that level of care and compassion. I hope things are well 💜
Can I ask a question as a med student? How do you think doctors can best handle self harm if brought up in appointments, especially recent? I want to know how to support my patients best while ensuring their safety. Sending love. I’m so glad you had a positive experience with this doctor and they gave you the kindness you needed.
That I ate one kilo of licquorice in a week. For the first time in my life I had a nearly normal blood pressure.
The doctor was shocked and said: "This is NOT the way we want to treat your low blood pressure!"
It's the glycyrrhizin. That's why when you take licorice as a supplement for health benefits (it's amazing for heartburn) it has the glycyrrhizin removed. It's called DGL, deglycyrrhizinated licorice.
My mum went to the doctor for something once and they took her blood pressure and it was like 190/100. Everyone was very confused because she’s never had high blood pressure, eats very healthy, and exercises daily. Turns out it was because she was drinking 5 cups of licorice spice tea a day and didn’t know licorice could do that.
Back in the day, I wrote in my journal that I didn’t think I’d make it to 18. I’m 27 now and I exist out of spite. I don’t have a kid, but I do have a cat and a dog who are both very needy…
Spite life. 45 here. I love my dog. He's an idiot. But he's mine. He falls off the couch. Shitzu. Fluffy teddy bear.
Love them pets. They love you.
And I love my sister. We are Irish twins. Only a year apart. And I'd do anything for her. Like anything. I told her husband I'd off him if he ever hurt her. He's scared of me. I'm like 125 pounds soaking wet. But I have a sword. And I love hello kitty.
Had a similar mindset, don't want to kill myself but don't care what happens to me.
Dr told me this is still a suicidal tendency.
Took a massive heart attack for me to realise I still want to be here.
I got lucky. I hope you are ok.
Yes we call this and variations of this feeling passive suicidal tendency.
A LOT of people feel like it would be easier not to be here, not to deal with the stresses and strains. A lot of people just want peace. Not to suffer or worry or be sad much of the time. But don't feel they want to do anything to end their life, or know they wouldn't do it.
Probably most of my depressed patients or patients struggling with their lives have expressed this kind of feeling, during their low periods. It's very common and it often helps to discuss it.
If you are reading and this describes you, people who currentl feels this way can be helped, and you deserve to be listened to. Please reach out to someone.
Just leaving this here but if you or anyone else need to trauma dump or just want to chat my DMs are wide open.
No judgment zone.
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This is my first award, thank you stranger.
I find it easier to be honest and say difficult things with strangers, I don’t know you from Adam, scream into the void at me.
Edit: thank you guys ❤️ I want to preface the above by saying I’m obviously not a professional in any way and I probably can’t help but I am here to listen and make sure that you know that I am thankful that you are all alive.
I am always afraid to even discuss suicide related things with mandated reporters, where is the line drawn between, “this is common” and “you’re on a 72 hour psych hold”?
I believe they ask things related to actionable intent. For example: do you have a plan? Yes. They will ask you to tall them your plan. Have you taken steps to facilitate a plan? Yes. They’ll ask what have you done? Examples: “I bought a gun and loaded it with bullets”, another common one I’ve hear is “I’ve bought rat poison” or “I have been stashing my (high lethality) meds to take all at once” or another most people know, giving things away, saying good bye to meaningful individuals in that person’s life. Thinking about the aftermath and how to make it less problematic for people the patient cares about. Doctors and other health providers could also ask you have you thought of when and where you would do it? When do you plan to take action? (Looking for near future specifics) Do you think you will do it today? Can you continue to deal with your depression sxs for example, can you see yourself continuing to use your coping strategies or do you feel they don’t work anymore and why? If you have very specific answers for these questions further steps needs to be taken to make sure you are safe. I also want to say every agency is different but this is what we usually do where I work. Trying to see if they have any actionable plan and could happen in the very near future.
I just want to say if this is you I want you to make a list of reasons why life is worth living, what are the things you would miss if you were dead? I myself dealt with suicidal thoughts throughout my early 20s and making a list like this helped me a lot. Shifting the focus from what I want to scape to what I would miss or what I could still enjoy. I carried that list and read it whenever I felt suicidal. The top of my list was music. If I died I’d never listen to a sonata again or classical music. I would never see the sunrise again, I would not see how things turn out because I gave up on myself. Lastly you can seek help, if you have insurance you can go to a community mental health clinic a lot of them also offer sliding fees if you have low income. You could call or text 988 the mental health hot line anonymously.
Thank you for this very well put response. Thankfully my mental health is in a lot better shape these days, I checked myself into Psych last year because of intrusive thoughts and got myself medicated and changed basically my entire life so that I could focus on healing. I mentioned this recently on Reddit but I saw a quote somewhere about suicidal ideation that stuck with me, it was something along the lines of “if I wasn’t allowed to think about suicide then I would have killed myself by now” I found that a very interesting take.
I agree whole heartedly, thankfully I am not struggling anymore and I want people to know that it does get better. And if nobody else will, I give you permission to be selfish as shit and do whatever it takes to get yourself safe, if it comes down to you losing everything or us losing YOU, we choose YOU.
You're not describing suicidal tendency here: your doctor was wrong.
Suicidality is about intent and planning. Other factors influence the risk of completed suicide such as ongoing substance misuse, previous (genuine) attempts, low mood, poverty. These are details really.
The clinician only really needs to establish: does this person know how to keep themself safe; are they responsible for their actions (do they have / lack capacity - decision-making ability); then evidence of intent; evidence of planning.
Lots of people wish they were dead. This is a normal part of human existence and it shouldn't be pathologised.
It’s possible they meant “suicidal ideation” rather than “suicidal tendency”, as their example is definitely passive suicidal ideation. It turns into “active suicidal ideation” when it’s more than just the thought of “I don’t want to be here”— at this point folks have plans, potentially means, etc. There is utility in capturing a client’s passive SI given it’s a critical risk factor for active SI.
I don’t know that I’ve ever actually seen “suicidal tendency” used as a term in the clinical world though, only in pop culture, but I live in the US so maybe it’s different elsewhere. “Suicidal tendency” sounds more action-oriented than passive SI.
I remember seeing something from Stephen Fry which was similar. Not suicidal but wouldn't mind not existing. He put it more eloquently.
I've probably had more lows than highs in life but whatever highs I've had have been worth it. Now dealing with ageing and random inexplicable pain and think more and more like this.
I suffer from 2 separate chronic pain issues and while I would never do any harm to myself, I always say I now completely understand why people in chronic pain with no relief end up committing suicide.
Oh my god. I just said something similar to my doctor. Annual physical after the year from hell. Dr - “are you having suicidal thoughts?” Me - “well, yeah, but I wouldn’t leave my cat and I’ve got too much work to do at the theater”.
I recently had to tell a doctor that I'd pooped my pants for the first time in 30+ years. I actually did tell another non-doctor shortly thereafter, but she was an elderly woman who was very embarrassed about having wet herself, so I wanted to help her feel better.
I have Crohns so pooping & pooping myself .. well thats an average day. I'm also very open about it and people just like.. confess everything pooping related to me lol.
Semi related, my running my mouth let me find out my teammate also has IBD but never had someone who could relate. So we've got a pretty good friendship going now.
Omg yes. I remember bawling my eyes out to an ED nurse; "I can't take a shit and you understandably won't give me any laxatives so how the fuck am I supposed to shit please help me I feel like I'm going to explode"
Wait constipation is a side effect of an ED??? I used to struggle heavily with constipation when I was like 15-22, and then after college that just stopped and I had super regular bowel movements. Never knew why. I also happened to be anorexic when I was 15-22 but never thought those 2 things were correlated…
Eating Disorder, Erectile Disfunction, Emergency Department. I was trying to read this and couldn't discern which was intended. None of them seemed to fit in all of the comments. People using acronyms without defining need to be punished, like coal in their stocking or something.
I'm not accepting any other explanations. I was with this guy to begin with and I'm staying with them. May the brown flow and your cock grow you poor man.
Not just you! Difficulties with bowel movements is a common eating disorder symptom. You’re not abnormal. It completely sucks, I know first hand. But yeah, definitely normal when it comes to eating disorders.
I’m just thinking about a time at like 13 years old when I was trying to answer if I was sexually active but didn’t know if lesbian sex counted and didn’t want to say the words lesbian or sex
I told my doctor when asked a similar question, (is there a possibility that you are pregnant or going to get pregnant) that my partners didn’t have sperm.
Today I learned that is possible. I told my gyno when I was 17 that I thought my boyfriend was hitting my cervix and she goes “not possible” and brushed me off. I haaaated having sex with him. I thought this whole time that she was right! Never had that pain with anyone else since, and I’m 34 now lol
I have had the pleasure of being in the room, as the patient, when this was asked.
"When this happens, can you see if there is a trigger? Is it from certain positions, when toys are in use, or other factors? We know that certain positions can make things more uncomfortable or painful, as well as even just the items used to penetrare with. Sometimes it can be due a toy or sexual partner's penis being a size that your body is uncomfortable with taking."
Very professional, but died laughing when I said, yeah, he's a a huge dick in every way.
We have both been under the care of each other a few different times so it's the funniest interactions with each other. She has done my basic PCP care and more intimate care. I have personally seen her butthole when she came onto my unit and needed care twice. (Small, small town where there aren't many other options help so you get used to care from someone you know since high school or dated their cousin.)
As a female doc I can see how size could be a valid factor though. Cervical stimulation is not fun for everyone. Whikst in theory the vagina has a lot of flexibility especially when fully aroused, there are so many factors that go into whether sex is comfortable.
As a doc myself it was interesting talking about how switching sex position helped with my dyspareunia. Like I'm fairly open about things but nobody in my life needs to know the ins and outs of my sex life...literally. the things they ask you both when you get a fertility work up also? My husband was not prepared for telling a man he'd never met before about his masturbation habits lol
They’ve probably heard it before. I have pelvic floor muscle dysfunction since I had my kids and sometimes the muscles are so tight that sex is painful. My Dr showed me a contraption called an Ohnut that my partner could put on during sex that limits penetration depth. I never tried it because physical therapy seems to be the answer for me but they said it’s been very helpful to their patients so they keep one in the cupboard of the exam room to show/explain when relevant to the patient issue.
I was going to say I do continence management and pelvic floor therapy and nothing I’ve read in this thread would move the needle on the “strange” meter for me.
Getting screened for adhd and they question you about a lot of things to eliminate all sorts of psychiatric issues. I admitted to having experienced intrusive thoughts. I’m white and sometimes when I’m extremely tired my brain makes up a horrific scenario. I become convinced I have Tourettes syndrome (which I don’t have) and I have this intrusive thought that I’m going to blurt out the n-word in a room full of people. Not because I’m racist, but because it’s the most horrible insulting thing my brain can think of to scare me with. Luckily, this only happens to me every now and then when I’m completely exhausted, like maybe once a year for 5 minutes. I feel so bad for people that have Tourette syndrome or intrusive/unwanted thoughts on the regular. It must be very difficult.
Me too, and I got diagnosed with ADHD 8-9 months ago. My brain just pops the craziest shit out. I wish it could be that damn creative the rest of the time, but with less weird stuff lol
I have just realized that my intrusive thoughts occur when I’m really sad and feel like my gf’s never call. Kid issues. Living alone, I spend mostly every day alone with my thoughts.
Mine happen when I’m extremely tired (like I slept less than 2-3 hours the night before) and I’m either speaking in front of a large group or I’m in a somewhat quiet audience. I once googled it out of curiosity and found a study that showed a combination of exhaustion and a happy occasion can induce intrusive thoughts.
I get mine when my anxiety goes up in the grocery store too. But mostly at night when I’m alone with my thoughts. But in the grocery store my anxiety will sky rocket when it’s really crowded, so my brains like hey what if this happens and then my hearts like let’s start pounding. 😭😂
I will say, I probably do have intrusive thoughts all the time that I am just quick to dismiss. Like I’m always casually imagining mass shooting situations and how I would react (might be because I’m a teacher in the US) or I’ll think weird things for no reason like “I could just go walk out on that frozen lake right now at 5 am on my way to work” lol… but for me that’s more like casual weird/dark daydreaming and it doesn’t really impact my life. Atleast once I turned around to make sure I didn’t run an imaginary person over… lol… and I’ve had the passing thought of “what if I intentionally killed my cat?” (I love my cat and would never do that… I don’t even kill mosquitoes or eat meat.) None of these thoughts really bother me except for the imagined racist Tourette’s thought.
I had similar happen! Getting screened and had to admit that I have auditory hallucinations but only when Im extremely tired and there's a static noise like running water. It's always in the voice of an old timey baseball announcer.
I mean, having to explain to the doctor about my work-related injury falling off of scaffolding and landing... awkwardly. I literally thought I exploded a ball.
Question asks what they've confessed to a doctor but "you'd never tell anyone else". So their response is saying the question is coming from someone in the "anyone else" category, so they ain't sayin' shit
He did, indeed. I’m in grief counseling dealing with grief, guilt, and the confusion and happiness of feeling independent and moving on. It hasn’t been easy, but it should be harder.
Oh well
Let go of that "should." Picture it in your mind as a Chinese lantern and push it slowly into the water if you need to. Should never gave anyone anything except heartburn and road rage.
My mother was extremely abusive and died of cancer. I felt guilty that i wasn’t mourning that hard too, but if she hadn’t died I’d probably be dead myself. Freedom is freedom. Even when the circumstances that assured it are tragic. You have nothing to feel guilty for.
It's as hard as it is. Grief is different for everyone. My Grandpa died when I was a kid and I found his dead body. I was surprisingly undisturbed by it as a kid. Now I just can't look at dead things, no matter the thing.
I hurt my back while getting it from behind from my ex. I went to the doctors and the guy asked what was going on while setting up the xray machine. I'm not bashful with nurses or doctors so I looked at him and said "My BF and I were having sex and he went too hard." And he looked at me like I had 3 heads and asked for me to repeat it. Then he laughed. I hope I became a funny story to tell over the years.
I had a bit of a rough but consensual hookup one night, and totally forgot about it when I went to the gyno the next day. During the breast exam she noticed I had this massive purple bruise on my boob and looked incredibly concerned. I turned 10 shades of red and started overexplaining that it was consensual. Thankfully this was a Planned Parenthood so the people that work there tend to not judge much. We ended up having a good laugh about it.
I also have had at least 2 necessary surgeries where I vaguely recall asking about what they drugs they had just given me and showing way too much enthusiasm for them with zero working filter. Those experiences made it VERY clear to me that I need to stay far, far away from opiates or prescription drugs unless it's necessary. I'd get hooked so fast.
Oh, trust us hospital peeps, we've heard MANY people sing the praises of morphine and dilaudid especially. And usually it's along the lines of, "I don't do drugs, but MAN, this stuff makes me feel GREAT!"
No joke, the last time I had an anaesthetic done, the midazolam was hands down my favourite component. I didn’t remember SHIT of the procedure or even most of the recovery which was a huge improvement on the last time I had it done, it was great.
I don’t think I told the nurse out loud that I loved midazolam. I hope I didn’t. That would probably have been concerning.
I have some medical issues that necessitate an ER visit for emergency pain management and that short relief of morphine is like, 5 seconds of discomfort as I feel it hitting me, then the most sweet relief afterwards. I'm usually precisely thanking the doc because it forces my body to relax and unclench.
Oh I'm so glad I'm not the only one who was weird about anesthesia, I believe my exact words were "These are the best drugs you can get for free" Extra awkward when they know you occasionally smoke weed too lol
When i was giving birth and they gave me laughing gas, i was so into it that I was offering the straw around the room for others to get in on the fun. Some responsible doctor turned down the dose after that.
(Sidenote. Lest someone read this and think "i wouldnt want to be loopy for such a momentous occasion, I want to remember it", I need them to know that the pain itself had me so loopy I can't really remember any details from before they gave me the drugs. I do remember the birth and it was still magical. Just with more laughter than shrieks and moans.)
The birth version of passing the blunt lol
I remember how great I felt when the pethidine kicked in. I hit the point of needing to push about ten minutes later and was so ready to go for it xD
Little did I know the ring of fire would be way worse than they describe.
I woke up from a fertility procedure and wanted to do my taxes! I had to be reminded I shouldn't handle any legal documents for at least 24h after. And then the feeling passed 🤣
I dont kniw if it counts as weird but I do find it amusing.
The lack of self control you feel after anesthesia is similar to being absolutely drunk out of your mind in my experience too.
I immediately demanded we get a Chinese takeaway which was incredibly dumb because I'd been in for a colonoscopy and you're really not supposed to stuff your fully empty stomach up that fast. Felt that for days.
It's very similar to what it's like for me after I've had a Tonic-Clonic seizure. I signed myself out against medical advice once because I really wanted to get a kebab. 😅
Lol I had sex with my bf right before my first pap smear last year and he came in me. I don’t think it was noticeable, my gyno didn’t say anything. I only really thought about it this year when she said I had unusual cells last time so we had to do another pap. Unsurprisingly it came out clean this time😅
You can clearly see sperm cells under the kicriscipe after sex...and they look nothing like cancer cells or "unusual cells".
However I would check wuth your provider how long they recommend you abstaining before a gynaecological procedure. As your cervix being touched can sometimes influence the test.
It was like less than two weeks ago when I was meeting with a surgeon about carpal tunnel surgery (happened this past Friday actually) and he said I couldn't use power tools, vacuums, basically anything that would cause vibrations and I was like "ok well I'm gonna be a huge bitch at the end of 6 weeks of that..."and he looked at me in confusion for about 10 seconds then just started cackling but like... I was very serious! 😂
Adding onto this after the surgery before I was fully back in charge of what was coming out of my mouth I was like "last time I had to wake up from surgery it was after a hysterectopy/biopsy/d&c/IUD placement and I woke up screaming about my vagina hurting, I'm really glad I'm not talking about my vagina this time ... Oh I am. I'm so sorry"
My doctor straight up asked me if I masturbate and I said yea. I forgot what the reason that I was there for lol. I mean yea, everyone masturbates but I don’t actively go around telling people that lol. Definitely odd but hey it’s for medical purposes so 🤷♂️
I’m honestly trying to remember. Ok this is going to be TMI but whatever, my comment already went there.
One time I had to pee but I was super horny so I masturbated first and then a few days later I had this pain in my testicle. I only have 1 because I had testicular cancer in the other one so they had to take it. The pain I was feeling was the same exact pain that I had in the other when I had cancer. It scared the crap out of me so I went to the doctor and that’s when he asked me if I masturbate. Basically what happened was I should have peed first before masturbating because the urine back flowed into my nut and that’s what was causing the pain. I forget the actual medical term. Epidimitis I think. It was very painful though. I’d did clear up and get better though. Now that I’m remembering everything, that’s why he asked me lol.
That everytime I have sex (but not when I masturbate) I pass out/nearly pass out. We never figured out what it was. At some point it seems that I just grew out of it??
I had a coworker who did this! Blood pressure dropped during climax and combined with exertion, holding breath, and his preferred position. Called a vasovagal syncope. Not sure if you had this, but wanted to share!
Wow what an unlikely coincidence. We also suspected that it was due to a decrease in blood pressure! But I've never heard of someone else experiencing it due to sex! 😂
Having to tell my adhd study doc when I became sexually active since it was a weekly thing… Then everything else.. Over several years he got to hear about me going from a fat low-functioning dork to a fit functional sexually active dork.
That i dont trust doctors. I had sleep issues. They tried to perscribe Xanax. I dont have anxiety. I wanted a sleep study. Still never got one. Turns out it was stress. Broke up with my girlfriend and my sleep issues went away.
Same here I have insomnia from long term antidepressant withdrawal. I was told to try better sleep hygiene then they referred me for an autism assement when I followed all the sleep hygiene advice because I demonstrated overly strict adherence to routines. I was so sleep deprived I'd started hallucinating.
I was about 17 or 18 when I was misdiagnosed with schizoaffective, she put me on a cocktail of meds, about 20 in a year (not at the same time) and it completely fried my brain.
When covid happened, we were doing monthly phone calls and I somehow expressed that I think of her as a friend, and went into detail as to why. She quickly shut that down, telling me that she was not my friend and I had to differentiate that because she was helping me mentally doesn’t mean she was my friend.
Well, now I’m 26. I’ve always thought I was misdiagnosed but nobody believed me. Two months ago I talked to my new psychiatrist and told him I want to stop taking meds. He was hesitant but allowed it. Next few weeks were absolute hell, dry heaving, throwing up, no appetite (didn’t eat for a week straight) but still went to work (construction, material handler).
I stopped taking meds officially the night of November 5 of this year. My psychiatrist appointment was Tuesday of last week. He discharged me because he saw I was getting so much better.
Aw man, unless you were being inappropriate, that's really mean to say to a young and vulnerable patient. I'd be crushed.
There are different types of friends. She could've said I have to be your doctor before your friend, but I do care for your well-being and am rooting for you.
I'm so glad you're doing better though, transitioning meds is really brave. Glad that other psych looked out for you
I gave myself razor burns on my boobs because I was trying to shave off all the stray random hairs before my appointment. The doctor was like ??? and I had to tell her embarrassingly. I have fair skin, so it was very noticeable.🤦♀️
I agree about the Xanax. In PA I got 270 for 3 months. Out here in Az they act like this is the devil. Dr said othered a chance you’d get addicted. I said I’m 71. Who cares. I’m already on my way out and I can’t even do it without anxiety bc AZ has weird medical practices.
That’s what I’m saying. When you start to get older, does it really matter about taking pills daily if it gives you a better quality of life? My Xanax prescription is $3 a month. To buy enough edibles to give me the same results would cost hundreds per month
I talked to my therapist about this once but no one else. I talked my husband off a ledge (figuratively). I’ve never had someone close to me or even acquainted with me that committed suicide, but I could feel it. He was telling me how amazing I am and how much he loved me and that he wanted to do something fun together, and I could just tell that was his way of saying goodbye. I asked him point blank if that was the case and he immediately burst into tears, and cry-yelled at me to stop knowing him so well and stop being able to read his mind. I was able to keep my composure (thanks ADHD) and became whatever he needed in that moment. I think he wanted to live but didn’t know how.
We talked for hours and I eventually convinced him to go out for dinner with me. This was about three years ago and we’re still going strong, waiting for our baby to arrive (still quite a bit of time left), and while he still has his low days he knows he can trust me with anything. His family doesn’t care for me all that much but they don’t know that I’m the reason he’s still alive; he’s told me as much. I’d do anything for that man.
The only person that I've ever told about my decades-long fantasy world was not a doctor, but a psychologist.
I think we were exploring my autistic traits. She was convinced that I was autistic after the first session so I just leant into it, showing her all my obsessive note-keeping books, discussing alexithymia, rituals etc.
I still don't know if she believed the depth and bizarre nature of my fantasy world. It's to do with being a giant sentient starship and imagining the world as a galaxy with precise distance / time conversion. She probably thought I was trying to ingratiate myself with her for being such a clever psychologist.
I've got lots of shorter-lived worlds in my brain. I've never told anyone ... but am considering telling my very creative grandkids, just in case they need to know they're not alone.
I told my doctor that i probably drink too much and i'd scaled back from that and was drinking less and doing more.
Then he retired...and the new doctor who replaced him went like hard at me about my drinking on my first visit. And it fucking sucked. Like get lost you don't know shit about me. Just completely out of range...
I have the same issue with my weight. Yup, I'm fat, but I've lost 75lbs this year through sheer fucking will. My doctors that see me regularly stick to "You're doing great, keep it up". If I have to see a new one it's immediately "You need to lose weight". How about asking a few questions first, Doc?
I couldn’t stop having orgasms/highly sensitive pelvic region. Turned out to be high tone pelvic floor dysfunction which was treated with physical therapy.
Huge thanks to those doctors in the ER that day. They were super non-judgmental and compassionate.
That I have severe social anxiety, absolutely detest making eye contact, I get distracted easily, love to procrastinate, and I have auditory processing disorder. I have autism and ADHD and that is for my psychiatrist to know and not my job. I have been working at my job for over 3 years now and my issues haven’t affected my work or my work ethic. I’m actually very good at my job.
Health care provider here! We don’t care about anything but you being healthy! We want to help - that’s literally our job. On the plus side, (we see so many people), we forget unless reminded!
How much i was drinking. When regular people asked, I'd say around 4 standard drinks a night. When I finally realised I was getting out of hand, I admitted to the doctor that it was around 15 to 20 standard drinks a night. Today, I am officially 1 month completely sober, and the sight of alcohol makes me sick (possibly due to medication). I'm just glad I finally got help, 2+ years of heavy drinking completely finished now with help.
I was telling my neurologist about numbness I'd been experiencing from my waist down. He asked the inevitable question: "can you feel your groin?" The answer was no and it also meant I couldn't tell if I had to piss or shit. I didn't realize he'd specifically detail that in my medical notes and thus every other doctor that treated me would ask the same question. Fun times.
It was earlier this year actually. I told my GP that if it wasnt for my son, then I would 100% kill myself. She was amazing and kind and supportive. Thank fuck I'm out of that blackest of black holes. It was horrific.
At beginning of this year, I had TERRIBLE tension headaches. I would nearly black out from the pain and no amount of meds helped. I ended up in the ER twice because of the pain and because I was worried. The headaches only happened when I orgasmed. I had the strangest conversations with doctors about my situation, but apparently that is a thing that can happen in people who are really stressed. Other than my partner, nobody knows this is the reason why I spent a whole week getting tests. The headaches stopped after about two weeks.
When I was in my early 20s I was having yeast infection symptoms. I went to see my gynecologist who took one peek down under and told me I left a sponge up there. OMG the horror and embarrassment.
I'm trying so hard confessing this one, but I've always wanted to trust one of them, I used to see images when I twisted and jerked all my body.
I had no idea what it used to be, but it greatly affected all my development and growth as a child and teen. And I hated it because I couldn't even go pee.
I'm mostly sure it was mental because it used to be closely tied to stress from my parents fighting and my emotions.
I want to kill myself or drop my current therapist not to tell her the whole truth. I don't know what I got myself into.
Hey there - I’m not sure I’m tracking with what you’re describing, but I wanted to say that I’m glad you’re here and that I hope you are indeed able to be fully open about it with a therapist - this one or a different one. Thanks for trusting us enough to bring it up.
Mine’s dumb but I once fessed up to my dermatologist that I’d been using shampoo as body wash for like six months bc I kept forgetting to buy more and my skin was revolting. She just blinked and went “ah, that’s the rash.” I felt like a toddler.
The doctor said I wouldn't have so many nosebleeds if I kept my finger out of there.
Okay but in your defense I totally do that and my skin doesn't care at all. So I'm a toddler with no consequences.
The first time i cut myself i had a doctors appointment the next day for mental health. They asked me if i ever harmed myself and I said yes, and was super embarrassed about it. They asked when, and I said last night. They then asked to see, and gently cleaned the wound while saying nothing. They then went about the rest of the consultation and sent me off to my mother. I eventually told her a few years down the line, but having that quiet compassion really helped me in a dark time.
As a mom, I just want to give you a hug right now. 💕💕💕💕💕
As a human, me too.
I spent nearly 20 years struggling with that and going to extreme lengths to keep it hidden from everyone (starting ADHD meds in my mid-30’s improved my mental health dramatically). I can’t imagine what a difference a response like that would have made!
I am so glad you received that level of care and compassion. I hope things are well 💜
Can I ask a question as a med student? How do you think doctors can best handle self harm if brought up in appointments, especially recent? I want to know how to support my patients best while ensuring their safety. Sending love. I’m so glad you had a positive experience with this doctor and they gave you the kindness you needed.
That I ate one kilo of licquorice in a week. For the first time in my life I had a nearly normal blood pressure. The doctor was shocked and said: "This is NOT the way we want to treat your low blood pressure!"
“No, really, doctors hate this one simple trick!”
Liquorice toxicity is a thing so don't eat loads like
What.
It's the glycyrrhizin. That's why when you take licorice as a supplement for health benefits (it's amazing for heartburn) it has the glycyrrhizin removed. It's called DGL, deglycyrrhizinated licorice.
Looks like you just smushed some letters together and made up a word lol
My mum went to the doctor for something once and they took her blood pressure and it was like 190/100. Everyone was very confused because she’s never had high blood pressure, eats very healthy, and exercises daily. Turns out it was because she was drinking 5 cups of licorice spice tea a day and didn’t know licorice could do that.
I am just learning this now...
My blood pressure runs low, and I love licorice!
Now do crunchy Cheetos.
Im not suicidal. I'd never do that to my kid. Im also 100% okay with just not waking up tomorrow.
Back in the day, I wrote in my journal that I didn’t think I’d make it to 18. I’m 27 now and I exist out of spite. I don’t have a kid, but I do have a cat and a dog who are both very needy…
This random Redditor is happy you’ve continued to exist. It’s not always easy. Excellent job!
Aw, thanks for the award! ❤️
Spite life. 45 here. I love my dog. He's an idiot. But he's mine. He falls off the couch. Shitzu. Fluffy teddy bear.
Love them pets. They love you.
And I love my sister. We are Irish twins. Only a year apart. And I'd do anything for her. Like anything. I told her husband I'd off him if he ever hurt her. He's scared of me. I'm like 125 pounds soaking wet. But I have a sword. And I love hello kitty.
a stupid shihtzu could save anyone's life. I love their little idiot logic
My dog is 10 he's the only living thing that needs me around. Idk what I'm going to do when the reaper comes for him.
There are other pups out there who need all of the love you have to give. You will carry on in his memory & honor him by loving another pup.
Maybe he wants a puppy friend to raise for you. My brother only lives for me and pets and let me tell you, I am always bringing needy pets home.
Thankful for our pets
Yeah same, but now I dont know what to do for this life I didn't plan on having. I have no dreams or aspirations
I didn’t think I’d make it to 18. Once I did, I figured 21 and now I’m in my mid-30s wondering how the hell im still here.
Passively suicidal. I'm chronically ill rn & also suffer w major depression. I'd never kill myself but like you said, if I didn't wake up? Well okay.
Same. Will be 30 next year. And I couldn’t fucking care less If I woke up tomorrow.
Had a similar mindset, don't want to kill myself but don't care what happens to me. Dr told me this is still a suicidal tendency. Took a massive heart attack for me to realise I still want to be here. I got lucky. I hope you are ok.
Yes we call this and variations of this feeling passive suicidal tendency.
A LOT of people feel like it would be easier not to be here, not to deal with the stresses and strains. A lot of people just want peace. Not to suffer or worry or be sad much of the time. But don't feel they want to do anything to end their life, or know they wouldn't do it.
Probably most of my depressed patients or patients struggling with their lives have expressed this kind of feeling, during their low periods. It's very common and it often helps to discuss it.
If you are reading and this describes you, people who currentl feels this way can be helped, and you deserve to be listened to. Please reach out to someone.
Well. Probably time for me to get back on my meds. Thank you friend, I think I needed to see this
I will keep taking my meds if you’ll take yours friend ❤️
Deal!
Just leaving this here but if you or anyone else need to trauma dump or just want to chat my DMs are wide open.
No judgment zone.
Edit:
This is my first award, thank you stranger.
I find it easier to be honest and say difficult things with strangers, I don’t know you from Adam, scream into the void at me.
Edit: thank you guys ❤️ I want to preface the above by saying I’m obviously not a professional in any way and I probably can’t help but I am here to listen and make sure that you know that I am thankful that you are all alive.
I am always afraid to even discuss suicide related things with mandated reporters, where is the line drawn between, “this is common” and “you’re on a 72 hour psych hold”?
I believe they ask things related to actionable intent. For example: do you have a plan? Yes. They will ask you to tall them your plan. Have you taken steps to facilitate a plan? Yes. They’ll ask what have you done? Examples: “I bought a gun and loaded it with bullets”, another common one I’ve hear is “I’ve bought rat poison” or “I have been stashing my (high lethality) meds to take all at once” or another most people know, giving things away, saying good bye to meaningful individuals in that person’s life. Thinking about the aftermath and how to make it less problematic for people the patient cares about. Doctors and other health providers could also ask you have you thought of when and where you would do it? When do you plan to take action? (Looking for near future specifics) Do you think you will do it today? Can you continue to deal with your depression sxs for example, can you see yourself continuing to use your coping strategies or do you feel they don’t work anymore and why? If you have very specific answers for these questions further steps needs to be taken to make sure you are safe. I also want to say every agency is different but this is what we usually do where I work. Trying to see if they have any actionable plan and could happen in the very near future.
I just want to say if this is you I want you to make a list of reasons why life is worth living, what are the things you would miss if you were dead? I myself dealt with suicidal thoughts throughout my early 20s and making a list like this helped me a lot. Shifting the focus from what I want to scape to what I would miss or what I could still enjoy. I carried that list and read it whenever I felt suicidal. The top of my list was music. If I died I’d never listen to a sonata again or classical music. I would never see the sunrise again, I would not see how things turn out because I gave up on myself. Lastly you can seek help, if you have insurance you can go to a community mental health clinic a lot of them also offer sliding fees if you have low income. You could call or text 988 the mental health hot line anonymously.
Thank you for this very well put response. Thankfully my mental health is in a lot better shape these days, I checked myself into Psych last year because of intrusive thoughts and got myself medicated and changed basically my entire life so that I could focus on healing. I mentioned this recently on Reddit but I saw a quote somewhere about suicidal ideation that stuck with me, it was something along the lines of “if I wasn’t allowed to think about suicide then I would have killed myself by now” I found that a very interesting take.
I agree whole heartedly, thankfully I am not struggling anymore and I want people to know that it does get better. And if nobody else will, I give you permission to be selfish as shit and do whatever it takes to get yourself safe, if it comes down to you losing everything or us losing YOU, we choose YOU.
Shrink here.
You're not describing suicidal tendency here: your doctor was wrong.
Suicidality is about intent and planning. Other factors influence the risk of completed suicide such as ongoing substance misuse, previous (genuine) attempts, low mood, poverty. These are details really.
The clinician only really needs to establish: does this person know how to keep themself safe; are they responsible for their actions (do they have / lack capacity - decision-making ability); then evidence of intent; evidence of planning.
Lots of people wish they were dead. This is a normal part of human existence and it shouldn't be pathologised.
It’s possible they meant “suicidal ideation” rather than “suicidal tendency”, as their example is definitely passive suicidal ideation. It turns into “active suicidal ideation” when it’s more than just the thought of “I don’t want to be here”— at this point folks have plans, potentially means, etc. There is utility in capturing a client’s passive SI given it’s a critical risk factor for active SI.
I don’t know that I’ve ever actually seen “suicidal tendency” used as a term in the clinical world though, only in pop culture, but I live in the US so maybe it’s different elsewhere. “Suicidal tendency” sounds more action-oriented than passive SI.
I remember seeing something from Stephen Fry which was similar. Not suicidal but wouldn't mind not existing. He put it more eloquently.
I've probably had more lows than highs in life but whatever highs I've had have been worth it. Now dealing with ageing and random inexplicable pain and think more and more like this.
I suffer from 2 separate chronic pain issues and while I would never do any harm to myself, I always say I now completely understand why people in chronic pain with no relief end up committing suicide.
I said the same thing while sobbing hysterically. They gave me cymbalta and I woke up a different person.
Oh my god. I just said something similar to my doctor. Annual physical after the year from hell. Dr - “are you having suicidal thoughts?” Me - “well, yeah, but I wouldn’t leave my cat and I’ve got too much work to do at the theater”.
I'm in this post and I don't like it
Ideation without intent. Me too ❤️
when the doctor casually asks about bowel habits and u realize this is information u’ve never shared before
I recently had to tell a doctor that I'd pooped my pants for the first time in 30+ years. I actually did tell another non-doctor shortly thereafter, but she was an elderly woman who was very embarrassed about having wet herself, so I wanted to help her feel better.
If peeing in your pants is cool then consider me Miles Davis.
I have Crohns so pooping & pooping myself .. well thats an average day. I'm also very open about it and people just like.. confess everything pooping related to me lol.
Semi related, my running my mouth let me find out my teammate also has IBD but never had someone who could relate. So we've got a pretty good friendship going now.
being asked about allergies in very specific body areas and just nodding like yeah that makes sense
"It feels like I'm going to shit myself but then I can't shit at all."
Thanks, ED recovery! That was such an annoying symptom.
Omg yes. I remember bawling my eyes out to an ED nurse; "I can't take a shit and you understandably won't give me any laxatives so how the fuck am I supposed to shit please help me I feel like I'm going to explode"
Wait constipation is a side effect of an ED??? I used to struggle heavily with constipation when I was like 15-22, and then after college that just stopped and I had super regular bowel movements. Never knew why. I also happened to be anorexic when I was 15-22 but never thought those 2 things were correlated…
I really hate to admit this whole thread i kept wondering why erectile dysfunction caused constipation. Aaannnd now I see my mistake. SMH.
I was also confused. Emergency department and erectile dysfunction??
In ED recovery and I get shamelessly excited when I have healthy poops!
Also in recovery (for over 20 years). I tell everyone that regularity is the key to happiness. Wishing you all the best.
Hope you’re getting healthy bowel movements and strong erections nowadays!
I think the ED they're speaking of is Eating Disorder..... not the issue down there. 🤷♀️
ohhhh... i knew it wasn't what i was thinking but i didn't know what it was.
This interaction has jusr made my day. I wish good bowel movements and erections for EVERYONE!!!
Eating Disorder, Erectile Disfunction, Emergency Department. I was trying to read this and couldn't discern which was intended. None of them seemed to fit in all of the comments. People using acronyms without defining need to be punished, like coal in their stocking or something.
I'm not accepting any other explanations. I was with this guy to begin with and I'm staying with them. May the brown flow and your cock grow you poor man.
I'm dead lmao
I get these due to a different medical condition but I call them phantom poops.
moooooooooood :/
hope you're doing better now. I am.
Oh yeah, a million times better, honestly!
I was unaware this wasn't just a me thing, though!
Not just you! Difficulties with bowel movements is a common eating disorder symptom. You’re not abnormal. It completely sucks, I know first hand. But yeah, definitely normal when it comes to eating disorders.
Lol, when I saw ED, i thought erectile dysfunction and was surprised at how a limp dick made it hard to shit. Duh. This makes waaaay more sense!
I was starting to think maybe I had latent erectile dysfunction
Wait, eating disorders can do that to you?? Fuuuuu-
Yeahhhhhhhhhhhh
They actually suck a lot!
The good news is, most of it is reversible especially if you don't do it too long.
My digestion is way better now... But I lost 4 teeth. I'm not getting those back. Most of the others are crowns.
I didn't do it super hard for very long and still ended up damaging my heart ☹️
So glad you're doing better 🫂🫂
I did it for too long.
I’m glad you’re recovering 💗 Sorry about your teeth. :(
They also eat your heart
I’m just thinking about a time at like 13 years old when I was trying to answer if I was sexually active but didn’t know if lesbian sex counted and didn’t want to say the words lesbian or sex
Similar, but I just didn't know if masterbation counted.
Masturbation*
Let them bate their master in peace!
If one becomes a true master of masturbation, one earns the right to use the word masterbation. Op truly is a master masturbator.
What did you say then?
I told my doctor when asked a similar question, (is there a possibility that you are pregnant or going to get pregnant) that my partners didn’t have sperm.
A friend was once asked what her birth control method was and she answered “lesbian” no further questions were asked
That I gave myself a hickey on my nip
That falls into the 'everyone would if they could' category
Having to tell my obgyn well I get cramping with sex sometimes but my husband has a huge penis
This one got me.
Dyspareunia is sensation of pain or discomfort during or after sex and is definitely a symptom that we'd ask about in an obgyn history.
Partner penis size however, I must have missed that lecture in med school.
Your cervix is being repeatedly doinked is painful and can lead to cramping.
I’m an obgyn. My male partner used to refer to this as “bumper dyspareunia”.
Today I learned that is possible. I told my gyno when I was 17 that I thought my boyfriend was hitting my cervix and she goes “not possible” and brushed me off. I haaaated having sex with him. I thought this whole time that she was right! Never had that pain with anyone else since, and I’m 34 now lol
That’s so dumb of her, I've read that cervixes are like 10 cm deep on average
We’re all in agreement “doinked” is the proper medical term here.
My partner didn’t realize this. I told him it was like being kicked in the balls lady style. Bigger doesn’t always mean better.
Yes I understand the why.
My point is that I have never once asked if the reason for a patient's dysparenuia, was due their partner having a massive dong.
That’s hilarious, how would you medically ask this question?
I have had the pleasure of being in the room, as the patient, when this was asked.
"When this happens, can you see if there is a trigger? Is it from certain positions, when toys are in use, or other factors? We know that certain positions can make things more uncomfortable or painful, as well as even just the items used to penetrare with. Sometimes it can be due a toy or sexual partner's penis being a size that your body is uncomfortable with taking."
Very professional, but died laughing when I said, yeah, he's a a huge dick in every way.
I would have lost it, but in return, make no doubt I am taking extra special care of you.
We have both been under the care of each other a few different times so it's the funniest interactions with each other. She has done my basic PCP care and more intimate care. I have personally seen her butthole when she came onto my unit and needed care twice. (Small, small town where there aren't many other options help so you get used to care from someone you know since high school or dated their cousin.)
Im just imagining her cervix making a "DOINK!" sound every time his massive dingus hits it hehehehe
As a female doc I can see how size could be a valid factor though. Cervical stimulation is not fun for everyone. Whikst in theory the vagina has a lot of flexibility especially when fully aroused, there are so many factors that go into whether sex is comfortable.
As a doc myself it was interesting talking about how switching sex position helped with my dyspareunia. Like I'm fairly open about things but nobody in my life needs to know the ins and outs of my sex life...literally. the things they ask you both when you get a fertility work up also? My husband was not prepared for telling a man he'd never met before about his masturbation habits lol
They’ve probably heard it before. I have pelvic floor muscle dysfunction since I had my kids and sometimes the muscles are so tight that sex is painful. My Dr showed me a contraption called an Ohnut that my partner could put on during sex that limits penetration depth. I never tried it because physical therapy seems to be the answer for me but they said it’s been very helpful to their patients so they keep one in the cupboard of the exam room to show/explain when relevant to the patient issue.
I was going to say I do continence management and pelvic floor therapy and nothing I’ve read in this thread would move the needle on the “strange” meter for me.
Getting screened for adhd and they question you about a lot of things to eliminate all sorts of psychiatric issues. I admitted to having experienced intrusive thoughts. I’m white and sometimes when I’m extremely tired my brain makes up a horrific scenario. I become convinced I have Tourettes syndrome (which I don’t have) and I have this intrusive thought that I’m going to blurt out the n-word in a room full of people. Not because I’m racist, but because it’s the most horrible insulting thing my brain can think of to scare me with. Luckily, this only happens to me every now and then when I’m completely exhausted, like maybe once a year for 5 minutes. I feel so bad for people that have Tourette syndrome or intrusive/unwanted thoughts on the regular. It must be very difficult.
I'm like you but in my case it's OCD.
I was about to say, this was me to a T before I found out I have OCD. Especially the intrusive thoughts becoming amplified by stress.
Yes same!
This makes me feel so seen! My intrusive thoughts only occur when I’m super tired! I feel so crazy at bedtime. 😂
Me too, and I got diagnosed with ADHD 8-9 months ago. My brain just pops the craziest shit out. I wish it could be that damn creative the rest of the time, but with less weird stuff lol
I have just realized that my intrusive thoughts occur when I’m really sad and feel like my gf’s never call. Kid issues. Living alone, I spend mostly every day alone with my thoughts.
When I’m alone, they can get loud too!
Mine happen when I’m extremely tired (like I slept less than 2-3 hours the night before) and I’m either speaking in front of a large group or I’m in a somewhat quiet audience. I once googled it out of curiosity and found a study that showed a combination of exhaustion and a happy occasion can induce intrusive thoughts.
I get mine when my anxiety goes up in the grocery store too. But mostly at night when I’m alone with my thoughts. But in the grocery store my anxiety will sky rocket when it’s really crowded, so my brains like hey what if this happens and then my hearts like let’s start pounding. 😭😂
I will say, I probably do have intrusive thoughts all the time that I am just quick to dismiss. Like I’m always casually imagining mass shooting situations and how I would react (might be because I’m a teacher in the US) or I’ll think weird things for no reason like “I could just go walk out on that frozen lake right now at 5 am on my way to work” lol… but for me that’s more like casual weird/dark daydreaming and it doesn’t really impact my life. Atleast once I turned around to make sure I didn’t run an imaginary person over… lol… and I’ve had the passing thought of “what if I intentionally killed my cat?” (I love my cat and would never do that… I don’t even kill mosquitoes or eat meat.) None of these thoughts really bother me except for the imagined racist Tourette’s thought.
I had similar happen! Getting screened and had to admit that I have auditory hallucinations but only when Im extremely tired and there's a static noise like running water. It's always in the voice of an old timey baseball announcer.
Uh-oh... I guess I didn't realize that wasn't normal. I've always had that, and so has my mother. I wonder if I should be concerned...
I mean, having to explain to the doctor about my work-related injury falling off of scaffolding and landing... awkwardly. I literally thought I exploded a ball.
That sounds horrible and wow I feel bad for you!! Must have been terrifying really..
Great news, most of the pain was from a hairline fracture in my pelvis, the boys were intact.
having to answer when was the last time u had sex while maintaining eye contact
being asked about discharge and trying to describe it without sounding insane
being asked if u’re sexually active and suddenly forgetting ur entire life timeline
I never maintain eye contact during sex. Is that bad? What does it mean?
I think they meant eye contact with the doctor
Oh!
😂
Thank you, that was helpful
Oh, dear lort...I was thinking the same! I'm old enough to know better but thought, "that seems like a terribly invasive and pointless question."
You look an awful lot like “anyone else” to me. Just saying.
I don't understand 😕. Helppp for me in the back and maybe some other people
Question asks what they've confessed to a doctor but "you'd never tell anyone else". So their response is saying the question is coming from someone in the "anyone else" category, so they ain't sayin' shit
Came here for this answer.
That it would probably be better if my boyfriend died of the cancer he had because I would never get away otherwise.
Did he die? 🙊
He did, indeed. I’m in grief counseling dealing with grief, guilt, and the confusion and happiness of feeling independent and moving on. It hasn’t been easy, but it should be harder. Oh well
Hope you're feeling better and life is getting to a good place 😊
Thank you, very kind to say.
Let go of that "should." Picture it in your mind as a Chinese lantern and push it slowly into the water if you need to. Should never gave anyone anything except heartburn and road rage.
I genuinely hope you let go of the guilt and have a full, happy life. Ask what is the guilt doing for you? What would happen if you let it go?
My mother was extremely abusive and died of cancer. I felt guilty that i wasn’t mourning that hard too, but if she hadn’t died I’d probably be dead myself. Freedom is freedom. Even when the circumstances that assured it are tragic. You have nothing to feel guilty for.
It's as hard as it is. Grief is different for everyone. My Grandpa died when I was a kid and I found his dead body. I was surprisingly undisturbed by it as a kid. Now I just can't look at dead things, no matter the thing.
I hurt my back while getting it from behind from my ex. I went to the doctors and the guy asked what was going on while setting up the xray machine. I'm not bashful with nurses or doctors so I looked at him and said "My BF and I were having sex and he went too hard." And he looked at me like I had 3 heads and asked for me to repeat it. Then he laughed. I hope I became a funny story to tell over the years.
I had a bit of a rough but consensual hookup one night, and totally forgot about it when I went to the gyno the next day. During the breast exam she noticed I had this massive purple bruise on my boob and looked incredibly concerned. I turned 10 shades of red and started overexplaining that it was consensual. Thankfully this was a Planned Parenthood so the people that work there tend to not judge much. We ended up having a good laugh about it.
I also have had at least 2 necessary surgeries where I vaguely recall asking about what they drugs they had just given me and showing way too much enthusiasm for them with zero working filter. Those experiences made it VERY clear to me that I need to stay far, far away from opiates or prescription drugs unless it's necessary. I'd get hooked so fast.
Oh, trust us hospital peeps, we've heard MANY people sing the praises of morphine and dilaudid especially. And usually it's along the lines of, "I don't do drugs, but MAN, this stuff makes me feel GREAT!"
No joke, the last time I had an anaesthetic done, the midazolam was hands down my favourite component. I didn’t remember SHIT of the procedure or even most of the recovery which was a huge improvement on the last time I had it done, it was great.
I don’t think I told the nurse out loud that I loved midazolam. I hope I didn’t. That would probably have been concerning.
PACU nurse here, it’s a daily comment - not concerning 😂 you’re good
I have some medical issues that necessitate an ER visit for emergency pain management and that short relief of morphine is like, 5 seconds of discomfort as I feel it hitting me, then the most sweet relief afterwards. I'm usually precisely thanking the doc because it forces my body to relax and unclench.
Its some good shit
The first time I got nitrous during a dental procedure, I loudly told the staff, "oh! Now I get why people do drugs! This is great!" 🤦🏼♀️
Oh I'm so glad I'm not the only one who was weird about anesthesia, I believe my exact words were "These are the best drugs you can get for free" Extra awkward when they know you occasionally smoke weed too lol
When i was giving birth and they gave me laughing gas, i was so into it that I was offering the straw around the room for others to get in on the fun. Some responsible doctor turned down the dose after that.
(Sidenote. Lest someone read this and think "i wouldnt want to be loopy for such a momentous occasion, I want to remember it", I need them to know that the pain itself had me so loopy I can't really remember any details from before they gave me the drugs. I do remember the birth and it was still magical. Just with more laughter than shrieks and moans.)
The birth version of passing the blunt lol I remember how great I felt when the pethidine kicked in. I hit the point of needing to push about ten minutes later and was so ready to go for it xD Little did I know the ring of fire would be way worse than they describe.
I woke up from a fertility procedure and wanted to do my taxes! I had to be reminded I shouldn't handle any legal documents for at least 24h after. And then the feeling passed 🤣
I dont kniw if it counts as weird but I do find it amusing.
The lack of self control you feel after anesthesia is similar to being absolutely drunk out of your mind in my experience too. I immediately demanded we get a Chinese takeaway which was incredibly dumb because I'd been in for a colonoscopy and you're really not supposed to stuff your fully empty stomach up that fast. Felt that for days.
It's very similar to what it's like for me after I've had a Tonic-Clonic seizure. I signed myself out against medical advice once because I really wanted to get a kebab. 😅
Lol I had sex with my bf right before my first pap smear last year and he came in me. I don’t think it was noticeable, my gyno didn’t say anything. I only really thought about it this year when she said I had unusual cells last time so we had to do another pap. Unsurprisingly it came out clean this time😅
It may have been unrelated.
You can clearly see sperm cells under the kicriscipe after sex...and they look nothing like cancer cells or "unusual cells".
However I would check wuth your provider how long they recommend you abstaining before a gynaecological procedure. As your cervix being touched can sometimes influence the test.
i don’t have a doctor, just reddit.
You guys are my doctor
Google: “concerning health issue” + Reddit been my healthcare for a solid decade now
Hello, fellow American👋
Canadian actually, but my dr went on stress leave and I’m too lazy to even begin sorting out that problem
It was like less than two weeks ago when I was meeting with a surgeon about carpal tunnel surgery (happened this past Friday actually) and he said I couldn't use power tools, vacuums, basically anything that would cause vibrations and I was like "ok well I'm gonna be a huge bitch at the end of 6 weeks of that..."and he looked at me in confusion for about 10 seconds then just started cackling but like... I was very serious! 😂
Adding onto this after the surgery before I was fully back in charge of what was coming out of my mouth I was like "last time I had to wake up from surgery it was after a hysterectopy/biopsy/d&c/IUD placement and I woke up screaming about my vagina hurting, I'm really glad I'm not talking about my vagina this time ... Oh I am. I'm so sorry"
My doctor straight up asked me if I masturbate and I said yea. I forgot what the reason that I was there for lol. I mean yea, everyone masturbates but I don’t actively go around telling people that lol. Definitely odd but hey it’s for medical purposes so 🤷♂️
That’s very odd for a doctor to ask that. For what reason would he/she have to know that?
I’m honestly trying to remember. Ok this is going to be TMI but whatever, my comment already went there.
One time I had to pee but I was super horny so I masturbated first and then a few days later I had this pain in my testicle. I only have 1 because I had testicular cancer in the other one so they had to take it. The pain I was feeling was the same exact pain that I had in the other when I had cancer. It scared the crap out of me so I went to the doctor and that’s when he asked me if I masturbate. Basically what happened was I should have peed first before masturbating because the urine back flowed into my nut and that’s what was causing the pain. I forget the actual medical term. Epidimitis I think. It was very painful though. I’d did clear up and get better though. Now that I’m remembering everything, that’s why he asked me lol.
So you're saying pee IS stored in the balls!
I was born with only one testicle. I got a bad case of epididymitis due to testicular torsion from a really fucked up bicycle saddle.
Was before cellphones, I had to stand and bike for 5.5miles because of the pain.
Doctors never told me about future complications. Lost most of my T production in my early thirties, and became sterile.
That everytime I have sex (but not when I masturbate) I pass out/nearly pass out. We never figured out what it was. At some point it seems that I just grew out of it??
I had a coworker who did this! Blood pressure dropped during climax and combined with exertion, holding breath, and his preferred position. Called a vasovagal syncope. Not sure if you had this, but wanted to share!
Wow what an unlikely coincidence. We also suspected that it was due to a decrease in blood pressure! But I've never heard of someone else experiencing it due to sex! 😂
Having to tell my adhd study doc when I became sexually active since it was a weekly thing… Then everything else.. Over several years he got to hear about me going from a fat low-functioning dork to a fit functional sexually active dork.
That i dont trust doctors. I had sleep issues. They tried to perscribe Xanax. I dont have anxiety. I wanted a sleep study. Still never got one. Turns out it was stress. Broke up with my girlfriend and my sleep issues went away.
Anxiety does keep you awake. Xanax does help you sleep when you have anxiety. Stops that tossing and turning all night.
Same here I have insomnia from long term antidepressant withdrawal. I was told to try better sleep hygiene then they referred me for an autism assement when I followed all the sleep hygiene advice because I demonstrated overly strict adherence to routines. I was so sleep deprived I'd started hallucinating.
I was about 17 or 18 when I was misdiagnosed with schizoaffective, she put me on a cocktail of meds, about 20 in a year (not at the same time) and it completely fried my brain.
When covid happened, we were doing monthly phone calls and I somehow expressed that I think of her as a friend, and went into detail as to why. She quickly shut that down, telling me that she was not my friend and I had to differentiate that because she was helping me mentally doesn’t mean she was my friend.
Well, now I’m 26. I’ve always thought I was misdiagnosed but nobody believed me. Two months ago I talked to my new psychiatrist and told him I want to stop taking meds. He was hesitant but allowed it. Next few weeks were absolute hell, dry heaving, throwing up, no appetite (didn’t eat for a week straight) but still went to work (construction, material handler).
I stopped taking meds officially the night of November 5 of this year. My psychiatrist appointment was Tuesday of last week. He discharged me because he saw I was getting so much better.
Aw man, unless you were being inappropriate, that's really mean to say to a young and vulnerable patient. I'd be crushed.
There are different types of friends. She could've said I have to be your doctor before your friend, but I do care for your well-being and am rooting for you.
I'm so glad you're doing better though, transitioning meds is really brave. Glad that other psych looked out for you
I gave myself razor burns on my boobs because I was trying to shave off all the stray random hairs before my appointment. The doctor was like ??? and I had to tell her embarrassingly. I have fair skin, so it was very noticeable.🤦♀️
I agree about the Xanax. In PA I got 270 for 3 months. Out here in Az they act like this is the devil. Dr said othered a chance you’d get addicted. I said I’m 71. Who cares. I’m already on my way out and I can’t even do it without anxiety bc AZ has weird medical practices.
That’s what I’m saying. When you start to get older, does it really matter about taking pills daily if it gives you a better quality of life? My Xanax prescription is $3 a month. To buy enough edibles to give me the same results would cost hundreds per month
I talked to my therapist about this once but no one else. I talked my husband off a ledge (figuratively). I’ve never had someone close to me or even acquainted with me that committed suicide, but I could feel it. He was telling me how amazing I am and how much he loved me and that he wanted to do something fun together, and I could just tell that was his way of saying goodbye. I asked him point blank if that was the case and he immediately burst into tears, and cry-yelled at me to stop knowing him so well and stop being able to read his mind. I was able to keep my composure (thanks ADHD) and became whatever he needed in that moment. I think he wanted to live but didn’t know how.
We talked for hours and I eventually convinced him to go out for dinner with me. This was about three years ago and we’re still going strong, waiting for our baby to arrive (still quite a bit of time left), and while he still has his low days he knows he can trust me with anything. His family doesn’t care for me all that much but they don’t know that I’m the reason he’s still alive; he’s told me as much. I’d do anything for that man.
The only person that I've ever told about my decades-long fantasy world was not a doctor, but a psychologist.
I think we were exploring my autistic traits. She was convinced that I was autistic after the first session so I just leant into it, showing her all my obsessive note-keeping books, discussing alexithymia, rituals etc.
I still don't know if she believed the depth and bizarre nature of my fantasy world. It's to do with being a giant sentient starship and imagining the world as a galaxy with precise distance / time conversion. She probably thought I was trying to ingratiate myself with her for being such a clever psychologist.
I've got lots of shorter-lived worlds in my brain. I've never told anyone ... but am considering telling my very creative grandkids, just in case they need to know they're not alone.
I told my doctor that i probably drink too much and i'd scaled back from that and was drinking less and doing more.
Then he retired...and the new doctor who replaced him went like hard at me about my drinking on my first visit. And it fucking sucked. Like get lost you don't know shit about me. Just completely out of range...
I have the same issue with my weight. Yup, I'm fat, but I've lost 75lbs this year through sheer fucking will. My doctors that see me regularly stick to "You're doing great, keep it up". If I have to see a new one it's immediately "You need to lose weight". How about asking a few questions first, Doc?
I couldn’t stop having orgasms/highly sensitive pelvic region. Turned out to be high tone pelvic floor dysfunction which was treated with physical therapy.
Huge thanks to those doctors in the ER that day. They were super non-judgmental and compassionate.
I think he’s handsome. We’re married now.
story time now please
That I have severe social anxiety, absolutely detest making eye contact, I get distracted easily, love to procrastinate, and I have auditory processing disorder. I have autism and ADHD and that is for my psychiatrist to know and not my job. I have been working at my job for over 3 years now and my issues haven’t affected my work or my work ethic. I’m actually very good at my job.
This gives me great hope 🥲
Health care provider here! We don’t care about anything but you being healthy! We want to help - that’s literally our job. On the plus side, (we see so many people), we forget unless reminded!
How much i was drinking. When regular people asked, I'd say around 4 standard drinks a night. When I finally realised I was getting out of hand, I admitted to the doctor that it was around 15 to 20 standard drinks a night. Today, I am officially 1 month completely sober, and the sight of alcohol makes me sick (possibly due to medication). I'm just glad I finally got help, 2+ years of heavy drinking completely finished now with help.
I was telling my neurologist about numbness I'd been experiencing from my waist down. He asked the inevitable question: "can you feel your groin?" The answer was no and it also meant I couldn't tell if I had to piss or shit. I didn't realize he'd specifically detail that in my medical notes and thus every other doctor that treated me would ask the same question. Fun times.
It was earlier this year actually. I told my GP that if it wasnt for my son, then I would 100% kill myself. She was amazing and kind and supportive. Thank fuck I'm out of that blackest of black holes. It was horrific.
My BF might be gay (not my Son's Dad who secretly was) and I need blood tests. All negative.
that I google my symptoms way too much and convince myself I’m dying like once a week 😭 doctor just laughed.
At beginning of this year, I had TERRIBLE tension headaches. I would nearly black out from the pain and no amount of meds helped. I ended up in the ER twice because of the pain and because I was worried. The headaches only happened when I orgasmed. I had the strangest conversations with doctors about my situation, but apparently that is a thing that can happen in people who are really stressed. Other than my partner, nobody knows this is the reason why I spent a whole week getting tests. The headaches stopped after about two weeks.
When I was in my early 20s I was having yeast infection symptoms. I went to see my gynecologist who took one peek down under and told me I left a sponge up there. OMG the horror and embarrassment.
I'm trying so hard confessing this one, but I've always wanted to trust one of them, I used to see images when I twisted and jerked all my body.
I had no idea what it used to be, but it greatly affected all my development and growth as a child and teen. And I hated it because I couldn't even go pee.
I'm mostly sure it was mental because it used to be closely tied to stress from my parents fighting and my emotions.
I want to kill myself or drop my current therapist not to tell her the whole truth. I don't know what I got myself into.
Hey there - I’m not sure I’m tracking with what you’re describing, but I wanted to say that I’m glad you’re here and that I hope you are indeed able to be fully open about it with a therapist - this one or a different one. Thanks for trusting us enough to bring it up.
That I had a crush on her. She didn't like it at all. I was 10... It still kinda hurts
The emotional abuse I suffered as a child. I told her they never hit me though she responded “they didn’t have to” real eye opener.