She would roll her eyes whenever I spoke, but only in group settings. Sucked tbh. I cared for her and her dog, planned her birthday party. She was sabotaging me at work behind the scenes.
i hate people like that so bad, i do remember when someone did that to me repeatedly so i said something to get in their head in front of everyone and since then never happen again. take what you will haha
did we have the same friend? she always rolled her eyes, turned every interaction into an argument if the interaction wasn't about her, always tried to make me look stupid, and tried to put me down.
In senior year of high school, she was in the year below me. She convinced me finally to tell her who I secretly wanted to take me to MY senior prom, then I get a message a few days later that she’s going with him. It isn’t even her prom.
When the entire school realized she was actually a snake in a human costume, her date who I was actually friends with tells me he hates her and has no idea why he agreed to go with her, and he had gotten a girlfriend but was still stuck going with the snake. I already found another date by that point who I was very happy to go with, but it was satisfying to hear that.
Maybe in a competetive workplace or something, but my experience is that people who actually care about you try to encourage you. They're the ones to remind you of your wins when you're hung up on your losses.
A year ago when she called me out for getting with my husband of 29 years married, 31 years together, because she liked him in high school. “Like, you do remember, I had a crush on him”. She was celebrating her 5 year anniversary with a promise ring on her finger at the time she “liked him.” She’s on marriage #3 so I bet she thinks my hubs is the one who got away. She also lines up her next before ending her current, so if they had gotten together, it would not have lasted.
Was she expecting me to like step down, apologize, and give him to her? She does not like me, but was keeping me around so she could keep tabs on him.
I feel bad for her husband(s). She’s a terrible partner and awful friend.
Some people peak in high school and never let go of that mindset. It was everything for them and where they started to plan their lives. And some people jusy dont know how to let go of grudges and move on.
I had a friend like this who got mad I bought a specific Honda Civic because she "mentioned she liked it" four years prior. Some people genuinely think they have a copyright on reality.
Don't know about the keeping tabs or secretly competing, but I realised my friends weren't really friends when I started getting treatment for depression, and they all just faded away.
I’m right there with you. Recently realized the person who has been telling me that I am the most important person in her life after her kids and she will always be there for me never backs those statements up with actual action. If the words and actions don’t match, then they’re lying
I had someone who I thought was my really close friend. She got extremely drunk one day and told me off in a fit of rage after sober me was taking care of her drunk ass. I thought that was it, nope. A lot of my friends approached me after and told me what she would say behind my back (which was horrendous). Then she went too far. She had a meeting with opposing council (I was suing someone). I have no idea what she said but that was the nail in the coffin. I won my lawsuit regardless of her attempts to sandbag me.
I realized it during one of the hardest times in my life. She was completely absent when I was struggling then randomly showed up once I started doing better.
When I didn’t want to talk about it because for me talking just reopens old wounds she got frustrated. That’s when it clicked. It didn’t feel like care it felt like she wanted the drama. I felt more like a story she wanted updates on than an actual friend.
He succeeded in souring her opinion of both of us, so the ended up dating neither of us. Turns out not all women enjoy men fighting over them. She joined the army later that year, so it kinda didn’t matter in the end. I wouldn’t want to date a soldier anyways.
I had a falling out with my sister. Tldr on it was that she was trying to control my life and home business and would get so unbelievably angry if I didn't do what she thought was best. She made some of the worst decisions for me and I was basically like her little experiment. She's also the type of person that CAN'T BE WRONG and she will die on every hill.
I had been super private at this time and not spending time with a lot of my family, I just stopped talking to my sister all together and cut her out of my life. Fast forward to me hanging out with my cousin (who was the cousin who I always hung out with) she would suddenly started asking me things like "why didn't you do this" "are you going to do that?" "Why would you spend money on this instead of that" Etc. and basically telling me things that she just shouldn't know and basically telling me to do things that my sister wanted me to do. That's when it dawned on me that my sister was using my cousin as her own personal mouthpiece to try to control me. STILL. But she was also keeping track of how much time I was spending playing video games (through discord and through the games themselves as we used to play together), using my Snapchat location to see where I was (which was only available to her and a couple of friends), would text me to see if I was free trying to figure out what I was doing with my time, only to report it all back to my sister. I've since privated all of it.
It hurts but I mourned and cut her off, too, along with other family members that continued to listen to my sister and tried to control me with her ideas. It was my fault that I let me sister run so much of my life but I was so young and she was significantly older than me and she convinced me that she "cared" so I trusted her. Life has improved significantly now that I've made actual good decisions for myself. Every and all decision she forced upon me screwed me over just to benefit her in the long run and if she ever tells one of our other family members to do something, I have to think "what does she get out of this" because she never does anything without it benefiting her.
Like when you have a bit of a history of dating losers but then you meet someone totally normal and decent for once and it's suddenly not "funny" anymore.
I (29) was unaware for most of my relationship (of 5 years) with my now Ex (28) that she had been competing with me in almost everything we did together, but especially gaming. That may sound confusing, but I never really attempted to compete with her, I would just leisurely play the game, and I would be "Winning" in her mind even if it was a cooperative game. I have been playing/watching video games since the N64 was a thing. My Mother and Father have always loved gaming, her family liked sports. We started dating pretty soon after she "Discovered" Video games.
She would have little blowups over nothing once we had finished gaming some nights, but they always had nothing to do with gaming, so I didn't really think about the link. The big revelation was when we were playing World of Warcraft since a new expansion had come out and she started fully sobbing at me that she could never beat me in DPS, a game I had played since I was 9, and she had just started one month prior. This opened my eyes a bit too much to who I was spending my time with, I noticed more and more every day.
This started a new cycle of if we played games, I would have to actively try my best to keep it as even as possible, even in comfy games like Stardew Valley.
• Racing Games?
Do not Lap her, make sure I'm slamming on the breaks or crashing the second I start to pull ahead.
• NEVER PLAY Fighting Games.
• She asked me for help on a boss?
Make sure to barely win or die a couple times so she didn't think I was invalidating her (a genuine argument).
I started to dread playing any game that MIGHT be competitive in her mind. This was of course a Band-Aid for our relationship but eventually we set some rules where if we were playing together there would be no leaderboard checking, we were just "a Team" (Which of course she broke constantly, not hard to notice when her mood would suddenly shift).
We broke up over different directions in life, I wanted a partner in love, life and gaming...She wanted to be insane... Even then, I still randomly miss her from time to time because it was 5 years of my life.
It sounds like she didn't get a lot of chance to make mistakes as a child, or that her parents only gave her validation if she was the best at something. You both could have probably used a conversation about how it wasn't a competition and that you were a team, and that you just really enjoyed sharing a hobby with her.
We talked about it many, many times in the last year. The team/partnership conversion was almost weekly.
You are correct, she was the younger sister of the Male golden child in a sports family. She was never "good enough" but she still also had a massive silver spoon and got most of the things she wanted, like new cars and such just for asking. She was just never her brother.
Oh for certain, I loved her dearly and was very supportive of her but you can only be there for someone for so long once you realize that your aren't their partner.
My cousin, 7 years younger than me, was more like a sister. It didn’t help when my mother started favouring her over me. Fast forward, my mother died and she won’t speak to me because she wasn’t mentioned in the will. I don’t want to argue with her because I think if money is that important, I don’t need her in my life.
Before we got married, and for about two years after we got married, my sister invited me and my husband to go do activities with her. It became a regular weekend thing for us three to go out and do things At first we liked it as she got us to actually go on adventures that did not restaurants or clubs. She was always more outgoing than me, with ants in the pants, and whereas I typically would like to do things but can't overcome the initial inertia, my sister never had that problem. But then eventually my husband showed me private texts that she sent him in which she became increasingly flirtatious and licentious with him so we clicked that she just wanted more time with him so she could attract him away from me.
Gutted because I had to disown my sister because of this as a matter of principal and I have not spoken to her in 4 years.
i constantly compared myself to her and over time i just realized "shit, i'm competing with her. this isn't healthy" and took a step back for both of us. she wasn't the greatest friend either; there was toxic behavior on her end too, but we were both kids.
I just experienced something similar! Had a 2 month hiring process for a job and had to do a drug test. I texted her that I passed, with an “obvs” because I don’t do drugs and she goes “imagine if you didn’t 🤣”. Why is this funny? Meanie.
One of my closest friends cat fished my then (now ex) boyfriend's brother using a fake Facebook account, and also told lies about how I was apparently cheating on my ex with other boys at uni. Tried to tell him to tell his mum but keep it a secret from my ex??? Not sure how that was supposed to work.
Naturally the brother immediately sends the screen shots to my ex, and my ex sent them to me. My ex didn't believe it one bit, but wanted me to work out who was behind it. It was easy to tell it was her because the typing style was identical to how she typed. She didn't deny it when I confronted her and just sent me some really nasty messages and blocked me before I could respond.
It was just so jarring because literally nothing happened in the lead up to this event. I hadn't slighted her and we had never fought. Turns out she was just a very nasty person and others thought maybe she was a bit jealous of me. Hurt like hell because I really cared for her deeply.
1..When she came into some money and started questioning why I didn’t have eggs or bread in my house. (I hadn’t gotten paid yet) 2. I’m Asian. She’d sound all snooty when she’d talk about Asia (she’s a huge fan 😵💫) and acted like I didn’t know shit. Not to mention she failed Japanese HORRIBLY LMFAO
It hasn't happened a lot. I was lucky enough to realize that friend thought I was competing with them. Once they found out I didn't give a damn either way, their who conception kind of fell apart and we became true friends after.
First grad job when I started taking more of a senior role, had a childhood friend that couldn't get one so referred him and coached him to get one at my place
Proceeded then to undermine me when I was leading meetings, bully and blame other employees during projects, and finally tell an employee who was going through depression that she only got the job because she's a girl and then later sexually harass the same girl
Ending with him getting sacked, unemployed for 2 years then now earning minimum wage
When they cut contact with me, gave me some bullshit story when I reached out to make sure they were okay, and then proceeded to cut contact once more.
The reason I know the bullshit story was bullshit is because they're still active to other people, but are deliberately avoiding me. My current theory is they were jealous of my collection. Because it wouldn't be the first time. Either that or someone's spreading a rumor or something.
Still not really over it. I do hope they're okay, though, because they seemed like a really cool person for the duration I knew them.
I unironically would keep a pickled tapir penis if I got it at, like, an estate sale or something. I have a lot of odd pieces from all sorts of things, really. It's just that I'm a bird guy mostly, so I don't really seek out non-bird items if I'm looking to buy smth.
My brother has a friend who was renting an old mansion, and in the attic he found a squirrel preserved in a jar of moonshine. That's the weirdest I've heard of first hand.
I should specify, with this person it's definitely not a complete ghost. I know for a fact they're still keeping an eye on me, they just refuse to talk unfortunately. The situation has made me quite paranoid in all honesty.
I did for a while, but then stopped. Mostly because I don't give much of a shit really. I'm kind of hoping they'll eventually come back and try to get back in contact. I don't really care either way, it's not really worth wasting energy or stress over. I'm paranoid because I wonder if they're spreading shit on me, but it really doesn't matter in the end. 🤷
When I bought my first motorcycle he bought the same one but bigger displacement. I then bought a used stick shift car to learn on and he then immediately went out and bought a brand new manual car. I then payed attention and everytime I bought something and was excited for it he would go out and buy the better or newer version of it.
We moved to a new school district when I was real young. My first friend was a real piece of work. Dudes family was noticably better off and gave him a good allowance, and he wasn't shy about gift giving. Then the jealousy kicked in. Anyone else I befriended before him got the "don't hang with them, they're weird" treatment. I had him and a few of his friends to hang with so I didn't think much of it. That went on for a bit.
When we got older he got more agressive, it started out just as rough housing and me repeatedly asking him to stop. Then when we'd spend the night at eachothers houses he'd slowly move all the blankets to one spot and sit on them, going as far as just yanking mine off of me.
I remember a blanket incident when I told him to stop because I was cold, and from where I was laying heel stomped towards his shin when he wouldn't let up. I think I made good contact there. That was really where I asked myself why I put up with him. It was also the last time we hung out before his parents split and his mom took him a few suburbs away.
A while later a new guy I'd befriend for years moved in across the street. Old friend called and tried getting me to come out to his place. Remembering I hadn't been in a physical altercation since he left I said no, I was spending time with other friends. Dude had the balls to tell me I didn't have any other friends, and the new guy from across the street heard him, grabed the phone, and told him off.
When she told someone I had a harmless minor crush on that I had a huge crush on him, and personal things about my marriage that made him feel confident enough to offer to "help me out." Turns out, she'd been pumping me for deeply personal information (I thought we had that kind of friendship) that she could share with our friend group and use as ammunition. She also stole $100, some weed, my engagement ring, a bunch of jewelry including a pearl necklace my grandfather had strung from pearls he brought back from Japan during the Korean war, my birth certificate and who knows what else. She had also started a campaign of trying to win over my indoor/outdoor cat's affection. I am pretty damn certain she thought she could kidnap him and at the very least dump him off somewhere or the pound and have him put down. She is a vicious psychopath and I am so thrilled that she is several states away.
A friend of mine helped get me a job as a teacher at a local college. Although it was technically a part time position, I worked full-time hours pretty much from my second year in.
After a half decade of working without benefits, I was finally up for a promotion. Since my classes rostered quickly, I was well-liked by most of the students, and I’d even developed curriculum for several different courses, I thought I had a great shot at finally becoming a full-timer.
But I was passed over. And I later found out it was because my friend told the department head I wasn’t ready for the position.
That was my final semester at the college and I never taught again.
I announced that I was moving states and getting married, I was very loved by my coworkers there and was in the process of being promoted. My friend/coworker just so happened to also be moving and getting married bc she couldn’t stand the attention being on someone else. She moved but in the same town and also didn’t get married. It was just very convenient timing.
I called to tell her about my upcoming college graduation she then proceeded to talk about a really dark period in my life without a word about the graduation. Last spoke to her in 2015; do not miss that friendship one bit.
No he did not. But with one girl he told her that i was maried, like wtf bro? Such a terrible lie. That was the nale of the coffin. He totally ruined that date for me.
i get the 'you shouldn't care but cut them off' thing, but i actively took revenge and got with a girl he was obsessed over and made sure he found out.
hope hes not spending 5 years plotting revenge or something haha
I had a friend named Rob. We met in grade school and were friends until our early 30s. At some point he started becoming jealous of me.
I had a home and a good job, while he graduated from college with a psychology degree and was still living with his parents working in a grocery store.
He could not stand that I had my GED and was making more than him, because he went to college. He told me he was not going to visit me in my home because it makes no sense that I can afford a home.
I stopped all contact with him after that. He thought I'd stay friends with him after that? If you won't visit my home, then we are not friends.
When friend #1 (best friend of 20 years) used all my flaws and weaknesses against me in a fight, making a competition out of who has is worst. She refused to talk, has been ghosting me ever since and I don't think she will reach out ever again.
Not really competing, but when I asked very close friend #2 to pls be there for me at my dads funeral because I needed all the support I can get on literally the worst day of my life. I rarely ask for anything and it's really difficult for me to ask for help in general.
The day before the funeral she declined via WhatsApp saying "it would bring down her mood".
I think it happens more in adolescence and early adulthood before most people learn how to set boundaries and recognize when they’re being taken advantage of. But unfortunately not everyone “grows up”, on both ends of this type of abusive relationship.
When I was struggling in general we would call often updating each other etc, as soon as I started progressing with finance/relationship/etc and told him happily, he started distancing himself and only texting me every other week to see 'how you been bro'.
makes you think was all those years being friends fake.
thats what i thought, until i asked him for help for something and he said he will help but just ghosted me. right now im set to level up on the help i needed from him and flex on him so hard he remains a ghost
Your friend sounds like he's feeling left behind, lonely and failed. Probably depressed. And you were that person who they could commiserate with, and they've watched you outgrow them. Don't be an ass and flex on him on top of all that.
They would all talk behind my back, dudes too, never to my face. Had a rumor that they thought was true for a long time.
General signs were they would get offended if I was defending myself. Generally terrible nepo babies I don't know why I hung with them. Left the discord call and never regretted it, reminded me to unadd some people on Facebook thanks.
When I had to hear through 2 other friends that I wasn't that good of a friend to them and they could drop me at any time. I pulled up to their house and asked them if what I heard was true, and they go "oh yeah, but that was way back when" And I told them that I expected an apology, and they told me that they didn't feel like they owed me one. I got in my car and I left, and I never talked to them again. I ride the fuck out for my friends and if I can't expect the same in return, then, there's no reason for us to be friends. I'm the friend who always have bail, will kick in fucking doors with you to get your shit back, i will drive you to your significant other's house and circle the block with you to see if they're cheating on you, i will feed you ehen i eat. All I ask for is reciprocation. If not, then all we are is acquaintances or people that know each other.
It would be freezing cold. They knew I was coming over. Still, they'd make me wait a solid 10-15 minutes outside. After the 2nd time this happened and she wasn't the only person in the house who could have opened the door I just got this feeling like a real friend is not going to make me stand outside in the freezing cold for an excessive amount of time. I mean snow on the ground cold.
Sure enough, they would turn out to not be a real friend for a ton of reasons.
We talked about our mental health struggles and had a good level of commradery that I really enjoyed, because I had been going through it alone for a long time up until we got close. When I started to really try to tackle some of my issues she started out encouraging but eventually started making little digs and dismissals until she evolved into outright sabotage.
A few examples: I said I was going to quit smoking weed, I made it a month, had a really bad few days and she turned up at my house and put a bag in front of me. I asked her not to send me memes/tiktok skits etc relating to mental health because they were misleading and potentially damaging, she sent more and excused them as 'just for fun'. I told her about some grounding/thought exercises my therapist had given me to work on, she called it all bullshit and said therapy was a scam. She excused smoking (cigs and joints) in same room as her baby because 'smoke rises' and he was having tummy time, despite having a go at me a month or so before because my outside smoking was "too close to the window". Eventually any trauma/problem I confessed to her she had to beat with a better story of her own, I describe it as she was playing the trauma olympics and noone else could win a medal, only her.
Theres probably far more tbh but it took me a while to recognise that it was really becoming toxic and she didn't want me to get 'better', she wanted to be above me always and didn't have the empathy to support me in that journey, though she was good at pretending in the beginning. She stopped talking to me when I finally snapped and told her (I admit I could have been nicer) to sort her shit out because I was sick of hearing about her problems and seeing her do not one thing about them. I was sad at first but I was better for it and a year later I have my diagnosis, my meds and have made huge strides and I did it on my own. She's since divorced and now doesn't have me to help her out with her kids or come running on her bad days. I'm sure she's probably struggling more now but she made that bed and I'm no longer willing to lay down in it with her and it was a good decision in the long run.
I was out with my friend at a bar, and I started talking to a guy. She was absolutely trashed, and came up to us right as he asked me out.
She immediately had a fit and broke down crying, saying it wasn’t fair that he asked me out since she was the pretty one and I was the ugly one. There was no way that a guy liked me over her.
Her sister was both of our rides, so I had to listen to 30 minutes of her insulting my appearance as her sister lectured her for being rude.
It took me a decade. I (26F) have an old “friend” who is a truly, deeply damaged soul. She’s an orphan and is very easily manipulated by literally everyone around her and is also extremely manipulative herself. There’s a girl out there somewhere that still hates me because several years ago, “friend” told her that I was speaking ill of her dead brother, one of my classmates. The girl already didn’t like me (for petty high-school reasons), but when I’d heard about the accident I had offered my condolences through our “friend”. Couldn’t imagine losing a sibling and from what I knew, the rest of this girl’s family was already broken. “Friend” took it upon herself to twist what I’d said from words of comfort into barbs. This girl tried to fight me over this shit, and I still don’t know exactly what I “said”, what she came up with. Why she would even do that, I’ll never know. She won’t admit that she did it even so many years later. I feel in my pit that she absolutely did do this because several other people within the peer group (both my end and the other girl’s) told me she specifically had. I imagine it boils down to some kind of a desire to fan the flames, maybe? I’d never do something like that to someone else so I’m not really sure what drove it. We remained friends up until recently, when I stood up for her against her situation-ship one day and he busted in her apartment and blew up on her and threatened me with bodily harm over it. She (and her therapist) blamed me for his displays of aggression. I let her come by after a few months of not speaking and she’s still with him, says he’s “better” and basically dumped everything that’s happened in her life the whole time with little interest in anything that’s been going on in mine. She also kept cutting off my other friend who was over at the time to do so. My decision was made then and there; we wouldn’t be rendezvousing again. I can love you from a distance and still hope you succeed without you sitting at my table 🤷🏻♀️
As soon as we met, they didn't seem to care what I had or did, then shortly after they started buying the next model of my cell phone, buying clothes from the same brand I used, making it important to own objects from big brands in general like I did, but most annoyingly, they started doing what I had long said they wanted to do, but with other people and not with me, then to top it off, years after I distanced myself from these people, I discovered that they were also working in the same field as me, when in fact, when I was friends with them, they said they would never do that type of work.
My friend was always jealous that I could meet girls and he could not. I had girls that were really good friends and he failed at having any female friends
I once tried to be friends with a "new kid in town". I didn't like him, but i was trying to be nice. He was just kind of an asshole. But again, i tried.
He scratched my guitar, ghosted everything...pretended he hadn't stolen an Linkin Park album CD and ultimately...i just had to beat him up a little bit in the locker room.
When I went to the hospital and she cared more about if I had left a dirty dish in the sink or not. Then after said hospital visit she complained of being so tired because she “had to” visit me in the hospital.
Found out after she moved away that she never liked me and tried to warn people to stay away from me—found that out from a friend who didn’t listen to her “warnings.”
Bonus to being autistic is I never noticed her distaste for me and got a free fall out boy concert from it!
When he slipped up and basically admitted that he was doing that. He messaged me and linked a random comment I made on a previous account on here, it wasn't a top level comment so he would've had to scroll through my comment history to find it. There were a few other times where he'd message me after I made a comment on reddit that heavily implied that he was stalking my account but there wasn't any concrete proof. When he slipped up and revealed that, a lot of other things he did suddenly made sense. He'd constantly comment across different social media accounts under my posts making shitty "jokes" at my expense. He was (and from what I've heard still is) incredibly insecure, and would constantly try and bring me down to make himself look better. He knew that I was living in not the best situation so one time I was over at his place along with a couple other friends and he was consistently being disrespectful to his mom then claiming that he had it worse than me. It had only been a couple years since my mom had stopped beating me at that point, and she was still being abusive in other ways
When she first got hired, she told me how much they offered her for her position (which is same as mine). And then when she was complaining about high COL, I sent her helpful links to sign up for affordable housing and the salary bracket you had to fall under… she said oh, I don’t make that much to be able to afford that. That was her very first lie. She lies about dumb shit like that all the time now.
Signs indicating insecurity (you think youre better than me attitude), and then word twisting and and strange lying that would seem like the person was just misunderstanding but it was consistent. Pretty early in the friendship an expensive item was given "now you can't leave" was said. These things were consistent in their relationships. They had stories of abrupt falling outs. I saw these same actions in another relationship this person had. Decided it wasn't a healthy space and when I acted on a boundary I had previously vocalized, I became a liar and a whole bunch of other things. The cherry on top, when we were having a conversation about how I'm not the biggest fan of lying before this blow up, they go "I'm a great liar, I come from a family of liars" then their son goes "yeah im a great liar". The egg on my face.
We were friends for decades. He's always been a bit of a slacker and a dreamer (big dreams, zero follow-through.) I always seemed to be a few steps ahead of him in life because I simply took care of basic responsibilities. I never realized how much it bothered him until I fell on hard times. The pleasure it gave him was honestly disturbing. I never knew how much he resented me for just keeping a job, saving money, and having a family. I never treated him like less because he didn't have those things, but holy shit did it make him happy to see me brought down to what he thought was his level. I quickly got my shit back together and he didn't seem to like that at all. I've pretty much cut him out of my life now. It really hurt me to see how he's been having a one-sided competition with me all these years.
She was angry with me when I went out alone with our mutual friend because she was at work. When I talked about my achievements, she tried to belittle me and shift the focus to herself and her skills.
Our mutual friend and I have a very strong shared trauma, and I wish no one ever had to go through that. When we discussed this topic with her, she tried to relate to it while downplaying our experience.
She would roll her eyes whenever I spoke, but only in group settings. Sucked tbh. I cared for her and her dog, planned her birthday party. She was sabotaging me at work behind the scenes.
i hate people like that so bad, i do remember when someone did that to me repeatedly so i said something to get in their head in front of everyone and since then never happen again. take what you will haha
Ooh what did you say?
You uno reversed it!
did everyone clap ?
did we have the same friend? she always rolled her eyes, turned every interaction into an argument if the interaction wasn't about her, always tried to make me look stupid, and tried to put me down.
That’s not a friend; that’s just an enemy who managed to get a backstage pass to your life.
In senior year of high school, she was in the year below me. She convinced me finally to tell her who I secretly wanted to take me to MY senior prom, then I get a message a few days later that she’s going with him. It isn’t even her prom.
this is insane, hope you got your getback
When the entire school realized she was actually a snake in a human costume, her date who I was actually friends with tells me he hates her and has no idea why he agreed to go with her, and he had gotten a girlfriend but was still stuck going with the snake. I already found another date by that point who I was very happy to go with, but it was satisfying to hear that.
Lolol that's so funny. "I'm dating this other person but we made prom promises already" is so awkward so some instant karma there
Have you told this story on reddit before...? I'm getting serious deja vu.
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Not in a "is this a repost" way, but with the wording, I feel like I've come across this person and their story before.
No I don’t think I’ve told this before. I’m not on reddit very often
They remembered all my failures in detail but somehow forgot my successes
honestly i think thats just people in general, you can get 100 Ws but that 1 L will always get held against you
Maybe in a competetive workplace or something, but my experience is that people who actually care about you try to encourage you. They're the ones to remind you of your wins when you're hung up on your losses.
They want you to be doing well, just not better than them
Nah
Nah if anything the people who love me tend to have the opposite problem.
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They just really wanted to be your Eskimo brother
A year ago when she called me out for getting with my husband of 29 years married, 31 years together, because she liked him in high school. “Like, you do remember, I had a crush on him”. She was celebrating her 5 year anniversary with a promise ring on her finger at the time she “liked him.” She’s on marriage #3 so I bet she thinks my hubs is the one who got away. She also lines up her next before ending her current, so if they had gotten together, it would not have lasted.
Was she expecting me to like step down, apologize, and give him to her? She does not like me, but was keeping me around so she could keep tabs on him.
I feel bad for her husband(s). She’s a terrible partner and awful friend.
thank god you realized how awful she was, what kind of a person seriously holds on to their high school crush 😭
Some people peak in high school and never let go of that mindset. It was everything for them and where they started to plan their lives. And some people jusy dont know how to let go of grudges and move on.
I had a friend like this who got mad I bought a specific Honda Civic because she "mentioned she liked it" four years prior. Some people genuinely think they have a copyright on reality.
Its almost like your husband had a say it in or something.lol
Right? He was never interested in her as she is an acquired taste.
My adult child said, you can’t reserve people, like licking a donut to eat later.
Don't know about the keeping tabs or secretly competing, but I realised my friends weren't really friends when I started getting treatment for depression, and they all just faded away.
Been pretty well friendless ever since.
I’m right there with you. Recently realized the person who has been telling me that I am the most important person in her life after her kids and she will always be there for me never backs those statements up with actual action. If the words and actions don’t match, then they’re lying
I had someone who I thought was my really close friend. She got extremely drunk one day and told me off in a fit of rage after sober me was taking care of her drunk ass. I thought that was it, nope. A lot of my friends approached me after and told me what she would say behind my back (which was horrendous). Then she went too far. She had a meeting with opposing council (I was suing someone). I have no idea what she said but that was the nail in the coffin. I won my lawsuit regardless of her attempts to sandbag me.
When I was a teenager, my "best friend" and her 2 cohorts jumped me because one of the cohorts'boyfriend said I was cute
okay this turned dark real quick
Lol
I realized it during one of the hardest times in my life. She was completely absent when I was struggling then randomly showed up once I started doing better.
When I didn’t want to talk about it because for me talking just reopens old wounds she got frustrated. That’s when it clicked. It didn’t feel like care it felt like she wanted the drama. I felt more like a story she wanted updates on than an actual friend.
Yep, fair weather friend, they’re only there when it’s easy.
See, I like the drama too. But that's why I spend my days lurking round BORU.
Fair enough 😅
And your username. Come ON!
HAHAHA! Alright I surrender
When I brought my new (almost) girlfriend over to his house and he went above and beyond to impress her and steal her from me.
He also still owes me a car because I let him drive one day and he crashed it and totaled it in less than a minute.
Fuck you, Marty.
Did he succeed in stealing her? If not, what did your GF think?
He succeeded in souring her opinion of both of us, so the ended up dating neither of us. Turns out not all women enjoy men fighting over them. She joined the army later that year, so it kinda didn’t matter in the end. I wouldn’t want to date a soldier anyways.
I had a falling out with my sister. Tldr on it was that she was trying to control my life and home business and would get so unbelievably angry if I didn't do what she thought was best. She made some of the worst decisions for me and I was basically like her little experiment. She's also the type of person that CAN'T BE WRONG and she will die on every hill.
I had been super private at this time and not spending time with a lot of my family, I just stopped talking to my sister all together and cut her out of my life. Fast forward to me hanging out with my cousin (who was the cousin who I always hung out with) she would suddenly started asking me things like "why didn't you do this" "are you going to do that?" "Why would you spend money on this instead of that" Etc. and basically telling me things that she just shouldn't know and basically telling me to do things that my sister wanted me to do. That's when it dawned on me that my sister was using my cousin as her own personal mouthpiece to try to control me. STILL. But she was also keeping track of how much time I was spending playing video games (through discord and through the games themselves as we used to play together), using my Snapchat location to see where I was (which was only available to her and a couple of friends), would text me to see if I was free trying to figure out what I was doing with my time, only to report it all back to my sister. I've since privated all of it.
It hurts but I mourned and cut her off, too, along with other family members that continued to listen to my sister and tried to control me with her ideas. It was my fault that I let me sister run so much of my life but I was so young and she was significantly older than me and she convinced me that she "cared" so I trusted her. Life has improved significantly now that I've made actual good decisions for myself. Every and all decision she forced upon me screwed me over just to benefit her in the long run and if she ever tells one of our other family members to do something, I have to think "what does she get out of this" because she never does anything without it benefiting her.
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they be congratulating you but the vibe being off tells you everything
Yup
Like when you have a bit of a history of dating losers but then you meet someone totally normal and decent for once and it's suddenly not "funny" anymore.
If I can add Girl before Friend.
I (29) was unaware for most of my relationship (of 5 years) with my now Ex (28) that she had been competing with me in almost everything we did together, but especially gaming. That may sound confusing, but I never really attempted to compete with her, I would just leisurely play the game, and I would be "Winning" in her mind even if it was a cooperative game. I have been playing/watching video games since the N64 was a thing. My Mother and Father have always loved gaming, her family liked sports. We started dating pretty soon after she "Discovered" Video games.
She would have little blowups over nothing once we had finished gaming some nights, but they always had nothing to do with gaming, so I didn't really think about the link. The big revelation was when we were playing World of Warcraft since a new expansion had come out and she started fully sobbing at me that she could never beat me in DPS, a game I had played since I was 9, and she had just started one month prior. This opened my eyes a bit too much to who I was spending my time with, I noticed more and more every day.
This started a new cycle of if we played games, I would have to actively try my best to keep it as even as possible, even in comfy games like Stardew Valley.
• Racing Games?
Do not Lap her, make sure I'm slamming on the breaks or crashing the second I start to pull ahead.
• NEVER PLAY Fighting Games.
• She asked me for help on a boss?
Make sure to barely win or die a couple times so she didn't think I was invalidating her (a genuine argument).
I started to dread playing any game that MIGHT be competitive in her mind. This was of course a Band-Aid for our relationship but eventually we set some rules where if we were playing together there would be no leaderboard checking, we were just "a Team" (Which of course she broke constantly, not hard to notice when her mood would suddenly shift).
We broke up over different directions in life, I wanted a partner in love, life and gaming...She wanted to be insane... Even then, I still randomly miss her from time to time because it was 5 years of my life.
It sounds like she didn't get a lot of chance to make mistakes as a child, or that her parents only gave her validation if she was the best at something. You both could have probably used a conversation about how it wasn't a competition and that you were a team, and that you just really enjoyed sharing a hobby with her.
We talked about it many, many times in the last year. The team/partnership conversion was almost weekly.
You are correct, she was the younger sister of the Male golden child in a sports family. She was never "good enough" but she still also had a massive silver spoon and got most of the things she wanted, like new cars and such just for asking. She was just never her brother.
Getting cars for the asking will never replace being loved.
Sounds like they fucked her up pretty good.
Oh for certain, I loved her dearly and was very supportive of her but you can only be there for someone for so long once you realize that your aren't their partner.
You started gaming right after you were born?
They did not say they started playing/watching when the N64 was first released. I got an NES when I was 5... 6 years after it was released in NA.
So when a kid starts gaming today it is also not misleading if they say this? The n64 is a thing, so they started when ... well it was a thing
Your BS hypothetical has nothing to do with reality. The timeline checks out. You're just being condescending.
Ok, you are too smart for me I guess
I watched my mother play video games, and then when I was 2 or 3 started gaming yes.
Valid point!
My cousin, 7 years younger than me, was more like a sister. It didn’t help when my mother started favouring her over me. Fast forward, my mother died and she won’t speak to me because she wasn’t mentioned in the will. I don’t want to argue with her because I think if money is that important, I don’t need her in my life.
Before we got married, and for about two years after we got married, my sister invited me and my husband to go do activities with her. It became a regular weekend thing for us three to go out and do things At first we liked it as she got us to actually go on adventures that did not restaurants or clubs. She was always more outgoing than me, with ants in the pants, and whereas I typically would like to do things but can't overcome the initial inertia, my sister never had that problem. But then eventually my husband showed me private texts that she sent him in which she became increasingly flirtatious and licentious with him so we clicked that she just wanted more time with him so she could attract him away from me.
Gutted because I had to disown my sister because of this as a matter of principal and I have not spoken to her in 4 years.
That is an ultimate betrayal, I’m so sorry.
i was this friend.
i constantly compared myself to her and over time i just realized "shit, i'm competing with her. this isn't healthy" and took a step back for both of us. she wasn't the greatest friend either; there was toxic behavior on her end too, but we were both kids.
I just picture you both like, 4 years old 😂
we were teenagers
Told her I got the job after months, and first thing she says is 'what if its fake' LMAO
I just experienced something similar! Had a 2 month hiring process for a job and had to do a drug test. I texted her that I passed, with an “obvs” because I don’t do drugs and she goes “imagine if you didn’t 🤣”. Why is this funny? Meanie.
i mean what if it was ?
Nah that’s a give away response tbh
One of my closest friends cat fished my then (now ex) boyfriend's brother using a fake Facebook account, and also told lies about how I was apparently cheating on my ex with other boys at uni. Tried to tell him to tell his mum but keep it a secret from my ex??? Not sure how that was supposed to work.
Naturally the brother immediately sends the screen shots to my ex, and my ex sent them to me. My ex didn't believe it one bit, but wanted me to work out who was behind it. It was easy to tell it was her because the typing style was identical to how she typed. She didn't deny it when I confronted her and just sent me some really nasty messages and blocked me before I could respond.
It was just so jarring because literally nothing happened in the lead up to this event. I hadn't slighted her and we had never fought. Turns out she was just a very nasty person and others thought maybe she was a bit jealous of me. Hurt like hell because I really cared for her deeply.
1..When she came into some money and started questioning why I didn’t have eggs or bread in my house. (I hadn’t gotten paid yet) 2. I’m Asian. She’d sound all snooty when she’d talk about Asia (she’s a huge fan 😵💫) and acted like I didn’t know shit. Not to mention she failed Japanese HORRIBLY LMFAO
She was my ex. It was sometime after I got a really good new job. She didn’t really seem happy for me.
Her behavior finally began making sense when I finally said to myself, “you were in a relationship with someone who really didn’t like you”.
It hasn't happened a lot. I was lucky enough to realize that friend thought I was competing with them. Once they found out I didn't give a damn either way, their who conception kind of fell apart and we became true friends after.
First grad job when I started taking more of a senior role, had a childhood friend that couldn't get one so referred him and coached him to get one at my place
Proceeded then to undermine me when I was leading meetings, bully and blame other employees during projects, and finally tell an employee who was going through depression that she only got the job because she's a girl and then later sexually harass the same girl
Ending with him getting sacked, unemployed for 2 years then now earning minimum wage
When they cut contact with me, gave me some bullshit story when I reached out to make sure they were okay, and then proceeded to cut contact once more.
The reason I know the bullshit story was bullshit is because they're still active to other people, but are deliberately avoiding me. My current theory is they were jealous of my collection. Because it wouldn't be the first time. Either that or someone's spreading a rumor or something.
Still not really over it. I do hope they're okay, though, because they seemed like a really cool person for the duration I knew them.
So what's the collection?
I hope it's something like pickled tapir penii.
We were both feather/taxidermy collectors!
I've got nearly 400 bird species accounted for so far last I checked my logs. Mostly one-off feathers.
That's kinda what I said!
It is, indeed. Lmao
I unironically would keep a pickled tapir penis if I got it at, like, an estate sale or something. I have a lot of odd pieces from all sorts of things, really. It's just that I'm a bird guy mostly, so I don't really seek out non-bird items if I'm looking to buy smth.
My brother has a friend who was renting an old mansion, and in the attic he found a squirrel preserved in a jar of moonshine. That's the weirdest I've heard of first hand.
At least they respected you enough to not 'check up' on you every other week. i think a complete ghost is fine its not malicious
I should specify, with this person it's definitely not a complete ghost. I know for a fact they're still keeping an eye on me, they just refuse to talk unfortunately. The situation has made me quite paranoid in all honesty.
eye on you as in social media? why not block them?
I did for a while, but then stopped. Mostly because I don't give much of a shit really. I'm kind of hoping they'll eventually come back and try to get back in contact. I don't really care either way, it's not really worth wasting energy or stress over. I'm paranoid because I wonder if they're spreading shit on me, but it really doesn't matter in the end. 🤷
When I bought my first motorcycle he bought the same one but bigger displacement. I then bought a used stick shift car to learn on and he then immediately went out and bought a brand new manual car. I then payed attention and everytime I bought something and was excited for it he would go out and buy the better or newer version of it.
How strange
When I realized she was using my work and ideas as her own in school and I got in trouble for it.
Grade school.
We moved to a new school district when I was real young. My first friend was a real piece of work. Dudes family was noticably better off and gave him a good allowance, and he wasn't shy about gift giving. Then the jealousy kicked in. Anyone else I befriended before him got the "don't hang with them, they're weird" treatment. I had him and a few of his friends to hang with so I didn't think much of it. That went on for a bit.
When we got older he got more agressive, it started out just as rough housing and me repeatedly asking him to stop. Then when we'd spend the night at eachothers houses he'd slowly move all the blankets to one spot and sit on them, going as far as just yanking mine off of me.
I remember a blanket incident when I told him to stop because I was cold, and from where I was laying heel stomped towards his shin when he wouldn't let up. I think I made good contact there. That was really where I asked myself why I put up with him. It was also the last time we hung out before his parents split and his mom took him a few suburbs away.
A while later a new guy I'd befriend for years moved in across the street. Old friend called and tried getting me to come out to his place. Remembering I hadn't been in a physical altercation since he left I said no, I was spending time with other friends. Dude had the balls to tell me I didn't have any other friends, and the new guy from across the street heard him, grabed the phone, and told him off.
When she told someone I had a harmless minor crush on that I had a huge crush on him, and personal things about my marriage that made him feel confident enough to offer to "help me out." Turns out, she'd been pumping me for deeply personal information (I thought we had that kind of friendship) that she could share with our friend group and use as ammunition. She also stole $100, some weed, my engagement ring, a bunch of jewelry including a pearl necklace my grandfather had strung from pearls he brought back from Japan during the Korean war, my birth certificate and who knows what else. She had also started a campaign of trying to win over my indoor/outdoor cat's affection. I am pretty damn certain she thought she could kidnap him and at the very least dump him off somewhere or the pound and have him put down. She is a vicious psychopath and I am so thrilled that she is several states away.
When she started fucking all my exes.
How many exes did you have lol
lol enough that it was weird that she was fucking them
When I found the two trackers on my car. ✌🏽
A friend of mine helped get me a job as a teacher at a local college. Although it was technically a part time position, I worked full-time hours pretty much from my second year in.
After a half decade of working without benefits, I was finally up for a promotion. Since my classes rostered quickly, I was well-liked by most of the students, and I’d even developed curriculum for several different courses, I thought I had a great shot at finally becoming a full-timer.
But I was passed over. And I later found out it was because my friend told the department head I wasn’t ready for the position.
That was my final semester at the college and I never taught again.
When I stopped sharing good news because their reactions always made me feel smaller instead of supported.
I announced that I was moving states and getting married, I was very loved by my coworkers there and was in the process of being promoted. My friend/coworker just so happened to also be moving and getting married bc she couldn’t stand the attention being on someone else. She moved but in the same town and also didn’t get married. It was just very convenient timing.
I called to tell her about my upcoming college graduation she then proceeded to talk about a really dark period in my life without a word about the graduation. Last spoke to her in 2015; do not miss that friendship one bit.
My friend tried to steal a lot of times my dates or girls that i met in a bar. happend 5 times.
bruh i had that situation too with someone else, he just embarrased himself tho.
did he end up getting with any of them just curious
No he did not. But with one girl he told her that i was maried, like wtf bro? Such a terrible lie. That was the nale of the coffin. He totally ruined that date for me.
i get the 'you shouldn't care but cut them off' thing, but i actively took revenge and got with a girl he was obsessed over and made sure he found out.
hope hes not spending 5 years plotting revenge or something haha
Lol and he just assumed you wouldn’t hear about it?
Jeah so dumb.
Lotta Mean Girls up here.
I had a friend named Rob. We met in grade school and were friends until our early 30s. At some point he started becoming jealous of me.
I had a home and a good job, while he graduated from college with a psychology degree and was still living with his parents working in a grocery store.
He could not stand that I had my GED and was making more than him, because he went to college. He told me he was not going to visit me in my home because it makes no sense that I can afford a home.
I stopped all contact with him after that. He thought I'd stay friends with him after that? If you won't visit my home, then we are not friends.
When friend #1 (best friend of 20 years) used all my flaws and weaknesses against me in a fight, making a competition out of who has is worst. She refused to talk, has been ghosting me ever since and I don't think she will reach out ever again.
Not really competing, but when I asked very close friend #2 to pls be there for me at my dads funeral because I needed all the support I can get on literally the worst day of my life. I rarely ask for anything and it's really difficult for me to ask for help in general. The day before the funeral she declined via WhatsApp saying "it would bring down her mood".
What lol
I don’t know anyone like this
Does everyone have a “friend” like this?
Maybe ur that friend lolololol kidding
some people didn't have friends at all. or only had good/neutral friends.
I think it happens more in adolescence and early adulthood before most people learn how to set boundaries and recognize when they’re being taken advantage of. But unfortunately not everyone “grows up”, on both ends of this type of abusive relationship.
no
some people only have genuine friends
I'll start first:
When I was struggling in general we would call often updating each other etc, as soon as I started progressing with finance/relationship/etc and told him happily, he started distancing himself and only texting me every other week to see 'how you been bro'.
makes you think was all those years being friends fake.
Nah, bros happy for you and depressed with how his life is progressing. Bro feels like they're just dragging ya down. Go hang with bro.
thats what i thought, until i asked him for help for something and he said he will help but just ghosted me. right now im set to level up on the help i needed from him and flex on him so hard he remains a ghost
Your friend sounds like he's feeling left behind, lonely and failed. Probably depressed. And you were that person who they could commiserate with, and they've watched you outgrow them. Don't be an ass and flex on him on top of all that.
Did he ever ask you for help with things?
when I noticed she was happy for me… but only until I started doing better than her. then it got weird real fast 💀
When i refused to text them first….
They would all talk behind my back, dudes too, never to my face. Had a rumor that they thought was true for a long time.
General signs were they would get offended if I was defending myself. Generally terrible nepo babies I don't know why I hung with them. Left the discord call and never regretted it, reminded me to unadd some people on Facebook thanks.
My nail lady told me my bff didn’t like me and anyone she came in with didn’t either. Oof
So many things, but it hit when she told me she needed to look sexy at my wedding, then quickly added, "But not enough to outshine you, of course!"
She had a thing for my husband.
When I had to hear through 2 other friends that I wasn't that good of a friend to them and they could drop me at any time. I pulled up to their house and asked them if what I heard was true, and they go "oh yeah, but that was way back when" And I told them that I expected an apology, and they told me that they didn't feel like they owed me one. I got in my car and I left, and I never talked to them again. I ride the fuck out for my friends and if I can't expect the same in return, then, there's no reason for us to be friends. I'm the friend who always have bail, will kick in fucking doors with you to get your shit back, i will drive you to your significant other's house and circle the block with you to see if they're cheating on you, i will feed you ehen i eat. All I ask for is reciprocation. If not, then all we are is acquaintances or people that know each other.
It would be freezing cold. They knew I was coming over. Still, they'd make me wait a solid 10-15 minutes outside. After the 2nd time this happened and she wasn't the only person in the house who could have opened the door I just got this feeling like a real friend is not going to make me stand outside in the freezing cold for an excessive amount of time. I mean snow on the ground cold.
Sure enough, they would turn out to not be a real friend for a ton of reasons.
We talked about our mental health struggles and had a good level of commradery that I really enjoyed, because I had been going through it alone for a long time up until we got close. When I started to really try to tackle some of my issues she started out encouraging but eventually started making little digs and dismissals until she evolved into outright sabotage.
A few examples: I said I was going to quit smoking weed, I made it a month, had a really bad few days and she turned up at my house and put a bag in front of me. I asked her not to send me memes/tiktok skits etc relating to mental health because they were misleading and potentially damaging, she sent more and excused them as 'just for fun'. I told her about some grounding/thought exercises my therapist had given me to work on, she called it all bullshit and said therapy was a scam. She excused smoking (cigs and joints) in same room as her baby because 'smoke rises' and he was having tummy time, despite having a go at me a month or so before because my outside smoking was "too close to the window". Eventually any trauma/problem I confessed to her she had to beat with a better story of her own, I describe it as she was playing the trauma olympics and noone else could win a medal, only her.
Theres probably far more tbh but it took me a while to recognise that it was really becoming toxic and she didn't want me to get 'better', she wanted to be above me always and didn't have the empathy to support me in that journey, though she was good at pretending in the beginning. She stopped talking to me when I finally snapped and told her (I admit I could have been nicer) to sort her shit out because I was sick of hearing about her problems and seeing her do not one thing about them. I was sad at first but I was better for it and a year later I have my diagnosis, my meds and have made huge strides and I did it on my own. She's since divorced and now doesn't have me to help her out with her kids or come running on her bad days. I'm sure she's probably struggling more now but she made that bed and I'm no longer willing to lay down in it with her and it was a good decision in the long run.
I was out with my friend at a bar, and I started talking to a guy. She was absolutely trashed, and came up to us right as he asked me out.
She immediately had a fit and broke down crying, saying it wasn’t fair that he asked me out since she was the pretty one and I was the ugly one. There was no way that a guy liked me over her.
Her sister was both of our rides, so I had to listen to 30 minutes of her insulting my appearance as her sister lectured her for being rude.
I let our friendship fade after that.
When I caught him fucking my wife.
It took me a decade. I (26F) have an old “friend” who is a truly, deeply damaged soul. She’s an orphan and is very easily manipulated by literally everyone around her and is also extremely manipulative herself. There’s a girl out there somewhere that still hates me because several years ago, “friend” told her that I was speaking ill of her dead brother, one of my classmates. The girl already didn’t like me (for petty high-school reasons), but when I’d heard about the accident I had offered my condolences through our “friend”. Couldn’t imagine losing a sibling and from what I knew, the rest of this girl’s family was already broken. “Friend” took it upon herself to twist what I’d said from words of comfort into barbs. This girl tried to fight me over this shit, and I still don’t know exactly what I “said”, what she came up with. Why she would even do that, I’ll never know. She won’t admit that she did it even so many years later. I feel in my pit that she absolutely did do this because several other people within the peer group (both my end and the other girl’s) told me she specifically had. I imagine it boils down to some kind of a desire to fan the flames, maybe? I’d never do something like that to someone else so I’m not really sure what drove it. We remained friends up until recently, when I stood up for her against her situation-ship one day and he busted in her apartment and blew up on her and threatened me with bodily harm over it. She (and her therapist) blamed me for his displays of aggression. I let her come by after a few months of not speaking and she’s still with him, says he’s “better” and basically dumped everything that’s happened in her life the whole time with little interest in anything that’s been going on in mine. She also kept cutting off my other friend who was over at the time to do so. My decision was made then and there; we wouldn’t be rendezvousing again. I can love you from a distance and still hope you succeed without you sitting at my table 🤷🏻♀️
As soon as we met, they didn't seem to care what I had or did, then shortly after they started buying the next model of my cell phone, buying clothes from the same brand I used, making it important to own objects from big brands in general like I did, but most annoyingly, they started doing what I had long said they wanted to do, but with other people and not with me, then to top it off, years after I distanced myself from these people, I discovered that they were also working in the same field as me, when in fact, when I was friends with them, they said they would never do that type of work.
My friend was always jealous that I could meet girls and he could not. I had girls that were really good friends and he failed at having any female friends
I once tried to be friends with a "new kid in town". I didn't like him, but i was trying to be nice. He was just kind of an asshole. But again, i tried.
He scratched my guitar, ghosted everything...pretended he hadn't stolen an Linkin Park album CD and ultimately...i just had to beat him up a little bit in the locker room.
Can it be both? Friends and competing?
When I went to the hospital and she cared more about if I had left a dirty dish in the sink or not. Then after said hospital visit she complained of being so tired because she “had to” visit me in the hospital.
When I told him that my partner at the time and I bought a place together, he looked genuinely upset.
They only showed up when things were going badly for me.
Found out after she moved away that she never liked me and tried to warn people to stay away from me—found that out from a friend who didn’t listen to her “warnings.”
Bonus to being autistic is I never noticed her distaste for me and got a free fall out boy concert from it!
When he slipped up and basically admitted that he was doing that. He messaged me and linked a random comment I made on a previous account on here, it wasn't a top level comment so he would've had to scroll through my comment history to find it. There were a few other times where he'd message me after I made a comment on reddit that heavily implied that he was stalking my account but there wasn't any concrete proof. When he slipped up and revealed that, a lot of other things he did suddenly made sense. He'd constantly comment across different social media accounts under my posts making shitty "jokes" at my expense. He was (and from what I've heard still is) incredibly insecure, and would constantly try and bring me down to make himself look better. He knew that I was living in not the best situation so one time I was over at his place along with a couple other friends and he was consistently being disrespectful to his mom then claiming that he had it worse than me. It had only been a couple years since my mom had stopped beating me at that point, and she was still being abusive in other ways
It was one of the many reasons I cut him off
When she first got hired, she told me how much they offered her for her position (which is same as mine). And then when she was complaining about high COL, I sent her helpful links to sign up for affordable housing and the salary bracket you had to fall under… she said oh, I don’t make that much to be able to afford that. That was her very first lie. She lies about dumb shit like that all the time now.
Signs indicating insecurity (you think youre better than me attitude), and then word twisting and and strange lying that would seem like the person was just misunderstanding but it was consistent. Pretty early in the friendship an expensive item was given "now you can't leave" was said. These things were consistent in their relationships. They had stories of abrupt falling outs. I saw these same actions in another relationship this person had. Decided it wasn't a healthy space and when I acted on a boundary I had previously vocalized, I became a liar and a whole bunch of other things. The cherry on top, when we were having a conversation about how I'm not the biggest fan of lying before this blow up, they go "I'm a great liar, I come from a family of liars" then their son goes "yeah im a great liar". The egg on my face.
when I realized that they weren't telling me things, like breaking up with a girl friend when I was including him in my life events.
When this motherfucker somehow randomly started having sex with almost all the girls i had dated up to that point.
When I stopped constantly sharing their side hustles they stopped reading my texts.
We were friends for decades. He's always been a bit of a slacker and a dreamer (big dreams, zero follow-through.) I always seemed to be a few steps ahead of him in life because I simply took care of basic responsibilities. I never realized how much it bothered him until I fell on hard times. The pleasure it gave him was honestly disturbing. I never knew how much he resented me for just keeping a job, saving money, and having a family. I never treated him like less because he didn't have those things, but holy shit did it make him happy to see me brought down to what he thought was his level. I quickly got my shit back together and he didn't seem to like that at all. I've pretty much cut him out of my life now. It really hurt me to see how he's been having a one-sided competition with me all these years.
when she plagiarized parts of my graduate school admissions essay and denied it when I called her out…
With Schizophrenia everyone is in this category for me.
She was angry with me when I went out alone with our mutual friend because she was at work. When I talked about my achievements, she tried to belittle me and shift the focus to herself and her skills.
Our mutual friend and I have a very strong shared trauma, and I wish no one ever had to go through that. When we discussed this topic with her, she tried to relate to it while downplaying our experience.
Summer after my freshman year of high school, when we started dating the love of my life. Mind you, she had heard me talk about him all the time.