You become ”dateable” once you realize you’re dateable and stop putting yourself down. Until then, you should work on loving yourself because you will not perceive someone’s love for you if you don’t even love yourself. That’s really the only self-improvement that matters as far as dating goes. Improving yourself is great, but it doesn’t determine your worth, nor your ”dateability”.
I'm terrified of approaching the guys I like because they're better than me, and it feels inappropriate and socially awkward to imply they could be attracted to me.
I had a partner who thought I was out of their league and was intimidated by me. And I really wish that they didn’t. I can’t say how much it affected our relationship and was the reason we broke up, but I imagine it played a role in their inability to communicate with me that made us not work out.
What you shouldn‘t do isn’t approach someone if you think they’re better than you. What you shouldn’t do is think people are better than you. Putting someone on a pedestal is not good for a relationship. And I really think it’s this mentality and attitude towards yourself that is making you undateable. Because dateability is about loving yourself and stopping comparing yourself to others.
Even the term "dateable" signals to me that you are internalizing some toxic culture. People who go around judging other people and labelling them "dateable" or not are immature and toxic and you don't need to participate in that hierarchical middle-school crap. Just be you.
You become ”dateable” once you realize you’re dateable and stop putting yourself down. Until then, you should work on loving yourself because you will not perceive someone’s love for you if you don’t even love yourself. That’s really the only self-improvement that matters as far as dating goes. Improving yourself is great, but it doesn’t determine your worth, nor your ”dateability”.
I had a partner who thought I was out of their league and was intimidated by me. And I really wish that they didn’t. I can’t say how much it affected our relationship and was the reason we broke up, but I imagine it played a role in their inability to communicate with me that made us not work out.
What you shouldn‘t do isn’t approach someone if you think they’re better than you. What you shouldn’t do is think people are better than you. Putting someone on a pedestal is not good for a relationship. And I really think it’s this mentality and attitude towards yourself that is making you undateable. Because dateability is about loving yourself and stopping comparing yourself to others.
By existing.
Everyone is someone's reason to masturbate, and I'm not even kidding about that. Humans and human sexuality is insanely diverse.
Actually love that quote lmao
Even the term "dateable" signals to me that you are internalizing some toxic culture. People who go around judging other people and labelling them "dateable" or not are immature and toxic and you don't need to participate in that hierarchical middle-school crap. Just be you.