First of all, i want to apologize if i have grammar mistakes and i write chaotically. I will try to summarize and give enough details to explain my situation.
I am 20 years old bisexual man and only the people i want to know, know about it. I am 2nd year at university, and this year one of my girl friends’ friend joined our group. At first i didn’t have anything towards him, but with time, i started to develop feelings towards him. He is also 2nd year but not at the same class group (or however it’s called) like me. Our group occasionally hangs out while skipping lectures but never outside of that. He is super cute and nice and it is my type, but he is straight and i think he is homophobic because i heard him once saying that he doesn’t want a gay son.
1 week ago (as of i’m writing this), the group was at a party and most of us, including me, were drunk. I don’t remember much of it, but i remember that i was occasionally hugging him and that i wanted to kiss him but never did. The day after that, i learned that he has a crush on the same girl that got him in our group but i think she told me and another girl that she knows he likes her but she doesn’t. Ever since that night, whenever i see him, i feel like i want to confess him my feelings but i don’t want to potentially ruin our friendship and possibly ruining the group. I wanted to talk with the girl that got him in the group and to ask her what i should do because this is burning me on the inside but i never have the chance to talk with her alone.
So here is my question. Should i find chance to talk with her and get clarity on what to do, or to let my feelings towards him to fade away which will not happen quickly?
Again, sorry for my messy writing. I just can’t sort my thoughts and feelings at the moment.