Hi all, just wondering if anyone can empathise with the following: 24 yo M who just seems to have hit a bit of a social lull the last year or two, especially since finishing college and starting work. Solid job, decent friend group with work and from youth but we have grown apart a bit as we all do. Not a weekly drinker so just struggle to meet new people and do fun random stuff bar the same few friends or family.
Is this a fairly ubiquitous feeling in my fellow quarter-life-crisis’ers or am I in the minority?
Just to note, I wouldn’t say I’m unhappy. I’m actually quite content, but just lacking a bit of spontaneity.
24f soon to be 25f (next week) graduated college in 2024 and 100% feeling this, friends have moved country, friends who lived in Dublin for college have moved home, friends who were just friends from college have drifted. It comes and goes, this time last year I was feeling really bad about it. I did Time left last year when I was feeling bad and it really helped, it pairs you with 5 strangers every Wednesday for a dinner, I made one good friend from it and it made me realise everyone was in the same boat so I didn’t feel as alone, I’ll be doing some more time left dinners this year as even more friends have moved abroad
Time left sounds like a great idea. I must look into it! Thanks :)
No worries! It’s great, it’s always nerve wrecking arriving to the dinners but everyone is nervous so it’s not as bad, it pairs you with people in a similar age range too
Happy early bday btw
Thank you :)
Mate you're definitely not alone here - mid 20s is like friendship purgatory where everyone's figuring out adult life and the casual meetups just dry up. Have you tried any clubs or sports groups? Sounds cheesy but it's probably the easiest way to meet people without the pressure of pub culture
Played a bit of football (GAA) last year and couldn’t decide if they wanted to take it seriously or just used as an excuse for people to go drinking. Almost felt like it changed with the weather. Maybe that was just my experience, and I’ll play more again this year but didn’t really stimulate me as much as I expected.
I should look into other sports groups more. Thanks for the input. Turns out I could rant away all day on this topic lol.
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Yeah, I had one, last 6 years, lol
It's typical. Post university is a bit of a reset, and unless you get lucky you can take a bit of time to get that close friend group going again. If you want to meet people, socialize at work and pick up some hobbies. Mis twenties friend groups are often made up of work friends.
Wait til you hit your 40s