Hello all, and Merry Christmas. I usually describe myself as center-left, but I also consider myself progressive. I also have close friends who are conservative, and we get along well. We've had great political conversations over the years that have changed how I think about things, and I'm sure it's gone both ways. That experience is part of why I wanted to ask this. I often see conservatives, fairly, push back on being treated as a monolith. At the same time, if you read through a lot of the threads here, you'll see so many comments talking about progressives like we're one type of person with one set of motives.

So I'm asking in good faith. What standard do you think makes sense here? Is it that generalizing groups is bad in general, or is it bad unless you feel it's deserved? If it's deserved sometimes, what's the rule for when it becomes acceptable? Because that same logic can be used to justify stereotyping conservatives too. More practically, how do you personally talk about progressives without letting the loudest online slice turn into all progressives? I'm genuinely trying to understand what people here see as fair.

I also want to be clear about where I'm coming from personally. I don't call conservatives nazis or racists, and neither do the progressive friends I'm close with, at least not in my presence. I try to treat people as individuals and start from basic respect unless they give me a reason not to. So when those assumptions get applied broadly to the left, it doesn't really match my experience. That makes me wonder whether people like me are seen as outliers, the exception, while the stereotypes are still treated as broadly accurate. If that's the case, how is that any different from writing off conservatives who don't fit common stereotypes about the right?

  • I’m not perfect but I always try to keep in mind that for the most part, people are trying to make society better by their sincerely held values.

    I appreciate this a lot and it's basically how I try to approach conservatives too. Most people are operating from sincerely held values, even if I think they’re wrong on the policy.

    I mean even truly evil people are operating from sincerely held values. That's kind of a necessity isn't it? I guess I should have said instead of sincerity of views what matters is honest truth seeking. A Nazi sincerely believes that the Jews are an inferior parasitic race that must be eradicated for the good of the Aryan nation, but this is not a belief that was reached through honest reasoning. Whereas most normal people on the left and right are not evading reality in the same way.

    That’s a fair clarification, and I agree with the distinction. I also agree that most people on both the left and the right are in that normal category, even if they end up with different conclusions or priorities. That’s the assumption I try to start with when I talk politics with conservatives in my own life. Where this ties back to my original point is that a lot of 'the left' rhetoric skips that assumption and jumps straight to “they’re evading reality” or “they’re acting in bad faith” as a default. Once that happens it just gets hard to separate people who are wrong but reasoning honestly from people who are actually dishonest. I’m just trying to keep that line clearer, especially when we’re talking about big groups instead of specific arguments.

    I mean even truly evil people are operating from sincerely held values

    It depends on the person. Some "truly evil" people have no sincerely held values besides wielding power for the sake of it or self-enrichment. Their stated values would simply be what they found most effective to achieve their desired ends

    That’s a little overly optimistic for me.

    I don’t assume most people are trying to make society better by their sincerely held values.

    I assume that most people are selfish, and to an extent tribal. They adopt values that they believe will benefit themselves and whoever they consider to be part of their tribe.

    When the country was much smaller, you could argue people were more likely to consider all their countrymen as being part of their tribe. But that’s certainly not true today.

    That seems overly reductionist as well, though. While we need to categorize people into groups to make things more manageable (in the same way categorization helps organize information in general), and you may reductively call that forms of tribalism, not all people necessarily operate then from an in-group/out-group perspective.

    While we may understand, for example, that some people fall into the “citizen” vs “not citizen” categories, how we behave as a result can vary quite a bit.

    Is the citizen who says “not citizens” should have no access to government services as selfish as the citizen who does? What if the reason is there’s a treatable pandemic and by allowing “not citizens” access to services that will reduce transmission overall for citizens?

    How do you define who’s more “selfish” in this scenario? Both want different things but for similar perceived outcomes.

    And above & beyond that, some people will approach policy less in terms of “who benefits” than “what’s fair,” even if that means their own in-group might be negatively impacted.

    And fairness, like selfishness, as you know, means different things to different people.

    Tribalism is a useful perspective to understand some human behaviors, but is insufficient to characterize all of it.

    I’d argue that tribalism is more fundamental than you characterize. Not mere cognitive mapping, but something programmed into us through evolution.

    Humans as a species are physically weak and frail. Especially compared to say a tiger. We don’t even have claws to protect ourselves. Nor do we have fur to stay warm when it’s cold.

    We do have high levels of intelligence compared to most animals, but that intelligence isn’t enough to overcome our innate physical disadvantages as a species, at least if we’re on our own. A species that was exactly like us in both intelligence and physical attributes, but solitary in nature, would likely go extinct.

    But when we work together, that changes the equation. Humans have to work together to have a good chance of survival. In fact, under those conditions, we don’t just survive. We dominate.

    That’s where the tribalism instinct comes from. You protect what you consider to be your tribe, because that instinct kept your ancestors alive. But it’s ultimately selfish, as all instincts are. Like most species, humans primarily act to maximize their own benefit.

    I am not saying true altruism doesn’t exist. But it is somewhat rare, and more often than not, what we rationalize as altruistic deep down has selfish motives. And I think that’s the best lens for viewing politics.

    That’s not to say that selfish instincts always lead to the same conclusion. As you pointed out, someone might provide a vaccine to non-citizens to protect themselves, and someone else might only want the vaccine for themselves. Both motives are selfish even though they result in opposite decisions.

    And sometimes our instincts are irrational. For instance, you might instinctively protect your family as part of your tribe, even when they abuse you.

    With respect to “fairness”, people very rarely adopt ideologies they don’t believe benefit them.

    For instance, if you look at people who want to legalize marijuana, the majority are pot smokers and hence benefit selfishly. Of those who aren’t, the next largest group are going to be those with a libertarian ideology. You might think libertarians who don’t do drugs are not being selfish if they support marijuana legalization. But maybe they care about something else more personal, like keeping the government from taking their guns, or being able to speak freely. And so they protect other people having a right to smoke weed, because they hope those people will defend their rights too. Political ideology itself is a form of a tribe.

    Or consider a gay liberal defending a Muslim immigrant from discrimination. The theme there is an ideology that is sensitive to discrimination. The gay liberal perceives themselves to have been discriminated against in the past (or at least fears this is a concern), and so they have formed a tribe with others who feel discriminated against. Again, they’re hoping that by fighting for interests of other members of their tribe, those other members will fight for their interests.

    And this also results in strange bedfellows, because the Muslim immigrant probably would discriminate against the gay liberal. But as I said, the tribalism instinct isn’t always rational. Nor is tribal affiliation mutual in understanding. You might consider me part of your tribe, but that doesn’t mean I consider you part of my tribe.

    When we have an instinct that doesn’t benefit us, that’s called maladaptation. The instinct is still selfish in that its intent is to benefit us, but it’s just buggy.

    My whole point is what you consider “fairness” or the kind of empathy you have may deep down stem from a selfish impulse. And that at least partially explains why we can’t agree what is “fair”.

    Thanks. I try as well, especially for conservatives I meet in person.

  • I do so by making sure that I can steel-man the progressive / alternate views on an nlissue before feeling confident that I have a well-thought-out opinion on it.

    I can't think of a controversial issue on which there aren't multiple defensible positions, usually starting from different priorities or values. And additionally, I can't think of a single policy which has all upsides and no downsides, or vice versa.

    Following that, I try to distinguish between people who have well-reasoned views that they can defend, and ideologues who aren't worth the time engaging with.

    I’m with you on this. I don’t think there are many issues with only one defensible position, and I think priorities and values explain most disagreements. That’s part of why I’m sensitive to broad claims about progressives. It feels like the steel-man step gets skipped a lot when people are talking about groups rather than individuals. I appreciate your reply, thanks.

    Thanks. I’m glad to see conservatives like you open to productive discussion. America is its best when conservatives and liberals discuss, disagree, argue and compromise for the sake of all of us.

    There was a really influential one, who spoke to anyone, on their home court about any subject. He did so with compassion and in good faith.

    He was assassinated and then people, including educators, medical professionals, celebrities and politicians. celebrated his death.

    Conservatives are open minded and willing to converse with productive discussions. 

    In fact he said:

    ​"When people stop talking, that's when violence happens. That's when civil war happens, because you start to think the other side is so evil, and they lose their humanity."<<

    It isn't the right that wants to shut down discussion.

    I agree with the general principle of discussion. I don't agree with you about Kirk's open-mindedness.

    Also, I have to say it's a false and mean-spirited assertion that it's the left that wants to shut down discussion. Neither side has a monopoly on bad behavior. Let's remember that there was a guy at Kirk's memorial who said, "I hate my opponents." And I’m sure you remember his reaction to Rob Reiner’s murder.

    Well Charlie was doing the talking. That's more than can be said about anyone on the left. Just look at how the "tolerant side" is treating Niki Minaj.

    How many riots. assaults and protests have happened on college campuses because leftists don't like the speaker talking? Now how many have happened the other way? 

    No, my friend its not mean spirited to be honest.

    See you want talk yet say I'm being mean by pointing out to you talk was taking place and that was "hate, racist and violent"

    There has been 1 day and a few incidents that the right has responded like the left and to the left they say it was the worst day in American history and worse than 9/11.

    While I agree neither side has a monopoly on dumb asses, the left clearly has pushed harder, further and gets away with it far more.

    Because, our silence is violence our words are fascist and our beliefs are Nazi like...

    *edit for formatting

    Let’s rewind the tape. I came into this discussion to thank a conservative poster for a thoughtful and generous comment. It’s Christmas Eve after all.

    You responded in a different mode.

    You and I could trade anecdotes all day about which side of the political spectrum is more likely to shut down discussion. In fact, I have a list in my head of all the things I could tell you.

    But that wouldn’t get us anywhere. I would rather return to the spirit of that first comment that I responded to. Both sides have work to do.

    This will be my last comment to you. I hope you have a good holiday, whatever you celebrate.

    I get what you are saying, but I asked several questions, which would have clarified our position. 

    I know how hard the left wants to both sides what is going on, but its simply untrue.

    The right thinks the left is wrong, the left thinks we are evil and must be punished. Huge difference.

    You came to ask and refuse to see any PIV but your own and only want conversation if "I" agree burning cities or killing "enemies" is a both sides thing.

    I'd step out of that conversation too.

    Anyway, Merry Christmas and have a safe New year.

    Respect, this guy gets it.

  • Mostly by recognizing that an individual is not defined by the faction that are a part of. When I talk about the left, I'm talking about the political faction, not the individuals making it up.

    That makes sense, and I completely agree that individuals aren’t defined by their side. When you refer to the left as a faction though, what do you mean exactly? Elected Dems, progressive activists, mainstream liberal voters, or the loud online crowd?

    I ask because a lot of the time “the left” gets used in a way that sounds like it’s describing motives and character traits of individual people, even if it’s framed as “the faction.”

    When you refer to the left as a faction though, what do you mean exactly? Elected Dems, progressive activists, mainstream liberal voters, or the loud online crowd?

    I mean exactly what I said, the faction. The broad disperate groups that are colloquially known as the left and share vaguely similar ideologies and talking points.

    And that is where subjectivity comes into account. What is your view of who makes up this “left”? Does it include Biden, Kamala, AOC, Bernie, Matthew Yglesias, Jon Favreau, Adam Kinzinger, etc?

    The people I named are all broadly opponents of Trump but occupy a vast range of space to the left of Trump. I would consider some of these people, AOC, Bernie, left. I would consider others liberal or mainstream democrats, Kamala, Biden, Favreau. Others, namely Kinzinger, I would consider right of center anti Trump.

    I have heard every person on this list called a leftist and that blanket label is what leads to questions like this.

    And that is where subjectivity comes into account. What is your view of who makes up this “left”? Does it include Biden, Kamala, AOC, Bernie, Matthew Yglesias, Jon Favreau, Adam Kinzinger, etc?

    Those are people. Where they are faction wise is on them. Most of them usually do align with the left. Not sure about Matthew Yglesias or Jon Favreau.

    The people I named are all broadly opponents of Trump but occupy a vast range of space to the left of Trump.

    Thats to be expected. The left has been socially dominant for decades and is typically the only socially acceptable view in major interstate institutions. Thats why so many people in so many different fields have expressed fear and reluctance about sharing their opinions.

    I would consider others liberal or mainstream democrats, Kamala, Biden, Favreau. Others, namely Kinzinger, I would consider right of center anti Trump.

    Okay. That has nothing to do with what faction they're aligned with. Every faction has multiple subfactions

    So is the left in your view anyone left of Donald Trump? Kinzinger for example is a pretty normal pre-2016 Republican. McCain and Romney I often see called RINOs. Does that make them a part of the left or just the right, anti-Trump opposition?

    Does the left have anything in common besides being to the left of an arbitrary line that you/Trump draws? What decides what a left wing view is versus a right wing view? This is a lot of questions but what I am trying to get at is what is the left versus the right, a societal structure subject to constant change or principles unaffected by cultural swings?

    So is the left in your view anyone left of Donald Trump?

    No, not at all.

    Does that make them a part of the left or just the right, anti-Trump opposition?

    No, most of them are on the right, but again, subfactions.

    Does the left have anything in common besides being to the left of an arbitrary line that you/Trump draws?

    I already answered this.

    What decides what a left wing view is versus a right wing view?

    Nothing. People on both sides have similar views. Its a faction. As i said above, people on the left tend to have a view more in line with institutional America, but that covers a lot of ground. Everybody is different.

    This is a lot of questions but what I am trying to get at is what is the left versus the right, a societal structure subject to constant change or principles unaffected by cultural swings?

    No, its two political factions, one that is loosely aligned around leftist philosophy, and then the right, which is even more loosely aligned.

  • Conservative answers about their personal position against someone else's personal opinion: "this is just an anecdote and I'm going to poke holes in it or go down ever increasingly specific rabbit holes until I can prove something untrue."

    Conservative answers from a more generalized perspective to make a broader point: "stop monolithing liberals"

    So IDK what to do other than engage with people where they're at, sometimes acknowledging over-generalizations, sometimes not.

    I actually get what you mean. I’ve seen people on the left do the same thing where an anecdote gets treated like it’s a claim about everyone, and then it turns into a gotcha session. For me the line is that if you’re speaking personally, label it as personal and don’t turn it into a claim about liberals or conservatives generally. If you’re making a broader claim, I think it’s fair to ask for something beyond vibes, even if it’s just “here are a few examples” instead of some made up percentage. I’m not trying to make it impossible to talk. I’m mainly pushing back on the motive claims like “the left hates X” that get stated as fact.

    I don't mean to be dismissive but I think it's just a matter of ignoring the clearly egregious comments. I'm used to it; ignore the people in r/pics who think that the fact that Luigi is an accused murderer makes him baby daddy material.

    Not everyone is at a place where they are deeply engaging, I get it.

  • I try my best not to generalize, but if I do and someone clarifies they're different, I'll acknowledge it and proceed with the conversation.

    It's the people that generalize and then move the goalpost when a generalization isn't true to still try to paint someone as a stupid or bad person because they're not on their preferred political side.

    Do they really need validation that bad that they're on the "good and intelligent" side?

    I also don't mind listening to people of different views talk and discuss why they feel differently than me on topics.

  • By not treating them as monoliths. And having stats to back up claims about what a majority of self-identified whatever believe.

    I'm sorry but this sub absolutely treats anyone on the left as a monolith. Easily 85% of the comments on this subreddit have some form of "the left hates America", "the left has contempt for straight married couples with children", "the lefts war against religion", etc

    Because I don’t trust that people will pick up on the irony, I’ll lay it out.

    Someone asks a question about what I do. The question even includes the words “you personally.”

    I respond with what I personally do.

    You then transmute my response into something about this sub’s userbase, which you essentially treat as a monolith with nothing but asspull stats to back it up—exactly the two things I said I avoid doing to avoid treating others like a monolith.

    I'm sorry but this sub absolutely treats anyone on the left as a monolith. Easily 85% of the comments on this subreddit have some form of "the left hates America", "the left has contempt for straight married couples with children", "the lefts war against religion", etc

    To be honest, I wanted to have other conservatives answer for this, but I can't make a top level comment and yours was the only comment in the topic.

    Okay, but that doesn’t change what happened.

    If conservatives are not a monolith, then you have no business asking me to defend a bunch of people I’m in no way a spokesman for as if they were a monolith, especially after I made clear that I don’t like treating people monolithically.

    I treat social progressives the same as they all hold the same high-level views that function as required purity tests for inclusion under that umbrella.

    Economic progressivism is a different story, but that’s not what you asked.

    What “required purity tests” are you referring to?

    Do you think people even care about stats anymore? This is a legit question as someone who also likes to research things and does it for a living. It feels like arguments based on expertise are increasingly looked down on. Both sides of the aisle seem to do it.

    Or are you talking about self-belief only?

    I wouldn’t presume to know whether people still care about stats.

    I was asked what I personally do, so I answered with what I personally do.

  • Well clearly there's a difference between a flesh and blood person who identifies as progressive and a stereotypical progressive. But this doesn't invalidate the utility of the model of a stereotype. If somebody tells me they're a progressive it invokes a stereotype in me that gives me a certain set of expectations that will either be confirmed or refuted when I start interfacing with them. This is just how our brains work - we're pattern recognition machines, and that's not going to change.

    That being said, I would encourage anybody to be careful to build their stereotype from real samples of real people rather than what you've been told about people. Let them speak for themselves and try to understand how they tick with all the love and curiosity another human being deserves. I think that's the main thing: curiosity and love over righteousness and demonization...

  • I usually talk openly with someone until they reveal that their mind is closed and full of propaganda, then I ignore them. But I try to give people the benefit of the doubt.

  • You talk to them in real life, treat them as people first, and spend less time on Reddit

  • I generally push back against ideology that leads to harmful actions, not individual people. Thing is, most self described progressives subscribe to one of more of the ideologies I dislike.

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  • It's very difficult, in my opinion progressives have done much more monolithing (NOT DEMOCRATS, NOT LIBERALS). BUT, if we are talking progressives, there is very little self-attested variability. I think John McWhorter largely gets things right in Woke Racism.

    I am surrounded by progressives, and for the most part, I think progressives are way too plugged in to the party, they don't think enough for themselves, they quickly take orders from the too-online prophets on the hottest new oppression or *ism, because it's all based on the same program.

    My simplest theory is that progressives are still running old religious programming but instead of being plugged into the church they are plugged into the feminist academy.

    But! I simply try to treat people as individuals. That's it.

  • I don't engage with liberals on politics in social circles (family, work, friends, neighbors...). I learned my lesson at a younger age. The liberal ones get very angry. I didn't want to get targeted at work or in fights with anyone else. It's like a huge amount of brainwashing had been dumped on them, and I'm not really the one to break them out of that bubble.

    So whenever anyone brings up Trump or politics or climate change or whatever else, I just kind of nod and don't react. Or just say "Wow. I sure hope things get better." Something like that. Then just enjoy the holiday dinner...

    When you say “liberal ones get very angry” and “brainwashing,” are you talking about a few people you’ve known, or do you mean that as a general statement about liberals? Because if it’s a general statement, it kind of runs into the monolith problem my thread is about.

    I think that applies to most but not all liberals. All you have to do is say that the Russian Collusion story and the Charlottesville "fine people on both sides" were hoaxes, and it's like you can hear the spring snapping in their heads. LOL.

    I think this is where we’re talking past each other a bit. Strong disagreement isn’t the same thing as anger or brainwashing. If someone says the Russia investigation or Charlottesville coverage was a hoax, a lot of liberals are going to push back hard because they genuinely think that claim is false, not because a spring snaps in their head. Conservatives react the same way when people say things like "Trump colluded with Putin" or "January 6 was no big deal.”

    To me, that looks less like brainwashing and more like people having strong priors about events they see as settled facts. The reaction itself doesn’t really tell you much about whether someone is thoughtful or not. That’s why I keep coming back to the standard question. If "most liberals react strongly when you challenge X" is enough to justify treating liberals as a predictable group, why wouldn’t the same logic apply in reverse when conservatives react strongly to certain claims? I’m not denying patterns exist. I’m just asking where you draw the line between pattern recognition and turning a political group into a psychological caricature.

    Since you brought it up, what is the “Russian Collusion story?” I see that phrase a lot but I have never seen anyone define it.

    I have to do this too, but at work with conservatives when they go on verbatim Fox News diatribes. I know they are verbatim Fox News because it’s always on at work and I watch a lot of it (probably doing me no favors in my view of conservatives as a whole, tbh, and I know there is a large portion of conservatives that don’t watch it). This is a bipartisan issue, though. You’ve just never seen a conservative get red faced like a liberal because you are a conservative.

    Yeah this is pretty much exactly what OP is talking about and honestly, kind of a sad viewpoint. Let me apologize for "The Left" for victimizing you. Appreciate the honesty though.

  • Progressives make themselves into monoliths

    Left-wing opinion is strongly policed within their own social groups. Uniformity of opinion occurs because if they don't agree on all areas of politics they will be shamed, shunned & vilified by their own groupo for the ONE thing they don't follow groupthink on. Agree on 19 things? Bare minimum. Disagree on that one thing? GET IN THE BIN.

    Comedian Daniel Sloss said it well here!

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O-qcXpapsoY

    Conservatives have to agree on one thing. Progressives have to agree on everything

  • Are you socially or economically progressive?

    Pretty sure you labeled me as a progressive just yesterday

    Respectfully, I wasn’t asking you.

    But to follow up, are you not progressive? Can’t say I see many people identify as “center-left” while simultaneously saying they’re not progressive.

    Separately, I was asking OP if they were economically progressive or socially progressive. I share a lot of the same views with the former and have no trouble finding common ground. I share far less with the latter and find little to productively discuss.

    No I wouldn’t say I fall on the progressive wing. I believe Democrats should come back closer to center socially.

    I align with more democratic goals than republican/conservative, but I’m pretty pro 2A but not an absolutist.

    I think a public option would be a big improvement to our healthcare system.

    I think police and law enforcement are necessary but should be held more accountable.

    I think anyone assuming everyone on the left is a progressive has very little understanding of the left and the divisions within.

    Socially progressive, but I’m pretty live and let live and not big on culture war stuff.

  • I read through it, and honestly, it’s hard not to see it as exactly the kind of broad-brush characterization conservatives say they dislike when it’s aimed at them.

    I’m progressive, and I don’t recognize myself in most of that description. So I’m curious how this framework accounts for people like me without just labeling us exceptions or outliers. And if that’s the answer, how is that different from dismissing conservatives who don’t fit leftwing stereotypes?

  • It's primarily because, while they aren't a monolith per se, the left expresses their views as though they were one, as some unified front, and are very predictable when engaging with them as a conservative.

    And I'm sure they all have different views, but getting one to express those views that differ from the hivemind is like pulling teeth, I'm guessing likely because they fear being ostracized and becoming targets of the social media mob that inevitably dogpiles anything that contradicts the message, dogpiles they've likely participated in.

    And you can say "Well I don't do that!" all you like and tell us how much you're not like other progressives but that's not going to carry much weight if you only do so in the context of a question like "why do you see us as a monolith?" while anything we say outside of the context of that question is bombarded with the same repeated talking points and arguments and accusations that outnumber whatever makes you different 100:1.

    If I jump into a pool of talking piranhas and they all start eating me, and you being the nice polite piranha say "I'm only nibbling your toes! I'm not like the other piranhas!" well... it's really not going to do much to help me see piranhas in a new light in the middle of a feeding frenzy.

    Really though... if you want progressives to stop being seen as a monolith.. the best course of action would probably be pushing back against that "largest online slice" when they are acting like one.

    At the risk of having my comment reported again, I have to note that describing commonly held beliefs as a “hivemind” is contrary to constructive discussion.

    Same with making offensive guesses about how others explain their views.

    I get the experience you’re describing, and I actually don’t think you’re making it up. Online politics absolutely rewards conformity and dogpiling, and I agree that the loudest slice on the left often speaks as if it’s a unified front. I also agree that people on the left should push back on that more than they do. Where I’m still stuck is the step from “this happens a lot online” to “this is a reasonable way to understand the left as a whole.” Conservatives get hit with the same dynamic where the most aggressive or extreme voices dominate the perception, and I don’t think most conservatives like being judged by that either.

    The piranha analogy makes sense as a description of how it feels in the moment. I just don’t think it works as a principle for deciding what’s true about tens of millions of people. From my side, I could say the same thing about conservative online spaces, but I don’t think that would justify treating all conservatives as interchangeable or predictable. I don’t expect anyone to suddenly revise their view because one person says they're different. My question is more about the standard, at what point does pattern recognition become overgeneralization, and is there a way to talk about real online behavior without turning it into claims about motives, character, or psychology of an entire group?

    On the last point, I actually agree with you in part. We on the left SHOULD push back more when the loudest slice acts like it speaks for everyone. I just don’t think that responsibility can only run one direction if the goal is mutual understanding rather than mutual venting.

    I think your issue might be conflating criticism of a fairly accurate generalization of a whole collective with direct criticism of you in particular that you may feel is inaccurate... maybe taking it a bit too personally? Like.. when people criticize progressives, they aren't criticizing you in particular, but a more abstract concept of the sort of people who are far more like you than they aren't.

    Like... you may not be the septum-pierced blue-haired ultra-progressive the personal is political types shouting their views in everyone's face they hold up as a caricature... but I'm guessing you agree with what those types are shouting, at least at an ideological level, even if you disagree with their methods... but you still want pretty much the same end result...

    And sure, social media isn't face to face interaction, but that idea lost a lot of weight during the '10s when the internet went from something nerds, gamers, students, professionals, and hobbyists had fun with to a global omnipresent communication tool that gives literally anyone and everyone a global platform to profess their views.. it went from a place where anonymity and skepticism were paramount to a place where people shout of their own volition who they are and what they believe. That can't be discounted... I don't know how old you are, but I can assure you, it wasn't always this way.

    And sure, you can point a finger at conservatives and say you too! when you're looking at conservative bubbles that do the same.. but that really doesn't mean much when you consider that you have to look at confined conservative enclaves to find it, whereas conservatives see it not only when they look at progressive spaces, but in spaces that are supposedly or supposed to be apolitical or nonpartisan, yet have that inevitable progressive presence ready to whack you in the nose with a newspaper anytime you deviate from what progressives deem acceptable.

    Generalizations and stereotypes don't just come out of nowhere.. so again, really.. the better question is not "Why do you see us as a monolith?" but rather "What have we been doing to make others think we are one?"

    I don’t think I’m taking it personally in the sense of “Oh my god, they’re talking about me.” I’m pretty comfortable disagreeing with criticism that I think misses the mark. What I’m pushing on is whether the abstraction you’re describing actually does the work people think it does. Sure, generalizations don’t come out of nowhere. And online behavior definitely matters, and the loudest progressive voices absolutely shape perceptions. I’ve said elsewhere in the thread that people on the left should push back on that more than they do. Where I still disagree is with treating those dynamics as a fairly accurate way to understand the left as a whole, rather than as a description of a specific online subculture that happens to be very visible. I also want to separate “sharing some end goals” from sharing motives, temperament, or psychology. I can agree with someone’s policy goals while rejecting the idea that they’re driven by contempt, sanctimony, or a desire to dominate others. That’s the leap I see happening a lot, and it’s the part I’m questioning.

    On the internet point, I don’t deny that social media changed things (I'm in my mid 30s, btw). I just don’t think visibility alone is enough to justify turning observed behavior into claims about what most people are like, especially when that same logic feels unfair when applied to conservatives based on their loudest online spaces. So I don’t think the better question replaces the original one. I think both matter. It’s fair to ask what behaviors contribute to these perceptions. It’s also fair to ask whether the conclusions people draw from those behaviors are proportionate, symmetrical, and actually helpful for understanding real people rather than venting about online dynamics.

    It's starting to sound less like your concern is with generalizing, and more like it's about the fact that the generalization they have is not the generalization you want them to have, i.e. how you see yourself, or how you think progressives should be viewed.

    Am I in the ballpark there?

    But yes, it's fair to ask whether the conclusions draw from those behaviors are proportionate, and the answer would yes, they are.

    Though it is a bit ironic to be asking about how people handle generalizations while you yourself are only offering the same broad strokes and generalizations you're ostensibly criticizing.

    I mean.. your initial question is just begging the question in assuming that a particular generalization is wrong without ever even specifying that generalization, while yourself generalizing about conservatives based on an anecdotal experience with friends no one here has ever met, as though they are at all representative of the people you are asking here.

    So again, I'll reiterate... if your concern is about being generalized as a certain thing, and you're aware of what that generalization is and believe you aren't, I'd imagine that turning your gaze inward and considering why people might believe that generalization fits you rather than asking a bunch of strangers who have never met you based on the beliefs that generally go along with that generalization.

    I'm not one of your close conservative friends, you're not someone I'm going to bump into on the street, you're just one of hundreds of millions of random people who signed up for an account on this website, and I don't think anyone is going to take the time to get to know every single one of them. I'm going to forget that you even exist before the night's over, and never think about you again after that. What do you care if I generalize about you? Is what I think about you really that important?

    The generalization of you as a progressive is not about you as an individual, but progressivism, and while you may not embody the caricature of that generalization of a progressive, I'd have to guess you very likely advocate for many of the same things they do... you haven't really spoken in specifics, so I've refrained as well, but I'd imagine that by self-admittedly labeling yourself as a progressive, you have enough of a reason to believe that you align with that label, and yet you're insinuating that it's wrong for those who you label yourself as that in front of to believe that... you have those beliefs? Like we don't know what a "progressive" is? Or is it more likely that we don't see what "a progressive" is the way you see "a progressive" as?

    You're the one who offered that information about yourself... you said you're a progressive... are you really expecting everyone you tell that to to ask you "Well what is a progressive?!?" as though they've never heard the word before?

    And really, I'm sorry if all of this comes across as hostile or confrontational, it's not intentional but I'm just trying to speak frankly and candidly, and you asked a very interesting question, but really, you're doing the same generalization as the people you're posing that question to, but the only real difference between us is that your generalization of that same group puts them in a better light than ours does, but we don't see them in that same light.