I (21m) am a college student. I’m in a frat and I’m gay. It’s not a conservative group (no one has ever given me shit for it) but I’m the only one.
Every year my college has a date party to celebrate the end of finals. I didn’t pick the theme; it’s “split a suit.” Basically take the components of a suit and you have to divide that amongst you and your date. I saw the writing on the wall; a lot of guys being shirtless with blazers and suit pants, and a lot of girls in oversized dress shirts and ties with no pants.
The issue was that didn’t apply to me. I ended up asking a guy from my class I’ve been casually talking to as a first time hanging out situation (don’t worry, he’s gay too, I’m not delusional). I asked him what he felt comfortable wearing and he said he prefers to be dressed so I told him he could do the dress shirt and pants and I’d be fine with the remainder. So basically I wore a blazer, was shirtless with a tie, and had on boxer briefs. Which, to me, is on theme.
None of the guys had an issue but a friend’s gf came up to me and said that it was inappropriate and I was making the girls uncomfortable. I felt embarrassed so my date and I left. My date said I had misled him what the party would be like and I was an AH for not dressing appropriately. Now I feel like a jerk. AITA?
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NTA. You didn’t do anything wrong. People want a sexualized theme until the sexualization goes “the wrong way”.
If there's only one pair of pants per outfit, that means half the attendees are attending in their underwear, right? So wtf did they expect to happen?
But it's different when girls do it.
/S
You're being a smart ass but you're not wrong. I'd be willing to bet this was their mentality and the only reason OP is "in the wrong"(he's not)
They expected this to cater to male heterosexuality
To be fair the men seemed fine with it, it was the women that had an issue.
One claimed the other girls were uncomfortable with it. But I doubt the person who complained actually asked the others.
Wasn’t the males that had a problem with it though. In some weird way I feel like that’s progress.
The fact that OP's date said that OP "misled him", I have a feeling something else went wrong that OP isn't telling us.
Tbh he probably just didn't realize it was going to be a party consisting entirely of straight people... I wouldn't really feel comfortable dressed in underwear in that environment either, it's different when it's a queer space.
The date wasn't "dressed in underwear." He wore suit pants and dress shirt.
It's possible, but I'm not sure what OP could have said that would seem misleading. If the date was aware of the theme of the party and participated in it, then what did he think the party would be like?
this exactly. there is more to the story. one random girl at a frat party that this guy IS A MEMBER OF was not able to cause FRAT GUY and his date to leave.
Especially considering that they were aware of his sexuality and he talked about it ahead of time. And then also once it happened the guys didn't have a problem with it. There is absolutely 0% any random girl not in a frat got a member of the frat 'in trouble' in any conceivable way.
There was another incident or more to the story.
If I'm picturing this correctly, it sounds like the women would be wearing oversized men's shirts that functioned as short dresses, leaving OP the only one walking around with their underwear actually showing.
Well I am a 5'10 woman - unless my date was the hulk, my underwear would probably have shown. Having women wandering round with very few clothes on was clearly the point of the party. I am glad it got subverted by OP!
People wearing a shirt that, due to size differences between partners, covers undergarments.
That's not a guarantee, and even if it does cover undergarments, that might not apply when sitting down or dancing. Hell, I've worn buttoned shirts that ride up even when I raise my arms just a little bit. I'd be highly curious to know the thought process behind anyone who expected every shirt to cover every undergarment 100% of the time.
So tall women aren’t allowed to participate? What about short men?
Since OP is not giving examples of other couples showing off their underwear I’m assuming that either that situation didn’t occur, or they were savvy enough to not use their bf’s actual shirt and bought an oversized shirt so that they were covered.
very true
But was OP TA to his date?
Isn't that the question of this post?
Imo it sounds like OP honestly relayed what he understood about the party. I don't fault his date for being upset (the whole thing sounds awkward and homophobic), but I don't think OP realized that he was setting them up for failure.
NTA. The party theme was deliberately provocative, and everyone was ok with that when they thought it meant women showing off their legs wearing shirts as mini dresses.
Exactly this. The party organisers, and the people who complained about you, and (to a lesser extent) your date were all AHS.
You are NTA.
NTA boxer briefs cover everything a swimsuit would. As a woman I would not have a problem with it.
Yea, the girl complaining is just sexist.
Or homophobic.
Yeah I’m sorry but if the guy you’re uncomfortable around at a FRAT PARTY is the gay guy, then you don’t feel threatened by men, you feel threatened by the gays.
This one
I bet when she said the girls were uncomfortable. No one else said a thing to her and she was the only one who was uncomfortable.
As a women, I would have been delighted. And there's an extremely high likelihood I would have tried to convince my date to go full Tom Cruise/Risky Business
lol. Second this!
No they don't, swim trucks don't have a flap where your junk can just pop out.
A lot of boxer briefs don't either
NTA - this reminds me of the part in Legally Blonde where Elle was told to wear a costume to a party and everyone gave her shit for showing up in a bunny costume. Your frat bros were jerks for not having your back, and it's a bummer that your date reacted the way he did. I'm sorry
As a gay guy who went on a date with the only gay frat bro to a party with his conservative frat friends:
It really fucking sucks when your dates frat bro friends are shitty about gay stuff, and your date just pretends it isn't really an issue.
OP, don't bring dates to your frat events. It just sucks. I know you think your frat bros are cool. They aren't. Your dates are pretty much always going to have this reaction. In general, being the only guy present at the party who isn't in the frat is weird enough. The whole event ends up being hyper hetronormative, even if your bros were cool.
The entire premise of the event was custom tailored to 'a guy and a girl split a costume', and people got upset when 'two guys split a costume'.
Women got upset about it. The guys were fine with it. The only thing gayer than a frat is probably the military or Liberace.
Did her (presumably frat bro male) date get offended by her taking offense, and back up his bro?
Bro is at an end of the year party. He’s either too drunk to know what’s happening or can’t hear shit and is just nodding along pretending.
From OP it doesn’t sound like her date was present. She went up on her own and said something without his knowledge from the sounds of it.
So my little brother is in a frat and there are actually a few gay guys there! The frat (at least from a big sister's understanding, which to be fair is probably not accurate) isn't a huge party thing though and seems to be pretty nerdy. It makes me hopeful that things are changing, but obviously there's still work to be done. Also to be fair, my brother may actually be less conservative than I am (an impressive feat) and it seems his frat bros are as well.
What’s the difference between boxer briefs and your shorts or swim trunks? NTA.
Thinner material, shorts and swim trunks are longer/thicker than boxer briefs, boxer briefs are also more form fitting. Definitely a noticeable difference. Don’t really see the issue either way as we had a guy show up in the Borat thong for a party before.
Not these shortie shorts guys are wearing these days. There’s sacs hanging out everywhere when they sot down with legs spread. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Those would be the running/bike shorts, similar but not all shorts are that small. They certainly look uncomfortable, more so than the boxer briefs I’m wearing.
Tightness probably - shorts, swim trunks tend to be loose fitting, boxer briefs/briefs not so much
Yeah, and as a former swimmer even the tight hugging stuff is a thicker fabric 99% of the time compared to boxer briefs. A very small-briefs style speedo might be considered scandalous than boxer briefs sure but that’s a style thing.
Not that I think it’s a huge deal, but definitely a difference.
NTA. You dressed according to the theme and rules.
You are NTA, just like everyone else, except for one (1) stranger confirmed.
Agree. The party was very clearly set up to have girls show up without pants.
There is literally zero difference between them showing up pantless and OP showing up pantless given the scenario. Aside from, you know, the blatant sexism.
This is it.
The frat may not be “conservative” but it sounds like it’s full of misogynists and probably homophobes too, now that OP dared to challenge the normativity.
Aside from the fact I thing sexism/homophobia was at play here…
Weren’t the girls wearing a long male button up shirt and no pants, while OP was just in a blazer and no shirt/pants which meant their underwear was constantly visible?
Sounds like. I’d like to know if any of the ladies went with just the blazer showing off their bras or shirts too short to cover their underwear, or if OP was the only one showing undergarments.
I would say NTA because boxer briefs cover as much as a swim suit does. My guess is that you were only making one person uncomfortable, and that's your friend's GF.
She made herself uncomfortable. OP is not responsible for her homophobia.
You got dress coded by people who would have been furious if someone said that about them. NTA. They are not party people
NTA you participated in the theme of the party. You covered all of your bits so you weren't actually showing anything. Has the person who complained to you ever been to the beach or a pool?
That said, did you make sure you couldn't see your dick?
Well, you took the words right outta my....fingers?
NTA. When I was in school I would expect at least one dude to wear your outfit with a banana hammock or adult diapers. Some would have gone commando. Some girls would have gone just pants and tie. Some couples would have used a woman’s skirt suit. Nudity or at least semi nudity or being transgressive was the point of this dress code.
NTA. Why go to a party where the theme is to be half naked then be offended when other people are half naked?
Sounds like you were following the dress code; probably NTA.
Ummmm no. Your friend’s gf is a bit nuts. She was at a frat party that encouraged being half naked. Which, from what you described, seems you failed at because you were only 1/3 naked. So you were the most covered person there. And it’s a frat party, she knew what she was getting into. She sounds insecure and or jealous, which seems weird.
Your date’s reaction stumps me. What part does he believe you misled him. Perhaps he was uncomfortable being the only gay couple or he got uncomfortable with her response. If he is a nice guy, ask him to clarify.
OP's date's reaction does make me wonder if there's more to the story. Maybe there wasn't and the idea he was "misled" seemed like just as much of a non sequitur in the moment. But I wonder if something we don't know would make it make sense
NTA
That girlfriend is delusional.
INFO
Is she maybe just not comfortable around you since you're gay?
Yes, it did, and you dressed according to the theme, completely appropriately.
INFO. Just to confirm, were you correct that most of the women, including the one that complained to you, were not wearing pants? How had you misled your data about what the party would be like?
I was completely correct in my predictions
The part that confuses me, is if you and your partner need to basically split a single suit as per the party theme, what other way could you guys have split the suit up to satisfy this dudes gf?
How did you mislead your date though?
So she wasn't wearing pants, and was complaining about you not wearing pants?
I mean the shirt was probably long as a dress, they weren't in underwear
I am confused with the YTA answers. Where from at least OP's description had women just wearing oversized men's dress shirts that I am sure did not leave much to imagination with any kind of movement or dancing? And a private Frat party is not "out in public." I am just confused because we are talking about Frat culture and being offended by underwear right? At a "come half naked" party? But OP said their date was mad and said he did not represent the party well before going also. So what is being left out?
NTA. You were within the guidelines of the party theme. The guy telling you that you're making the girls uncomfortable is. Outside of homophobes and those still in the closet, I've never seen girls be uncomfortable around gay guys regardless of how they dressed.
Inappropriate?? This generation is so lame. When I was in college, they just wore a jockstrap lol. Like come on. Girls can look slutty but the boys can't? I bet if the hot straight guy wore it, it wouldn't be an issue.
“This generation” was the one throwing the half pantless party weirdo. It was one attendee that made a stink.
Try a bit harder at your bitterness towards youth.
NTA- you dressed according to theme. Why in earth would anyone have issues with the fact you had your bits covered? I would feel sorry for the guy dating the girl.
NTA.
If the girls partied with no pants, then there’s no difference in you partying with no pants. The party was full of indecent dress.
1 single girls discomfort does not override your ability to attend. My opinion is that if she was that uncomfortable she should have left.
Sounds like you followed the theme exactly and absolutely nothing was inappropriate.
This was ONE rando girl who was causing a problem. It sounds like she shouldn't have been to a party where everyone was half dressed at all.
You said what you thought everyone else would be wearing... what did they actually wear?
Exactly as I described
And what about your date? Was was he annoyed
Did you even read the post? Lmao
Yes, but I need more context. Why was his date not okay with what he wore. He literally knew about it before hand, and didnt say anything. He felt mislead... what was misleading. I feel like Im missing something here.
That’s a weird reaction. Unless you went for the Marky Mark look. 👀
Maybe the friend's gf thought he was hotter than her boyfriend and that was what was making her uncomfortable.
If the guys had no issues and it was the GF that was upset by it, maybe you need to ask out her date for the next one. Some women don't like it when they catch there man looking elsewhere ;) NTA
INFO: were most of the girls indeed just wearing the shirt? Are you sure none were wearing shorts underneath? Did they have their underwear exposed? Also was your junk hanging out, or could it have accidentally fallen out at some point?
NTA - pretty sexist (and probably homophobic) comment. A man in shorts is more normal to see in public than a topless man.
If the girls show up with no pants, then you can show up with no pants. Otherwise, that’s a double standard and sexist. NTA
NTA
Assuming your undies covered/supported what they were supposed to, I'm gonna say this sounds like a them problem. It's not like everyone was supposed to be fully dressed -- that was the entire point of the theme!
Eta: I can understand your plus-one being uncomfortable at being a guest of someone who was called out for something, but I really can't figure out how you misled or misrepresented here?? Unless you didn't tell him that you'd be only in your underwear from the waist down, I don't get it.
I feel like it depends on how tight your boxers were. If they were loose, they’re basically shorts and I don’t see an issue. If there was a clear outline of your dick that’s a bit much.
Why? They’re at a party where being semi-naked is the actual theme. He’s sharing a suit with another man - and men have penises. Unless he had an erection - it’s just his body.
I don’t know. I’m not a frat boy, nor have I ever been one. It sounds like everyone else’s bits were covered. There is a difference between partial nudity and being able to see things that clearly. It’s largely dependent on whether he matched the vibe of everyone around him. I tend to go to pride without much more than nipple pasties on my chest, but I probably wouldn’t wear that sort of thing to a bar, even if I would wear a short skirt or a crop top. There’s a time and a place for everything.
NTA
Your boyfriend is however. Being this whiny is a character flaw that will ruin your relationship.
Definitely not a boyfriend, it’s our first time hanging out outside of class haha
INFO: What underwear were you wearing?
Boxer briefs
INFO- Were the girls wearing dress shirts not wearing shorts underneath? Also why didn’t you take part of the suit like the dress shirt and your date could’ve worn an undershirt with the pants?
NTA, OP was adhering to the theme of the party. The only way OP would be an A would be if his junk was hanging out in the open, but boxer briefs are pretty good at keeping everything inside
NTA. You understood the assignment. That girl wanted to embarrass you. And frankly, I don't like your date's reaction to the whole thing.
People often make mistakes when they're young but this isn't one of them.
NTA, the theme was slutty, why is it a problem if people end up dressing slutty? IMO It feels like that girl was homophobic
NTA. People trying to apply a homophobic double standard are AHs.
Definitely NTA for what you wore and that girls comment. Not sure the deal is with your date.
Wait so its okay for girls to be pantless but not guys?
You wouldn't want the girls to he at risk of being raped by a gay guy would you? /sarcasm
Couldn't you wear one of those old people underwear that look more like shorts? (I don't know how it's called in english)
Gen-Xer here. Things must have changed in a major way if your outfit was over the top. Any frat party I attended had way more edgy stuff.
If it's real the people complaining are the ones with a problem, and are too repressed to recognize it and this is how they are coping with that.
INFO I'm not clear on how you misled your date. You DID tell him everything about the party that you mention in this story, right? What kind of party did he think it would be? As for you, you didn't think a gay guy walking around in boxers would be a problem for someone? Come on. You say you are the only gay guy in the frat so already you know you will be in a spotlight.
Was she (the woman who criticized you) wearing pants?
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I (21m) am a college student. I’m in a frat and I’m gay. It’s not a conservative group (no one has ever given me shit for it) but I’m the only one.
Every year my college has a date party to celebrate the end of finals. I didn’t pick the theme; it’s “split a suit.” Basically take the components of a suit and you have to divide that amongst you and your date. I saw the writing on the wall; a lot of guys being shirtless with blazers and suit pants, and a lot of girls in oversized dress shirts and ties with no pants.
The issue was that didn’t apply to me. I ended up asking a guy from my class I’ve been casually talking to as a first time hanging out situation (don’t worry, he’s gay too, I’m not delusional). I asked him what he felt comfortable wearing and he said he prefers to be dressed so I told him he could do the dress shirt and pants and I’d be fine with the remainder. So basically I wore a blazer, was shirtless with a tie, and had on boxer briefs. Which, to me, is on theme.
None of the guys had an issue but a friend’s gf came up to me and said that it was inappropriate and I was making the girls uncomfortable. I felt embarrassed so my date and I left. My date said I had misled him what the party would be like and I was an AH for not dressing appropriately. Now I feel like a jerk. AITA?
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NTA. I literally went to underwear parties when I was in college. We wore less than what you described here, all genders of us. You were on theme, but the wrong gender (oh no, naked man legs!) and that's the part that made people mad.
I highly doubt it was any of the girls that were uncomfortable.
Unless your prick was like poking through the boxers opening I don’t see an issue .
NTA. To be honest, this kind of event is inappropriate from the start, but you kind of ignore it for the funny stories.
However, there's something that needs to be addressed:
Why does your date think you misled them on the party? This line doesn't make sense, if you had actually followed the correct rules.
NTA as long as it wasn’t like your stuff could fall out of that hole men have in the front I say it’s fine.
If they were heart boxers then you were good.
NTA. Sexism and probably homopobia
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NTA, they're not very nice.
NTA. This was at a frat party not a formal. Some of the frat guys I knew would've stuffed a cucumber down their briefs to look like an erection and then spent the evening walking up to random women ( and dudes!) to see the reactions.
Seriously, all the partial and full nudity that happened at parties when I was in college and no one even blinked.
Girlfriend was looking for drama.
NTAH
NTA.
Im these circumstances boxers are absolutely appropriate and not particularly "revealing". It isn't like you were wearing a g-string or jock. If the girls were uncomfortable it speaks more about them than it does to you and your bros should date better.
I mean, it wasn't even a leather suit.
NTA, you did nothing wrong.
But did anyone other than this one chick say anything? Could it just be one asshat who you thought was speaking for everyone?
NTA and I think what you did was funnier than hell.
That girl failed to see your perspective of what the theme is.
Nta. You kept to the theme and showed no more than a bathing suit.
NTA Nah man, you actually tried based on what you understood. Besides, even if the women were uncomfortable with it, what do they expect going to a party like that? You should just surround yourself with kinder, chiller people…including your “date” who wasn’t one of good temperament, either.
NTA. Isn't the point of the theme to cause a bit of nudity?
NTA. I'm sorry, but if you're going to come to a party where underwear is involved and you feel uncomfortable being around men in their underwear, you probably shouldn't go to that party.
Straight guy who was in a fraternity. 100% NTA. Great application of the theme. GF had no business whatsoever commenting on the attire of an actual member so long as you weren’t actually exposing your junk.
FWIW I’d have thought it was hilarious and would have 100% let my girlfriend wear the suit and myself the tie and some shorts if she’d have gone for it. Back when I had the metabolism to wear no shirt lol bring it on. Shit, now I think about it, I almost did wear a similar costume for a theme party but my then girlfriend didn’t want me showing off that much skin. And it wasn’t that much, basically just my legs.
It’s a fraternity party for Pete’s sake. It supposed to be ridiculous and over the top. Who polices immodest clothes at a fraternity party? Really?
NTA. Just a victim of the usual double standard
NTA. I was in a fraternity and we'd declare no pants half hour at parties. It's a frat, it's college. You basically wore WAY more than a swimsuit. If someone is uncomfortable with that they are at the wrong party.
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NTA
No way, a woman dating a frat bro is homophobic?!? /s
NTA
NTA. That is so tame for a frat party. She’s jealous you have better legs. Back in the early 2000s the girls in my sorority would have gone in boxer briefs with strategically placed suspenders.
So I have a little insight into this as my spouse has worked in higher education, and has seen issues like this before.
In the past 5 years or so, frats have gotten very gay friendly, as they've realized if they have gay brothers, women feel safer and will be more likely to attend their parties.
And for the most part, frats have been very welcoming and accommodating. However the people who hang out there, who are not members, haven't realized that gay bros will be gay in public. So she was homophobic, and likely misogynistic, but you are allowed to be gay in public. And if you get pushback from frat leadership on this, you have a case for a formal Title IX complaint
NTA
NTA. Im a woman and your outfit was on theme. It wouldnt have made me uncomfortable at all. I think theres something else going on with that girl, she has problems.
Nah. And I bet only that one girl was being weird.
NTA and f that nosy b
NTA
Stop being so hard on yourself, your frat bros didn’t care, as a matter of fact, the only person who cared was a “conservative” woman dressed in nothing but an oversized shirt and undies…. probably thongs
Dude, it's a frat party. That girl is lucky someone didn't show up in tux tails and a J-string.
NTA, and everyone who is downvoted to hell is so out of touch and probably a GDI or didnt get a bid haha
NTA
ESH only because it seems you misled your date on the type of party it was and he was uncomfortable. The rest can eff off.
You should have confirmed. In the future you now know to confirm.
Confirm what?
So one person was offended and you just left?
YTA to your date.
YTA based on your description other couples had at least one half covered, wearing either pants or a shirt. You wore neither so your partner was fully dressed and you were waking around in exposed underwear. You could have at least worn regular boxers since the fit like baggy shorts.
regular boxers are WAY more likely to cause accidental exposure. The loose legs = seeing the frank and beans as soon as you sit. and the flaps on boxers are just a hole with a suggestion of a flap and if you're lucky theres a button for show.
boxers briefs while snug, are way safer in the wardrobe malfunction risk dept.
Who owns regular boxers in 2025?
As a woman who’s gotten around, I haven’t seen anything except boxer briefs since around 2009.
So. That just means you like the types of guys who doesn't wear boxers.
Do you honestly think people just don't own them, or that OP couldn't have run to Walmart and buy a pair because he was going to be walking around pantless?
I honestly think it’s a rarity these days.
It’s not like I screened guys by their underwear type lol.
It’s genuinely unusual to wear tighty whiteys or bloomers these days (and by these days I mean the last decade at least).
Edit: Why would OP need to go buy specifically baggy underwear? Do you really think all the women are wearing baggy shorts? Or that any frat guy is wearing “dad” underwear?
I think it’s more a matter of mild homophobia.
He was wearing the suit jacket. You make it sound like all he had on were boxer briefs. Suit jackets and blazers are long. His jacket likely hung as low or lower than his boxer briefs.
if your shirt covered your crotch you didn’t do anything wrong. if all the girls could see the outline of your junk then YTA and i would have been uncomfortable too
What shirt??
Yeah, a better plan would have been to have the date wear a white undershirt and OP wear the button-down for more crotch coverage
yeah definitely got confused when reading lol full junk out is too much
He didn't have a shirt on
ESH. You were on theme but I can see how people would be a bit uncomfortable with anyone being there just in their briefs. I hope at least that they were like shorts, not skin tight. I think you both should have gone shirtless with a blazer and that's it. I personally however wouldn't be "uncomfortable" and wouldn't dream of saying anything to you and ruining your fun, hence esh.
Edit: I keep getting comment reply notifications but can't see the actual comments to respond. I believe the girls wore mens shirts as dresses which are usually oversized and cover everything like a skirt. Usually with a belr around their waist. So it's different than being in their undies or thongs - I would find that inappropriate just as well. Think This, OP can correct me if I'm wrong and you could actually see girls undies.
I mean he was wearing a blazer. How is it different than the girls wearing a shirt and no pants? Lol the person who complained is annoying. The theme was split a suit. They split a suit so they were on theme. It doesn’t sound like OP did anything wrong honestly.
A button-up shirt is longer than a blazer - the girls' underwear was very likely hidden under the shirt. OP was wearing boxer briefs and it's possibly his junk was visible (or the outline of it, anyway) through his underwear, which would not have been covered by the blazer.
I don't necessarily think OP did anything wrong either, because this is a party theme that is going to guarantee that people will be partially undressed. But I can see why someone might have seen what he was wearing differently to what the girls wore.
What the hell do you think the girls were wearing under their oversized shirts? Culottes and bloomers?
What do you think the women were wearing?
I responded in the edit.
May want to reread how the theme works.
Split a suit: take one suit and divide the items between the two partners.
Yes but since they're both men, it can be adjusted so noone is walking around just in their underpants.
Do you think the girls were wearing boxer shorts?
What do you think the girls were wearing? But because it’s a guy, it was inappropriate, right?
Gross.
YTA
YTA I'm afraid. Maybe if you had worn boxers or basketball shorts over your briefs it would've been ok. Boxer briefs are not acceptable to wear as pants in public.
None of this was in public
ESH
YTA. You were wearing underwear in public. You seriously don't see why some people could have a problem with that?
All the girls there were in underwear and their underwear had a lot less fabric than mine lmao
Why bother posting if you're just going to be defensive?
NTA, you were perfectly in the right. Is that what you'd like to hear?
Was he not? It the THE theme is the party.
Oh so you have a mentality of "if everyone is doing it I can do it".
A very limited crowd of people want to see a dude in his underwear. Boxers are different than girls' panties because they don't have a flap, your junk can just pop out of the flap. Do you think people want to see your junk?
I'm pretty sure that when OP said he was wearing boxer briefs, he meant he was wearing boxer briefs. That's about as modest as men's underwear gets, and much more modest than panties.
boxer briefs are very different from boxers. The flap you can just pop out of = loose boxers that typically have a button to kind of keep the hole closed.
Boxer briefs however are tight more like tighty whiteys with short legs. the "flap" is much more secure and I would not be concerned about popping out. Also not all boxer briefs have flaps.
The theme wasn't "split a suit, guy must wear pants". OP followed the theme of the party perfectly and one prude girl complained.
Go back and reread the prompt, and come back with a real answer.
He was at a Frat party, not a formal event. Why is it ok for the girls to be on under wear but not him?
Missed the theme of the party, did ya?
That was the theme of the party.... two people wearing 1 persons worth of clothing... only one person will have pants
I think you might be missing the cultural context of an American frat party. This is an invitation only event at a private residence. Everyone there is aware of the theme. This is not in public.
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"Mixed company" as if frat parties aren't 95% about getting drunk and hooking up. What's with the pearl clutching?
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The host didn't have an issue with it, some rando chick did.
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With that theme, either OP or his date would have to show up in their underwear because suits don’t have two pairs of trousers.
Back in the day, many suits came with two pairs of pants. Yes, it sounds absurd, but it’s true.
Back in what day? I'm old, and I've never seen a suit with two pairs of pants.
OP says nothing about the girls wearing leggings or thermals. If they don't, why should he?